When did this site become so judgmental ?

I personally just think people are way too sensitive on this website, and they perceive things as being "rude" or "judgemental" when that wasn't really the intention of the poster.

I've been told that I was being "rude" and "judgemental" after answering a simple question such as "Which cleanse is best?" with something similar to "I don't believe any of the cleanses are worthwhile, and you don't need them to lose weight. You can cleanse your body by eating healthier foods, drinking plenty of water, and working out." But because I didn't specifically name a cleanse, I was being rude or something.

Sometimes if people would read the response with a different opinion than their own, they might learn something new, discover a new viewpoint worth researching, or at very least acknowledge that there other viewpoints out there. Seriously, telling you a different idea than your own is not being disrespectful, snarky, or rude. If you want to eat 750 calories a day and workout for 2 hours a day on top of that, then you go to the forums and ask why you feel like crap, basically any response you get that isn't blowing smoke up your @$$ is perceived as being mean...when it wasn't intended to be so.

Now for the a slim minority of people who honestly ARE rude...just block them. The rest of us out number them so vastly, that when they are blocked, you won't notice a difference.

I find it hilarious that this thread is everything the OP is complaining about. A bunch of rude, nasty, judgemental people. The difference is the people in this thread are all being nasty and rude behind the backs of the people they are complaining about, rather than saying anything to the supposed rude people they are complaining about.

Nothing like starting an entire thread with the sole purpose of calling people rude, as the ultimate expression of being rude.

This site became judgmental the moment they allowed humans to use it.

bahahahahahah! might be time to bail!!

I was on this site last year and everyone was so supportive, this week since I've been back I've just seen the most annoying and mean spirited posts in response to questions and requests for feedback/support. Even this thread has some ridiculous comments being posted.

this, I couldn't have said it better

This is actually a quite fascinating (to me anyway :P) internet phenomenon.

Life on communities and forums follow this cycle that have many similarities with "real life" but it moves much faster.
Coming to a forum like this for example, is for some people a bit like meeting a great girl or guy and falling head over heels. You've found the one and it's SO GREAT. You keep finding things in common - like minded people with goals the same as you and threads that is just what you wanted but since your glasses still have that rose shimmering filter, you skim over the rest. Then, depending on your personality or the level of involvement, the honey moon period lasts for a while (say 6 months) and then you suddenly start noticing flaws that you could swear was not there before. Then, you notice more and more. He leaves his sock hanging on the bathroom mirror - someone is nasty in a forum reply. How did this happen?! Why did it change? The thing is that it didn't really change, the way you looked at it did.
The only thing one can do is to see what one doesn't like and then either be the opposite oneself, or kick the loser to the curb.

Well I read this entire thread Here is what I've learned as someone who is overweight and working feverishly to get my weight down and my choices under control.

1. Don't be too thin skinned on here. (learned that a LONG time ago when AOL was the big deal and chatrooms were hot!)

2. Be prepared for brutal honesty and learn to deal with it. I have a friend on here who is brutally honest with folks. Period. And she makes no excuses for it. I can deal.

3. Dont expect everyone to pat me on the back just because I'm "trying." My time of just skating by and "trying" are over!! I outed myself and my eating habits on this website wanting accountability.

4. But that all being said, I'm 40. I've been married to a loud, obnoxious Baptist Pastor for 20 yrs and I have two grown, loud, abrasive sons. I can handle pretty much anything! :bigsmile:

Just dont wear your heart on your sleeve on this site. Be prepared that when you post you might come across someone who is abrasive and doesn't sugar coat anything. You'll find that one person who wants to hug you and tell you it's all ok. We are all different grades of sandpaper......it takes sandpaper to make a smooth surface.

That's my few cents. I LOVE MFP!! :flowerforyou: