Heartbroke and defeated...

breezymom81
breezymom81 Posts: 499 Member
in Motivation and Support
So I have been at this for a while now and have lost 6 lbs, keep in mind to be at a "healthy BMI" I need to loose 100 but going for more like 66lbs...I work out everyday 7 days a week, wear a Polar F7 to track my burn eat pretty good and pour my heart and soul into weight loss. Today I went to the dr b/c I have been having such a hard time...she recommends that I consult a dr about a lap-band....:cry: Apparently I am so big that I have no hope of dropping of the weight. I'm sure she thinks I am crazy- I broke down and cried in her office. :embarassed: I am planning on starting Insanity Saturday- tomorrow is my last day of RI30 ( I have done 60day straight of Jillian) now I really don't see the point I am big - will always be big and the only thing to help is a surgury that I can not afford :frown: :cry:

Thanks for the vent I needed it
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  • oreyna
    oreyna Posts: 88 Member
    Please copy this to your browser and watch...please don't give up...there is always hope. Feel free to add me as a friend.

    http://youtu.be/qX9FSZJu448
  • craneia
    craneia Posts: 1
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.
  • TinaCleg_cancel
    TinaCleg_cancel Posts: 276
    Add me too ! Don't give up. You can do this. I have only lost 1.1 lbs in three weeks. It stinks but I am not going to quite. Get support from here. We will listen to your vents anytime !

    Tina
  • Jain
    Jain Posts: 861 Member
    I think your Dr is the crazy one. I need to lose a lot more than your 100lbs, and there is no way I would consider a lapband. I need to do this by myself & for myself & not take the 'easy' way out.

    Do you not have a rest day? Your body needs recovery time.
    And are you logging everything you eat & drink? A nibble here & a nibble there has a horrid way of adding up very quickly, especially as you tend not to notice you're doing it, as I found out the hard way.
    Your diary is closed, so it might be an idea to open it so people more qualified than I can have a look & advise you. You can always lock it again if you get people bashing you.

    You CAN do this. Dont give up.
  • gettinthere
    gettinthere Posts: 529 Member
    I lost 80 lbs without any surgery!!! It might take a year or more, but you can totally do this through diet and exercise!!!

    edited for spelling..ooops
  • lauleipop
    lauleipop Posts: 260 Member
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    This.
  • 987Runner
    987Runner Posts: 209
    Second opinions are a must! Third's maybe too.

    Don't give up. Surgery is so drastic. Keep your head up, keep going.
  • pineapple1989
    pineapple1989 Posts: 195 Member
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    This! How can you be too big to lose weight! Thats absurd! You can do it, maybe you're doing too much too fast to be honest, slowing it down and trying not to stress about it might help...?

    Doctors wind me up sometimes! :angry:
  • hayniewoman
    hayniewoman Posts: 1 Member
    I agree.... find a new doctor. Also DO NOT GIVE UP!! Keep in mind that if you are exersizing alot, then you are most likely gaining muscle, and that weighs more than fat, so you may get unreliable results at the scale. Try tracking your weigh loss in measurements instead of pounds. Measure belly, hips, bust, arms.... you should see the results there. Im rooting for you. I have just started my weight loss journey, so feel free to add me as a friend as well. We all need the encourgement!
  • tinana_RN
    tinana_RN Posts: 541 Member
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    Definitely. If your ticker is right, there's no way that you're "too big" for doing this on your own. Please don't give up-- you CAN do it.
  • VanessaGS
    VanessaGS Posts: 514 Member
    Um I think the Doctor just wants to make more money. Plenty of people lose by doing it the natural way. You go on with your bad self and KEEP EXERCISING. Day by day you will get there. Don't give up.
  • zoodalia
    zoodalia Posts: 294
    Your doctor sounds mad as cheese.
  • LadyKatieBug
    LadyKatieBug Posts: 178 Member
    I agree with the other the doctor is a idiot. Feel free to add me as a friend too
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    I don't think there is a such thing as too big to drop weight. I started at 279 pounds, I am only 5' 1. That was a lot of weight for me to carry around being so short. I never, EVER thought I would be able to lose weight, I had tried so many times. I tried phentramine (sp) and I tried just counting calories before as well.

    It wasn't until I stopped trying to diet, and started acting and feeling like a healthy person that I got results. You say you are working out 7 days a week, I would suggest cutting back a few days, also make sure you are eating enough. When I started I only walked about a mile 3x a week, played wii fitness games and did about 5 minutes on a stairstepper. I worked my way up to doing more but in the beginning I focused more on what I ate. Good luck and don't give up hope. Just be willing to do it.
  • FatUncleRob
    FatUncleRob Posts: 341
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    I agree! Please don't let the doctor discourage you. :flowerforyou:
  • LordBezoar
    LordBezoar Posts: 625 Member
    Everyone here is correct, you can do this. If you would like some more specific help, I suggest you open your diary so that we can see if there is anything else that might help.

    Feel free to add me as well if you like. I always welcome new friends.
  • dolldreams
    dolldreams Posts: 245 Member
    Doctors are wrong...all the time. You have the will and you already know the way. You CAN lose weight. You already ARE losing weight. Find another doctor that will be supportive of your new track to health.

    Add proving her wrong to the list of reasons why you want to lose weight and carry on!
  • SafireBleu
    SafireBleu Posts: 881 Member
    You can do this! Don't give up. Feel free to add me. I started at 233 and am down to around 180. I still have some more to go and I struggle with it but I'm doing it. It takes time but you can do this.
  • atlantapiper
    atlantapiper Posts: 133 Member
    You can do this without lapband surgery. Think how lucky you are to have all of the MFP family behind you! Don't give up! Take today to be discouraged and then let it go and get determined!
  • christyd4
    christyd4 Posts: 191
    I agree with the rest it CAN be done I am proof as well as a ton of others on here. I went 2 months with no weight loss what so ever but when i measured I realized that the inches were coming off faster than the scale. Then one day the scale decided to move. Don't give up and fell free to add me!
  • jessicaoliver79
    jessicaoliver79 Posts: 28 Member
    Dont give up! This is going to be a long and at times rough battle, but you did not get to where you are over night.. it isnt going to come off over night.. Keep at it, you are doing great so far! If what your doctor said is really getting to you.. then get a second opinion.. Just dont give up on yourself, you CAN DO IT! :) Add me if you would like!
  • wwk10
    wwk10 Posts: 244 Member
    Search this site and you will find lots of MFPers who lost 100+ without surgery etc.
    There will be times when you dont feel you are making progress or you feel like giving up etc.
    Use that Dr. as motivation.
    You cant give up or quit bc you have to enjoy the pleasure of proving the Dr. wrong.
    I bet you pass the 66 mark and lose 100 lbs
  • Kenhabes
    Kenhabes Posts: 187 Member
    I've been at this (MFP) since April 4, 2012 and have only lost 2 pounds... BUT! I have dropped almost an inch around my waist (Non-Scale Victory!). What has really boosted my body change is the incorporation of strength exercises. I'm not familiar with the exercise programs you are doing, but do they include lifting?

    DON'T GIVE UP! That's the only sure way to ensure failure!

    Have you been tested for thyroid problems or other medical conditions that might make you keep weight/fat?

    Do you feel tired during the day? If so, you might want to ask about a sleep study. I have severe sleep apnea and once I started treatment with my CPAP machine, I dropped 10-15 pounds just by sleeping well!

    YOU CAN DO IT!

    Oh, and find a new doctor if you can.
  • concerto3
    concerto3 Posts: 88 Member
    Your doctor is a **** and you need a new one. Simple as that. Any doctor that would tell a patient that he/she cannot lose weight and should get surgery is a fool and obviously not in it for the patients best interests or welfare.

    You CAN lose weight. You CAN get healthy, and you do NOT need surgery to do it. Keep at it and don't let an ignorant doctor tell you otherwise.
  • irishcanadianwoman
    irishcanadianwoman Posts: 147
    I agree.... find a new doctor. Also DO NOT GIVE UP!! Keep in mind that if you are exersizing alot, then you are most likely gaining muscle, and that weighs more than fat, so you may get unreliable results at the scale. Try tracking your weigh loss in measurements instead of pounds. Measure belly, hips, bust, arms.... you should see the results there. Im rooting for you. I have just started my weight loss journey, so feel free to add me as a friend as well. We all need the encourgement!

    This is excellent advice!
    also
    try to get a new doctor. Get one who is supportive of your healthy choices.
  • PhenomeNae
    PhenomeNae Posts: 130 Member
    I agree.... find a new doctor. Also DO NOT GIVE UP!! Keep in mind that if you are exersizing alot, then you are most likely gaining muscle, and that weighs more than fat, so you may get unreliable results at the scale. Try tracking your weigh loss in measurements instead of pounds. Measure belly, hips, bust, arms.... you should see the results there. Im rooting for you. I have just started my weight loss journey, so feel free to add me as a friend as well. We all need the encourgement!

    I agree with this... you should allow yourself a day of rest, and you're never "too fat" to lose weight on your own. Lap band surgery isn't a cure. You will still need to eat right and exercise. You may want to get a 2nd opinion and also have your body fat measured, as others have said in this thread, you could be dropping inches and body fat, but gaining muscle.
  • Meaganandcheese
    Meaganandcheese Posts: 525 Member
    Sounds like time for a second opinion. And probably a rest day! Activity is important for health but make sure you're focusing on proper nutrition too!
  • lloydrt
    lloydrt Posts: 1,121 Member
    Ive lost over 100 lbs with no surgery.............again, try a new Dr.........

    Its hard, Im sure you have done everything you can...........add me as a friend, Ill keep you in my thoughts and hope it will happen

    read some of these peoples stories, they did it........you can, you're young

    You have little children who need you. Do it for yourself , your kids and your husband............they need you. Best wishes, Add me as a friend........Lloyd
  • sonofpaul
    sonofpaul Posts: 3 Member
    You can do it...don't give up! Try something drastic with your diet for a week...cut out pop, or carbs or something. I did phase 1 of the 17 day diet and in 2 weeks, dropped 10 pounds (I had already been on Weight Watchers for 2 years, dropped 30 pounds and hit a plateau)....just needed the jump start.

    Add me too!
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    Oh my God, this. I can't believe a doctor would recommend an unnecessary surgery. You CAN and WILL do this, regardless of what you've been told!

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