Would you rather be "wanted" or "needed" ?

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  • NNAhuja
    NNAhuja Posts: 669 Member
    Wanted for the same reason you listed.
  • Captain_Mal
    Captain_Mal Posts: 945 Member
    I like to be wanted & needed and needed & wanted. =)
  • herwitsend
    herwitsend Posts: 29 Member
    I guess I'm lucky, because I'm both. (WANTED and needed. )

    My dear hubby is both. I love him so much and want him around, I deffinitely need him here too. I couldn't imagine life without him.

    He is as much a part of me as my right arm, and I would give that up, before I gave him up. :heart: :heart: :heart:

    ^^This! I absolutely love to be wanted, but I also love that my husband needs me. For him to *not* need me implies that what I give can be acquired somewhere else. There is a difference in needing someone and being "needy."
  • Romans624
    Romans624 Posts: 822
    Love songs always want things to be as dramatic as possible. Same with movies. A person should be able to look after their needs emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Its unhealthy (although I can be guilty) to put a person in charge of meeting your needs... although certain ones make sense in a relationship (love,affection, sex, quality time, respect, etc).

    So being wanted and chosen. The difference is being needed is what people think makes them choose you over someone else, but that's just a choice. I choose to stay married to the man I love and committed myself to, although I can survive and get my needs met somehow if it falls apart. Doesn't mean life will be the same or I'll be happier - or that I won't always feel his absence like a part of me that is missing... but I can make it.
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    I think there's a fine line between the two when you love and desire someone so much that it actually hurts when you can't be with them. Everyone is equating "need" with what the person takes away from the relationship. I look at it a little differently.

    Of course, I want to be "wanted" but to know that someone loves me, wants me and desires me so much as to "need" me in their life, that is what it means to me to "need" someone.
  • khelser
    khelser Posts: 27
    I want to be wanted. But I do think that when you are wanted, you are also needed. They go hand in hand......being needed alone is what I don't want.
  • IamSam25
    IamSam25 Posts: 21
    Most certianly wanted
  • prudolph69
    prudolph69 Posts: 13
    Definitively WANTED
  • Jessaustx
    Jessaustx Posts: 130
    Wanted not needed.

    Glad we're all in agreement! :)
  • mallorybriann
    mallorybriann Posts: 1,380 Member
    I want you covered in bacon...
    Wanted just like BACON!!!
  • AveryWays
    AveryWays Posts: 150 Member
    Wanted...that's why I divorced the guy that needed me. He really just needed a mommy.

    ^^ This! Wanted is so much better.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    need is only sexy when you're naked.
  • RipperSB
    RipperSB Posts: 315 Member
    I want to be needed....you know like bread dough

    ...and then punched down after two hours??!?!?!

    Back to the topic...

    I quote the philosopher Robin Zander (Cheap Trick)...I Want You to Want Me

    Now the song is in my head and I have to youtube it!! Thanks. :)

    "Didn't I, didn't I, didn't I see you cryin'?"
  • Slendermike
    Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
    USED
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    I think there's a fine line between the two when you love and desire someone so much that it actually hurts when you can't be with them. Everyone is equating "need" with what the person takes away from the relationship. I look at it a little differently.

    Of course, I want to be "wanted" but to know that someone loves me, wants me and desires me so much as to "need" me in their life, that is what it means to me to "need" someone.
    This...
  • couponfun
    couponfun Posts: 714 Member
    I'm needed all the time...I haven't been wanted since before kid #1. Definitely wanted :laugh: :laugh:
  • couponfun
    couponfun Posts: 714 Member
    USED

    LOL +1
  • maggiejbl
    maggiejbl Posts: 7
    Neither. I am too much of a stubborn, bitter person.
  • Lil_MiSsSunshiNe
    Lil_MiSsSunshiNe Posts: 167
    I'd rather be WANTED for who I am, that NEEDED for who I am. The word need just doesn't sit well with me.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    how bout "slammed up against a wall"?
  • maggiejbl
    maggiejbl Posts: 7
    lmao
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    I think it's sexy to say wanted. That seems a passionate way to be. But i think it takes both wanting and needing in a true partnership. Needing doesn't necessarily mean needy. I take it more as a need to be in my presence. A need to talk to me at the end of a hard day. A need to, at times, let me take care if you. And vice versa.
  • ssforcey
    ssforcey Posts: 92 Member
    Wanted...I'm too lazy to be needed.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Wanted.

    Need implies "I can't live without you" and, I'm sorry, that's not healthy.

    Want means "I can live without you, but my life is better with you in it."


    Wow. That almost sounded romantic. Someone should probably smack me. I am *not* a romantic person.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    Wanted.

    Need implies "I can't live without you" and, I'm sorry, that's not healthy.

    Want means "I can live without you, but my life is better with you in it."


    Wow. That almost sounded romantic. Someone should probably smack me. I am *not* a romantic person.

    SMACK...ahhhhhh that felt good.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    Wanted.

    Need implies "I can't live without you" and, I'm sorry, that's not healthy.

    Want means "I can live without you, but my life is better with you in it."


    Wow. That almost sounded romantic. Someone should probably smack me. I am *not* a romantic person.

    hahaha "smack" that better now? :smile:
  • cannonsky
    cannonsky Posts: 850 Member
    wanted
  • TrophyWifeSass
    TrophyWifeSass Posts: 490 Member
    Desired, wanted, cherished, loved, yeah I want it all. The Trophy Wife in me.
  • va_va_voom
    va_va_voom Posts: 467 Member


    My feelings: Needing me means "He couldn't survive without me, because of all the things I do for him." Wanting me means "He could survive without me, but chooses not to." I dont want to be needed, I need to be wanted.


    My thoughts exactly.
  • RMuske
    RMuske Posts: 271 Member
    I would like to feel wanted AND needed right about now! Where do I sign up?

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