Fiance tries to stop me going to Zumba?
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sandown12
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Hi I'm getting married in December we've been together 9 years I'd like to have an extra 50lbs off by then including the 25lb I lost. (I've 70lbs to goal )
My fiancé always tries to get me to stay home and not go to Zumba I do it 4 times a week at home and 2 classes but he's like stay home don't go di it here etc , I know he thinks it's a waste of money but I need to go its something for me as I never go 'out'
He's the same when I went for coffee in a cafe with
my mum I was gone 1.5 hours went looking round shops when I got back he was like why you take so long?
We never go out as a couple we've a daughter together and I've 2 from my ex marriage it's his birthday Tuesday he choose to go for a family meal Sunday which is nice but I'd like date nights.
Felling abit sad ...... It always gets like this when I lose weight, well we rarely go out but used to a few years back
Any ideas? I have talked to him he's like No babysitter ... My mum offered !
My fiancé always tries to get me to stay home and not go to Zumba I do it 4 times a week at home and 2 classes but he's like stay home don't go di it here etc , I know he thinks it's a waste of money but I need to go its something for me as I never go 'out'
He's the same when I went for coffee in a cafe with
my mum I was gone 1.5 hours went looking round shops when I got back he was like why you take so long?
We never go out as a couple we've a daughter together and I've 2 from my ex marriage it's his birthday Tuesday he choose to go for a family meal Sunday which is nice but I'd like date nights.
Felling abit sad ...... It always gets like this when I lose weight, well we rarely go out but used to a few years back
Any ideas? I have talked to him he's like No babysitter ... My mum offered !
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I dont have any good advice, but trust me it will only get worse once you are married. :huh:0
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Why doesn't he want you to go? Does he just not like for you to leave the house? Is he afraid you're seeing someone else? Is he insecure since you're losing weight and he's not?
You probably need to talk to him about it, becuase like a previous poster said... if you don't address it, it will just get worse once you're married.0 -
I agree with Mtaylor, you really need to be open with him and tell him how you are feeling. Communioncation and honesty is the key to any realationship. Tell him how you feel and sit back and listen to what he has to say. Here is an idea, pick one night a week that you both go for a walk together or family walk. This way he is part of your excise and you have time together. Hope all goes well.0
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Ask him if he would do a "date night" if you could arrange a babysitter. If he say yes, great....get a sitter and have a good time. If he comes up with an excuse, lame or otherwise, cancel the sitter, leave the kids with him and have a girls night out with friends.
Don't let him drag you into the "house moth" trap! You should be able to have fun together and apart and it not be a big deal. I agree that if you don't resolve this situation now, it will only get worse once you are married. You deserve to be happy and need to do what it takes to make it so. Good luck to you.0 -
After reading your post I felt sad. Your taking control of your eating and exercise, now take control of your life. Tell your fiancé that it's important to you to get out and do things you love. Be honest with yourself and him. You HAVE to take time for yourself and NOT feel guilty about it. We have your back.0
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I dont have any good advice, but trust me it will only get worse once you are married. :huh:
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I dont have any good advice, but trust me it will only get worse once you are married. :huh:
Yep
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I dont have any good advice, but trust me it will only get worse once you are married. :huh:
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this....0 -
Get out now. This is NOT a healthy relationship and by giving into him, you are reinforcing his insecurities. It will ONLY get worse.
GET OUT NOW!0 -
Don't marry him, run for your life!0
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My wife started showering and putting perfume on before going to the gym. I put a stop to that **** quick. Hell no. I bought her a Tae Bo tape to do at home instead.0
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WAY TOO CONTROLLING!0
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If he's not somebody that encourages you to have a healthy life in whatever way you want to go about having it, I would seriously reconsider the relationship.0
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yep!!:explode:0
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It seems he is trying to have complete control over you. I hope you can open your eyes to see who he is. He is probably insecure. If you really love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, you need to go to counseling and address this issue or you will be sad for a very long time.
You can not hide from the truth. Some people are controlling and you can not let them walk all over you.
I see you have a daughter so he will always be in ur life but a partner should encourage and if he has concerns he should talk about them not put you down or make you feel bad.
You need to talk to him seriously and he needs to find out why he is so insecure. No relationship works without trust.
God Bless u
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exactly, control. im somebody that started to change my life the same way and hubby was trying to not get me too. not sure what his issue was, but i told him, this is about me, not you, so either support me or shut up. communication is definitely the key. tell him and tell him again and keep telling him until it gets through to him. thankfully hubby got it after the second time of trying to stop me from eating less portions and lower calorie things. good luck.0
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I'm sorry, but... He sounds like a future ex-husband. I agree that this only gets worse with time, and marriage. Insecure people take a marriage certificate as an agreement that you will put up with their insecurity no matter how bad it gets.0
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I dont have any good advice, but trust me it will only get worse once you are married. :huh:0
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Run.....now!0
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WAY TOO CONTROLLING!
Exactly what I thought0
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