worst comment ever made about your weight

From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)

"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"


The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)


ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"

WTF is wrong with your mother?!?!?!? You poor woman!!

My husband called me a fat butt when we were in a fight once... but even that didnt phase me. LOL

One of my family members told me at a family reunion that I was "a pretty, little fat thing." I guess she thought she was giving me a compliment. Not to mention, I haven't worn shorts for years because I heard someone say that I didn't have knees. People are cruel.

When I was about 12 or 13, my best friend's big sister would call me "Cream Puff" because I was short and fat. This lasted for the duration of our friendship.

When a male friend of a friend asked how much I weighed in front of everyone. When I told him, he said "NO WAY, I would have guessed WAY more!" Thanks, a******.

When I was 18, my Mom took me to the OB/GYN. Same doctor who delivered me. I was 5'8" and weighed in the 90s!!. The doctor told me I had fat legs. I was mortified.

hmm id have to say that my family probably has been the meanest on comments even though i was really unhealthy and constantly gaining weight but my brother and my dad were always the ones who made comments

for example one time my dad asked my brother if he would like some ice cream and my brother was like no thanks; i then asked if i could have some and he goes nope just ran out of ice cream..look down at your stomach and tell me if you really need it

also when i just started using this site i had lost 20 pounds and my brother was giving me crap about my weight at the time i was finally able to say atleast im doing something about my weight your dating a girl that always complains about her weight but does nothing about it and for that matter whatever weight ive lost shes seemed to have found which was great because i have never heard a comment about my weight since

also my brother and dad have both commented now that im and almost too skinny and that i have put on alot of muscle tone i also thank them for the comments now because if i had just kept ignoring it like i was doing and my mother who would let me eat all the food she made (serving meant for a whole family) she would also make comments that i was healthy and not over weight and that eventually i would grow out of it, ignorance is no excuse and thankfully the comments about how i look just drove me to try harder

Mummy you have another baby cause your belly is getting bigger now.
some has walked up to me and asked when i was due

All the "kids can be cruel" remarks sound like they're being excused from proper behaviour....NO EXCUSES....it's just plain WRONG....

What ever happened to teaching kids (so it's still in effect when they're adults) "If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all!" AND "Don't make personal remarks!"....these are simple guidelines for civilized behaviour & in this anti-bullying era should be mottos taught in both home & schools let alone churches where the Golden Rule "Do unto others as you would have done to you" should always be taught!

I've been asked at least three times in the last years if I was pregnant or how old my kids were. I'm 22, and have never been pregnant or had children. I just carry all of my weight in my stomach, due to crippling PCOS. Le sigh.

This thread makes me glad I'm a reclusive type. For most of my life I've been very overweight (I'm 48) and I guess I've been extremely lucky because I cannot fathom the horrible things that people say and do that I am reading here. I've never been very socialable so maybe that is why, I'm not around as many people as most folks are. But I'm around a lot of people when I work, and they all seem more worried about how you perform on the job rather than looks. I can remember hearing jibes out windows as walking down the street a couple of times. I certainly often imagine that people are having negative thoughts about my weight when I'm in public but that is me not them. Most people surprise me by being nice (and I don't invite such things, I'm quite shy). I might just tune it out and not put myself into position where I'm likely to be the target, I don't know. I'm so sorry that so many of you have had to suffer these horrible things. What is the matter with people! Especially family members or people who are friends! My best friend is always telling me that "some people are just meant to be bigger" when I tell him I am trying this or that to lose weight (again), which makes me mad but he's saying it to make me feel good even if the result is not that. He did make me cry one time when I said "yes this time I'm going to stick to it" and he said "oh then you can be a bag of loose skin", but he wasn't trying to be mean LOL. I was also going through menopause at the time so I attributed my reaction to that.

I'm wondering when I lose the weight this time how I will know who the jerks are...if there is someone who would say or do some of the things I'm reading here to me when I am fat, I would just as soon know it straight up rather than have them be nice to me if I'm at an appropriate weight!