worst comment ever made about your weight

Wow it's upsetting how cruel people can be...

When I was a kid in grade school a group of my "friends" made a club called the
'under 90 club" meaning you can only be in it if you weighed under 90lbs... I was chubby for my age but by no means huge, but it was clearly their way of purposeful excluding me cause no way did I weigh under 90s and said i couldnt join..This set off a life time of unhealthy/damaging habits

A kid cut me off dangerously while I was driving and I honked at him... He responded by saying "how about I get out of the car and knock 40lbs off your fat *kitten*"

Idk when people get angry at strangers they immediately attack appearance probably because it's their only defense.

*****sorry it is a bit long**** Mine is a sad story and is hard to tell.. but okay here it goes..

Oh sweetie...I nearly cried reading your story ((((HUGE HUGS))))
I am disgusted at those people, I really truly hope that Karma kicks them in the *kitten*.

I've had my share of comments, some more hurtful than others.

-On a bus about a year ago with my husband. I'm partially disabled and if the seats at the front of the bus (set aside for disabled and elderly people or pregnant women. On this particular day, the seats were free and my husband and I sat down. An elderly couple took the seats across from us and the woman leaned around her husband, looked at me, pursed her lips and shook her head before "whispering" to her husband that it was very obvious why I would need walking aides and I probably had to sit at the front because I couldn't get any further.
I smiled sweetly at her and then told her exactly why I need walking aides and that if she wanted to know she should have asked me rather than judging me and assuming. She got off the bus.....

-When I was able to work I co-managed a cookware store. I usually did the cooking demonstrations (as I was the only one that could cook.....!) and for pancake day I did a pancake class that allowed customers to a free tasting of what I made. I was tidying up and answering a few questions when a random man walked up to me and said loudly "well I don't think you'll be needing any more pancakes, looks like you had a few too many already". I went a very interesting shade of red as a few other people started (failing at) hiding their laughter and this man just stood there looking at the pancakes then at me and then at the bin.

-I had a group of teenaged boys shouting things like "DAMN! That is one fat-*kitten* b***h!"

-My old doctor told me that if I wasn't so morbidly obese then I would have no health problems at all and he wouldn't need to order expensive medication to treat something that is basically my own fault. He seemed to be deaf to the fact that I'm overweight BECAUSE of my health issues - I was slim and pretty healthy until I stopped being able to walk unassisted.
He also told me that he wished I was diabetic so he could put me forward for weight loss surgery. I hope he's happy - as of Tuesday he got his wish.

-I had a check up with a nurse a while back and one of her questions was "you're pregnant, yes?" I just blinked a few times and said "no, just really really fat apparently."

I've also had the random fat comments from people walking past me, random comments about the fact I use walking aides and I get judged a LOT by elderly people who make comments like "she doesn't need that" and "well if I was her size I'd need that too".

Aren't people lovely? :laugh:

I was dating a guy for a few weeks and all was going well. We went to dinner on a beautiful night to my fave beer garden pub. We were laughing and having great conversation and then he told me it sucked he could not introduce me to his friends. I asked why and he said, You are pretty and funny and cool but, I usually date thin girls, so they would not understand and would give him crap over it. I sat there stunned.

A few minutes later I excused my self to the restroom and left, jumped in my car and parked a couple blocks away and cried. I swore from that moment on I would never date anyone who could not accept fully, no matter what my weight is.

Good for you!

I saw my ex's mom a few years ago. she wuz with him when he came to pick up our daughter. She said" Woooo Yolanda your butt is soooooo big i remember when u and ______ were 2gether u had da cutest shape and the littlest waist" it really hurt my feelings. i wanted to hurt hers but i held my tongue out of respect for her being old and stupid.

ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"

Im so sorry you had to go through this... i spent 24 hrs on an airplane to go and see my parents and the day after i got there, my mom went out shopping and i went with her...she looked at me and said ...everyone keeps asking me if youre pregnant... ( total lie ) and two mins later she says " gosh you look so old... like youre 35 " ( i was 21 then )

Co-worker I hadn't seen in a while:

"You're pregnant???!!!"

"No."

"Oh. You look big."

I've gotten them on both sides of the spectrum (I've been both overweight and severely underweight, both intentionally and unintentionally due to digestive problems). I continually have to tell my family that my body is not THEIRS to comment on.

My mom even told me I was fat when I was pregnant (after recovering from anorexia, for which I was hospitalized multiple times). When I pointed out the obvious she was like, "Well, the BABY isn't going to weigh 45 lbs."

My mother-in-law told my husband and me that we should go on the Biggest Loser..."at least you won't be the BIGGEST couple". Thanks...

From ex wife:

* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"

* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.

Random assorted things from the years

* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.

* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".

* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"

* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".

* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.

* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"

I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.

horrible. all of those are horrible. sorry man.

i was walking through the mall with my family. we passed the food court, and one of the guys working at one of the Asian restaurants was passing out samples. i turned down the sample, just because i didn't want any food (honestly one of the few times i had done so, lol) and as i got farther away, i could hear the guy say "COME ON! it'll make you SKINNY"

Even though I was pretty overweight as a child, I never got teased much. I'm lucky in that respect I guess. My mom did call my fat a few times growing up, and once when we went to the doctor and I was rejoicing that I had "only gained 10 pounds" my mom was like "No, that's very, very bad." While it probably WAS bad my 10 year old brain didn't really process that. Hearing that kind of stuff from my mom was kind of hard on my self esteem, and made me much more aware that I even had a weight problem in the first place. I lost about 20lbs when I was 13, and I've become very active in the last few months, and she's been very supportive in the best way possible about that. She's even concerned I'm going to get too thin. So I've fortunately been able to move past a lot of that, even though I still have some body insecurities.

Most of my worst comments came from when I was at my skinniest, including....

1."Your girlfriend is a TWIG. Dude, does she ever eat? That is creepy."
2. Every time I didn't want to eat something at a party (I was a weirdo and didn't like junk food in high school). "Do NOT turn anorexic on me. You people are so weird. It's a chip!"
3. I got the "Are you pregnant?" question while still in high school. Any weight I gain tends to go to my belly first, but it could not have been more than a tiny bulge and it made me feel like a whale.

I really don't like being asked if I'm anorexic when I don't pig out on junk food. High school and college kids can be a few bricks short of a load....

@lordsangel:
"Do they really think that overweight ppl want to be that way?"

If you re-read that statement from your (probably) well-intentioned post, you might find that it's just about as insulting as the other stuff we're reading here.
So glad we fatties have you to advocate for us (sarcasm, in case you missed it).

That being said, it amazes me that even though we speak out (rightfully so) against prejudice and discrimination on the basis of race, religion, disability, etc., our society still condones this behavior against those of us who are of larger size and weight.

Ever since childhood I have been everything from the slightly chubby kid to the very fat and unhealthy to the heavy and healthy (really strong). Although people have teased me my whole life, I have been generally happy with how I look, even if not always with how I feel physically (like now, sluggish and weak).

Several years ago, when I was at my healthiest and strongest, but still pretty heavy, I was walking regularly with a friend who was considerably smaller than I, and probably somewhat less fit (by my standards, which means she wasn't very strong). During our 45 to 60 minute walks, I endured her putting herself down, telling me how badly she needed to lose weight, and I would try to be encouraging and tell her she was perfect just the way she was, and the key thing was that she was healthy and felt good. I don't generally self-hate anyway, and even less so at that time in my life, because I felt great most of the time from working out every day and eating good food. One day in the middle of her self-hating rant, she stopped, looked at me from head to toe, and said, "What about you? Have you ALWAYS been this big?"

I guess I was supposed to hate myself and say ugly things about my body and my appearance, since I was about 50 pounds heavier that she was. Rather than hurt my feelings, I felt really sorry for her (and still do, even though I don't see her much anymore).

As far as I'm concerned, fat does not equal ugly. I don't feel ugly, and I don't look at other people (of any size, build, color, facial structure, etc) and think, "oh, he or she is ugly."

God doesn't make ugly--we make ourselves ugly by the way we treat one another sometimes.

whilst all of the insults may seem destructive they usually lead you to an attempt to correct yourself.

the worst ever would have to be;

"you look fine just the way you are"

My cousin is younger than me and used to weigh much more than she does now. She lost a hell of lot of weight and went down to a UK size 8 from a size 18.

I recently had surgery and put on more weight than I normally carry. She sent me a message that said that people my size are a burden on society and that once people get as fat as me, they should be mortally ashamed of themselves. She also continued to say how women who are voluptuous aren't beautiful, but are plain ugly and simply obese. She left a tirade on facebook which offended plenty of my friends who are my size. Oh - I'm a UK 14.

Unfortunately I had already asked her to be a bridesmaid at my wedding. I can't bear the thought of her by my side judging me in my wedding dress. She seemed so much more tolerant of people when she herself was overweight, I feel really saddened she's changed this way.