Would you date someone whose religion is different than your

It depends on the religion. I was raised Methodist (very laid back)... but I haven't been to church in years. Doesnt mean I don't believe or want to believe.. i lean now towards agnostic, I want proof but I want to believe.

I've dated a Jewish girl before and a Catholic girl before, and even as a "Christian" that caused problems, since both were fairly strict and both situtations were "we can date, but never marry" so of course they didn't last long... what was the point?

first of all--religion is rules and regulations..Christianity is a relationship with Jesus Christ. scripture tells us to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. GOD knew relationships would be a challenge and even more so, a marriage.He didnt tell us the things He did to keep us from having fun but to protect us. find someone that believes as you do--no-- actually ask the LORD to help your man find YOU- that will treat you as the princess you are!!! HUGGZ n GOD BLESS!!!

I doubt I'd actually be able to maintain a romantic relationship with anyone deeply religious, as I am a passionate atheist who disagrees with the whole basis of religion. The relationship would never survive the heated debates!!

As long as I wasn't forced to go to church ... sure.

No!

If it's going to create conflicts in the relationship or create conflicts and differences of opinion with raising children, I think it's a bad idea.

I'm a Christian, and my fiance had always identified himself as "agnostic." When we had our pre-marital counseling with the pastor at my church and my fiance talked to him about his beliefs, my pastor said he doesn't think "agnostic" describes him and said he should call himself a "seeker of truth" (lol). My fiance believes in God, has no problem with me taking his daughter to church, he'll say her bedtime prayer and dinner prayers with her, etc. Christianity is just not something he has found for himself yet, and he has no desire at this point to become active in church. It's not something that has created problems with our relationship or child-rearing though, because he is open to discussing religion and open to discussing how we will raise his child and our future children in the church. We have a minister marrying us, will have a Bible verse and prayer read during the ceremony, etc.

One of my friends though is Christian dating an athiest. She has a child from a previous relationship and discussed with him wanting to say a night-time prayer with her daughter and asked on nights that she wasn't home, if he would say it with her daughter. He flat out refused, said he wasn't going to "lie" to her, etc. I told her that his beliefs are his own business, but if he's already dictating how she'll raise her own daughter faith-wise (who has a father she spends weekends and holidays with, so it's not like the other parent isn't in the picture), that there will be even more problems when they have children together.

Hey all,

I didn't read the whole thread so I'm sorry if this is posted elsewhere. My mom is Pagan, and my step dad is Christian. They both realize that many religions have similar core values, and don't let it come between them. My youngest brother lives with them still, and they go to church every sunday. When they were discussing where to go they had a hard time untill they had head of the Unitarian Universalists. Unitarian Universalism is a liberal religion that embraces theological diversity; we welcome different beliefs and affirm the inherent worth and dignity of every person.
They welcome everyone of all faiths so my mom and stepdad can each practice what they believe and my brother can be exposed to multiple bliefs, so that he can think and form his own opinions and not be close minded.

So basicly, after seeing my mom and step-dad work through a combination like Pagan/christian I am willing to say that no, I would not let something like religion come between me and another in a relationship.

also in case anyone was interested: http://www.uua.org/index.shtml

If religion is important to you then your husband should understand this and respect this. You have a right to a say in how your children are raised. I'm an atheist and my wife is a devout Lutheran. She takes the kids to church with her on Sundays but I teach my kids critical thinking and reason. One thing I never do is try to undermine what my wife is trying to do with them. In fact, I've promised her I'll never do this because I love her and want her to have the opportunity to share some of her religious views with her children because I know it's important to her. I have MAJOR problems with people who infuse religion into politics, I'd put my foot down on this one thing. Fortunately, my wife is not one of those types of people.

i dont follow any specific religion, so what i care most about is whether we share the same beliefs and viewpoints.

My husband and I are not very religious, so for us, it didn't matter that much while we were dating. I am more religious than my husband. He follows the "we're experiments from another planet" philosophy while I follow the "there is a higher power" one. We both went to church when we were younger. We both agreed we would expose our children to different religions that interested them throughout her childhood and they could come to their own conclusions.

Now that being said, our daughter goes to a Christian daycare center and they teach the children about the Bible. She comes home singing church songs and telling us all about Jesus. I take the lead in these situations. My husband ignores her songs and comments. I agree with her when she tells me things like "Jesus is in our hearts" and I sing the songs if I know them. This works out well for our family. I think it's because at the core, we both know that regardless of what religion we raise her in (if any in the long term) she'll grow up and out and have her own ideas anyway.

Considering your situation, my questions would be - How important is religion to you? Can you both agree on an approach with your children and that it may potentially be that you lead the way and he isn't involved at all? And are you ready to accept that no matter who you marry or how you raise your children, your kids could grow up to be Buddist, Muslim, Agnostic, whatever? You can start them down a path but it doesn't mean they will stay on it.