worst comment ever made about your weight
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Wow, thank you everyone for sharing. I nearly cried reading some of these posts. To touch on what others have said, there are just cruel people in the world. Bullies will pick on people for anything they can possibly think of, whether you are too tall, short, fat, skinny, ugly, whatever. I work with a woman who is thin, absolutely gorgeous and sweet as can be, yet I'm constantly defending her from other co-workers who say she is stuck up, has weird eye brows, must be sleeping with the boss.....
Nice Post^^^^^^^
I was also called amazon etc... after losing the weight, bc I am 5'11" LOL whats on earth is wrong with people..
Ohh wait I know, they have something gnawing away at their insides which is RIPE with insecurity, and they jump on others perceived 'ugliness' because its the only way they can feel good about themselves for a few minutes....0 -
Co worker talking to boss: "You need to take Callie with you to the gym sometime! '...
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My whole life has been plagued with fat comments but I'll just run over the ones that stick with me the most.
- Once my younger sister had a friend over. I was about 12 or so, and I came over to say hi to her friend (as we had not met, and I wanted to say hello). First thing this friend does is take out a pencil from her backpack, poke my stomach, and say, 'Go away, fatty.'
- One summer in middle school, my sister and I were invited over to a friend's house to swim in her pool. As soon as I took off my t-shirt and pants (wearing swimsuit underneath), my friend leans over to my sister and says, 'Your sister's so fat, it makes her head look really small.'
- Middle school again, running in gym class. I couldn't keep up with the rest of the girls and started to lag behind -- only to have the one in front of me turn around and say, 'You know you're fat because you don't keep up with the rest of us, right??'
- High school, I never, ever changed in the gym locker room because of my poor body image, two girls started a rumor that I was a lesbian.
- College, just like two years ago, one of my male friends (who is more overweight than I am, drinks mountain dew on a regular basis, very unhealthy and disgusting boy) tells me to my face that I'm not skinny, but I should be proud of that, because I'm "the weight a woman should be." (I think this is also the beginnings of my passion for feminism.)
Needless to say, I'm so glad I'm no longer in elementary/middle/high school and the "friends" I have who make rude comments about my weight are no longer in communication with me. I don't need that negativity.0 -
...okay, i too have had some horrible comments made to me over the years, but one i clearly recall is from 4th grade.
<back story: i was a healthy weight, but my hourglass figure had already developed and i had to wear a bra, hence i was not a stick, and a few of the boys started making comments of how i was 'chubby'. i was the only redhead girl in my school, and i was just as pale then as i am now. i lived in a tiny sea-side town on long island, and this was the late 1970s, when everyone was into hawaiian tropic golden skin, farah fawcett golden hair, and cocaine thin figures in spandex were all the rage in fashion...so yeah, paint a target on me for several reasons...oh, it was horrible, and it got much worse before it got any better.>
Characters:
(1) Popular Boy, Handsome, Trouble Maker - Always in Principal's Office.
(2) Pretty Girl, Left Back 2x and still in 4th grade, Smoker, and had let *many* of the boys feel her up and more [including Popular Boy] and was VERY proud of her reputation.
(3) Me.
Scene:
We three were put together as a small group for a science project. I am doing ALL of the work, as they cannot be bothered with such things as schoolwork, and they are chit-chatting, flirting, then are quiet for a short time.
I look up and the boy breaks the silence by saying, real slow, all matter of fact, and with much disgust:
"When you are older, you are going to be thin and beautiful, because you are fat and ugly now."
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Fast Forward, mid 1990s...as I stand before the flashing cameras from the circle of AP that surround me, having been interviewed by the press and filmed for Entertainment Tonight with Delta Burke, as I am her premier model for her new clothing line...for some reason, out of nowhere, with those flashing cameras blurring my vision, the words Popular Boy spoke years ago echo through my mind and it takes all of my concentration not to tear up - it suddenly dawns upon me that I am in fact, NOT UGLY. and at 5' 8" with a fit, flat tummy, at size 14, NOT FAT.
Decades later, a sense of serenity and peace...although, remembering those words still makes me cry... T_T
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I guess the worst things I have ever heard are when my Grandfather used to call me "fatboy" to the point that my dad finally stepped in and told him to stop, which it never did but eventually became a joke. The other was a night that my wife had had one to many, we started arguing, and at some point in the bickering she called me a fat *kitten* and said I disgust her. I so badly want to say "who's the fat *kitten* now huh?!?!" Over the years and working in customer service, I have heard many, many times (when people do not remember name), I am referred to as "the big blonde guy"0
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going over electives for high school with my mom - I'm looking at useful stuff like auto mechanics, mom suggests home ec.
me: mom, it's the 70s women don't have to cook & clean now days
mom: you better learn how to cook, you're never gonna CATCH A MAN with your looks
A girl's best friend is her mother ....?0 -
While riding on the elevator at my job, a lady (never seen her in my life) looks at me and asks " didn't you used to workout?" . I got off thinking, "damn!". Hit me hard0
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*****sorry it is a bit long**** Mine is a sad story and is hard to tell.. but okay here it goes..
Even when I went through school people mentioned I was fat even at my best weight.. But when it seemed to all go down hill is when I hit 21(exactly to the day)
I've worked almost every birthday since I've gotten a job, and on my 21st birthday, not only did I have to work, I had to work both my jobs.
So I go into my waitressing job, the day is busy, the cooks are slacking, food taking long time to come out, guests are upset. I end up serving a table with a man and woman, and their child. The man and child seemed okaty through the whole thing, but the woman just seemd output. Well when she left, she left even more upset. Nothing I did pleased her. i told my manager that she might be one to put in a complaint and boy, did she ever.
About an hour after that, my manager pulled me into the office (in the middle of my shift) and told me that the lady did put in a complaint. It wasn't about the food taking a long time or not being hot enough and any of the stuff I thought it might of been. No, instead it was that her waitress made her sick to her stomach and she couldn't believe that someone so fat and ugly could be out in front of people.
After my shift was over, I went to my other job as a photo tech at a local walgreen's. My coworkers could tell something was off and tried cheering me up. Unfortunatly it didn't work too well. Later in that shift, a customer came up to my register and when he saw me he laughed. He turned around to his friend and said to him he couldn't believe how gross I looked...
****Happy 21st birthday to me****
Since then it seems like everyone has noticed my weight or how ugly I am and they all seem to mention it.
After I got pregnent is got even worse. At least three times a week someone would say something about it. I've had people leave doodle of my gross huge body on a napkin instead of tips. People told me "Who ever got you pregnant must be blind or was very very drunk, hahaha".
I've had a guy come up to me at my register, and when pretty skinny girls walk past, he turns he looks at them and say " Wow so many girls here look awesome", then looks back at me with disgust, "Well, I guess not all of them..."
I even have a coworker now that tells me I could play Santa, without any of the pillows. Or if I ate my lunch, tell me I didn't need that...
Don't let them get you down! Their immature shortsighted opinions are not your final judgement
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My ex-fiancee would constantly try to tell me to workout, with little belittling comments, I was 135 at the time at 5'5" Then I gained a bunch of weight (15lbs) from the blows to my self esteem and just not caring anymore since no matter what i did it wasn't good enough, that's my profile "before" pic you see. Lost the weight and then some over this past year, "after" portion of profile pic was taken in November, I have been working on toning now. But this past december, after 7 years together, he told me that he isn't and has never been attracted to me, I am too curvy and he prefers athletic builds....OUCH!!0
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From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
Random assorted things from the years
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"
* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".
* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.
* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"
I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.
I know people can be cruel, but it is truly hard for me to see people saying some of what you typed.
I was called pleasantly plump in highschool, curvy and size 8 looks chubby no matter what.
I have had similar things done to me, so I CAN believe all this.
One night walking home from work, some guys came out of a bar and started moo'ing at me as I walked past.
I also had some teenage kids outside a store once laugh and mock me while I walked by into the store.
Yeah. Some people are truly cruel and I hope there is Karma and they get what is coming to them.0 -
That was so rude of him to say! I would have felt so crushed. good for you that you changed your point of view on dating!0
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We got a new Chinese post doc, and I'm only mentioning his nationality because there are some American-Chinese people in my lab who say this is a common way for Chinese people to talk to relatives, but they were incredulous that he talked to me like this. He said "You'd be prettier if you were taller" once, and then another time "You need to go to the gym." These comments were a bit before I started to get in shape, he went to China for 3 weeks, came back, and said "You look very much reduced!" I guess it makes his compliment so much better that I know he is capable of such brutal honesty.
In fact, all of the compliments I've been getting lately have really made me wonder why those that love me didn't tell me I should lose the weight sooner. I, for some reason, was convinced I was "fooling" everyone and didn't look as heavy as I was... lol0 -
going over electives for high school with my mom - I'm looking at useful stuff like auto mechanics, mom suggests home ec.
me: mom, it's the 70s women don't have to cook & clean now days
mom: you better learn how to cook, you're never gonna CATCH A MAN with your looks
A girl's best friend is her mother ....?
No, sometimes she's not.. You are lucky if you get the mom who is your bestfriend. Mine is and still, sometimes she slips and says somethign she does not realize is painful.
2nd year in highschool, my mom looking at the school pictures
Mom looking at sisters, "Wow, you look gorgeous!"
Looks at mine, "This is nice.."
Looks back at sisters, "But wow, you could be a model. You look amazing!!"
Never looked back at mine0 -
"Are you expecting??" I've gotten that one 4 or 5 times, even at my thinnest. If you're not sure, don't ask!0
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Probably a year after I had my son I was working in a bank at the time and had a turtle neck on and I had two people come up and ask me when I was due. I was like I am not a had a baby a year ago, they were like o still have all the baby fat huh. I was so upset then a fwe weeks later I had on a pretty sundress and another person asked me when I was due I said I am not pregant he was like are you sure I said yes VERY sure. I went home and cried I was so upset because I wasnt even "overweight" I just had my pouch from him now every outfit I try on I am self consious about because of those 3 people.0
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Wow...some of these make me feel so sad about the human race. Seriously, what is wrong with people?!
Worst I got? I was called a "fat f**king hefer" by my husband. I was still about 20 pounds overweight - 3 months after giving birth to our second son.
So no surprise that I'm single now!0 -
I've heard it all...all my life. My earliest memories are of being "too fat, too tall and too ugly". I have heard every chant, every comment that kids can make.
It became a regular part of my dating life that guys wanted to date me as long as none of there friends never found out. I have been given every excuse in the world. I was always the fun sweet one...but never good enough to be taken out in public.
I come from a lean fit family. One time my mom started to mention my weight and was saying I should lose to be healthy. My big brother stepped in and stopped her. For a brief second I was so thankful to him. Then he said, " Mom, you don't need to tell her she needs to lose weight. She knows she's fat. Everyone can see that."
I could write a book about the comments and experiences I've had.
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Wow, some of these are so hurtful! I was once told I would be pretty if I would lose some weight. And I've had some comments from friends who made me feel even larger than life even by small comments meant to be helpful, but oh so not! There is no excuse for being a jerk and being judgmental. Whether food is your crutch, beauty products, being vain, or whatever it may be, those people will still never be pretty people that I would want in my life.0
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I have never been asked if I was pregnant when i wasn't but when I was waitressing, at the END of my pregnancy, I had a customer that at first said nothing until one of the girls told him I was due in two weeks. His response to me, "Oh, I thought you only got really fat."0
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Hah, there's too many to mention! I've always been stocky, but never past a UK 16. Being short and having a G cup doesn't help.
A boy I went to school with once called me 'wide load' completely unprompted. Boys in school would always warn me not to run in PE as I'd get two black eyes. One of the lunchtime supervisors referred to me as the 'hefty' one.
Outside a club, some Irish guys asked us where the nearest late night club was, and we told them then headed off. They then started comparing me to a fat girl from a UK soap (Fizz from Corrie) for their own amusement.
The latest, and probably most hurtful, was a work colleague. I tripped over the scales in a friend's bathroom, and when I returned they asked what the ruckus was, I explained and he mimicked me with "Scales? What are they?!"
Bear in mind these are all pretty awful people, and a general minority in everyday life. My family especially are very supportive and encouraging.0 -
All these comments say WAY more about the person or people who said it then it does about any of you.
They are L O S E R S ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !0 -
From my best friend while she was pregnant:
"Hey! You look just like me, minus the baby!"
She said it jokingly, but it still stung.0 -
when i was pregnant with my son in 2009 - i was 5'3" and 142 when I got pregnant, so yeah, I had a few extra pounds. i had JUST found out i was pregnant, like two days prior, and my husbands aunt goes "i was wondering! i thought you looked heavier." Then when i was about 5 months along and showing, i walked into my mother in laws house and she goes "YEP. You're getting FAT!"
Then i lost 16 pounds when my son was 18 months old and I started doing lots of circuit training and stuff, so i was pretty toned. And one time my dad told me my arms were soooo skinny and asked if i was eating enough. And i was super proud of my toned arms! ha! And like 5 months ago a friend looked at me and said "Well, you're just wasting away to nothing, arent you?" Um, 5'3" and 120 pounds and toned is hardly wasting away.
Seems people have comments no matter what!0 -
I remember in 9th grade, my classmate would ALWAYS comment how she wore a size 2 while we were changing for gym class. She'd throw her teeny tiny shorts and shirts around. I was overweight all throughout my school years, so I know she would tell me to throw it in my face. At the time, I wore a size 12-14.
Now let's fast forward about 15 years later......I went to a baby shower. That classmate was there too. By this time, she's had a few kids and has gained a few, and I've gone down 10 sizes. I, not once, made a comment about our weight. When she realized who I was, she's the one who commented, "look at us now. I'm the one wearing the glasses (I wore glasses back then) and.....well, has gained weight." I still didn't say anything (because I know how it feels), BUT I have to admit that it felt good!!!! 0 -
My ex-fiancee would constantly try to tell me to workout, with little belittling comments, I was 135 at the time at 5'5" Then I gained a bunch of weight (15lbs) from the blows to my self esteem and just not caring anymore since no matter what i did it wasn't good enough, that's my profile "before" pic you see. Lost the weight and then some over this past year, "after" portion of profile pic was taken in November, I have been working on toning now. But this past december, after 7 years together, he told me that he isn't and has never been attracted to me, I am too curvy and he prefers athletic builds....OUCH!!
Guess thats why he's an ex-fiancee huh!?0 -
I've gotten the "that fat guy just passed you" thing before, and a lot of the others. Your ex takes the cake, that's extremely messed up. My wife has always been nice about my weight and careful to not hurt my feelings, but sometimes you can't help but notice.
the worst is when you're kids come home asking why you're bigger than there friends dads, or when they tell you that they got teased because you're fat.
but the other day after carrying rail road ties and tossing them over a fence my son told me that it was a good thing I'm fat because people would probably be afraid of me if they could see my muscles. then he told me I should not loose to much weight because he was starting to see them.0 -
From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
Random assorted things from the years
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"
* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".
* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.
* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"
I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.
I know people can be cruel, but it is truly hard for me to see people saying some of what you typed.
I was called pleasantly plump in highschool, curvy and size 8 looks chubby no matter what.
I agree - people really need to stop and thing before they speak.
A few that I've heard:
My friend used to really be into City Council races, and one day we were out picking up the yard signs that had been put out before election day. A guy that had pulled up behind us yelled out for me to "hurry my fat *kitten* up". I got back into the car in tears.
Walking past a group of guys once I heard "ewww". I was the only one around and it was pretty obvious it was directed at me.0 -
I was at a popular jean store. I should say I'm pear shaped. The sales woman says "I'm not sure there are any jeans here that will fit you. It must be so hard to buy jeans when you have such a small waist but such a..." and then she did this gesture with her hands where she held them close, then spread them wide and said "Boom".
Another time, I was buying a bridesmaid dress for my best friend's wedding. She had a lot of very snobby girls in her wedding party. One of the girls said about me "Get this one an extra large. There's no way she's going to fit into a large." The pain of that comment is that my weight THEN is what my goal weight is NOW!! Funny, I ended up with a Large that needed to be taken in because this snobby girl took the last medium. AND this snobby girl is using this site too because she now needs to lose weight also. *SIGH*
Lastly that I can think of right now is when I was in high school, this really mean boy in law class told me I had thunder thighs. Totally unprovoked. No matter how skinny I get, I will always have thighs. It's my lot in life. Now, on the days where I don't feel my best, I see my reflection and I think "Look at those thunder thighs." This guy has no idea how that little saying has stuck with me...and it's been 16 years. However, I know that since then he's been diagnosed with a gamut of mental illnesses, including Tourettes.
And I remember one more! I was once told by a friend, who happens to be a black man, that I will always have black men hitting on me because "a lot of black men love white women with big *kitten*". Okay, so that one isn't so bad, but it was still a big *kitten* comment so... (Anyways, he has still proven to be right)
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Well being called fat obviously doesn't bother me. After all, my screen name on here reads as "Fatty Fatty Two By Four". I've been called things much worse than fat and hurt by people more significant than idiots on the street.
And still, I rise!0 -
In middle school 1-800-jenny was left on my desk and locker almost everyday.
I asked my mom if I could have a bowl of chips or something like that and she would reply with just don't eat it all or haven't you had enough today?
My sister's friends always made fun of me and she didn't do anything about it.
Walking with friends on the street and a truck full of boys drives by and yells fatass! Or moo's0
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