Any 40-something women with no kids? Rare, I know.

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  • write2sonya
    write2sonya Posts: 165 Member
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    Just truned 38... and no kids! :happy:
  • frosty73
    frosty73 Posts: 424 Member
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    Does it count if I'm almost 40 and *wish* I had no kids? LOL!
  • duranchick72
    duranchick72 Posts: 17 Member
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    39, no kids, no boyfriend
    Happy Life!
  • tbskipp
    tbskipp Posts: 184 Member
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    I actually DO have 4 cats...so can you say CRAZY CAT LADY!?!? I don't care, call me crazy. Life is good - I am blessed. I should also add that I have a step-daughter from a previous marriage and we are still very close. So I can relate to step-moms, for sure.

    Just so everyone knows, I never really wanted to have kids. People kept telling me that I would change my mind or that I would be missing out but none of that has applied to me. I have no regrets. Hubby and I love life the way it is. Someone mentioned that their pet is not a substitute for a child. I agree with that, except my "kids" think I'm their Mama and I'm happy to oblige.

    So happy to meet everyone!

    LOL! When i met my husband i was a crazy cat lady in my mid 20s. 3 cats! Although i am 40 and a mom to a 6 yr old girl and I'd like to have another, I totally understand. Children definitely change everything. There are way tooo many people out there having children who have NO business doing it.
    I am still a mom to 4 legged friends - 3 cats and one gigantic dog.
    :tongue:
  • ForeverIrish
    ForeverIrish Posts: 232 Member
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    I'm 43 with no kids! I've actually been told I'm selfish for not having any.

    Funny. I never complain about my kids keeping me awake all night or having bouts of the stomach flu.

    The dogs I've had have been much easier to potty train, from what I hear.
  • _Kitten_Kate
    _Kitten_Kate Posts: 520 Member
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    I am not in the 40's yet.. on the downward slope. I'll be 37 next week.
    I'd love to have kids...but doesn't seem to be in Gods plans for me.
    No man worthy of raising my children YET!
    ALL my friends are married with kids...I am the lone singleton...
  • luvmycoffee
    luvmycoffee Posts: 112 Member
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    Hi everyone! I just turned 37 & my husband & I just are starting to discuss the fact that we are going to live our lives childfree. We actually did try to get pregnant for a number of years, but more because of the fact that it is what "you are supposed to do". All the comments; "The two of you will be such great parents", etc... :grumble:

    Well, we never got pregnant, went for tests...all healthy. We were never that concerned or overly motivated, but everyone else kept saying, "You are not getting any younger"...gee thanks! LOL So I went to see a specialist about IVF, etc. & when I walked out of that appt it hit me like a ton of bricks...I don't TRULY want this. We had a long talk & realized how happy we are with our life as it is. :heart:

    I am so happy that I found this thread because many times you can feel like this is a rare decision & family & friends can make the choice to remain childfree even more difficult.

    Feel free to add me, I love all the support on MFP! :flowerforyou:
  • Yinkin
    Yinkin Posts: 9 Member
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    I'm 42, 20 years married and have no kids. Happy to be an aunt to 4 but don't want any of my own. Have 2 cats and 1 dog. Feel free to add me.

    My mother-in-law didn't speak to me for 8 years when she found out we didn't want kids. She seems to have accepted it now though.
  • Sheila1968
    Sheila1968 Posts: 106
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    41 and no kids. I was just told on yesterday that I need to have kids for a tax break.

    Ha! Yeah, because that child credit will COMPLETELY offset the cost of raising them. (Yes, heavy on the sarcasm there.) We childfree people need to stick together! Far too many people have kids just because they think they're supposed to - not because they truly want them. It's far too big a commitment to enter into lightly.
  • Masq
    Masq Posts: 191 Member
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    I love this topic!!
    I am going to be 41 in May and my husband and I don't have and do not want any kids. We will be married 20 years next year. :smile:
    We have two furry kids and even though one is a sick little guy that cost us a bunch of money in the last 6 months.... it's still cheaper than putting a kid thru college. :laugh:
    Maybe it's selfish.... but oh well. My husband and I like our lives the way it is.... travel, freedom to do what we want when we want. :drinker:
    Feel free to add me as a friend. :flowerforyou:
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
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    Me! 41, single and no kids. Whenever I hear someone say, "EVERY little girl dreams of her wedding day", I feel like a freak lol. Friend me, love to know other non-moms my age :)
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
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    Oh, I can SOOO relate to that! It's amazing how much misplaced sympathy I get. Usually I come back with, "I tried to get a tubal when I was 18 but they made me wait until I was 27 - and it was STILL a fight!" :)

    Lucky you! I'm really jealous!

    I knew since I was a kid I didn't want kids, I asked for a tubal every year from my GYN, and she kept saying 'you're too young' :mad: Now I'm in my later 30s and STILL DON'T WANT THEM! I'm going to demand a tubal this year. gah! why can guys get snipped at 18 but women can't?

    kids=never had 'em, never will.
  • beatlesfan31
    beatlesfan31 Posts: 66 Member
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    Am 41 and never had kids. It was a total choice and I couldn't be happier with it. Come to think of it...I've never been married either and I"m pretty happy about that too!!
  • JWmovin4ward
    JWmovin4ward Posts: 195 Member
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    I'm 38 in a few weeks, married, no kids... not by choice it just turned out that way, but hey it's not the end of the world!
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
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    I know a fair number. When I read articles get tired of the assumption that every woman is married and has kids.
  • Masq
    Masq Posts: 191 Member
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    Oh, I can SOOO relate to that! It's amazing how much misplaced sympathy I get. Usually I come back with, "I tried to get a tubal when I was 18 but they made me wait until I was 27 - and it was STILL a fight!" :)

    Lucky you! I'm really jealous!

    I knew since I was a kid I didn't want kids, I asked for a tubal every year from my GYN, and she kept saying 'you're too young' :mad: Now I'm in my later 30s and STILL DON'T WANT THEM! I'm going to demand a tubal this year. gah! why can guys get snipped at 18 but women can't?

    kids=never had 'em, never will.

    I can relate too. I wanted to finally get off of birth control.... 20 years is a long time on the pill!! I didn't get a tubal, but I did have Endometrial Ablation done in 2010.... around the same time my hubby got snipped so no babies for us!
    If your GYN won't do it for you, find a new one!
  • juliee274
    juliee274 Posts: 124 Member
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    42, soon to be 43, and married 16 years this year with no kids but furry 4-legged ones (currently 2 dogs and 1 cat). I answer "childless by choice" when people ask me if I have kids. This answer is often followed by "but you'd be such great parents!" to which I answer "Well, I think to be a great parent you should actually WANT kids!" :happy:
  • susannahcooks
    susannahcooks Posts: 294 Member
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    Love kids but couldn't eat a whole one!

    LMAO!
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
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    Wow - there are so many of us! :-)
  • SiouxsieQue
    SiouxsieQue Posts: 85 Member
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    41 and no kids. I was just told on yesterday that I need to have kids for a tax break.

    Ha! Yeah, because that child credit will COMPLETELY offset the cost of raising them. (Yes, heavy on the sarcasm there.) We childfree people need to stick together! Far too many people have kids just because they think they're supposed to - not because they truly want them. It's far too big a commitment to enter into lightly.

    Very well said.

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