Older man with Younger Woman (Ladies Only)

I totally want any older guy. I have had better luck dating older guys.

My son's father is 10 years older than me - I was 21 and he was 31 when we met....
My other long term relationship (and still the love of my life even though he lives on the other side of the world now) is 12 years older than me - I was 35 and he was 47 when we met ;-)

With an older guy you normally don't have to play mom - I was always strong enough that I could stand up to them, but on the other hand they were confident and experienced in life...

It's more to do with the maturity and what stage of life you're at. I'm 49 and I've dated women as much as 17 years younger. Once you start to approach a 10 year age gap, it starts to become more difficult and each has really grown up in a different era. References to certain social/political figures, movies, events etc. etc. etc. really start to become less and less mutual. Aside from that, an older man usually has already had children and is beyond that stage, while a younger woman (in her 20' / 30's) is probably still looking to start a family.

Why would an older man seek out a younger woman? Isn't it obvious? It's not necessarily about the sex as it is about the attraction and the feeling of still being wanted by an attractive young woman. That being said, there is a lot to be said baout women over 40, as summed up perfectly by Andy Rooney.


Women over 40

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As I grow in age, I value women who are over forty most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over forty will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over forty doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

A woman over forty knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of forty give a hoot what you might think about her or what she’s doing.

Women over forty are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

A woman over forty has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over forty couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over forty. They always know.

A woman over forty looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over forty is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over forty for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of forty-plus, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some twenty-two-year-old waitress.

Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,” here’s an update for you. Now 80 percent of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.

~ Andy Rooney

I have had relationships with men who were quite a bit older than me (more than 10-15 years). Personally, since I do not want to have children, "having a family" is not an issue. I have, however, seen women have children with men who are 10+ years older than them. I might question having children with someone who would have to exceed their average life expectancy to live see their children reach adulthood, but that is their decision, not mine.

I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 29, guys that are my age are complete idiots, he's somewhat past that stage! somewhat...thinking about it I would go older, paha!

I'm 19 and my boyfriend's 29, guys that are my age are complete idiots, he's somewhat past that stage! somewhat...thinking about it I would go older, paha!

sorry to hear YOU attracting these guys...

Is that a dig?! Haha, I grew up in a pub with more elderly company- I just get on with them better from the experience, and I have never had a good experience with men my age! Never.

The first guy I really liked was 10 years older than me and another guy I liked was 20+ years older... my (ex) husband was only 4.5 years older. I definitely think older men are more mature (hopefully!!) and that's really what attracts women to older guys.
On a side note (and please don't take this as racist or anything) but in the pics of you with your medal, you look like you could be related to Kevin Eubanks.

my BF is 14 years older than me. We have an amazing relationship, most of the time haha

My husband is 8 years older than I am. I was nervous about our age difference when we met (I was 22, he was 30), but we are now coming up on our four year wedding anniversary in July. Now I don't even notice the age difference.

The only issue I have come across is the fact that he came out of a previous marriage with children.

When I was 25 I went to lunch with my same age friend and his 17 year old girlfriend. She wouldn't talk to me, she doodled on his arm with pen during our conversation. When I paid for lunch, she didn't thank me. I just didn't see the appeal of younger women from a man's perspective, I was disgusted with her the whole time.

But my cousin who only dates younger women says they are easier to impress and they look up to you when you are older. So I sometimes think that men who ONLY date younger women are intimidated by (more) successful women their own age.

But to each their own I honestly don't care who other people date . I have never dated an older guy, I usually date guys 2-5 years younger (don't plan it, it just ends up that way) and I am curious what it would be like to date an older guy, but they never approach me, only the young ones..

How do I attract older (approx 35 yrs) men?

I'm 22 and I've always fancied/liked/attracted to older guys. But if "the one" was my age then fine or if he was older then fine.

I'm 20 and at this point of my life, definately not. I'm not looking to settle down anytime soon and I'd be afraid that's what a guy that much older than me would want.

I always dated guys that were older than me and if i didnt happen to find someone as mature as my husband, that is actually 6 months younger than me, i prob would have married someone 10 years or so older than me. I think that there are plenty of ladies out there that would.

1/2 the women in my family married men 10 to 15 years older.

That was my situation with my late husband. He was 10 years older than I and we had two children (boys) who are now 16 and 20. Would I try it again? I'd have to think about it the second time around. Although I'm no spring chicken (53 and proud of it ) I don't think I'm ready to play nurse to a man that is 10 years or more older than my current age.