worst comment ever made about your weight
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I got asked if I was preggo by a kid...on my BIRTHDAY. Lil' turd. :sad:0
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In high school, I was walking to a different building with a friend. The kids outside started to make cow sounds. I knew it was for me because the girl I was walking with was tall and very skinny.0
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these are all so horrible
you guys are so strong for having endured all that ridicule and don't you EVER let anyone make you feel like you can't make a change or that you shouldn't make a change or that you are wasting anyones time and space. I am really proud of everyone for being here now and I really hope the comments you endure don't affect or continue to affect your daily life. Anyone whos says those kinds of things to or about people has something serious missing from their lives and God help them. 0 -
Wow... you all make my worst moment look pretty tame... My dad, after not seeing me for about 8 months, mentioned withint 10 minutes of seeing me that I must have been eating quite a bit recently.0
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In the 5th grade: "Watch out! Here comes fatty!" - I got that girl in so much trouble.
Freshman orientation in college: "I'm only friends with fat girls. Who wants to date a fat girl?"
I'm sure there have been others as the years have gone by, which I have blocked out. Looking back, I've been miserable because I never felt ugly, but couldn't make anyone see that.
I'll get there and then knock the socks off all those haters. :P0 -
Gosh, thankfully I haven't had people say mean things to me or about me that I have heard. Only ONE thing comes to mind but it was during a breakup fight, funny how it still stung even though I know he said it out of drunk anger.:brokenheart:
"Yeah, you have a lot of friends but every group needs a fat friend".
It is true that all of my friends are smaller than I am. UGH, so he had a point a little BUT...I am beautiufl inside and out and I am on my way to being a more healthy friend.
Note: My friends may be smaller but they have never EVER treated me like the 'fat' friend, whatever that means?!? They are all super sweet and supportive and they are healthy role models for me. I just have different genes and I was lazy for far too long. Now they motivate me and inspire me, as do you all! :flowerforyou:0 -
I have heard the usual barrage of insults from the time I was four years old. Perhaps the particularly worst insult however is the one that's not spoken. It's when people refuse to look you in the eye, or when they will notice and speak to your friend but not acknowledge your presence. No one is more invisible than a fat person.0
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"Home come there's no light on your back porch?" - from my Dad's friend when I was in the seventh grade0
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I actually got a comment today on my way to the gym. Here's how I WISH the interaction had gone:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Yeah? I'm actually on my way to the gym right now and I'm 2 stones lighter than I was 2 months ago. Obviously I'm doing something about my size. When are you going ot do something about being a knob end?
How the exchange ACTUALLY went:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Knob end!
Still, I totally killed it at the gym and used all my anger at w@nkers like him to fuel me in my work out. Far healthier. When I hit my goal weight, I'm going to look killer. That guy will still be a waste of space.
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I actually got a comment today on my way to the gym. Here's how I WISH the interaction had gone:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Yeah? I'm actually on my way to the gym right now and I'm 2 stones lighter than I was 2 months ago. Obviously I'm doing something about my size. When are you going ot do something about being a knob end?
How the exchange ACTUALLY went:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Knob end!
Still, I totally killed it at the gym and used all my anger at w@nkers like him to fuel me in my work out. Far healthier. When I hit my goal weight, I'm going to look killer. That guy will still be a waste of space.
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it, keep doing what you are doing! 0 -
My mom is super super thin, and she doesn't have to worry about it at all, and my dad is bigger, his highest was probably 6'4 260. Both of them make comments frequently. Both say things that they mean to be supportive and encouraging, but it hurt. My dad says things like, "If you keep at it you're going to end up just like me, you'll never have your mother's figure." And my mom always made comments about my thighs. I've been a catcher on a softball team for 11-12 years, so my legs have always been really really strong, and sure, there was a little bit of fat on my entire body, but aside from my legs nothing ever looked big, but she always picks on me for that. Calling me "thunder thighs" and similar things.
Also, a boy I used to work with once said, "You're so interesting because you're perfect from the waist up, but I don't know how you're so big from the waist down."
Its amazing how I forgot about all these things until I started reading this thread though...0 -
I actually got a comment today on my way to the gym. Here's how I WISH the interaction had gone:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Yeah? I'm actually on my way to the gym right now and I'm 2 stones lighter than I was 2 months ago. Obviously I'm doing something about my size. When are you going ot do something about being a knob end?
How the exchange ACTUALLY went:
Guy: Porker!
Me: Knob end!
Still, I totally killed it at the gym and used all my anger at w@nkers like him to fuel me in my work out. Far healthier. When I hit my goal weight, I'm going to look killer. That guy will still be a waste of space.
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I still find the Knob end to be funny..Hahah0 -
This'll sound awful, but I'll explain:
"You look JUST like your mother..."
I love and miss my mom dearly. But I always thought of her being VERY heavy. She used to keep encouraging me to lose weight and "not end up like her." After I had my daughter, I gained a lot of weight - 50 pounds. I maintained my weight through my pregnancy, but ended up gaining three months after she was born due to stress. And it wasn't even stress eating. I wasn't eating hardly ever, but both my husband and I had lost our jobs and I was panicking about how were we going to make it, with a brand new baby no less!
When people started to tell me how much I looked like my mom, and I started to really look at photos, I did. I didn't have any clothes that fit, and since my mom had passed away a few years earlier, my father was starting to donate her clothes. He told me he would bring me some of her clothes - and they fit perfectly. I freaked out! Now, 30 pounds less and 2 sizes smaller, they don't fit anymore. I still look like her and I really need to lose at least 80 more pounds, but I am on my way.
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The worst comment I received was a women who was my ex-boss asked me are you expecting? I answered said no. Then she preceded to say are you sure, like I don't know my own body. That is the day I got a membership to Anytime Fitness and have been going three times a week.0
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When my little boy was 2-y-o (he's 3 1/2 now) we were getting served at a shop and the woman behind the counter congratulated me and asked when I was due. I indicated my son and said, "2 years ago. Thanks a bunch." I left without the groceries.
Fact is, nobody should EVER ask if you're pregnant unless they can see a baby emerging from you that very moment. I actually told that to a guy who asked me if I was pregnant immediately after I went back to work after maternity leave. I also told him to follow that advice to the letter unless he wanted to someday have his testicles ripped off and shoved so far down his throat they would almost be back in their original position. He didn't take it kindly, but neither did I!0 -
I never everrrrr wore shorts to school. I always skipped out in gym because I never wanted to change into my gym clothes. Then I decided I wanted to lose weight, so the first (and last) day I ever dressed out for gym, the thin girls stole my regular clothes (I never found them...) and made fun of me in my shorts and tank top all day long. They even walked home behind me that day, when they usually go a different route, just to call me fat *kitten* or hippo legs, etc. I wanted to run as fast as I could but I knew that'd just give them more of a reason to make fun of me
Then one of the girls decides to add me on facebook 8 years later and comment on my pictures saying how pretty I am. I wanted to comment on hers mentioning how she grew a mustache better than my boyfriend ever could and she looks more like a gorilla now than she did before. But I didn't.
That's not even that bad now after reading all of these other stories. But it hurt me pretty bad.
I've also heard very mean things from my step dad when he would go through crack withdrawals for about 10 years.
And now, it's not really that cruel, and I know he loves me, but it really hurts my feelings when my boyfriend and I are watching a movie or something on TV and a barely dressed girl with a fine body shows up and he says "damn!"
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BUT I'm getting over these things! I'm still not confident but I am way more confident than I ever have been!0 -
hubbies grandma comes out with them all the time - at 80 years old shes just thinking out loud, doesn't give a *kitten* what she says
The best one from her was 'you used to be so thin and pretty, isn't it a shame' and gives a pitiful look!
haha you should have said "hey so did you and give that pitiful look right back" lol.
My mema is the same way..........when she says things like that I tell her she must be going senile because she is losing her mouth editing skills.0 -
From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)
"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"
The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)
ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"0 -
Worst weight comments was at my Graduation from high school mind you I was 8 months pregnant
They were mooing and then said look there is the Chik Fil-A cow graduating. I will never forget that one.
I would date you but I would just not be able to take you anywhere till you lost some weight.
Your really pretty in the face just have a big butt
At least you have a personality and brains cause your looks won't get you anywhere
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I sit here in disbelief that so many people have had so many bad experiences. I have never been hugely overweight but for quite some time I have been overweight and have never ever heard a negative comment(maybe behind my back..not sure) I just feel horrible that so many of you had to hear these comments. I guess bullying isnt just happening in the high schools. That is one thing I have always drilled in my kids heads is to never ever be mean and hurtful to others at school, you never know what they are going through. In fact at my daughters track meet the other day there was a kid that is most likely picked on all the time....well he is always following her around and she said its becasue she is the only one that will talk to him and be nice to him. It makes me happy to know they are thoughtful kids. I recall reading a story awhile back where a high school kid was walking home with all of his books and locker supplies when a group of bullies knocked everythign out of his hands and another one of the "cool kids" stopped to help him and walk him home. The became fast friends and the one being picked on became valadictorian of his class. At his speech he said that he was planning on killing himself that day and had all his books so his parents didnt have to come and clean out his locker. The one nice gesture from his newly found best friend changed that. Its amazing what kind words can do!0
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1. an ex said~ At least you have a pretty face. (when I was in college)
2. my mom said~ you look terrible in that (outfit), you need to lose a few pounds (I was about 15 or so)
3. my brother said~ wow, you are such a fat *kitten*, when are you going to do something about it. (I was 13)
4. a guy at the gym said~ 30 more pounds and you will look decent (recently)0 -
Wow, these all make me a) so sad that people can be so cruel and b) so ANGRY that people can be so cruel, and seemingly have NO REMORSE OR CONSCIENCE about how they're treating others! It's DESPICABLE.
I have a few, and I'm short on time, so just one for now. I was crossing the street, late at night, in San Francisco where I used to live, after a night out. I was just walking to my car and this group of guys drove by me and screamed at the TOP of their lungs, "FAT B I T C H!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I STILL can hear that voice in my head, almost 6 years later. Ugh, it was awful. I cried and cried!0 -
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Wow, thank you everyone for sharing. I nearly cried reading some of these posts. To touch on what others have said, there are just cruel people in the world. Bullies will pick on people for anything they can possibly think of, whether you are too tall, short, fat, skinny, ugly, whatever. I work with a woman who is thin, absolutely gorgeous and sweet as can be, yet I'm constantly defending her from other co-workers who say she is stuck up, has weird eye brows, must be sleeping with the boss..... Unfortunately, I think everyone goes through some sort of bullying. My sister has always been thin, but was constantly bullied throughout high school to the point of an attempted suicide. My entire childhood I listened to my dad call my mom a "beached whale" and every form of fat and disgusting you could imagine.
As for me, I went through a very tough time years ago and gained nearly 80 lbs in about 6 months. I can't tell you how many people asked me if I was pregnant. During that same time I was dating a man who I overheard tell someone he "was forced to hang out with the fat chicks tonight" (referring to a friend of mine and me). After working very hard to lose weight, I met a girlfriend of mine at the gym who I hadn't seen in a while. The first thing she says to me is, "damn you've put on a ton of weight." Needless to say, it put serious strain on our relationship.
What's so sad is that we all remember each and every time someone said something hurtful, but forget all the compliments. The good thing is that outer beauty can always be altered; inner beauty can't.0 -
"Have you lost a LITTLE weight?"
This was from one of my close friends who hadn't seen me for a few months since going to college. I had lost 35 pounds since last seeing her and was at my goal weight. Made my weight loss seem so minor. :grumble:0 -
@auticus I'm really happy that she is your EX wife... what a horrible person.
agreed, dude your ex is a *****0 -
Wow, I've never had some of the beyond terrible experiences you guys of had. Makes me sad.
Although, my ex-wife did tell me I was fat and stuff almost every day for about 8 years. And she would sabotage my efforts to lose weight. But in the end she gave me the best gift ever. She left.
Oh once I was running outside and some boys on bikes called me a fat *kitten* and laughed. But I laughed too, because I was once a dumb little boy, so it's all good.
Actually, you know what. The WORST comment about my weight is when someone says something like: "You look fine" or "You just need to tone up a little." Give it to me straight doc.0 -
Someone I hadn't seen in a fews years (I'd had a baby and got a desk job between the times I saw her last) ran into me on the street and the first thing out of her mouth was "WOW! You got big!"0
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In high school (at my skiniest - 165lbs), I was standing in a doorway, waiting for my friend to come out to talk a minute, and one of my guy classmates came up next to me, called out to another classmate, pointed at me and said "Wide Load!!" - I wore a size 13 at the time, and had lost about 50lbs in the last year. That killed me, and pushed me on a cycle that spiralled out of control over the next several years.
About a year ago, I said something to my youngest son about wanting to run a 5K in a year - he said something to my neighbors - who were sitting on their a$$e$ outside their house across the street, eating pizza on the sidewalk - one of them said something about my running a 5K, and one of the other ones laughed and said "Yeah, not likely". I explained to the woman that I was working towards a 5K in a year, and the jerk (her brother in law, as it turns out) laughed, and said "Yeah, might take longer than that!" The good news is, I am over 100lbs lighter now, and am actually running!! A 5K is not too far off in my future!!
I want to walk up to both of these jerks at some point in my life, and tell them what *kitten* I think they are for saying mean things - but in doing so, I would lower myself to their level. My goal now is just to prove them wrong. I like being right - and I WILL run that 5K this year!!!!0
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