Ladies: Guys shorter then you?!

If I stand taller than someone when I'm in heels 5'8"ish, it kills it (the attraction) for me at eye level is fine.

I dated a guy who was the same height as me and I just did not feel sexy when I was with him. I felt like an Amazon Giantess and it was a turn off. Not his fault, but doesn't work for me.

God I know this feeling!!

An inch is not that big of a deal unless you love to live in heels and he has issue with you being taller. I have dated guys shorter than me and taller than me. The last guy I dated was only 2 inches taller than me so when I wore certain heels I was taller and he thought it was sexy.

He must be taller than me in my highest heels.

Height would be a huge dealbreaker for me, but if it doesn't bother you, then go for it. It shouldn't matter what other people think about it.

I've dated two guys that were my height, 5'6ish and they both were shorter than me if I wore anything but flip flops. It was something I could never get used to as I couldn't control the fact that my attraction goes down if a guy is my height or shorter. I still gave the relationships a try because I didn't want to be "shallow" but the height difference was something I couldn't get used to and despite them being great guys, the physical attraction was lacking.

Physical attraction MATTERS. People are kidding themselves if they think they only care about the inside. Both are important. It's not a matter of shallowness. Some people prefer skinny men, some like them tatted up, some like them with a huge fro. Not liking those things doesn't make you shallow. Not dating short men because you don't find them attractive is not a character flaw.

If you like the guy, and he happens to be short, and it doesn't bother you, then great!

My boyfriend is 6'1 and I love that I can go out with him in my stilettos and not be looming over him. It doesn't hurt that he's amazing in every other way as well. =]

I can kind of see where you're coming from. I'm 5'-9" and I don't usually date women taller than me.

1. Tall chicks usually don't like short dudes.

2. My insecureity would get the best of me at times. I have been accused of having short man's syndrome before.

The fact that you are asking and even considering it makes me think you should at least give it a shot. An honest shot. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. He sounds like a solid guy, I'm sure he'll be fine.

I really don't understand this concept. Why can't a woman be taller than her date? Is this some kind of sexist thing?

Sexist?!
How did you get sexist from preference?!

It was a question. I don't understand where the preference comes from, so I'm assuming it's got to do with a sexist idea of men being dominant or protective. Calm down.

I will be perfectly honest with you. I think I would find it difficult to date a woman who was taller than I am (6 feet without added man inches!) for that very reason. It just doesn't work for me.

I know it's not rational but preference or attraction rarely tends to be that way.

He must be taller than me in my highest heels.

Height would be a huge dealbreaker for me, but if it doesn't bother you, then go for it. It shouldn't matter what other people think about it.

I've dated two guys that were my height, 5'6ish and they both were shorter than me if I wore anything but flip flops. It was something I could never get used to as I couldn't control the fact that my attraction goes down if a guy is my height or shorter. I still gave the relationships a try because I didn't want to be "shallow" but the height difference was something I couldn't get used to and despite them being great guys, the physical attraction was lacking.

Physical attraction MATTERS. People are kidding themselves if they think they only care about the inside. Both are important. It's not a matter of shallowness. Some people prefer skinny men, some like them tatted up, some like them with a huge fro. Not liking those things doesn't make you shallow. Not dating short men because you don't find them attractive is not a character flaw.

If you like the guy, and he happens to be short, and it doesn't bother you, then great!

My boyfriend is 6'1 and I love that I can go out with him in my stilettos and not be looming over him. It doesn't hurt that he's amazing in every other way as well. =]

^^^ All of this

Nope! sorry - i love my heels and i find a tall man soo sexy so no thank you!

Don't punish the guy for something he can't control...

punishing him would be starting a relationship she isnt comfortable in ...ultimately breaking his heart....deciding not to date him earlier than later would be the right thing to do....If in fact height is a deal breaker...

Eh, it's not like they have to get married. She can get to know him. If it's really "there" the height won't matter anymore.

Everyone is the same size in bed :bigsmile:

NOT true.

S'Plain 96?

because its not just the size of the boat ~ its the motion of the ocean sweets. and height at that point doesn't have anything to do with it ... but not are all the same "size"...

Since this thread is about height, size=height. I should have said height

As long as he doesn't have an Napoleonic complex, then go for it.

Im a bit surprised at some of the comments here. Lets see, he has to be taller than X, and I know money is important, and he has be to etc. etc.

Well, OK, I dont want any woman that is under 5 foot 6 and she has to make a a good living, has to have a University education, she has to have big boobs and she cant be overweight and she has to be pretty and she has to be fun.. and oh yeah she has to be clean and a good dresser... cant have kids etc......and I dont know why Im single cause I'm such a great catch!?? LOL

Give me a kind person that I am compatible with, a person that has a solid job and adores me and doesnt cheat. I can overlook height and weight.

I am 5'7 and I have dated guys that were 5'6 and as long as they were not super skinny it was no big deal..I was bigger when I was dating my 1st boyfriend was 5 foot six inches but he was all muscle and I outweighed him no matter what I did but it never looked like I did. I am very dense and muscular ..I wore heels all the time and he loved it. He did think he was taller then me tho :laugh: unless I was wearing heels and he liked that so no biggie
Guy I am with now is 5 foot 10 and that's cool but not preferred. My soulmate could be shorter then me and it wouldn't bother me one bit now that I am 35 I don't worry so much anymore :glasses:

I had a TA in college who was maybe...MAYBE 5'4. I thought he was the sexiest dude I'd ever met. It was all in his attitude.

You shouldn't write someone off specifically because he's short. Some short guys tend to "try" harder, I've heard.

Also, can't stand women who beat up on men who say they like skinny women, but then turn around themselves and snark on mens' heights, say they only date men over 6 ft, etc. Totally hypocritical.