Would you rather be "wanted" or "needed" ?

_EmmaStrong_
_EmmaStrong_ Posts: 647 Member
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In the song "Colder Weather" by the Zac Brown Band is the line "I don't want you, but I need you." This line has prompted me to ponder rather I would rather be "wanted" or "needed".

My feelings: Needing me means "He couldn't survive without me, because of all the things I do for him." Wanting me means "He could survive without me, but chooses not to." I dont want to be needed, I need to be wanted.

So, here is my question to you: In your realtionship (children aside, and employment aside) would you rather be "needed" or "wanted"?
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  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Wanted. I hate needy guys.
  • creature275
    creature275 Posts: 348 Member
    wanted, I hate needy girls
  • Briski1411
    Briski1411 Posts: 296 Member
    Wanted......

    So you desire my attention, my touch, and what I do for you....If you want me you will TRY to please me!!


    If you need me then it's kind of a job and anyone can fill the void as long as they provide for your needs i.e. a roof, clothes, and a food.
  • sthrnchick
    sthrnchick Posts: 771
    Definitely WANTED... I was needed for 10+ years...I am so done with needy men!!
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    What about a "Want" so strong that it becomes a "need"?

    Needing someone doesn't always have to be because of something they physcially, socially or monetarily provide for you.

    That said, I still would rather be with someone who chooses to be with me because they want to.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    I prefer to be wanted.

    If someone only tells me that he needs me then I might assume that he only think of me as a hooker or as a sugar mommy.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I want to be needed....you know like bread dough
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
    I "Need" to be "Wanted"...
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,282 Member
    Another vote for wanted here.
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    Wanted not needed , being needed seems kind of creepy.
  • RipperSB
    RipperSB Posts: 315 Member
    I want to be needed....you know like bread dough

    ...and then punched down after two hours??!?!?!

    Back to the topic...

    I quote the philosopher Robin Zander (Cheap Trick)...I Want You to Want Me
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    Wanted
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Wanted.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    I want to be "wanted" :wink:
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    wanted. needing too easily leads to being taken for granted.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    both??
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    "I want you to want me"
  • mollyonamission
    mollyonamission Posts: 268 Member
    Wanted
  • dreamingchild
    dreamingchild Posts: 208 Member
    I want to be needed....you know like bread dough

    ...and then punched down after two hours??!?!?!

    Back to the topic...

    I quote the philosopher Robin Zander (Cheap Trick)...I Want You to Want Me

    Now the song is in my head and I have to youtube it!! Thanks. :)

    Another vote for wanted.
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    I guess I'm lucky, because I'm both. (WANTED and needed. )

    My dear hubby is both. I love him so much and want him around, I deffinitely need him here too. I couldn't imagine life without him.

    He is as much a part of me as my right arm, and I would give that up, before I gave him up. :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • Madelinew22
    Madelinew22 Posts: 289
    Both:)!!! It's nice to be wanted but I wanna be usefull too (<<needed)
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I want to be needed....you know like bread dough

    ...and then punched down after two hours??!?!?!

    Back to the topic...

    I quote the philosopher Robin Zander (Cheap Trick)...I Want You to Want Me

    was just too easy...wasn't it?
  • Eaglesfanintn
    Eaglesfanintn Posts: 813 Member
    Wanted, wanted! Dead or alive!
  • korsicash
    korsicash Posts: 770 Member
    Wanted. I dislike needy. But there is also a fine line between the two. I like to walk the side of want but when two people choose to share a life there is a bit of need that goes along with all that.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Always wanted, never needed.

    To need is to imply that you simply cannot do without, when in reality you can. It just sucks more.
  • aliciagetshealthy
    aliciagetshealthy Posts: 946 Member
    Wanted......

    So you desire my attention, my touch, and what I do for you....If you want me you will TRY to please me!!


    If you need me then it's kind of a job and anyone can fill the void as long as they provide for your needs i.e. a roof, clothes, and a food.

    Perfectly said
  • tistal
    tistal Posts: 869 Member
    Wanted
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    Wanted!!!
  • tistal
    tistal Posts: 869 Member
    Wanted......

    So you desire my attention, my touch, and what I do for you....If you want me you will TRY to please me!!


    If you need me then it's kind of a job and anyone can fill the void as long as they provide for your needs i.e. a roof, clothes, and a food.

    Perfectly said!
  • anat0my
    anat0my Posts: 15
    Wanted. As more as a self esteem thing than anything, though wanting can directly lead to needing, which is you look at it like that, isn't such a bad thing.

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