Why can't I enjoy men looking at me??

I think that is horrible. The MAIN thing that I love about this weight loss journey is how good I feel about myself. I do feel kind of strange about bragging about it to my friends (except my friend on here). But I am all about them noticing!!! :happy:

Your trainer is a d-bag. you can tell him I said so. Ditch that chump and get someone happy with your success.

i would have looked at him and said .. ya you are fired...

his job is promote your self esteem that if you are getting the good feelings just imagine how amazing it will be when you get to goal.... he should have said that is awesome.. lets get going to so more men stare at you..

I would have been royally pissed and told him to bite the big one.. wow what a jerk


I dont care if he is having a bad day, wife left him for some skinny or whatever.. when a client comes in with a succes ( and honestly.. being looked at like that after feeling so blah about yourself is a huge sucess) he should be doing backflips and **** for you....

I hate people who are negitive about your happiness.. it makes them look so little..

get rid of him and get someone who will be happy for you.. not making you feel like you didnt deserve the compliments

I have to wonder what he means by "getting full of yourself." How is getting attention going to make your workouts and losing weight worse? Seems motivating to me. I agree with others who've said that he's not your counselor. He's your trainer. His job is to make sure you get the most out of your workout.

I know that getting attention from other men is a great high. I would just say, be careful. Always let your husband's reactions be the most important of all, over the attention you get from other men. I try to remember that it's been my husband who has loved me, thick or thin. The rest is just the cherries on top.

Congrats, btw. You look fabulous!!

That was a mean thing to say. Maybe he should of found a better way to phrase what I hope he meant to say. I hope he meant that he wants you to do this for yourself and no one else.
I workout because it makes me feel good and it will help me get stronger. I love being strong.

My husband also enjoys the attention I have gotten since I started losing weight. It makes him feel like he has a hot wife and enjoys the jealousy of other men. Of course my hubby is hot also so I enjoy watching women try to "steal" him away.
Enjoy the attention.

Ask for a refund and then tell the jerk to stick it.

You Rock! Your trainer is an idiot!

What occurred to me was that s/he's afraid that if you feel content in your new body, you'll stop the training sessions, resulting in less income.
Sounds like turf protection to me.

did you hire your trainer for an opinion or an *kitten*-kicking?

if you answered *kitten*-kicking, they should stick to that, focus on the regimen, and shut the **** up.

I know everyone in here has said f the trainer....but I gotta throw this out there. Many times people get close to their goal......get content with where they are and then slack off. While I think he lacked tact, I believe the overall message the trainer was trying to give was sound. #1 - You are doing this for you....not anyone else. #2 - Don't get content. Don't take the attention as you are already there and stop putting the work in.......... Both of which I think are good messages.

Pffft who cares what your trainer thinks, he is your TRAINER not your counsellor, if your hubby is happy and your happy thats what matters. Talk to your girlfriends and you hubby and let your trainer train you lol

perfectly said.

It is nice to be the object of someone's positive attention about anything: the way you look, your personality, your kindness, your hard work. I only get annoyed when being 'hot' is the only thing that is seen or acknowledged in myself.
You are sexy, you are beautiful. We were made this way. Enjoy yourself. Don't get lost in it, don't lose focus on your health goals, but allow yourself joy for the hard work you have done.

From a guys perspective he may be jealous.

From a former fatty perspective he may have came across wrong but he may have been trying to say "dont let comments like those stop you from continueing". After I lost a hundred pounds alot of people told me I looked great and for about a week I considered stopping, but I havent reached my goal so I put my head down and got back in it. Ive learned to appreciate those comments but be humble, once I reach my goal then I will brag and strut

just sayin

This. I think this is what he meant to say. Don't start doing it for the attention. Some women don't do it for themselves.

most definitely.

I lost 100 pounds and apparently, my integrity, my compassion, my humanity, my decency, my modesty, my sense of self-respect, my manners, all semblances of being a lady and my morals as well.

Because I wear little black dresses and red lipstick and flirt and get paid compliments by strangers.

I am now going to hell.

Well I certainly don't want to be responsible for ushering anyone through the gates of Hell, so I won't tell you how really good you look, lol.

sounds like you hit a sore spot with him. He probably had a girlfriend who was hot and she left him for someone else.

Exactly what I was thinking.

LMAO