Need girls and guy answers

I know, I'm just an old grandma thinking of the innocent little babies.

Its different for every couple..I for one didn't care one way or the other, I was doing what was best for baby and me and if he chose to drink ok with me. It didn't make me want one, so I wasn't bothered by it.

Id be mad, since he said he would stop! Plus ur the one that needs to carry it and push it out, and all the little things in between. He needs to man up and be their to support u all the way if that's what he wants. It will make ur pregnancy alot better knowing he's there for u, and not making u feel deprived and left out! He needs to put other things aside now if that's what he wants! Or he should be giving birth to the baby!!

I thought the point of getting a girl pregnet was to get a free sober cab for 9 months?

Baaaahahaha I never thought of this but damn its probably what he was thinking about the whole time... I knew I should have dropped his *kitten* off and let him walk home

I find it rather comical that so many people liken abstaining from alchohol to "suffering" as though it was some sort of extreme torture method.

Maybe someone should call the Geneva Convention.

The issue I see is not the drinking, but it is the reversal on the decision not to.

To quote Tony Montana. "All I have in this world is my balls and my word - and I don't break them for no one."

If you make a commitment stick with it.

I think this response needed to be posted a gain, what a smart guy!!

Thanks for all your answers! Some are helpful and some not. I want to clean some things up. I never asked him to give up drinking, he was the one that said it not me. Of course now that he is going bak on his word, it hurts. He is a havy drinker, which doesn't matter so much. I just don't understand the saying ok I won't because I want to support you and then te next month say nope I am still drinking cuz I want to. I have given up things for him before cuz he didn't like them and I think it's only far to do the same. I love him very much but it really hurt to hear the way he said that he wouldn't stop today. Thanks again for all your help people!

you choose to give them up because he didn't like what ever he expressed displeasure about--- but it was still your choice to give it up or not. While in a perfect world everyone would reciprocate our generosity it is sadly not as common as we all would like. FAIR---has no bearing on his or your motivation... If you truly want him to not drink then come up with VALID reasons why his stopping will benefit/enhance and or help your relationship through out the pregnancy. Just wanting him to give it up because its "only fair": is a reason destine to end up in an argument. I also suggest before flushing birth control you sit down and play out your responsibilities and what your life may look like with a kid in a worse case scenario??? IE if his drinking gets to "a problem" are you willing to be a single parent?? Are you willing to fight for treatment ??? Are you able to financially support the family if all that other **** comes to bear??? I am not saying don't have a kid but I am saying when kids enter the picture planing for WORST CASE and hoping for Unicorns and Rainbows is always advisable !!

I would think hard & heavy before conceiving a child with a heavy drinker as the father... moral issues aside, there are many things to consider here.