Would you date someone whose religion is different than your

I am from a baptist family and been dating an Orthodox guy for 5 years now.

You have to find a middle somewhere!

Obviously he will not oppose me taking my kids to my church, but have one problem. In my religion, we do not get baptised until later in life when you are considered more mature to make the decision yourself, rather than when you are a baby. Cause a baby has no choice, so why baptise him in the same religion if he can't choose for himself?
The problem lays in the fact that he wants his children baptised from when they are born, which my family will not agree on or will be dissapointed. It is a big big decision that you have to make as a Christian when you are dating someone who's not the same faith as you. Moreso, if they don't have any faith at all.

We discuss this quite often and I think we can find a middle somewhere, but I don't want you to be dissapointed if, after you have children, you find out that, in fact he was never going to allow your children to go to church or be raised in your faith. Especially as he opposed this idea so much that you broke up first time.

Good luck with whatever decision you're taking!

Let me first say that I am appalled to see this thread turn in to a bashing each other match. Seriously. A simple question was asked and in no way does that mean you need to be rude and down right cruel.

When my husband and I first began dating we both didn't know what we believed. But as our relationship grew, we discovered Christ. Now as a Christian, I cannot see myself being with someone of a different religion. Religion filters down in to many aspects of your life. Would I want to be with someone who rolls their eyes when I pray? Or leave the room when our son reads his Bible? No. God has made our marriage stronger and we have grown together. I don't think I could be as spiritually close to my husband if he believed differently.

No Way!!

It matters a lot to me. I do think children should have the right to choose to believe what they want, but they aren't old enough to make that decision for years. I just don't see how bringing them to church is in any way a bad thing.

My husband and I are Christians and it's great to be on the same page in that area. We want our son to be raised going to church believing in God etc. But if and when he is old enough if he decides that just isn't for him I would understand and never force it on him.

Sometimes it is a big deal especially if you want your children to believe one thing and your S/O wants them to not believe or believe something else, it surely can be a deal breaker no matter how great a person is. Nothing to feel guilty about, people break up for many reasons and breaking up is hard anyways.

I'm very atheist, anti-religion. I couldn't be in a serious relationship with someone religious.
My husband is more agnostic and even that borders on being a problem. He has no issues with the kids going to church if they want (but he's not taking them, i.e. go with a friend) wheras I'm totally against them going at all.

i wuld not wish hell on anyone but th path that you ar en you well see it. I will be praying for you. there is a God and he is a loving God and he knows this facts abouyouand still loves you. Please open your eyes to the wonderful light of God

As a child I was taken to church every Sunday and my family was "Christian". My husband's father doesn't believe in God. His sister didn't either until her current husband made her go to church. She caved for his sake and now is all high and mighty. So my husband was agnostic when I met him. Wasn't quite sure what was there but believed something. He's since decided he believes in God on his own and I'm ok with that. His ex let's him take his daughter to church if he wants to. Because he asked first. And that's what matters... just talk and get on the same page.

I think as a parent, if you are Christian, by the beliefs they hold it is your responsibility to teach them about God. You. Not the Church. So you could easily teach your children what you believe with out forcing them to go to church. Church has become so financially driven these days, you'd do a better job than them anyway. And in fairness, your spouse should be allowed to talk to the children about their beliefs as well.

As parent's you are a team. And if you can't see eye to eye, then you need to compromise and be able to work together to relay your feelings to your kids. Even if they aren't the same. If you feel you will not ever agree then it's not someone you should consider raising children with.

And on another note... when someone comes to the forums asking for advice, it isn't necessary to treat them as if they are stupid. This site is supposed to be supportive... not condescending and judgmental. So for the lady that just kept going and being rude... maybe you should focus on why YOU are here and not so much why others are. Seems you need to start there with how poor your attitude toward others is.

I am Catholic and my boyfriend is Atheist. I have no plans on letting him go because his belief isn't who he is or how he defines himself, and the same with me. I believe in raising children to make their own educated choices about religion rather than forcing one on them when they are too young to make a choice!

In my religion, we do not get baptised until later in life when you are considered more mature to make the decision yourself, rather than when you are a baby. Cause a baby has no choice, so why baptise him in the same religion if he can't choose for himself?
The problem lays in the fact that he wants his children baptised from when they are born, which my family will not agree on or will be dissapointed. It is a big big decision that you have to make as a Christian when you are dating someone who's not the same faith as you. Moreso, if they don't have any faith at all.

Have you thought of just having some kind of blessing ceremony for your children? Have them blessed/christened when they are born and then give them the choice to be baptized when they are older? The Greek word "baptizo" means "to immerse, submerge," so I'm sure some sprinkling of water on the baby's head would not count as a baptism in your religion (it wouldn't to me, anyway). It would satisfy your beliefs and his. Just a suggestion!

As a Christian I have dated men who are not...all of those relationships failed. I dated and married a man who is/was Christian, it didn't work out but it had nothing to do with beliefs. I have a few friends that are in relationships that have lasted even though their beliefs are different. It can work, but both of you must compromise. My friend grew up in a home where her father was Buddist and her mother was Catholic, she attended church with both parents. Two weeks with mom two week with dad, she no longer believes in either faith, she is agnostic. It's your choice to be with this man...but think of the future. If you were to have children with him and he wouldn't allow them to attend church, it could destroy your marriage. Be careful.

It is very dangerous to confuse a child. Hence, why the child doesn't believe in anything now. Isn't it sad? Parents have to agree on a certain religion, especially as the parents religion is so different. Many parents who made the same mistake, ended up with non-believer children.

It is not "sad" that someone may not believe in what you do.

I will be praying to the Flying Spaghetti Monster for you, that he may illuminate you with his noodly appendages and tomatoey goodness.

The way I look at it is this. An atheist has to believe in a higher being in order to refute his (or her) existence. LOL!

Who cares if you are atheist, agnostic, eggtastic, or a yolkist! If you believe in LOVE with that person, everything else will fall into place or your love is not pure to begin with. Religion may make you think differently, but it is not the defining for of the attraction you have for one another.

For the record I am a Catholic and darn proud of it. Does that make me better than a Baptist, atheist, or Jehovah Witness? NOPE. I love you all the same. Who am I to judge others for their free will?

I just feel for the Jews and the Muslims. They cannot eat bacon. This makes me sad. The world is better with bacon.

Speaking from my own experience, I would say that it is difficult to date someone with no faith if you are a christian. I got married very young, 20, and at the time my faith was of little importance to me, and my husband as well. As I got older, I began to explore my faith, pray more, going to mass regularly(yes, I am catholic) and I grew in my faith, he had little interest in his.(he is lutheran) I have had some very rough times since my marriage, and I beleive that the reason I was able to survive them was through the grace I was given by God. Unfortunately after a few infidelities on my husbands part, I got to a point where I couldn't stay in the marriage and we divorced. I knew after that, for me, that I wanted to be with someone I could share my faith with, this included going to mass together, praying together, discussing our faith. 6 months ago I met someone who is amazing and I can do all of these things with...and for me, this has been a great strength in our relationship.

It wasn't because he wasn't Christian that he cheated on you. Trust me, I know plenty of Christian guys who do a lot of bad things, cheating included.

My last relationship ended because he is Agnostic and I am a Christian. We finally had the "religion talk" and he said he wouldn't allow his children to go to church. That was a big deal to me, considering I grew up going to church 2x/week. I told him I couldn't raise children without bringing them to church, so we broke up.

Now that we have been apart for several months, I have been actually excited to meet someone with the same beliefs as me, because I have never made religion a priority in my dating life before.

Well..now my ex has changed his tune a little, and says he'd allow his children to go to church. He misses me, still loves me, etc, etc, and wants to get back together. Great! But is he going to ignore everything relating to God except the going to church part? For example, if I am having a conversation about God to my kids, is he just going to leave the room? I really don't see how I can keep God in my life AND my ex at the same time.

How important do you think it is to date someone who has the same religious beliefs as you? I want your opinions, please!

For me religion isn't just something I believe but it's a way of life and someone who doesn't share that way of life just wouldn't be compatible.

That said, in your situation, I would strongly consider what your future is going to look like if he decides later to change his tune again. What then?

Don't let love cloud your vision.

To answer the question, no.

I simply could not compromise my beliefs for someone else because we wouldn't share the same values. My husband is agnostic and I am atheist. The only thing separating us is that he somewhat thinks something or someone created us and I don't.

You should find someone who truly believes in religion as adamantly as you do, who is willing to attend church, sing hymns and read the bible.

Another tip: sometimes, love is not enough. I learned that the hard way.

If you love each other it shouldn't matter. Religion is a man-made thing, faith is different. Your children aren't born with religion tatooed on their soul, they learn it from their parents, godparents and school, and it's responsible to allow them to make their own choices once they understand what their options are.

Has he ever stopped you going to church? Have you ever forced him to go? If you two can't agree, then fine, but if you've never forced each other, then religion is NOT a reason to split up.