"You don't need to lose any more weight!"

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  • rmsrws
    rmsrws Posts: 639 Member
    I have heard it for the past 6 months!!!

    I think there intentions are well meant. In my situation they were use to seeing me at 252 lbs. So with any significant weight loss, it is going to be a shock for them seeing me at a much smaller weight.

    I have been told I look anorexic, ridiculous at this weight, I have heard it all. The purpose of me losing weight was .....TO LOSE WEIGHT! BE HEALTHY!


    The catty female side of me thinks that if its coming from a female friend or female business acquaintance, there could be some jealousy involved. Who wants to be the "Fat one" out of the group!
  • ChitownFoodie
    ChitownFoodie Posts: 1,562 Member
    When I was losing weight, I would get it all the time. Now, all I hear is that I need to gain weight. I think I am fine the way I am, but I'd like to gain muscle. The new problem is, even though I eat all the time, they all think I am still trying to lose weight. You will NEVER please everyone...so just please yourself! ♥
  • Gutter19
    Gutter19 Posts: 141
    I get that a lot...and those people are apparently blind :)
  • december8teen
    december8teen Posts: 107
    I get that all the time. Point is, I'm just eating healthier and having smaller portions than them. And then suddenly I'm branded as "Oh my gosh, you're gonna be all bones". "You should fatten up." <--- paraphrased from what people actually said.

    I love this society.
  • candykay0605
    candykay0605 Posts: 1,019 Member
    i dont yet but i would just say oh thank you for thinking that and then continue to do what i was doing :)
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    I had a friend, a guy. We are both short and we never wanted to get fat. We used to talk a few times a week, about many things, but we often would speak of the need to exercise and watch what we ate and our amazement at some of the excuses people made. He described running around a track and passing an obese woman who was walking and eating doughnuts out of a bag.

    It can be helpful to have a friend or two with the same values. He was a very consistent exerciser. I used him as inspiration, although I'll never like exercise.
  • PepeGreggerton
    PepeGreggerton Posts: 986 Member
    My daughter has said this to me quite a bit (She is 8). But that's just because I'm not as comfy to lay on anymore.
  • marcia724
    marcia724 Posts: 180 Member
    It's a HUGE pet peeve when people say "ohhh you don't have to watch your calories, you're such a little thing"... meanwhile the reason I look this way is BECAUSE I DO count my calories. I work my butt off! They just assume that if you are small you don't have to watch at all. I work for this every day of my life. It's not easy. Yes...some people eat and eat and eat and ARE little. but don't assume that for everyone! hahah!
  • TiffanySuscheck
    TiffanySuscheck Posts: 123 Member
    I get it from my mother a lot. She is convinced that I looked better when I weighed 170.
    (My mother is also morbidly obese with no plans on changing her life, no matter how much I try to help her)

    At 5'1", I did NOT look good at 170!!!
    I'm at 137 right now, but I'd like to lose a bit more.

    More than losing, I now have a passion for fitness. She sees me eating healthier/working out and interprets that as me trying to lose weight. No, I'm trying to get fit and not inherit diabetes and die like the rest of my obese family. If I lose weight as a result, then yay. That's a bonus.

    It just frustrates me that my own mother doesn't support me in something I'm so passionate about.
  • Lea_8D
    Lea_8D Posts: 106 Member

    Just FYI, 10 lbs for me drops my blood pressure from 160/105ish down to 140/90ish. Big dang difference. And it lowers your risk of getting diabetes up to 50 or 60% (sorry remembering numbers off my head right now) and your risk of heart attack by up to 50%.

    Yay! This is inspiring, because my main goal is to get my BP down and get off the meds or at least minimize them. Looks like I'm starting at about 15 pounds more than you and about the same BP, so I have hope that when I lose the first 10-15 I'll start seeing the benefits!
  • Charisse1011
    Charisse1011 Posts: 84 Member
    I just laugh it off and be like nope, I'm going to keep going until I"M comfortable..usually its because they are jealous..:grumble:
  • JoeSzup
    JoeSzup Posts: 51 Member
    Tell 'em to 'eff off. :P
  • sarah2954
    sarah2954 Posts: 291 Member
    I'm also 5'3" and started at 156...now at 120 and just want to maintain.....I want to get more tone..110 is pretty thin, you may look sickly, but I am not here to judge...Best of luck on your journey!!

    I was 110 before (the pic is on my profile page) and I like how I looked. However, I'm 8 years older and have 2 more kids, so I may be happier at a higher weight. We'll see.... :)
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Yup. I went to a bar last weekend to meet some friends I hadn't seen in awhile. My old best guy friend (who is overweight, btw) told me to stop losing weight and go eat two burritos. Like seriously?
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    I just B1tch slap them!
  • Charisse1011
    Charisse1011 Posts: 84 Member
    It's funny because those comments usually come from people who could do with losing a few pounds themselves (obvious jelousy right there) i get it at work and just smile and say how great i feel about losing weight :)

    I have gotten it a lot but it has almost never been from another overweight person.

    I say: "My goal is a healthy weight for my height. I am not trying to be skinny, I am trying to be healthy."
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    Yes.

    Join the group "Not-That-Heavy Girls" and read my post "The Gripe"
  • KacieHetrick
    KacieHetrick Posts: 259 Member
    I think people say it sometimes thinking it's a compliment, I'm at 206 pounds currently, down 60 pounds since last October and someone said to me the other day, "You look great, so are you still trying to lose?" LOL I was like you're kidding, right? Sometimes I don't think people think before they speak. I replied, "Yeah" and just laughed. I'm 5'4" and have been chastised for having a goal weight of 150. Just wait until they find the 150 is my reevaluation weight! UGW for me is 125, most likely.
  • aehartley
    aehartley Posts: 269 Member
    You have to understand, most people that are telling you this ( from what I understand) may not understand the fitness part of your goal.
  • jen52906
    jen52906 Posts: 4 Member
    I have heard this the three times that I have lost weight.....What I can't help but wonder, is.. Where are these people who are so concerned about my health when I am gaining??? They never come up to me and say "You know, I am worried about how much weight you are gaining!!" But, they don't have any issues at all with telling me that they are concerned about too much weight loss???? And, the least I have weighed is about 140 pounds...so I am obviously not starving myself!
  • Charisse1011
    Charisse1011 Posts: 84 Member
    this is true
  • december8teen
    december8teen Posts: 107
    It's a HUGE pet peeve when people say "ohhh you don't have to watch your calories, you're such a little thing"... meanwhile the reason I look this way is BECAUSE I DO count my calories. I work my butt off! They just assume that if you are small you don't have to watch at all. I work for this every day of my life. It's not easy. Yes...some people eat and eat and eat and ARE little. but don't assume that for everyone! hahah!

    Precisely. I'm not naturally-thin. I work hard to get to where I am today, and people just assume that because I am not fat I have that winning pass to eat all the chips and cakes as I like.
  • mem50
    mem50 Posts: 1,384 Member
    I know, right? I think when some (not all) people say this, women in particular, they are really saying "If you lose anymore weight I am seriously going to consider you a threat".

    Love this, and feel it is true! I get it from people a work all the time. Comments like hey there little miss skinny butt. (being polite, that's not how they say it) and a few others like Are you feeling OK? Is anything wrong? Blah, blah, blah.

    Hubby says I am fine and don't need to lose that last 5 or so. I feel like I could safely lose another 10 but not right now. Just want to maintain and make sure it sticks this time around.

    As for now...I'm healthy...I'm happy. :heart:
  • jessicataylor2
    jessicataylor2 Posts: 150
    I recently had a post asking for what I should improve on and got tons of comments about how I just wanted to be told I was too skinny, I probably had an eating disorder, I need to gain a bunch of weight, saying I look ill, etc. I find this to just be rude. I've been eating healthy and working out about 4 times a week and want to know if I should focus more on weights or cardio and which body part to add muscle to. That's all I was asking. So I address their comments by telling them I'm healthy and have a small body frame and am trying to tone up. But I still get rude comments
  • KarenMorr
    KarenMorr Posts: 1
    I get that all the time. I am 5'9 and was 185 lbs. That was too much for me. After a year of intense working out, I'm 155 lbs. and happy where I am. People tell me I'm too skinny and need to gain weight. Very frustrating because I worked so hard to lose it. I guess they're just used to seeing me at a heavier weight. Better get used to the thinner me because she's not going anywhere!
  • milf_n_cookies
    milf_n_cookies Posts: 2,244 Member
    Ugh, I get this all.the.time. I have been overweight my WHOLE life (seriously, I was like 11 lbs when I was born and was over 200 by the time I got to high school, 300 by the time I hit 20). Now that I am a "normal" weight everyone is freaking out and yelling about how I am too skinny! HELLO, I am a size 8, in what world is that "too thin"? And forget it if I say I am still trying to lose a few lbs (I would like to see 150 on the scale, although I won't cry if I never get there) it sends them into fits and they threaten to have an intervention for my eating disorder. People are crazy.
  • Charisse1011
    Charisse1011 Posts: 84 Member
    It's funny because those comments usually come from people who could do with losing a few pounds themselves (obvious jelousy right there) i get it at work and just smile and say how great i feel about losing weight :)




    this is a true statement,,
  • CottonCandyKisses
    CottonCandyKisses Posts: 246 Member
    I wish people, especially co-workers, would just mind their own bidness!!!! Keep doing what your doing! Like me for example, I'm short (5'0). I could get under 100 lbs if I wanted to and still be in normal weight range. Sometimes taller women can't comprehend that. They would rather criticize you and try to make you feel bad. I've been having real issues with this topic in my life!!!!

    Yeah, what she said! I'm 4'11 so I get all sorts of comments, "your already so tiny" "you'll blow away in the wind" "you didn't need to lose anything to start with" . So I don't tell anyone what I'm doing anymore. I just share on here.
  • beccci91
    beccci91 Posts: 213 Member
    Tell them that they may think YOU don't need to lose what but you think that THEY really do.

    That'll get them off your back :wink:
    :drinker: :bigsmile:
  • Jeeenjohnson19
    Jeeenjohnson19 Posts: 54 Member
    I don't particularly like the comment "you don't need to lose anymore weight" I do however like a comment I got the other day "If you keep shrinking you'll be invisible" kind of funny but i enjoyed it.

    My friend told my husband that she thinks I have body dysmorphic disorder because She thinks I look small enough. That one made me mad. I found it pretty rude for her to comment like that.

    That's really rude! From your pictures you look great! You can really see your transformation and look nothing but healthy to me :)
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