When You Cry... They Win. Stop.

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  • aftergypsies
    aftergypsies Posts: 248 Member
    This is especially true when "they" are total strangers. I've seen people get so offended and insane over what strangers say to them on the internet. It's kind of funny.
  • CoCoBean14
    CoCoBean14 Posts: 107 Member
    To everyone saying "it's not possible all the time"

    NO KIDDING!

    It's just a great ideal to strive for. The more you believe it the easier it gets!

    I answer 911 calls, so you bet I've been called almost every name in the book. Cursed at, called a terrible person, etc etc etc.

    What I realized is that it is not personal. If it wasn't me they were yelling at, it would be someone else. And I think that can be applied to life in general.
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  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    Then why you crying about people crying on these forums?

    Follow your own advice brah...please don't cry about this too

    I'm not your brah.

    Next.

    Brah's not even a real word. I'm surprised you didn't go that route GC haha
    But seriously, that word annoys the hell out of me.
    GC
    hmmm...thought that was a fancy way to spell "bra"...like french or something. GC is certinaly not a women's garment..although he may wish to be...I don't know him very well!

    Not so much.
  • CoCoBean14
    CoCoBean14 Posts: 107 Member
    GC
    hmmm...thought that was a fancy way to spell "bra"...like french or something. GC is certinaly not a women's garment..although he may wish to be...I don't know him very well!

    Not so much.

    LOL that's not even where I was going with that, although that thought is very funny

    I meant instead of saying "I'm not your brah" I figured he would've said something about his choice of words, you know, GC being a grammar nazi and all :)
  • krikit_lo
    krikit_lo Posts: 31 Member
    hilarious, and 100% right
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
    ^^^Isn't that the truth, or Oprah for that matter

    Sho3girl, you are welcome

    Don't you kinda wonder what Sho3girl is looking at in that picture. That could be it's own string.

    Yes!! What is it you are looking at girly?

    OMG just read this you guys are so funny .... re what i'm look at answers on postcard :wink:
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    ^^^Isn't that the truth, or Oprah for that matter

    Sho3girl, you are welcome

    Don't you kinda wonder what Sho3girl is looking at in that picture. That could be it's own string.

    Yes!! What is it you are looking at girly?

    OMG just read this you guys are so funny .... re what i'm look at answers on postcard :wink:

    I was going to start a string with your picture called "Guess what Sho3girl is Looking at."

    However, 98% of the male responses would be "balls," and the mods would shut it down within 20 minutes.
  • PayneAS
    PayneAS Posts: 669 Member

    You know, that's always bothered me too... because being a teacher, I'm a bit of a grammar nerd as well. (However, don't judge me by any of the things I write with a smartphone or touch screen.. auto-correct likes to make me look like an idiot!)

    The first thing I do when I get a new phone is turn off auto-correct. Then laugh at all my friends when they don't and send me funny messages. (Or read www.d*mnyouautocorrect.com -replace star with proper letter of course- for my daily laugh). Don't be a victim! Turn it off! :)
  • loneworg
    loneworg Posts: 342 Member
    I am still working on my self mentally. In the last couple of years I have been able to go swimming with my shirt off (which I feel is a huge accomplishment for me). Anyway I fully agree with the OP and like other have said it is easier said then done. I am trying though and its really hard due to my Anxiety.
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    Sadly, the mods took the best part of my original post out. In mod we trust.
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
    ^^^Isn't that the truth, or Oprah for that matter

    Sho3girl, you are welcome

    Don't you kinda wonder what Sho3girl is looking at in that picture. That could be it's own string.



    Yes!! What is it you are looking at girly?

    OMG just read this you guys are so funny .... re what i'm look at answers on postcard :wink:

    I was going to start a string with your picture called "Guess what Sho3girl is Looking at."

    However, 98% of the male responses would be "balls," and the mods would shut it down within 20 minutes.

    really wouldn't want you getting into MORE trouble :wink:
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    ^^^Isn't that the truth, or Oprah for that matter

    Sho3girl, you are welcome

    Don't you kinda wonder what Sho3girl is looking at in that picture. That could be it's own string.



    Yes!! What is it you are looking at girly?

    OMG just read this you guys are so funny .... re what i'm look at answers on postcard :wink:

    I was going to start a string with your picture called "Guess what Sho3girl is Looking at."

    However, 98% of the male responses would be "balls," and the mods would shut it down within 20 minutes.

    really wouldn't want you getting into MORE trouble :wink:

    I'm totally gonna be grounded.
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    This string died the second a moderator removed the best part of the original post. Thank God it was sanitized for everyone's protection. Idiots.
  • garnetsms
    garnetsms Posts: 10,018 Member
    What WERE they thinking?
  • garnetsms
    garnetsms Posts: 10,018 Member
    They must have been on a roll last week, what is up with that?
  • rainingfrogs
    rainingfrogs Posts: 7
    I love this post. Thank you.
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    What WERE they thinking?

    Clearly, they hate awesomeness. That's the only possible explanation.
  • garnetsms
    garnetsms Posts: 10,018 Member
    Maybe they should let you be one of the MODs
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    Maybe they should let you be one of the MODs

    No. I'm already hated enough.
  • foxyforce
    foxyforce Posts: 3,078 Member
    i like you're competitive spirit.
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    i like you're competitive spirit.

    Them's fightin' words. (Puns rule)
  • bekihughes
    bekihughes Posts: 59
    Thank you! This can be me sometimes! Going to write this and put it on my fridge so it stares me in the face!
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
    Ok, tough-love time...

    I've seen string-after-string of "whining" and "crying" about the things other people say.

    Examples:
    - "They insulted me."
    - "They hurt my feelings."
    - "They made me sad."

    Here's a few steps to help some of you guys with the crushing things other people say...

    Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what other people think.
    Step 2: Repeat Step 1.

    Now I have no doubt, a handful of people will be morally outraged by what I just typed.
    Please reference Steps 1 through 2.

    (I'm sure a few of you have seen me post that on other strings)

    When you get "offended," "hurt," "insulted" and "morally outraged," you've already lost the battle, because you granted the other party all the power before you even got started. When you run to your blog or forum to e-whine about how "that big mean person made you saddy-sad," they win. And you helped them to do it.


    - When you cry, they win.
    - When you're "emotionally devastated," you give them all the power.
    - When you're the "victim," you make them the "victor."

    Don't let them win.

    Yeah, but when you insinuate I'm like a 14 year old girl, a starving child in Africa dies.
  • tlamarch
    tlamarch Posts: 105
    Ok, tough-love time...

    I've seen string-after-string of "whining" and "crying" about the things other people say.

    Examples:
    - "They insulted me."
    - "They hurt my feelings."
    - "They made me sad."

    Here's a few steps to help some of you guys with the crushing things other people say...

    Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what other people think.
    Step 2: Repeat Step 1.

    Now I have no doubt, a handful of people will be morally outraged by what I just typed.
    Please reference Steps 1 through 2.

    (I'm sure a few of you have seen me post that on other strings)

    When you get "offended," "hurt," "insulted" and "morally outraged," you've already lost the battle, because you granted the other party all the power before you even got started. When you run to your blog or forum to e-whine about how "that big mean person made you saddy-sad," they win. And you helped them to do it.


    - When you cry, they win.
    - When you're "emotionally devastated," you give them all the power.
    - When you're the "victim," you make them the "victor."

    Don't let them win.

    Amen, I love this post
  • bikinibeliever
    bikinibeliever Posts: 832 Member
    Can I box you up and send you to a friend of mine???? :flowerforyou:
  • amykins68
    amykins68 Posts: 30 Member
    This is fantastic! Thanks so much!
  • MustangCindy67
    MustangCindy67 Posts: 91 Member
    yup that is about all of of it.....thanks for the reminder.....I should put this on a memo and post in my car before I go to work some days..... on my days off I dont give a flying frig...like today haha..... again thnx...
  • CajunNino
    CajunNino Posts: 269
    I agree with the original post. If everyone could have self-confidence that would be great. But some do not and I think it runs deeper than weight issues. I never cared what "society" thought about me, even at my heaviest. I think you have to have a bit of self-righteousness in you to truly not care about what is said. I do, and I'm fine with that.

    It's very easy to not care about what "people" think if you don't love them. That is the key. If you don't care what ANYBODY thinks then you can't possibly love and respect someone. You CARE about what the people you love and respect think of you - it's human nature and y'all are not all narcissistic. But of course, we are all making blanket statements about people and society in general. Yeah, who cares what THEY think?
  • gchutson
    gchutson Posts: 657
    I agree with the original post. If everyone could have self-confidence that would be great. But some do not and I think it runs deeper than weight issues. I never cared what "society" thought about me, even at my heaviest. I think you have to have a bit of self-righteousness in you to truly not care about what is said. I do, and I'm fine with that.

    It's very easy to not care about what "people" think if you don't love them. That is the key. If you don't care what ANYBODY thinks then you can't possibly love and respect someone. You CARE about what the people you love and respect think of you - it's human nature and y'all are not all narcissistic. But of course, we are all making blanket statements about people and society in general. Yeah, who cares what THEY think?

    Not true. I love my wife more than anything in the world, literally. However, she thinks I should put the toilet seat down. I'm yet to really care. ;)

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