What is your most embarrassing "fat" moment in your life?
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My worst one was when I was dress shopping for my brothers wedding at lane bryant. I refused to accept that I was really too big for their clothes anymore. I kept trying to squeeze myself into the size 28s. I actually got stuck IN a dress. I pulled it up over my head and it just wouldnt go any farther. I pulled it back down and tried going down over my hips.... even less of a chance. So back over my head it went. It just wouldnt budge. my arms stuck up in the air.... I just cried. I finally had to ask for help from the sales lady to get out.
Here is my "private" embarrassment: Same story for me... went on a lunch break with some work friends to the mall and found this really cute dress in "my size"... dressing room slip it on , see that it doesn't fit "just so" ... wiggle wiggle, sweat, gasp... omg... omg... I'm STUCK! deep breath. I can do this... it got on me. I can surely get it off of me. Gentle, Gentle... UGH!!!!!!!!!! it's like I swelled from it. Finally ended up just pushing it up and up and even though it hurt I didn't quit until it was over my head and I was panting and just about in tears. Devastating.
This is a more "public" embarrassment: My friend (size 4 MAYBE) had a son who was 5 yrs old and they came to my house to visit and as I'm putting dishes on the table getting ready for dinner he comes over and says something to me I can hardly understand... I ask him "what honey?" he says it again.... I say, "one more time." he says clearer- Your butt is big. I DIE ON THE INSIDE and smile at him and say "you're right, it is big" Not 2 weeks later another friend's daughter says the same thing. I love the innocence of children and can't blame them for speaking the truth.... it just feels like a mega slap in the face and then the first child was asked to write an apology letter to me by his mom.... Yes, yes, let's dwell on this a little longer. MORTIFYING0 -
"At Work"
I walked into the office of my companies CFO! (Chief Financial Officer)
"Oh...oh my gosh. No one told me. When are you due?"
Calmly, I said, "Oh, I'm not! Just haven't gotten rid of the rest of my baby weight!"
You handles that so eloquently! Good for you. I'm sure she feels way worse.0 -
pretty much just living0
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When I got stuck in a blazer in Express. I was crying and sweating trying to get out. Not to mention my 8 year old was in the stall with me trying her hardest not to laugh. When I came out the sales girl asked "Did everything Fit OK" to which my 8 year old replied "Absolutley not my mom has to lose some weight so she can stop crying"...That was the same day I sat in the mall parking lot and found the MFP app for my phone!0
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Over hearing to guys in a gym point to a group of over weight ladies (all similar to my body type and mass) and one saying -
"That's the kind of woman you have to roll in flour to find the wet spot"
That is the rudest comment I've ever heard.0 -
A few years ago, my boyfriend asked me to go to a co-workers bbq with him. I was sitting at a table a few rows away from a small group of people and apparently one of the girls in the group at significantly more than the other people in her group. Someone in the group said something to her about the amount of food she had eaten when she yelled, "Well at least I don't look like that!" referring to me. I was not only hurt and embarrassed, I was totally mortified.0
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Over hearing to guys in a gym point to a group of over weight ladies (all similar to my body type and mass) and one saying -
"That's the kind of woman you have to roll in flour to find the wet spot"
That is the rudest comment I've ever heard.
OMG! That's really the worst thing I've ever heard!0 -
This was actually the reason I put an end to my overweight and started working out. I am still overweight but not as much and I am doing something about it. This is the story in my profile.
This journey started in 2011. I went to Kings Island with some friends and there was a ride there that we stood in line for for over an hour. It is one that you sit down on and buckle up and than it raises up and spins you around and it feels like you are going to pummel in the concrete. The ride seats about 30 people. My friends and I got on it and as the people working there was walking around checking everyone and their chest belts and seat belts there were two employees trying to get me buckled in. Needless to say, they could not get me buckled. I had to get off the ride. In front of everyone there, in front of everyone on the ride and in front of everyone standing outside watching. I was so embarrassed. The one comment that I will never forget was the one made by a woman who said as I walked past her, "he met the height requirement but exceeded the weight limit." Yeah that one stuck...0 -
every single time my boyfriend tries and fails to pick me up is a little embarrassing. i always sadly say "sorry, we both need to go to the gym for awhile longer before that can happen."pretty much just living
and this one.0 -
I went with my sister and her family on a picnic in the mountains by a river, I got in the river with her boys and we were playing around and when I got out my brother in law was like "You played in the water too?" And I was like "Yeah!
" And he said... "Oh I was wondering why the river line rose so much". Luckily, the kids were too young to understand he was saying I was so fat I raised the water level, but it was still horrifying, and that was when I weighed 180, something I wish I weighed now...Really stupid thing was he was overweight, too. 0 -
There are SO many. I've been asked if I'm pregnant. I've been asked when I'm due. I had a baby shower to go to a couple weeks ago and was buying some baby stuff as a gift, and the cashier asked if we had a new baby. I also had a husband (had being the keyword) who would BEEP as I was backing up in the store (and told me I was so fat no one else would ever love me - so I left him for a guy who at the time was just a friend but made me really believe I deserved better).
The two most recent ones that really were terrible, though?
One, I work a weekend every year running a video camera for the state board of horse racing in case they need to review a finish, and I have to climb up a ladder and in a tiny little booth - my *kitten* barely fit through the cutout in the floor to get into the booth.
The second, we went to dinner at a new restaurant and my fat was cut in half by the table. I felt so uncomfortable and embarrassed, it was terrible!
The thing I hate worst, though? The nurses in the doctor's office having to get the fat-girl cuff to check my blood pressure.0 -
Gosh....I have had so many.
I have a non-pregnant memory that sticks out. I was around 250lbs and before I became pregnant I carried the majority of my weight in my stomach. I was a big ole apple. Me and my hubby were at Magic Mountain. He insisted we go on the Superman Escapes ride (a ride I don't much care for) and I couldn't get my lap bar to snap. I started frantically telling him and I heard the ride operators (two of them ... one a skinny girl I might add) telling people that they need to strap in. My hubby heroically starts to say he doesn't want to ride anymore so they unbuckle him and we left. It was the first time in my entire life I could not strap into a ride.....
When I was pregnant I, at first lost 25 pounds from throwing up so much lol, and then I skyrocketed to 275lbs. I was bloated, swollen, and constantly in bed. But the most memorable moment (besides my doctor inducing me 2 weeks early because he thought my son would be a 10lb baby....he was 7 pounds 2 oz on a petite frame......cough....) was when I asked to receive my epidural. The man was in a rush to get home (it was in the middle of the night) and he kept telling me how I was probably too fat to receive the drugs. I was freaking. I was alone (because they kicked my hubby out of the room) and I was afraid things would start hurting. He said, "If I can't get it through your fat back this last time I am not trying anymore. You clearly have too much flesh." An 18-hour labor and a c-section later....that moment was the only thing that actually hurt me....0 -
I was recently in a wedding, and I climbed into the stretch escalade, and when I sat down on the seat the whole thing shook to one side, and one of the guys yelled loud WHHHOOAAAHHHH!!! I was so embarrased, I almost cried!0
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When I asked a fat girl when she was due when she wasnt even pregnant. Lesson learned.
Mine is similar - when someone asked ME if I was pregnant!
Kind of the same story for me too. I was at Lollapalooza and drinking a beer. I walked up to a guy handing out schedules to get one. He smugly said, "Oh and one for him too?" looking at my tummy. Clearly he was disapproving of my alleged drinking while pregnant but I wasn't.... The worst part is that at first I didn't even understand what he was getting at but then it clicked and I had to go stand in a port-a-potty to compose myself.0 -
I know this is totally stupid I still remember this but when I was in the lunch line in the third grade the little girl behind me
said Claudia thinks your fat. I guess that was about 50 years ago.0 -
Aren't all 'fat' moment's embarassing?0
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While standing talking to neighbours at a neighbourhood fair our two sons walked by. The woman commented on how they'd grown so tall. My husband and i are both very tall and fairly big. She then asked "Where do they get their skinny genes from?" The other couple that were standing their just dropped their jaws. I wasn't sure whether to punch her in the throat or cry. No one said anything and she eventually walked away.
That same summer I was volunteering at soccer and a teenie, tiny woman offered to carry the box I was carrying. I couldn't figure out why (as I'm a big, strong woman). It wasn't until later that I realised that she thought I was pregnant and shouldn't be lifting heavy things.
Ever since then I've been on my journey of health and fitness. I'm sure she still thinks I'm fat but I no longer care.0 -
I was at a meeting for all of the native American youth development leaders in Suriname. The had out tons of the cheap plastic lawn chairs that are the most common furniture in developing countries. It was extremely hot, I had only been studying Dutch for a few months (the whole session was in Dutch), and so I feel asleep and when I leaned backwards the legs on the chair broke. Made a huge noise, and I am rolling around on the ground trying to get out of the remenants of the chair.
Okay, that was embarrassing.
But, to be fair, I saw at least a dozen people break the legs off the chairs in my three years in Suriname, so it isn't that unexpected.0 -
Oh, these are all so horrible. It hurts my heart to read them...but I completely understand.
Last summer, I had to go to the ER - I had hurt my ankle. Get through the triage process, and the tiny little nurse goes to the wheelchairs to get one for me. She stops, looks at the normal sized wheel-chair, shakes her head, and picks the super-sized wheelchair and brings it over. I wanted to throw up...totally crushed me.0 -
I have loads but 3 really stick out...
1. I had to have a medical procedure and the Doctors had to refer me to a special hospital because my BMI was so high that I was considered a risk to go under anaesthetic.
2. When I was at school, considering I was fat I wasn't particularly uncool, I always had friends etc. One say I was with a friend of mine and she was on her mobile... I heard the person ask 'who you with'... without blinking and whilst walking beside me she said 'oh, Fat Hayley'. Didn't even realised what she had said... this was my best friend for years.
3. Some particular kid at school took a dislike to me one day and actually followed me home calling me fat related names whilst throwing huge chunks of house brick at my head. I remember just carrying on walking while blood dripped down my face...saw him a few months ago in our mall and I STILL feel the rage. The only thing that makes me smile is hearing on the grapevine that he a total loser who is on drugs now and in and out of jail.0 -
When I pick my kids up from thier dads everyother weekend, we would go get a cup of ice cream from Dairy Queen before heading home.
One day, the gal (who couldn't have been over 16 and I had no idea who she was) said the debit card machine wasn't working. And I told her ok, I'd pay with cash, and she was flustered and said, "Oh, your here all the time anyways...it's ok, this one's on us"...I pulled away from the drive thru window, chucked out my sundae cup of vanilla ice cream, a whole whopping maybe 300 calories, and cried the whole way home.
My children (who are 6 and 5) were in the back seat confused, because what used to be a fun thing, now makes mommy cry. They were scared and didn't know what to think or say. My youngest started to cry because I was crying, and didn't know why she was crying. So I cried harder for making my daughter cry, it was horrible by the time we quit crying and I explained to my girls that mommy was just sad there was a bug in her ice cream. They were fine. But I will never be.
That in it's self is a complex that will never leave my brain.
The girl behind the window will never know what happened that day, but I kind of thank her for it. I guess. It's fuel for the fire anyway.0 -
The year after I had my son I gained 60 lbs and at my annual check up my doctor kept looking at my chart and then said "I thought maybe we recorded your weight wrong at your post delivery appointment but it seems that we didnt. How were you able to gain so much weight in 1 year?" And it still took me 4 years after that to get how big I really had become.0
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Several years ago I went on a date with a guy and things seemed to go okay and he seemed interested so we went on another date a little later and decided to watch a movie at his place.
We talked and had a good time but then I didn't really hear from him.
So I IMed him and asked him what was going on. I was just making casual conversation.
He rudely, told me straight out.. "Honestly, I am not trying to be shallow but it bothered me that we couldn't comfortably fit on the couch together". He was implying I was so fat that we couldn't fit. He then went on to say how he works out several times a week and my arms were still bigger then his.
I cried and cried and cried and then started my diet.
I wouldn't even look twice at that a** now.0 -
when i was younger probably about 13/14 and i was chubby at school and very low in confidence. I had a crush on a girl in my Spanish class, and i told her friend that i liked her. And she went across the room to tell the girl i liked, to which she shouted out 'euuurgghh as if i would go out with you' in front of the whole class! really hurt me and stuck with me for years. Funny thing was i saw the same girl i had the crush on at my local gym a few months ago, and she almost didnt recognise me, she was quite complimentary and flirty with me, i thanked her for her advances and then said no thanks!
Also many times at school being bullied from about 13-16 years old, the constant jibes and name calling by certain kids.
Really sticks with you and still does today for me, even ten years later
So sorry for all the pain you suffered.But you showed them, because you are one fine looking young man. Kudo's to you!
Wow! Thankyou for that, i appreciate it
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OMG - All of these posts hit so close to home for me. Everyone on here is so awesome for sharing and being so open. I too have had about 100 million, some of which, I am not going to share because it's too personal or humiliating. I've gotten stuck in dresses - actually ripped one to shreds trying to get out of one once - it was humiliating. I got stuck in a desk in college once. Sat there a good 20 minutes after class till everyone was gone so I could escape. In high school, I had to do a presentation in class (which I hated) and went to get up and my stomach got stuck and the desk lifted with me. OMG I thought I would die....Everyone saw and laughed. I went to a concert a couple years ago with my husband and I barely fit in the seat next to him. I could feel the fat of my hips seeping into his seat... I couldn't even put my arms down at my sides and I know he noticed and just didn't say anything to be polite. Ugh. When I was in Elementary school - the guy I liked called me a sumo wrestler and a refrigerator ( I guess he meant I was the size of one) in front of the whole class. Joy. Pictures of me always conjure up humiliation too. Realizing I weigh more than my husband (who must think I weigh much less than him). Another time, back at an old job, my boss, who was a short, skinny older guy who joked around all the time, picked up a blue blazer (part of all of the office staff's uniform) and started stomping around the office in it, making booming sounds and acting like godzilla, all the while saying how giant it was. I realized it was mine and said, hey, that's mine. He looked shocked and burst out laughing until he was literally in tears, saying he thought it belonged to this other guy in the office who's really heavy. I was mortified. I also had a fun time at a high school dance. I went shopping with some friends and bought the biggest dress I could find in the stores we went to. I got it home and realized I could get into it, but the zipper wouldn't go all the way up my back fat. I cried, and then said, oh well, I have to make it work, so I tucked in the back flaps of the unzipped dress, and wore a cardigan over the top so no one would see. At the dance, I went to take my jacket off and realized the back of the cardigan was caught on my jacket. My friend tried to help me, but ended up lifting the back of my cardigan up and like 30 people in line saw my back busting out of the dress and started laughing and going ew... I heard them all whispering about me. I wanted to die. Ok, that's enough fun for now...1
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Wow... after reading so many of these, it was like getting slapped in the face.
I have had the being the only girl not picked up at the bar thing too...and you sit there trying to look like you don't care.
I have had the big girl BP cuff too
I have had to get the seat belt extender for a plane ride
I have run across the street wearing shorts and heard what sounded like clapping but it was actually thighs slapping together
Fortunately I hate roller coasters and I carry my weight more inmy butt than my belly so I don't look pregnant0 -
Several years ago I went on a date with a guy and things seemed to go okay and he seemed interested so we went on another date a little later and decided to watch a movie at his place.
We talked and had a good time but then I didn't really hear from him.
So I IMed him and asked him what was going on. I was just making casual conversation.
He rudely, told me straight out.. "Honestly, I am not trying to be shallow but it bothered me that we couldn't comfortably fit on the couch together". He was implying I was so fat that we couldn't fit. He then went on to say how he works out several times a week and my arms were still bigger then his.
I cried and cried and cried and then started my diet.
I wouldn't even look twice at that a** now.
Eugh. Men.
I would have used those 'big arms' to knock him out!0 -
The thing I hate worst, though? The nurses in the doctor's office having to get the fat-girl cuff to check my blood pressure.
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^^^ This. Uggh, I forgot about my fat moments until I've been reading all of these posts. When I give plasma they ask for the big cuff.
Also the Red Cross had a blood drive at my job. The seats that they bring with them hold a maximum of 350 lbs. I think I weighed 355 pounds or something. When I told her that I wasn't able to go any further. I wasn't able to give blood because I was too big. SMH.0 -
I have had the being the only girl not picked up at the bar thing too...and you sit there trying to look like you don't care.
I don't do bars, but I've had the opposite - complete creeps who flirt with you because no one else is, assuming it's easy to flatter you and get in your pants. Ugh.0 -
This was more of a personal disappointment rather than embarrassing. To be embarrassed you have to hold someone else's opinion pretty high, and for the most part I am not affected by other people's opinions. If an idiot were to call me fat, I would just consider the source of the comment. Its true, I am FAT. But it bothers me more about my personal journey instead of being bothered by what others think.
In my late 40's my doc suggested I get a stress test. They would do two tests. One on a treadmill (I dreaded the thought) and the other is a radioactive dye they inject and then take an x-ray. When I arrived for the test I had to get on a scale. That's when they told me since I was over 250 lbs they would have to conduct the dye test in two parts, one that day and one the next day. Something about it being dangerous to use enough radioactive stuff to get a good result in someone over 250. I've hovered at that 245-255 weight ever since, but it really was wake-up call that my heft was causing me other problems.
Now I'm once again trying to do something about it, and so far this is the best start I've had and I feel optimistic about my chances of sticking with it and actually achieving my goal of being under 200 again.0
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