I hate to sound mean but......

If you honestly can't see the irony in saying you're not judgmental and then immediately calling someone "repulsive", then I don't think anyone is going to be able to explain it to you.

Yes, exactly.

I don't think some of the people are being fair on the OP - she may genuinely want to help her.

I wonder if it would be different if she was taking drugs are was drinking too much. I'd want to help

I'd be inclined to say something lighthearted and empathetic like "Oh McDonalds are so hard to resist aren't they - the only way I could stop was to cut them out completely" and see what she says. If she says "Yeah Ive been meaning to cut down" you have an opening

If she says "I dont want to stop as I love 'em so much" then never bring it up again

I do!!! I didnt even mention the every hour cigarette breaks she takes and the five minutes it takes her to get to the elevator! I honestly feel bad and I would want someone to help motivate and support me.

This is not your friend, your family, or someone you are close to. She has not reached out to you for help. You are the one here with a problem.

If you honestly can't see the irony in saying you're not judgmental and then immediately calling someone "repulsive", then I don't think anyone is going to be able to explain it to you.

Yes, exactly.

wow, this is the best of the bunch on simple, direct responses. I quite agree, there are somethings that can't be explained to others unless they truly are open to hear the words, and I'm not talking about your co-worker here.:frown:

I don't think some of the people are being fair on the OP - she may genuinely want to help her.

I wonder if it would be different if she was taking drugs are was drinking too much. I'd want to help

I'd be inclined to say something lighthearted and empathetic like "Oh McDonalds are so hard to resist aren't they - the only way I could stop was to cut them out completely" and see what she says. If she says "Yeah Ive been meaning to cut down" you have an opening

If she says "I dont want to stop as I love 'em so much" then never bring it up again

I do!!! I didnt even mention the every hour cigarette breaks she takes and the five minutes it takes her to get to the elevator! I honestly feel bad and I would want someone to help motivate and support me.

Fo-Get YOU...YOU Still do NOT Get IT! ONE Day YOU WILL! And it will be HARD and Embarrassing!

Maybe all she needs is someone to invite her to go for a walk at lunch, it may only be a short walk but that just might be the nudge she needs. I used to be that person to fast food all meals and some. But because someone started asking me to go for a walk at lunch its now what I do everyday and i have that one person to thank for it.
just sayin

I think many people on here will attest, that although that kind of eating is a large part of why I/we got fat, there are a whole lot of other things going on, and my eating habits, although bad, were a side effect of the many other issues going on in my life and head. And if you were to say anything to me, especially without us having any kind of relationship or trust that would allow for that kind of honesty, it would hurt me deeply, and if it changed my behavior at all, it would have been temporary, and more than likely, I just would have ate worse, but added to my problems by now feeling like I need to hide it even more.

I think you may be genuine in some of your concerns, but don't seem to have relationship, or understanding and tolerance it would take to be that friend for her, and I would leave her alone, be nice to her, work on your own goals, and like someone on here said, maybe some day she'll come to you and ask what you do to lose weight and you can share.

and I agree with everybody else, "I hate to sound mean but.." means you already know it sounds mean, and it most likely is, and says you're going to do it anyway. I need a lot of help in my journey, and have a lot still to work on, but based on that phrase you used alone, I don't feel like you could ever give that support and help to me that I need. That said, I also think you brought it before this group, because you were looking for feedback, and someone to give you a solution or reign you in, and that's awesome that you would seek advice in a possibly questionable dilemna, and I applaud you and hope I and others haven't judged you to quickly or harshly, as one post is truely not enough to get to know anybody, much less judge them. So my reactions are to the words said, I'm sure you are a great person and wish you great things in reaching and maintaining your own weight and fitness goals.

Why would you post something about your overweight coworker when you are overweight yourself? Concentrate on your own weight. You don't have a clue if she has medical problems, nor have you walked a day in her shoes. Your post comes off as very mean spirited.

Yes I do know that she has medical issues because she has said something to me about it before. And Im not trying to be mean at all!!!

I guess If I ever see her ready to jump of a bridge I should just mind my business then too.

Maybe Ill send some flowers to the funeral and let the family know I let it happen.

You people wouldbe surprised on what the smallest amount of impact can make on a person!

Good Day People!

Ask yourself: "if my coworker saw my original post in this thread, would her feelings be hurt?" I'd be willing to bet it's a resounding YES!!!! That does make it kind of mean...

I disagree. Asking a internet fitness community what they would do when faced with a situation of a co-worker literally eating themselves into sickness doesn't seem mean to me. Though many of the replies have certainly been mean.

You would be pleased, then, if you were the overweight coworker to find a great fitness site, and then read the board and see that your coworker had written this about you? You would be happy. No hurt feelings? Surely you jest...or lack the empathic feelings it requires to put yourself into that person's shoes.

The coworker probably doesn't want her "dirty laundry" aired all over the internet by some person she feels obliged to say good morning to every day.

Why would you post something about your overweight coworker when you are overweight yourself? Concentrate on your own weight. You don't have a clue if she has medical problems, nor have you walked a day in her shoes. Your post comes off as very mean spirited.

Yes I do know that she has medical issues because she has said something to me about it before. And Im not trying to be mean at all!!!

I guess If I ever see her ready to jump of a bridge I should just mind my business then too.

Maybe Ill send some flowers to the funeral and let the family know I let it happen.

You people wouldbe surprised on what the smallest amount of impact can make on a person!

Good Day People!

Let me put it in a context you might better understand. I am no longer overweight. I am at my goal weight and a clean eater. Let's say that YOU are my coworker. How would you feel if I made this same post about YOU? Listing what you ate for others to see? Telling people how disgusted I am because you are 40 pounds overweight and are obese?

aweful

Jesus Christ. You know that little red line that shows up under your words when you misspell them?

Honestly, you shouldn't be spending so much time thinking about somebody's else's failures.

I had a co-worker who would offer me some fruit at lunch time. At the time, I didn't take it. My peanut butter cups held more interest at the time, but I DID NOT FORGET HER PLEASANT ATTITUDE AND KIND GENEROUSITY!

When I was super overweight and depressed my mom used to bribe me to go for a walk with her by suggesting that we should go "window shopping" in the evenings. We'd walk downtown (past the ocean- beautiful!) and browse in the windows every night. After a few weeks I wanted to do more walking than browsing. Clever!