worst comment ever made about your weight

"Keep doing whatever it is you are doing to lose weight. I don't want to F*** a fat girl." An ex-boyfriend who was overweight himself! That comment set off over a decade of messed up eating habits.

"You'd be perfect if you just had a boob job, lost weight, highlighted your hair, etc." Ex-husband who was a total waste of oxygen but I didn't realize it until after we got married.

Oh, and the heaviest I EVER was (non-pregnant) was 155lbs. I'm 5'8". Yeah...

I haven't been 155 since I was 16, and I'll never be 5'8", but I can imagine how hearing that must have crushed you considering that's nowhere near disgusting, ugly or fat.

The Worst in memory for me was shortly after I had my fist child. I'd returned to work from maternity leave and was talking to a stocker in the store that I didn't know well. She told me she was glad to see me back and that she was happy I was all better. She didn't know I'd been pregnant and instead had assumed I'll fallen sick. When I told her I'd gone to have my fist child she exclaimed "omg I had no idea you were pregnant! You could hardly tell!"

Seriously.... it's bad enough people thinking you're pregnant when you aren't, but being so big they can't tell? I walked to the bathroom and cried for the rest of my break.

I remember one time I was at a "Dillards" outlet, looking at clothes in the plus-size section. Three skinny little girls came up to some of the clothes and wasn't too far away from me, and made some comment on the size and how all three of them could fit into the pants there, then laughed. I gratiously walked up to them took the pants from them and commented on how cute they are and how I USED to be able to fit into them... Before I lost 100 lbs. They were kind of shocked/embarassed and walked off without saying a word.

Back when I was in high school, I was in a home economics class with a bunch of preps and jocks... Needless to say, I, being the only overweight one in the class, was the brunt of a lot of weight jokes. Finally, at the end of the semester, I was doing a presentation for the class with the teacher there. One of the girls made a snide comment about my weight, and I finally told her, Yes, I may be fat, but I could lose weight. Sadly, she will always be ugly!!! :laugh: The teacher had to excuse herself from the classrooom to keep from busthing out laughing!!! Needless to say, That was the last that I heard of my weight in that class.

I've been overweight since I went through puberty and there is one thing I learned. Peoples words only have as much power as you give them. People only love you the way you love yourself. Just like you want people to accept/love you the way you are, You need to accept/love yourself the way you are yourself. I still battle with this at times, but there are other times that I see that I've won a battle, which gives me ammunition to take on the next battle. I am learning that as I lose more weight, I am hearing less and less comments about my weight.

Back Story: I have been heavy for as long as I can remember. I would go through stages where I was ok with my body and fit in and then I would have extremes where I would pack on a bunch of weight.

* My dad was taking me to middle school and told me it was a good thing that I always wore jeans instead of shorts. Jeans made my legs look thinner.

* At my college graduation my boyfriend at the time asked me why I wasn't wearing a hotter dress like my younger sister (also at my graduation). I wasn't wearing a hot little dress because I couldn't fit into any of them (thanks for that!)

* After I graduated college I worked for a medical supply company. One of our customers came in to see our respiratory therapist and asked me when I was due. In front of my supervisor and office manager! I was 22 and NOT pregers!

***** Just a side note*****
Screw the people that have made you feel bad about yourself. Yes what people say can hurt but I feel worse for them. I know that I will reach my goal and look freakin HOT! And I'll also be a nice person! Unlike them.

Keep up the amazing work

I remember one time I was at a "Dillards" outlet, looking at clothes in the plus-size section. Three skinny little girls came up to some of the clothes and wasn't too far away from me, and made some comment on the size and how all three of them could fit into the pants there, then laughed. I gratiously walked up to them took the pants from them and commented on how cute they are and how I USED to be able to fit into them... Before I lost 100 lbs. They were kind of shocked/embarassed and walked off without saying a word.

Back when I was in high school, I was in a home economics class with a bunch of preps and jocks... Needless to say, I, being the only overweight one in the class, was the brunt of a lot of weight jokes. Finally, at the end of the semester, I was doing a presentation for the class with the teacher there. One of the girls made a snide comment about my weight, and I finally told her, Yes, I may be fat, but I could lose weight. Sadly, she will always be ugly!!! :laugh: The teacher had to excuse herself from the classrooom to keep from busthing out laughing!!! Needless to say, That was the last that I heard of my weight in that class.

I've been overweight since I went through puberty and there is one thing I learned. Peoples words only have as much power as you give them. People only love you the way you love yourself. Just like you want people to accept/love you the way you are, You need to accept/love yourself the way you are yourself. I still battle with this at times, but there are other times that I see that I've won a battle, which gives me ammunition to take on the next battle. I am learning that as I lose more weight, I am hearing less and less comments about my weight.

Beautiful attitude!!

I have been asked a handful of times when I was due...and I was not pregnant. How horrifying!

ALLL of my life I've heard every comment you can imagine. In Middle school, for an entire year I would walk from class to class and the entire 8th grade class would shout "that's a huge *****!"
But when it comes from family " She's so pretty, if only she'd loose weight", that hits hard.

"Yeah, I mean, you have a pretty face"
I HATE this one. Yeah, damn straight I have a pretty face. But forget about the rest of me I guess >_>

"Are you sure you have the confidence to wear that?"
Well, I DID, don't anymore...

I've heard this one too many times.

My worst wasn't said on purpose - she's only five, so I could blame my mom since she relayed the story to me. My niece asked my mom if I liked being fat all the time. Stab straight through the heart...

OMG!! I've been big for a lot of my life, but fortunately have never come across such comments. I really feel for you guys, keep your chin up and at least you can do something about your weight, but it's harder to get rid of the ugly from the inside.

Sorry I don't mean to be rude, but those people are DuMB!!!!! thumbs down to them!

You are SO right. I cannot believe anyone could be so vile as some of these stories show.

that I am too skinny lol

words from children are what sting the most, they are honest. I always wanted to soccer kick every little kid that said something.

Like - mommy he's big !

My 3 year old daughter (at the time) innocently asked "Papa why is your belly so big?" She was right. It was big. That moment was a major turning point in my life. I secretly thank her often for saying that to me.

When you try not to think of yourself as a 'fat' person because you exercise and eat healthily and dress nicely, and somebody vocalises it in public, something snaps in your head. Suddenly, you believe with complete certainty that that's what everyone in the world thinks about you and they've just been too polite to say it. It's horrible.

I completely agree. I have worked so hard to not think of myself as some obese creature that everyone stares at then someone will make a comment and everything goes out the door and your back to square 1.

A few of mine:
-I was at the park running on the trail and their were some kids about my age (20's) and they said how much would you give me to hit the fat girl. Even worse, they actually threw the frisbee at me.
-In dance class when I was 7 and just a chubby kid not obese or anything, one of mom's said to another mom, that she was worried I would go threw the floor when I did a summersault-that was the last day ever of dance class for me, which sucks because I loved it.
-I could not be in my grandma's wedding as the flower girl, even though I was her only granddaughter because I was to fat. She had one of her friends kids do it instead.
-I was at the gym on a treadmill for about an hour. There were at least 5 other treadmills open but none of them together, so these 2 girls that wanted to work out together were mad. One of them said to me, "Why don't you quit wasting your time and let someone who has a chance use the treadmill."

There will always be mean, shallow people in the world. That has nothing to do with our weight. I had two babies under three years old. They were both having a melt down as I was trying to leave the grocery story. I stooped down with my bag of groceries to try and restrain one of them, while holding the other on my hip, when a young man, (early 20's), walks in and says, "Lady, get your tubes tied."

Even at 100lbs, 5'3", I was never really skinning because I have a curvy shape-all on the bottom of course. After having my children in my early 40's, I never lost the weight. My heaviest was 160lbs-dr says border line obese but never any concerns. While I was somewhere around 140lbs, my husband and I go out for dinner for our anniversary-something like 15yrs. When I asked him how life was looking to him-he said, Well, I thought we'd be in better shape." Of course, he's 5'10" and weighs slightly more than I do-he works out-alot-and so it's mostly muscle. Not an ounce of fat on this guy. That was a beautiful memory.

Recently, I just finished hcg injections-lost 11 pounds down to 139. This is an expensive diet. Normally, he's hollering about how much I spend,but for some reason, he thinks it will be ok if I spend hundreds of dollars to go another round on the Hcg-all just for my health of course.

So,now I'm bent on getting in shape and I will. He will still be a ____.

I suppose the hardest thing for me is understanding why a person would think they even have the right to say something.
I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. :frown: