how often do you have 'relations' ;] ?

MaritaD · April 2012

I was feeling the same way as you until I realized (after we talked) that I was thinking I was initiating but he didn't think I was at all. I had to be more "aggresive" in my initiating and things have really picked up. Average 3X week, good week more, bad week less.

Seriously just don't give him a choice, lol.

InnerFatGirl · April 2012

Can you say 12 years without sex? And I am married. Medical issues have taken away all my husbands ability. At first I thought it was me, was so upset, started eating, eventually gained 100 lbs.. at least I got satisfaction from something. I learned after a few years that it was not me it was severe vascular disease, hypertension, 2 heart attacks, and medications. After all these years I do not even feel like a sexual being any more. It makes me sad but I am so happy I still have my husband I do truly love him and would be lost without his companionship.

((Hugs))

InnerFatGirl · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

*sigh* I do too... my bf is a gamer and plays all night... and not with me. So i have to play by myself.

:ohwell: this is terrible.. how can games come before a woman :S

No idea. I'm a fairly hardcore gamer but if I catch a glimpse of my girlfriend in the wrong light the controller gets flung across the room. We've been together for nearly a year and the fire is there more than ever, if anything.

I envy her. She's a very lucky girl.

k8lyn_235 · April 2012

not enough

2-3x / month .. and i have a bf!!

MrLeeParker · April 2012

I am ashamed to say it but I am still V-Card certified. Maybe I can change that with more weight loss.

b_ism · April 2012

this thread makes me feel depressed >,<

Same here. Nearly six years in and we're down to...............never. Been at least a year. Don't see that changing!!

sarahdee2007 · April 2012

I am ten times more frisky now that I am feeling good about myself!

b3llzy · April 2012

We are both losing weight together...right now we're down around 58lbs together....and it's increased by FAR. I'm hoping by the end of this, we won't be able to leave the bedroom.....Giggity... :drinker:

Edited to include the much needed word "Giggity"

StarvingKyy · April 2012

Although I'd love to more than anything.. no sex for me til I reach my goal weight!

doinitforme2012 · April 2012

everyday, sometimes twice... except when TOM is here. he always ruin's my fun. and it's been that way basically since i stole hubby's V card. lmao. (been together 3 & 1/2 years, 4 in august.) but i'm sure the older we get the less we'll do that dance.

doinitforme2012 · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

*sigh* I do too... my bf is a gamer and plays all night... and not with me. So i have to play by myself.

:ohwell: this is terrible.. how can games come before a woman :S

No idea. I'm a fairly hardcore gamer but if I catch a glimpse of my girlfriend in the wrong light the controller gets flung across the room. We've been together for nearly a year and the fire is there more than ever, if anything.

I envy her. She's a very lucky girl.

haha. all i have to do is stand in front of hubby and he's all hands and no patience.

LelliAmi · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

Laughed SO hard at this lmao :laugh:

Personally, probably a few times a week. If one of us is reeeaally feelin' it, then maybe up to 3 times in a day but that doesn't happen much. I think I usually initiate it, because the bf always think I'm gonna turn him down if he tries. (NOT. TRUE.) It's gotten better since I started working out more. I have more confidence, the more I work out, so I'm pretty sure that's it.

InnerFatGirl · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

*sigh* I do too... my bf is a gamer and plays all night... and not with me. So i have to play by myself.

:ohwell: this is terrible.. how can games come before a woman :S

No idea. I'm a fairly hardcore gamer but if I catch a glimpse of my girlfriend in the wrong light the controller gets flung across the room. We've been together for nearly a year and the fire is there more than ever, if anything.

I envy her. She's a very lucky girl.

haha. all i have to do is stand in front of hubby and he's all hands and no patience.

So jealous

it used to be like that, but things have changed between us :sad:

mandi2r · April 2012

I usually want it more times than him, but I apparently have 'bad timing'. So I'm lucky if I have relations twice a week

k8lyn_235 · April 2012

I usually want it more times than him, but I apparently have 'bad timing'. So I'm lucky if I have relations twice a week

omg. same here. i'm glad i'm not the only one.. i feel like the man in the relationship when it comes to "relations"! but i'm lucky if it's ONCE a week.

Cindym82 · April 2012

this thread makes me feel depressed >,<

me too, we used to have relations every time we saw each other (we lived 40mins away and he works night shift). Now that we live together its like once a week.

damn u ***** neighbor for keeping him up all day and not in the mood when I get home

Tempe729 · April 2012

has this changed since you started your weight loss?

is it you, or your partner who usually initiates it?

truth is, im kinda sick of trying and getting shot down. then again, i have the Libido of a bunny.

males *sigh* cant live with them, but cant live without them. ;]

I have to agree! Although it's been about 6-7months since I last had any "relations" despite losing 30lbs & 26inches overall since the last time I had any "relations" (23lbs & 10inches of which since I joined MFP)

"truth is, im kinda sick of trying and getting shot down. then again, i have the Libido of a bunny." <----SAME HERE! Haha! :laugh:

Contrary03 · April 2012

We go thru cycles~ once a week for 3 wks... then- BAM! Everyday for the fourth:) Not sure why,... but it works. Would i like it more? Heck yeah!.. but working a lot & 3 little ones make for a tired mommy & daddy:yawn:

racheljs768 · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

racheljs768 · April 2012

me too!

jaysonhijinx · April 2012

Not often enough. I go through a lot of batteries

*sigh* I do too... my bf is a gamer and plays all night... and not with me. So i have to play by myself.

:ohwell: this is terrible.. how can games come before a woman :S

No idea. I'm a fairly hardcore gamer but if I catch a glimpse of my girlfriend in the wrong light the controller gets flung across the room. We've been together for nearly a year and the fire is there more than ever, if anything.

I used to be a hardcore gamer (not so bad these days) but if I had to choose between pressing the buttons on a mouse or console controller, or pressing the buttons of a female companion, you better believe the game would be getting logged off, so the girl could be logged on xD

I had been single for quite a while but have been with my new gf for about 7 weeks now. Our schedules aren't the most co-operative so we make good use of our time xD Nothing like staying over and doing it twice, then once again in the morning before work! xD

Sheila1968 · April 2012

I usually want it more times than him, but I apparently have 'bad timing'. So I'm lucky if I have relations twice a week

omg. same here. i'm glad i'm not the only one.. i feel like the man in the relationship when it comes to "relations"! but i'm lucky if it's ONCE a week.

^^^ This. And no, he's not cheating on me, no, he's not gay, none of the usual things I get thrown at me. He just doesn't have as big a sex drive as I do, and never has.

Arrica · April 2012

Can you say 12 years without sex? And I am married. Medical issues have taken away all my husbands ability. At first I thought it was me, was so upset, started eating, eventually gained 100 lbs.. at least I got satisfaction from something. I learned after a few years that it was not me it was severe vascular disease, hypertension, 2 heart attacks, and medications. After all these years I do not even feel like a sexual being any more. It makes me sad but I am so happy I still have my husband I do truly love him and would be lost without his companionship.

I'm sorry for you. Everytime I get feeling all "poor me" I think of what if we had a similar situation and it makes me feel a little less sorry for myself. Anyway, that's gotta be tough but glad you figured out it had nothing to do with you. Hope he gets better!!