Significant other not going to work/school when they say the

loseweightjames
loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
edited December 17 in Chit-Chat
If you found out your significant other (wife/husband/bf/gf) was not going to school or work when they said they were, what would you do?

EDIT: in this example, they are suppose to be going to work/school while you are at work/school, but instead they're staying home, so they're probably not cheating, but they're not going to work/school, yet they lie about school activities, paycheck delayed, etc
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  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Cut off their left pinky toe.
  • MermaidFaith
    MermaidFaith Posts: 495 Member
    question why my significant other is lying to me in the first place
  • katythemommy
    katythemommy Posts: 437 Member
    Have a nice long talk.
  • bjfmade
    bjfmade Posts: 543 Member
    Find out why they feel the need to lie about something. What are they covering up?
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    Kick them to the curb... but I'd certainly want to find out what was REALLY going on first...
  • jenguhl
    jenguhl Posts: 79
    If I was 100% positive, I would confront them.
  • mikeschratz
    mikeschratz Posts: 253 Member
    ask em about it?
    Really!
  • sammi402
    sammi402 Posts: 232 Member
    Have a serious conversation about what is going on while attempting to remain calm. OR have a buddy follow them/stake out the house. Depends on what day of the week it is.
  • Captain_Mal
    Captain_Mal Posts: 945 Member
    Find out where they were going by stalking them down or just asking. Your choice.
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    ask them what the hell they were doing instead.
    then slap a *****.
  • dmoses
    dmoses Posts: 786 Member
    This happened to my cousin, and it didn't end well... Please talk to him/her NOW!
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Assuming they are cheating. My ex did this to me, I found out he wasn't going to work because he got fired, was leaving everyday to go to see another lady....
  • PrincessLou71186
    PrincessLou71186 Posts: 741 Member
    I would want to know why they felt the need to hide it from me and what they were doing instead.

    If they refuse an answer I would then think that they have something to hide.
  • Celtic_Queen
    Celtic_Queen Posts: 11
    Oh there'd definitely be a big, long chat...and i would want to know a) why they lied. b) what were they doing then? and c) why did they feel they couldn't tell me?
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    I would find out where they are going and then catch them up in the lie. Lol.

    You cant really believe suspicion unless you see it first hand for yourself.

    & then have a very long talk about it.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I would talk about it. My cousin did that. He was afraid to tell anyone he'd dropped out of college, so he pretended to go for months until he got caught.
  • mes1119
    mes1119 Posts: 1,082 Member
    Like playing hooky for a day, or meeting up with someone else?

    but then again, why would they not tell you they are taking a day off unless they were meeting up with someone....
  • JPod279
    JPod279 Posts: 722 Member
    First, I would make sure they didn't have that winning Mega Millions ticket. If they did...........all would be forgiven. If not, they got some splainin to do.
  • GroupXZ
    GroupXZ Posts: 196 Member
    Cut them.
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    ask them what the hell they were doing instead.
    then slap a *****.

    ^^^ My favorite response of the day. Lol.
  • honeysprinkles
    honeysprinkles Posts: 1,757 Member
    Confront them and find out what they're actually doing. Honesty and trust are important, so I'd be really upset about it.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    Pretty much what everyone else said, figure out what they are hiding, and why they are lying. Then I'd drop em like a bad habbit.
  • GurleyGirl524
    GurleyGirl524 Posts: 578 Member
    depends on where they are going and what they are doing when they get there.
  • OLFATUG
    OLFATUG Posts: 393 Member
    I had a friend of mine pretend to go to work for almost two weeks before his wife caught him. She called the office to ask him some question, and found out he had been let go two weeks ago. He was simply too embarrassed to tell his wife, and was working his butt off trying to find a new job.

    What he did wasn't right, but it wasn't the worst possible scenario either. Talk about it.
  • MissAnjy
    MissAnjy Posts: 2,480 Member
    I had this happen to me. I confronted him & then brokeup with him.
  • KatieDelamatie
    KatieDelamatie Posts: 31
    Ask them! There may very well be a legitimate reason, but it seems our minds always jump to the worse possible scenarios first. I wouldn't sneak around to try to figure something out because that will only cause more turmoil. Hope this helps!
  • cainie19
    cainie19 Posts: 126
    This happened to me, he said he was going to uni for a whole year and he wasn't. :-( he lied cos he was ashamed he'd failed and I'm still with him.
  • Hernandeak11
    Hernandeak11 Posts: 351 Member
    I used to lie about going to class because I wanted to sleep in, and didn't want to seem lazy lol
  • feistymoon
    feistymoon Posts: 152
    Is it a regular thing or a one off? I'd see if it's happening consistently before I jumped to any conclusions. There have been times i've told my SO i'm doing something but then my plans have changed. Perhaps they have a doc apt they didn't want to talk about, perhaps it was a freak occurrence. I'd def get my facts straight before confronting them
  • ❤lindsay❤dawn❤
    ❤lindsay❤dawn❤ Posts: 443
    question why my significant other is lying to me in the first place

    This... ^^^^
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