Why can't I enjoy men looking at me??
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Pffft who cares what your trainer thinks, he is your TRAINER not your counsellor, if your hubby is happy and your happy thats what matters. Talk to your girlfriends and you hubby and let your trainer train you lol
Yeah, this. It made me pissed just reading about how your trainer talked to you. He can stfu, maybe he's jealous men don't stare at him? haha0 -
As long as hubby is cool with it...Bump your trainer. Celebrate all those double takes your getting0
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I think your trainer wants you all to themselves lol0
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not to be a joy kill-cause i do agree his comments were kind of a-holeish, but i know someone who is a trainer and i often hear how frustrating it is to train people who are obviously in it for the wrong reasons. so while i dont think he should have said anything to you or should have been that blunt about it-maybe it just hit a sore spot with him because he wants you to do it for YOU and not for other people's approval. it would be an over-reaction on his part....but it's an idea. just so you don't think it was entirely about you, perhaps it just comes with the trainer territory.
hmmm this is plausible too0 -
From a guys perspective he may be jealous.
From a former fatty perspective he may have came across wrong but he may have been trying to say "dont let comments like those stop you from continueing". After I lost a hundred pounds alot of people told me I looked great and for about a week I considered stopping, but I havent reached my goal so I put my head down and got back in it. Ive learned to appreciate those comments but be humble, once I reach my goal then I will brag and strut
just sayin
This sounds reasonable to me but still....
My supervisor at my health club says at's to me that's bull and borderline lies and I tell him where to shove it and then I don't do what he tells me to do because its unhealthy. There's days when I want to report him but he's 22 and a kid. And a big fat idiot. So I don't let it get to me, I just tell myself to never be like him and life will be alright.
Be inspired from the best, learn from the worst.0 -
If it makes you happy, enjoy it!
I wonder if he's coming at it from a "that shouldn't be what you're working for" or thinking that getting too full of yourself could make you take your workouts less seriously, because all the attention might make you feel like you're done. Those aren't good reasons to rain on your parade though...
I'm the opposite... I think men checking me out would be really creepy and I wouldn't know how to react. :ohwell:0 -
Haha- this!!Maybe he wants some of that.
No, I'm just kidding. 0 -
First of all: enjoy the compliments, let them be your greatest motivator, get the kick out of it to keep going!
As long as your husband has no problems with you getting that much attention, there's no problem as he's the only one to be in the position to have troubles with it.
Your trainer might have meant to tell you not to stop working out now, because you get so many compliments, but to continue doing what you do, but it might have come across wrong. It's not what you say, but how you say it...
I work out with a personal trainer for 17 months now, one hour lessons every 2 weeks. I'm really looking forward to these sessions, as he's the one complimenting me the most. I know that every time we meet, he makes some kind of comment, be it about the weight I lost, about my hair style, about some new workout clothes, whatever. He notices every little bit and talks about it. With his words, he's motivating me to keep going, to care about how I look, and to appreciate every little change. He's not only a trainer, he's a therapist too, training not only my body but also my mind. I think that's what makes a great personal trainer, pushing and motivating you, not dragging you down!
Think about how he might have meant his words, and then decide what to do about!0 -
What an idiot! Your trainer is wrong!0
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I think men like to have a sexy lady on their arm. You belong to him and he knows it. By looking hot for him in public it let everyone else know it too. Good for you! It is goog to enjoy the attention... but not too much lol 0
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Why on earth does your trainer have a say on this?0
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From a guys perspective he may be jealous.
From a former fatty perspective he may have came across wrong but he may have been trying to say "dont let comments like those stop you from continueing". After I lost a hundred pounds alot of people told me I looked great and for about a week I considered stopping, but I havent reached my goal so I put my head down and got back in it. Ive learned to appreciate those comments but be humble, once I reach my goal then I will brag and strut
just sayin
I haven't considered stopping and still show up to the gym every day ready to "bring it"...but yeah maybe he had that thought and delivered it to me in the wrong way. Thanks for the other perspective! I just wish he hadn't made me feel really WRONG about enjoying compliments... 0 -
If you are excited about something your trainer should be encouraging you and cheering you on!! Don't listen to the negative.:flowerforyou: Congratulations on all of the compliments and your weight loss!!0
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my high school gym teacher used to say that to me as i showered0
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I wouldn't be comfortable having him as a trainer anymore. I would want someone who would uplift me, not bring me down.0
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sounds like you hit a sore spot with him. He probably had a girlfriend who was hot and she left him for someone else.
My first thoughts were "that trainer is a jerk!" and this. ^^^ But really, s/he may have simply chosen the wrong words while trying to say, "Be sure you are doing this for YOURSELF and your health b/c that's what really matters." Either way, you may want to consider hiring a new trainer.
Congratulations on your successes and on having a hubby who also appreciates your success!0 -
Enjoy the attention and kindly remind your trainer to butt out.0
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Haters gonna hate....f@ck em' ....love yourself. You have earned it!!0
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If you and your husband are both okay with it, then your trainers opinion REALLY doesn't matter Congrats on your weight loss! 0
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If you and your husband are fine with it, tell the trainer to mind his own dang business and do his job.0
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Sounds like the trainer may have had a spouse leave them for someone who lost weight and liked the attention too much.
As long as you are secure in your marriage and your husband is, there is no problem. Just remember you can look but don't touch. And I love that your husband likes it. Because that hottie is his! Other guys can look but you are going home with him.
And yes, remember that losing weight at the base is about you getting healthy. That you are doing this for YOU and not for others. But hey you can enjoy what goes with it right?
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Go Detroit!!
Take those compliments and run with them. It's further motivation to stay fit. If you enjoy the attention and your husband can feel like he's proud of who he has on his arm- your trainer is out of line!!0 -
Today I was talking to my trainer about it and how it made me feel good and he said it was wrong that I was excited and happy about those remarks and stares and that he doesn't want me to get too full of myself and that I shouldn't be working out so that I get attention from men...I'm married and shouldn't care.
Your trainer seems to have done a good job helping you with guidance on the physical work, and you should express your appreciation while also letting them know, PLAIN AND SIMPLE, that the attention you are getting is positive and healthy for your self-esteem, and they can shut the ____ up about things not related to your physical conditioning.0 -
I know everyone in here has said f the trainer....but I gotta throw this out there. Many times people get close to their goal......get content with where they are and then slack off. While I think he lacked tact, I believe the overall message the trainer was trying to give was sound. #1 - You are doing this for you....not anyone else. #2 - Don't get content. Don't take the attention as you are already there and stop putting the work in.......... Both of which I think are good messages.0
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sounds to me trainer is jealous :laugh:0
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Get a new trainer!0
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His heart is in the right place - you should be working out for YOU and not the attention of others, but there are better ways of saying.0
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He needs to stick to training!!!! That's a confidence booster and if hubby is ok with it I see no problem! Of course health should always be your main focus and that maybe what he was trying to get at..at the same time looking and feeling sexy is the benefit of a healthy lifestyle!0
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Sounds like he's a little jealous that your off limits and married! strut your stuff girly..those comments are just affirmations of all the work your putting in, Ive been enjoying a few double takes myself and for once, Im giong to revel in attention! Hands off...but look all you want!0
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Sounds like the trainer may have had a spouse leave them for someone who lost weight and liked the attention too much.
really? how did you get that from the OP??0
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