worst comment ever made about your weight

I'm reading through these posts with amazement. In a bad way. I cannot believe how cruel people are. I have been fortunate to have only gained weight when I was pregnant. Here I am, 6 months postpartum and only have the last 10lbs to lose (out of 70 gained). I was pregnant, so no one ever picked on me. I couldn't ever imagine myself having bad thoughts about someone based on their appearance. Let alone say something so mean and heartless.

I am proud to be the mother of my daughter as in she will be taught to be respectful and never shallow, especially of appearances. Looks mean nothing. Whether you are overweight, skinny, black, white, pretty, or ugly. "Beauty" fades. It's all about one's personality, which lasts and lasts.

It's funny how these types of comments can really stick with a person, no matter how much time goes by. I'm 34 now. When I was about 15 or so, I was at the beach with a friend of mine. She was thin, blonde, gorgeous (still is). The one all the guys drooled over. We were getting back in our car, and a guy yelled from across the street, something flirtatious, I can't remember what it was. I waved, and then he yelled "Not you, you fat b***h! Your friend!". Something so small and insignificant, and almost 2 decades later, I still remember how much it stung. That kind of thing happened a lot in high school.

Sometimes it hurts, even though you know they don't mean to be hurtful. A friend I have known for about 15-20 years, comes from a Cuban family, where I guess they are just super open about what they are thinking, without any regard. Just blunt. I don't see him or his family as much as I used to, since we've gotten older and all, but still sometimes I go over there for family parties and such, and his dad, ALWAYS has to make a comment about the weight I have gained over the years. Always. About how I better lose weight if I want to find a man, etc etc. The last one was about 3 weeks ago, (he's a major perv too, which you just come to terms with at some point, knowing he's not a bad person), he said something along the lines of "you need to find yourself a really big guy, so he can "take" you in bed". Meaning, I'm so big, that the only way someone can take charge in bed with me is if they are bigger than me, and that guy better be huge. I don't remember the exact words, but that was the idea. He says it with a smile, and you choose to blow it off, especially cuz they're like family too, but it stings a little for sure..

These kinds of comments used to hurt a lot more when I was younger, and more impressionable. Throughout the years though, I've just developed a bit of an attitude. Lol. I'll tell people to f*** off, if they catch me on a bad day and say something mean. It kinda sucks though, because I've built a wall.

I know not everyone is mean and cruel, but especially living in the South Florida area, there are way too many shallow people, for my taste... Sad..

I'd always been thin and average sized, but blew up during college. My super fit dad whom I idolize, saw me for the first time in months and said, "I do not like the way you look, you are getting fat."

I've heard the comments but they never bothered me. The only way they can is if you put any value into their opinions. Except for immediate family, do you really give a crap about other peoples opinions? When its family and you/or you do give a crap, then it can hurt.

Truth.

Every day of my life, my mom tells me I'm fat, ugly and disgusting. Even though I hear it every day, it still hurts just as much and my self-esteem has suffered greatly.

When I lost weight the first time, she never encouraged me, she only told me I would fail, that I was still ugly and go back to being fat.

when i was about 11 i was going to an in home day care. every day the son of the day care providers (he was about 15) would get his friends together and would taunt me with supid songs.

erin bo barron the big fat fo ferrin. i heard that over and over. there was also erin's too fat to ride the bus! over and over. that last one doesnt even make sense since i rode the bus there with all the other kids.

i spent most of my time at that place crying behind the couch. and i wasnt fat, i was a big girl, but i was muscular. i just had a layer of baby fat. kids can be so cruel.

Kids really can, this reminded me of when I use to go to home day care too. With me it it was the two boys who use to torture me pulling my hair and saying and doing horrible things because I was fat. blah I hated that and I let it all happen because I was sure I deserve to be treated that way because all the other kids would alway say I was Fat.

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People are truly evil and do not stop and think about how their comments will affect that persons life. WOW!
My worst one was when I was about 23 or 24 and I worked at this Dollar store, this woman comes to check out and says congratulations how far a long are you? OMG , I wasnt pregnant.. well the way i was standing didnt help but I didnt think i looked that big.. GEEZ.. at least she felt pretty small after I told her I wasnt pregnant.. but after that.. i got down to 124lbs.. cause my top weight was 180. It took me 5months to lose that weight.. serious working out I did.

I don't really get many negative comments. Occasionally I'll get asked, "How far along are you?"

I don't know about 'worst', but the strangest was in 4th grade, some girl called me a big beef pastry....and I was just overweight back then, not obese. I kind of giggle when I think about it, lol.

From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)

"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"


The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)


ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"

your mom needs a wire holding her mouth shut.end of

I got teased a lot as a kid, my grade school class overall was pretty cruel. Apparently we were the worst class most of those teachers had ever seen. After 8th grade I got taken out of public school and put into a Catholic high school, which made a huge difference. After that, I never got teased, no one said anything to me about my weight.

My grandmother used to ask why I couldn't be more like my cousins (4 boys, all older)- Get married, have kids. It got to the point where I didn't want to see/talk to her. They are all brothers, and were popular in school. I'm an only child, was teased and had few friends. She's a lot better now, she's mellowed. Never went to prom, never had a serious BF b/c I'm so shy and self-conscious.

The one that sticks out most in my mind is when I was a freshman in high school, about 14 years old. At this point, I was about 5' 6'' and probably weighed about 195. Not my highest weight, but getting there. I was scheduled for a tonsillectomy and one of the nurses was getting all of my basic info that they'd need for my forms. Well, anyways, she weighed me, looked at the number and said "Wow, you don't look that heavy. You sure must know where to pack it so that it doesn't show". Now, mind you, this isn't nearly as bad as some of the comments on here, people can be so ignorant of the feelings of others, but this was probably the first snide comment I'd gotten from an adult about how I looked. I'm sure she didn't mean for it to hurt my feelings necessarily, perhaps even meant it as a compliment, but it's stuck with me ever since...

I just remembered another gem.
After my first kid was born my husband and I decided to get life insurance.
It was a nice day - first day my mom watched my son for me. He was 2 months old.
We did the meeting with the agent. After a few minutes he handed us an estimate. My husband was a lot less expensive than me. My husband inquired to why. The agent, without missing a beat said, 'well look at you. and look at HER." I was mortified. I said "um, excuse me?" (husband was speechless. deer in headlight speechless.) the agent said with an attitude, "hey, your overweight. don't shoot the messenger."
I got up and walked out. To my disgust, my husband didn't IMMEDIATELY follow me out. (He stuck around to apologize for my behavior. yea, that argument went on for YEARS afterwards.)

The following statement might not seem like a negative comment and yet I can tell you it undermined my determination and resolve to stick on my weight loss journey.

You're so skinny. Why would you want to lose any more weight? You look great? You're not fat any more. Or variations on the theme. I worked very hard diet and exercise wise and lost 50 pounds in a years time reaching my goal for that year but hadn't quite eeked into the healthy weight goal for my height, weight and age. I did look great and I felt great...but those repeated comments about why would you want to lose any more were in my subconscious and a treat here and there kept me from moving forward to the prize of my goal and the satisfaction of completing what i set out to do. I let others perceptions sway me from my course and it undermined a very delicate balance of self confidence and belief in myself. Chosing a healthy lifestyle when it isn't the norm is a challenge and what I really wanted to hear was--You can do it! Believe in yourself! Great job! Keep working for your goals!

I've heard the comments but they never bothered me. The only way they can is if you put any value into their opinions. Except for immediate family, do you really give a crap about other peoples opinions? When its family and you/or you do give a crap, then it can hurt.

Truth.

Every day of my life, my mom tells me I'm fat, ugly and disgusting. Even though I hear it every day, it still hurts just as much and my self-esteem has suffered greatly.

When I lost weight the first time, she never encouraged me, she only told me I would fail, that I was still ugly and go back to being fat.

I don't understand people. How can a parent say that to their own child. My dad would often look at me and go "Damn you're ugly". He meant it as a "joke" (he has a weird sense of humor lol) but in your teen years, that kind of thing has a huge negative impact on you.

I'm so sorry your mother said those things to you...FWIW, I think you're absolutely beautiful :flowerforyou: