The difference between "flirting" and "being creepy"

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  • TinkrBelz
    TinkrBelz Posts: 866 Member
    I think it has a lot to do with the relationship that is already established. I have friends that I flirt with hard....and they are good with it...but if they did not know me.....had I tried the same thing when we had only been friends a few days.....it would have been creepy.....

    Establishing rapport and trust first is important, IMHO.

    Yes, I think this is a good explanation. And then if the girl is not into the flirting and she sends you hints that she is not into the flirting...and yet, you keep flirting, now it is creepy.
  • adet983
    adet983 Posts: 138
    you guys can tell me if this is creepy this is what i use when i message females.

    Wanna "Come" together and meet
    aaronwooo.jpg
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    and I never will! MUAHAHAHAHA

    And I finally understand that whole "stealing souls" business. *sigh*
  • RunnerBlonde808
    RunnerBlonde808 Posts: 257 Member
    Flirting: You look way too young to have a 23 year old.

    Creepy: Would you let me give you a facial? ,,,,ok, seriously I got a PM from a guy that asked this. Now I hope you all know what he meant without me having to explain it.....


    lol..
  • WishUponAStarx
    WishUponAStarx Posts: 41 Member
    Flirting - Telling her she's gorgeous.

    Creep - Telling her she's gorgeous with your junk in your hand.

    ^^^^^^ THIS!
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Flirting: You look way too young to have a 23 year old.

    Creepy: Would you let me give you a facial? ,,,,ok, seriously I got a PM from a guy that asked this. Now I hope you all know what he meant without me having to explain it.....


    lol..

    Are you dead sure he doesn't work at a spa?
  • sthomas94403
    sthomas94403 Posts: 3
    Flirt: You look really hot...

    Creeper: ... as I stare at you through your window from the tree outside....
  • Oliviamarie05
    Oliviamarie05 Posts: 528 Member
    and I never will! MUAHAHAHAHA

    And I finally understand that whole "stealing souls" business. *sigh*

    and another bites the dust :devil:
  • eliamunch
    eliamunch Posts: 18
    If they start to follow you around and constantly try to talk to you its creeping!
  • kymillion
    kymillion Posts: 791 Member
    Flirting - Telling her she's gorgeous.

    Creep - Telling her she's gorgeous with your junk in your hand.



    hey if shes holding your junk in your hand the least you can do is tell her she's beautiful..

    If you tell her hey you know what you'd look way hot doing..?? holding my shizamm in your hands.. creepy..

    just my take. I mean how'd your junk get in her hands anyway..?
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
    This just confirms what I have already thought: there's not that much actual flirting on this site, or what I consider to be flirting. It's very polarised. You either get timidity or overt sex talk (not that there is anything wrong with that depending on the circumstances...)

    Good flirting takes a little confidence on the part of the people involved ~ the ability to give and accept compliments and gestures of romantic interest, which will usually, but not always involve a sexual undertone, and will probably not lead anywhere.

    Flirting is like the Tango. What happens on MFP is like a mosh pit ;)

    Totally agree with this!
    Good flirting has a great deal to do with confidence and starts out with at least some attempt at subtlety..
    The Tango is a perfect metaphor for it..
  • Squidgeypaws007
    Squidgeypaws007 Posts: 1,012 Member
    Flirt: Hey, you look gorgeous in that dress.

    Creep: I really like the way you've positioned your underwear drawer.
  • RunnerBlonde808
    RunnerBlonde808 Posts: 257 Member
    Are you dead sure he doesn't work at a spa?
    [/quote]

    Yep, dead sure. haha!
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    i think it's in the eyes. is he picturing me in his bed? or my head on his wall?
    :laugh: SO this!

    Whats the difference?
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    and another bites the dust :devil:

    You are evil. Good thing I don't have a line.
  • mommy2AR
    mommy2AR Posts: 2,796 Member
    So my question ....has any guy ever had a girl be creepy?
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    This just confirms what I have already thought: there's not that much actual flirting on this site, or what I consider to be flirting. It's very polarised. You either get timidity or overt sex talk (not that there is anything wrong with that depending on the circumstances...)

    Good flirting takes a little confidence on the part of the people involved ~ the ability to give and accept compliments and gestures of romantic interest, which will usually, but not always involve a sexual undertone, and will probably not lead anywhere.

    Flirting is like the Tango. What happens on MFP is like a mosh pit ;)

    Totally agree with this!
    Good flirting has a great deal to do with confidence and starts out with at least some attempt at subtlety..
    The Tango is a perfect metaphor for it..

    u sure have a purty mouth....do u floss?
  • JessieArt
    JessieArt Posts: 275 Member
    Flirting is when someone looks you in the eye and smiles or says something complimentary.

    Creepy is having your boss who is 30 years older than you tell you he's going to hit on you when his wife goes out of town because you're hot.

    If it makes you throw up in your mouth, it's creepy.
  • jfa002
    jfa002 Posts: 54 Member
    When your at the club and you see a fly girl Do The Creep
    HHAAAA
    And when you want to make friends at the ATM Do The Creep
    OOHHH....HHAAAA
  • mommy2AR
    mommy2AR Posts: 2,796 Member
    Now I am lost :) lol
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    Okay, well, now how about when you constantly see posts by someone on a friend's page, but you are not friends with this other person and decide to drop them a pm simply complimenting them on how good they look and to keep up the great work. No friend request, no pic, no questions. A fly-by compliment, if you will. Creepy? :huh:

    I would have to say that's bordering on creepy. Depends what (if anything) you did after that. My personal opinion. I have a very sensitive creep monitor though.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Flirty is when it makes you wet.
    Creepy is when it makes you nauseous.
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
    If you are a HOT guy it is flirting.

    If not then it will likely be regarded as creepy.

    I disagree. It's all about the way you say (type) things. Humor is key, without humor, things can sound creepy.

    This!!!
    You can come out with the worst line in the world, and it will work if you put the right spin on it. It's all in HOW you say it, not WHAT you say. This is why flirting over the internet can be tricky. Tone of voice and body lanuage is removed from the factors so you are left with just context.
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    So my question ....has any guy ever had a girl be creepy?

    YES! and they are usually constant FR from women under 22 (im 41, so I just auto deny) but then they PM in the most forward freaking ways that even though Im a perv (in a good way) I think girls (and yes they are girls to me) just shouldnt be doing that to old dudes like me.
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
    friend request accepted:

    creeper: hey your really pretty, I am a sucker for blonde hair and blue eyes-- and where are you located exactly???


    instant friend removal!!

    Damn... there goes my opening line.. ;-)
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Okay, well, now how about when you constantly see posts by someone on a friend's page, but you are not friends with this other person and decide to drop them a pm simply complimenting them on how good they look and to keep up the great work. No friend request, no pic, no questions. A fly-by compliment, if you will. Creepy? :huh:

    I would have to say that's bordering on creepy. Depends what (if anything) you did after that. My personal opinion. I have a very sensitive creep monitor though.

    See, I think this one depends very much on the current profile pic. I could probably get away with it with my current pic, but I would probably get shut down if I had the blue pic up.
  • AtticusFinch
    AtticusFinch Posts: 1,262 Member
    I can't tell the difference. It's flirting as far as I'm concerned until I get reported to the mods (repeatedly !). Some people can't take a compliment.
  • hoskibn
    hoskibn Posts: 86
    Flirting - what I think I am doing

    Creepy - what she thinks I am doing
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Flirting - what I think I am doing

    Creepy - what she thinks I am doing

    Bahahahahaha
  • Glucocorticoid
    Glucocorticoid Posts: 867 Member
    Some of these creepy ones are great, thanks for the ideas!
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