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  • princessdracos
    princessdracos Posts: 125 Member
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    Okay, hubby just did it. I know he didn't mean it the way it sounded, but if he is insecure then why should he bring me down, too? He came up to me while I was exercising and said, "You aren't going to get all good-looking and leave me, are you?" I responded with, "No. Are you saying I'm ugly now?" Him: "No, I just mean are you going to get skinny and leave me? You've been working so hard." WTF, dude??? I don't know if I'm just shell-shocked at the moment, but I'm probably not going to cry about it or anything. I just don't understand how he thinks that was appropriate! I get that he was trying to express his insecurities to me, but that stung a bit. Ugh.
  • huntingforhipbones
    huntingforhipbones Posts: 67
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    The ABSOLUTE worst one was when I was visiting the US and went shopping with my aunt. I was in a changing room trying on a dress that was gorgeous, but a little too loose. I asked the sales assistant for a smaller size, and she said, "honey, this is size 0. We don't HAVE a smaller size. Maybe you should just eat a sandwich." in a really loud, rude tone in the middle of a packed changing room. and I clearly heard a larger girl behind me say to her friend, "anorexic *****". I think it was the worst one because it was so PUBLIC, and I just went back into the room and cried for ages.

    I get lots of comments like that - "oh, why do you eat when we KNOW you're going to be sick after", "there's NO WAY you eat that much (with reference to my favourite sushi boats)", "are you sure you can finish that?" and the best one, "I think you need help." My university friends even staged an intervention for me.

    The killer? I'm not anorexic - I have an abnormally small frame, and lost most of my weight due to PCOS medication. And before I lost weight, my parents would passive-aggressively hide food from me, comment about my exercise ... I just can't win. And if it's not my weight, it's the body hair, or the fact I shake a lot, or the fact I don't eat meat or milk, or ... people are just awful.

    Oh, and one from my ex, IN BED: "you know, there are special fetish sections on porn sites for women with no tits ...". As if I wasn't insecure enough about my 30AAs already. What a "compliment", huh?
  • LisaRussell27
    LisaRussell27 Posts: 20
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    My mother in law told my son (then 3) that he should be embarrassed to be seen with me because of my fat *kitten*.
  • HLeAnn
    HLeAnn Posts: 261 Member
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    My wife nor I have ever been "small" people, but neither have we allowed ourselves to get dangerously obese. Before we met and started dating, she went on a first (and last) date with a guy who thought he was God's gift to women. It was a blind date arranged by one of her friends. The guy met her at a popular restaurant and as soon as they sat down, he started in on her saying, "$30,000 or $40,000 would get rid of all that fat. Then you can start working on your face." She endured the meal and further comments, but the icing on the cake was when he demanded separate checks. He had the nerve to call her for another date. She said, "No need. I lost all the ugly weight I needed to lose when you got in your car and left the restaurant the other night. Don't bother calling again."

    When we met and started dating, I never once thought about her weight. All I could think about was how lucky I was to be dating such a beautiful woman. Still, I would liked to have accidentally bumped into that guy some day just so I could personally tell him what a _______ he was. I guess I might ought to thank him! He had no idea that he was being cruel to one of the nicest, sweetest, and most loving women ever. And to think, he thought she'd want to go out with him again! It takes more than a tie and Italian loafers to make a gentleman!

    You two are so incredibly fortunate to have found each other. Your beautiful wife is one lucky woman :flowerforyou:
  • jlenz74
    jlenz74 Posts: 30
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    I have been made fun of and called all kind of names my whole entire life. I don't remember them now but I do remember the pain it caused. That I will never forget. However, just recently my belly dance troupe performed a show at a local nursing home. We were done dancing and proceeded to talk to some of the residence. This one women told me how pretty I was and did a great job dancing but I was a little more chubby then the other girls. I just keep smiling and agreed with her that I was the bigger girl of the group. I was shocked and just couldnt believe it.
  • CeeRawr89
    CeeRawr89 Posts: 328 Member
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    The worst were from the *****es in high school.
    I was always a small skinny girl.
    at my "heaviest" I was 115 and change. 5'4"
    They always called me anorexic, and once had food thrown at me :(

    But, I laugh now because they are overweight from binging on alcohol and drugs, while I have had a child. What's their excuse?

    I know that sounds mean, but karma is due.

    That's the only time I've ever had comments about my weight,
  • jrod67
    jrod67 Posts: 13
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    My worst comment ever came from my Mom

    "no girl will ever want a fat guy then your private area lets not go there" I was like 13 at the time.

    Second one came from my Aunt while I was at a not to overly crowded restaurant with my friend with an annoying voice too

    "boy your getting fat" I deleted her from my life that day.

    Now jabs from my dad

    "you know there were never any fat people on TV back in the day"
  • littlemegzz
    littlemegzz Posts: 292 Member
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    I live with my aunts family while studying. My little cousin (7 years old) said to me (twice last year) that I was fat. I don't remember the comment exactly, but it was something like "you're too fat" I think.

    I sat her down and explained to her that night how it is hurtful and she hasnt done it since those two times. So I'm glad I could teach her that and she hopefully wont say that sort of thing to any of her friends.
  • bridiew
    bridiew Posts: 40 Member
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    hey at least all these nasty comments mean your all now on here loosing weight and still being nice people so who wins???
  • poofy7
    poofy7 Posts: 17
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    from my mother when i was around 12 years old " look at you with your big fat melon head" ...i wasn't overweight at the time but it led to years of self hatred.

    from my dad after i lost 98lbs and dropped 7 dress sizes " you still look a f**kin mess "

    my gran pointed out a lovely dress in clothing store a few years ago and commented that my mum would look lovely in it, she then turned to me and held up what could only be described as a sack and said " something like this will do for you, at least it will cover you up"

    the worst one though was on a train to university when some other students started singing 'who let the dogs out' and one of them looked straight at me and said " i bet that fat ***** ate all the dogs"

    i've been called ugly since i was a child by my parents and it only got worse as i started gaining weight from the age of 16 due to alcohol problems and comfort eating. even when i lost weight i still got the cruel remarks. i guess i'm just one of those people that can't be loved no matter what .
  • abberbabber
    abberbabber Posts: 972 Member
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    from my mother when i was around 12 years old " look at you with your big fat melon head" ...i wasn't overweight at the time but it led to years of self hatred.

    from my dad after i lost 98lbs and dropped 7 dress sizes " you still look a f**kin mess "

    my gran pointed out a lovely dress in clothing store a few years ago and commented that my mum would look lovely in it, she then turned to me and held up what could only be described as a sack and said " something like this will do for you, at least it will cover you up"

    the worst one though was on a train to university when some other students started singing 'who let the dogs out' and one of them looked straight at me and said " i bet that fat ***** ate all the dogs"

    i've been called ugly since i was a child by my parents and it only got worse as i started gaining weight from the age of 16 due to alcohol problems and comfort eating. even when i lost weight i still got the cruel remarks. i guess i'm just one of those people that can't be loved no matter what .

    This just breaks my heart...nobody deserves to have such toxic people in their lives. You can absolutely be loved, even if it's not by the people who are "supposed" to love you the most. :flowerforyou:
  • ronanoo
    ronanoo Posts: 37 Member
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    god after reading this thread i want to hug so many, i've been lucky in that the worst i've been called 'stocky' and that was not meant in a negative way.
  • karo224
    karo224 Posts: 292
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    A guy i really liked in high school said to a bunch of his friends....which got back to me that if I would lose weight I would be hot and he would think about asking me out....I was mortified! Ironically I bumped into him about 10 years ago and guess who was in need of losing some weight.....hmmmm.
  • SnTsMum
    SnTsMum Posts: 90 Member
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    I was at the doctors when I was 13 and the doctor told me to cut out dairy as I was 'well padded'. I was a New Zealand size 12.

    I've also been barked at by men more than once.
  • lisaabenjamin
    lisaabenjamin Posts: 665 Member
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    Whoever came up with that phrase, 'sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me' was an idiot. Now that I've lost a few pounds, my BMI is now in the 'normal' category and I'm running a lot so am getting pretty fit. Still, I was out for a run the other day when some kid went past me on a bike and yelled, 'Come on fatty!' Even though I KNOW this kid is a) factually incorrect, b) a little sh*thead, it still hurt :-(
  • parachutelea
    parachutelea Posts: 5
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    My father called me fat when I was like eight. That hurt a lot and has stuck with me ever since. Fortunately, I have no contact with him since he was being violent with me, so that's that awful thing out of my life.

    The other thing I remember was when I was like, in eight grade, and I stood in the hallway with a friend and this bloke went by and told me "move, you hippo!" Later, I not so accidentally stepped my hippo feet on his legs when he was sitting down on the ground. Ha! But you know, I still cringe whenever I see him around town.

    And also, the most recent one; I was with a few friends and we were shopping and discussing whether or not we could fit in this REALLY TINY dressing room. (We have friend A, friend B and me, just to be clear!) Friend A says: "It could work with two small people... but if we take you and friend B I don't think it could work. Because Friend B's small... and you're... normal."

    I know, it's not really mean, but it stung. Because it's like those "you have such a pretty face" comments. Like, they don't want to lie but they don't know what to say.

    AND, EVERY TIME I TRY ON A PAIR OF MY OLD JEANS IS A HARD PUNCH IN THE GUT ): those jeans are so cruel.
  • huntingforhipbones
    huntingforhipbones Posts: 67
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    from my mother when i was around 12 years old " look at you with your big fat melon head" ...i wasn't overweight at the time but it led to years of self hatred.

    from my dad after i lost 98lbs and dropped 7 dress sizes " you still look a f**kin mess "

    my gran pointed out a lovely dress in clothing store a few years ago and commented that my mum would look lovely in it, she then turned to me and held up what could only be described as a sack and said " something like this will do for you, at least it will cover you up"

    the worst one though was on a train to university when some other students started singing 'who let the dogs out' and one of them looked straight at me and said " i bet that fat ***** ate all the dogs"

    i've been called ugly since i was a child by my parents and it only got worse as i started gaining weight from the age of 16 due to alcohol problems and comfort eating. even when i lost weight i still got the cruel remarks. i guess i'm just one of those people that can't be loved no matter what .

    Nobody is completely unlovable. Cut those toxic arseholes out of your life and find people who value you for you :)
  • labtracks
    labtracks Posts: 108 Member
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    Someone anonymously bought me a shirt that said "What Color Are my Shoes?"
    I was 13 and didn't get it... sadly my poor mom had to explain it to me.
  • SnTsMum
    SnTsMum Posts: 90 Member
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    I also love that every time I speak to my father on the phone he always asks "hows your weight" when he has a bigger gut than I do.
  • 2babygurls
    2babygurls Posts: 2
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    My husband's cousin and I used to go to the same aerobics class (separately) i was like a size 10 at the time. I had quit after a while because of my kids and work schedule. I saw her like a year later and I had jumped to a size 14, she looked at me as if she was in awe and asked "You dont go aerobics classes any more do you?" I answered "No I dont" She then said "But you dont care, right". I feel like it was just her sneaky of telling me "Wow u sure got fat" Im gonna show her.

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