"You don't need to lose any more weight!"

I do get that, quite often. I tend to smile and then do what I want. But I also occasionally point out that I'm being healthy. I don't always update those people on my goals and accomplishments.

It's funny because those comments usually come from people who could do with losing a few pounds themselves (obvious jelousy right there) i get it at work and just smile and say how great i feel about losing weight

I know, right? I think when some (not all) people say this, women in particular, they are really saying "If you lose anymore weight I am seriously going to consider you a threat".

Growing up, I was always thin. I was 95 pounds and 5'6" when I got married. In the six years since then, I put on 60. That put me at 155ish, so I still wasn't particularly heavy, but I was out of shape and really wanted to do something about it. But my whole life I heard things like:

"Go eat a sandwich!"
"You'll blow away in this strong wind!"
"Do you have an eating disorder?"

As I gained weight, I didn't hear those things as often, but once I started dieting and exercising, I got the "you shouldn't lose weight" comments, too. When I explained that I was grossly out of shape, they said, "Yeah, but you're still skinny! So what! You only live once, eat what you want!"

I may only live once (that's up for debate, isn't it?), but if I'm healthy and fit, I'm likely going to live a lot longer and happier than otherwise!

I totally understand where you're coming from. I tend to think a lot of those comments come from people who are insecure about their own weight and see you, who is thinner than them, trying to get healthier, so they feel bad about themselves. If they decide that YOU don't need to lose weight, they can convince themselves they don't have to lose weight themselves.

mainly because in the US, take a quick look around at a public place. As a society, we are so overweight that fat is the norm. Once you get healthy, people don't know how to react because you are a minority now.

My aunt sat me down a couple of weeks ago and had an intervention-style conversation with me... and I still have about 15-20 lbs to go.

I get it a lot from my husband and a few relatives. I just thank them, smile sweetly and say "I'm just eating healthy and exercising regularly, if that means I lose weight then obviously I needed to lose it.".

I think most of those comments are motivated by jealousy, like others have said, but is it possible, that people are trying to compliment you? I'm not saying it is the right thing for them to say, but maybe some of them at least are just trying to tell you that you look great now. Sometimes those things come out awkward.

You look fantastic! And as foe your weightloss...its none of their business. you do what you need to so that you are satisfied with yourswlf. don't let them tear you down...sounds like they need to step on the scales themselves and rethink just how healthy they are!

I get this all the time and it IS irritating!!!!!

just say, "well, thanks for the compliment' and end the discussion. They don't need to know anymore. Besides, now that you've gained weight and are losing again, you might get to 130 and look just as amazing as you did at 110, because weight does not come off the same as it goes on. I would just simply say that you haven't quite reached your goal yet, but you will know it when you get there. That is a pretty safe answer and keep in mind that these people are only saying that out of concern. If they aren't saying it for that reason, you should not be having a weight discussion with them in the first place. . Good luck on the rest of your journey and just focus on being the HEALTHIEST you can be.

5'3'' 110 sounds fine to me. Ask your Dr. or look up a chart on line and see what it says. A lot depends on bone structure. I am 5'5 1/2 if I stand up straight 5'6 I stay between 119 and 124 most of the time. My Dr. says that is fine. People get jealous too. So do what makes you fell good. And when they say you look good just say Thank You and do not respond to the other.

Annie

I had a discussion one time with my doctor about comments like this. His response was that we are a fat society and people aren't used to seeing others at healthy weights, so they look abnormal.

Can't agree more. I've told people my goal weight and they think Im nuts (165-170 for 6ft tall). At 185 im just crossing the line between over weight and "normal" My 39 inch waist is more than it should be. But they think I shouldn't lose any more. They just dont know what normal actually looks like...

It happened to me at christmas dinner - the relative who always felt the need to comment on my having been too large told me that I was starting to look too thin. I was flabbergasted at her nerve. Fortunately another relative stepped in to my rescue and said "she looks fine, leave her alone!".

It happens to me often, and in honesty it makes me feel kind of good. I do however kindly ignore what they have to say. I know where I want to be, and if I get closer to my goal and decide I am happy then I will stop....and only then. People have an idea of what you should look like, and so do you, as long as you are healthy what they think just doesn't matter