Guys, should girls hit on you first?

Why not - equality right?

When it comes to women, men, are kinda stupid. So hitting on us first would be greatly appreciated

do guys really not pick up on the subtle hints girls give sometimes? ....guess I'll have to be more obvious from now on haha

Nope...they really don't....sorry, I know we should but we don't....we can be quite dense or oblivious sometimes...being direct will be appreciated and remembered more than subtlety...we are direct thinkers normally. Some will get the subtle hints but I think most men appreciate a woman who is more direct and has the confidence to ask or make the first move too.

Sometimes a guy doesn't know you're interested if you don't give him some kind of clue. Never complain that a guy never notices you if you've never said more than two words to him. I've had a few women who initiated things and it was flattering and awesome. I still did the asking them out, but I might not have if they hadn't approached me or offered their number. Take a chance, you never know what might happen.

Why risk never knowing what would have happened, I say go for it whether your a girl or guy.

I don't care who you are- if you like someone, do something. Don't run the risk of missing out on something because you waited for someone to approach you and they didn't.

This! I made the first move with my guy and it impressed the hell out of him. It was well worth it but if he had said "no thanks" then my life would have gone on as usual. You really have nothing to lose by expressing interest in someone.

I don't care who you are- if you like someone, do something. Don't run the risk of missing out on something because you waited for someone to approach you and they didn't.

This! I made the first move with my guy and it impressed the hell out of him. It was well worth it but if he had said "no thanks" then my life would have gone on as usual. You really have nothing to lose by expressing interest in someone.

EXACTLY!

If I hadn't give my bf my number and invited him to happy hour, we wouldn't be here 3 1/2 years later.

I'm extremely unapproachable. That's what women tell me anyway. I guess I just have that kinda demeanor about me. So when they do talk to me, I think they're trying to be nice, not flirting. LOL!

Go for it? The assertive people are better at this than others. The non-assertive folks really struggle with the "just go for it" idea. That's why it's important to have the opposite sex start things.

I usually end up being the one giving my number out but it would be nice if someone asked for mine for a change.. I think in this day and age it can easily go both ways and it is not a big deal.

You have problems with guys asking for your number?

Seriously?

I stand by my previous commentary about guys in Tuscon being completely oblivious morons. You're the third very attractive, absolutely single woman there I've run across just in these forums.

It's very sad lol...girls in Phoenix, in general...are quite a bit more stuck on themselves.

Thanks for the compliment!

Just truth!

:blushing:

Since I am not a MIND READER, I always appreciate people that actually communicate ideas and emotions instead of waiting for others to randomly feel the same way at the same time.

So....go ahead and talk to a guy.

I usually end up being the one giving my number out but it would be nice if someone asked for mine for a change.. I think in this day and age it can easily go both ways and it is not a big deal.

Same thing for me actually :ohwell:

Hi. My name's Michael. What's your number? I will call tomorrow to arrange something nice*

*calls maybe recorded for MFP training purposes

I think it sounds great for a woman to have the confidence to make that first move and have done so myself more often than not. But honestly, at this point, I have to say that if a guy isn't interested enough or is too shy to do so, he's probably not the man I'm looking for. I've stopped being the aggressor and while I don't have as much interaction, it feels more natural to me not to be the CHASER. I always felt like I picked guys who were too nice to tell me they just wanted to be friends, so at least I know that's not the case if they make a move.

Good luck to you either way!

Before I was married, I would never consider hitting on a guy or making the first move. I was too afraid of rejection. I was known to wink at guys in bars to make them uncomfortable and just laugh. Still to this day, I never make the first move or initiate with my husband for fear of rejection. Maybe someday I will shake it off and just get balsy but that day hasn't come yet!

Think for a second though...

It's obvious he loves you, or you wouldn't be married.

It's very likely he's physically attracted to you....don't you think?

Imagine how awesome it would make him feel for you to just grab him by the shirt, and drag him up to the bedroom for an entire Sunday afternoon?

*nods wisely*

I am going to try this when I get home today. If it is a total fail...it is all YOUR fault!!!

I think it really depends in the situation and circumstances...I approached my other half first....I them left it in his court of which he followed up...:-)

As a general rule...I think being spontaneous in a situation helps....if you like someone just go for it. Their loss if they don't at least See where the land lies or get to know you...

I prefer being approached...at least I know the attraction may be mutual depending. I guess being female I like to put the vibes out there and then leave it to the guy. In some cases I like the direct approach. Theres a number of different factors for me personally.