Things you shouldn't say to someone "on a diet?"

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  • MooMooooo
    MooMooooo Posts: 306 Member
    The only person who knows I'm dieting is my husband - and he has said some pretty annoying things (he is obese fyi)

    Things like "You don't need to eat less, you just need to get up and jog in the mornings"

    He also gives advice to other's like "Buy a scale that measures bf%" (How will that help pray -tell?)

    No one has noticed my weightloss - it's only 11lbs - so I haven't had to 'explain' myself. I also eat calorie laden junk food at every social event so it's impossible for my friends to have any clue. (I save my calories + I NEVER eat junk at home or at any other time)

    When (and if) they ever ask I will give credit to my C25K and the 30 day shred. :heart:
  • chanson104
    chanson104 Posts: 859
    When (and if) they ever ask I will give credit to my C25K and the 30 day shred. :heart:
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    Those are two of the things that I always give credit to, too!
  • coderedd
    coderedd Posts: 7
    Giving unsolicited advice about watching carbs calories calories from fat etc
  • coderedd
    coderedd Posts: 7
    My mother does weird things.. Any time I'm hesitant to eat much, or eat healthy food, or try to exercise I get the "hahaha! Are you on a diet? Are you trying to lose weight"?"
    Any time I have a less healthy snack or lay around the house I get a "you really should eat healthier. How many calories are in that? Get up and go exercise or something."
    I'm confused. Do you, or do you not want me to be healthy, mom. Make up your mind. D:

    But then yeah. The tempting boyfriend. It's really hard because we go out to eat a bunch because we both just really LOVE food.

    OMG you just wrote my life story lol. except its my step-dad majority of the time..
    but every time he notices im eating extra healthy he has something to say because as he would say, i had 'anorexic tendencies' when i was younger. And when im eating something not necessarily the best for you. He would look at me eat and be like 'so you gonna eat all that, and your gonna be big as a house." confused much?

    Also, my boyfriend is like a human food disposal. I have to keep water and a healthy snack on me whenever im around so i won't over eat while im with him.

    But basically, i can never eat healthy without people around me wondering if i have an eating disorder
    And i can't have a treat without people thinking i'm a failure. It makes me a little more self-conscious and aggravated.
  • amortize20
    amortize20 Posts: 62 Member
    You've lost a bit too much weight.

    This from some over weight colleague/s who have been dieting for the 6 years i've worked here.

    oh, and my wife telling people i'm anorexic, just for a laugh.
  • kooky_kiz
    kooky_kiz Posts: 22 Member
    my neighbour and i were discussing that we both had 20 kilos to lose and she was telling me she was walking twice a day and only eating salads, I offered her a bunch of bananas as we grow them and she told me I shouldn't eat bananas because they are fattening! like WTF then she procecced to tell me watermelon is also fattening. 6 months later she still has 17 kmilos to lose while i have 8?
  • Natashaa1991
    Natashaa1991 Posts: 866 Member
    I'm trying to eat healthy and drink a lot of water just to be healthy, not necessarily lose weight. But i hate it when someone says "oh you're sooo skiny, why are you eating a salad?"
    hello, don't be so ignorant.
  • EmpathyBot
    EmpathyBot Posts: 78 Member
    "You don't need to count calories, or watch what you eat. Just do roller-derby, and have lots of sex like I do!"

    -.-;

    I can't rollerblade, and if I eat whatever I want, without counting, I could easily just gain all the weight back, irregardless of how much I work out.
  • denisebme
    denisebme Posts: 103 Member
    The worst one I got recently went something like this- I love Skinny Cow Ice cream, and at 100 calories, I fit it in any days I work real hard. It's a great, guilt free treat.
    Last week, as I was enjoying my treat, an old co-worker of my husbands stopped by. My husband is very proud of me for exercising and losing weight, so of course, he knew I was "dieting"

    Him: I thought you were dieting, whats up with the Ice Cream?
    Me: (nicely) It's a treat, and its Skinny Cow, it's..
    Him: (interrupting me) It's ice cream, thats like the worst thing for you when you're dieting.
    Me: (I decided to just keep my mouth shut at this point, I wanted to say some things I really shouldn't)

    Him: (he launches into a story about how he "used to be" a weight lifter, so he knows a LOT about weight control)

    Me: (I didn't say anything, just looked at his 100+ pounds of overweight self in disbelief)

    Him: (the beautiful ending to his diatribe) He looked at me, very seriously, and said "My ex-wife used to try to lose weight by eating Ice Cream too, thats why I divorced her fat a****"

    Me: "I may have some weight to lose, but your kind of ugly is permanent. Now, get the ____ out of my house"

    My husband has been informed that this man better never walk in my door again.. if he does, my newest exercise will be batting practice!
  • HollyRutledge
    HollyRutledge Posts: 250 Member
    Last week was my 21st birthday and I was celebrating it with my fiance and his family. His mother is the nicest person I know and she knows I've been eating less and been on a "diet", so she asked me what kinda of cake i wanted for my birthday. I told her a mini one lol. So she did! It was only 6 inches in diameter and it was a pretty healthy cake, as far at they could go. There wasn't any frosting, just some light whipped cream and fresh cut up strawberries. I planned on sharing it at my birthday part with my fiance, who would eat half of it anyway. After I got my cake though my future sister-in-law said "Wow, a whole cake to yourself!?" Then make some pig noises afterward. That made me feel pretty bad after so I had a very small piece, maybe a slice that was 12% of the cake, if that. My fiance still had half of it.

    Needless to say, if it's someone's birthday or special occasion and they seem like they deserve a treat, don't make fun of them even if you're joking.It can really hurt someones feelings.


    You have an AWESOME future MIL...and as for the SIL and all those others....
    Haters gon hate...........they are just jealous of how utterly HAWT you (and all of us others here) are becoming!!!!:drinker:
  • HollyRutledge
    HollyRutledge Posts: 250 Member
    The worst one I got recently went something like this- I love Skinny Cow Ice cream, and at 100 calories, I fit it in any days I work real hard. It's a great, guilt free treat.
    Last week, as I was enjoying my treat, an old co-worker of my husbands stopped by. My husband is very proud of me for exercising and losing weight, so of course, he knew I was "dieting"

    Him: I thought you were dieting, whats up with the Ice Cream?
    Me: (nicely) It's a treat, and its Skinny Cow, it's..
    Him: (interrupting me) It's ice cream, thats like the worst thing for you when you're dieting.
    Me: (I decided to just keep my mouth shut at this point, I wanted to say some things I really shouldn't)

    Him: (he launches into a story about how he "used to be" a weight lifter, so he knows a LOT about weight control)

    Me: (I didn't say anything, just looked at his 100+ pounds of overweight self in disbelief)

    Him: (the beautiful ending to his diatribe) He looked at me, very seriously, and said "My ex-wife used to try to lose weight by eating Ice Cream too, thats why I divorced her fat a****"

    Me: "I may have some weight to lose, but your kind of ugly is permanent. Now, get the ____ out of my house"

    My husband has been informed that this man better never walk in my door again.. if he does, my newest exercise will be batting practice!



    You shoulda kicked his *ss out the door....(literally!).....hey then you would have burned off the 100 cals and you could sit back and have another Skinny Cow......its a win-win...:drinker:
  • denisebme
    denisebme Posts: 103 Member
    My husband, who is in the garage looking for a tool this idiot wanted to borrow, was really shocked at what this guy said, but even more shocked that I didn't hit him over the head with something.

    He's actually pretty lucky that my husband didn't understand what had happened until after he pulled away.. He was even more mad that I was. Seriously, I just thought the guy was terminally stupid.
  • LeeshaNichole
    LeeshaNichole Posts: 179 Member
    I had lost 80lbs in about three months, mainly by portion control and cutting out the crap. I got pregnant and had to stop working out (very high risk pregnancy) and I started giving into cravings-so I gained some weight. I ended up miscarrying at 11 weeks (my 6th miscarriage). I decided that is it I will loose all this damn weight if it kills me. On father day we had a bbq for my father-in-law it was also his birthday. We actually ran into my mother-in-law while doing the shopping for the bbq. She said "ohh I am buying these cookies to bring over, I know you really like them "(which I am actually really not a cookie fan) I simply said "Ohh thank you but I am trying to eat healthy." SO when they came over later she brought two packages of cookies and a cake (for my fil birthday) While everyone else was chowing down on baked potatoes, brats, baked beans, and shrimp skewers. I simply had one brat and a salad. I was measuring out my salad and she was like "on the diet you are on you, do you have to measure everything?" I was like "ohh I'm not really one a dite-just eating healthier and counting calories." The whole time through dinner it was ohh Alicia's dite this and Alicia's diet this. Grrr! I am not on a friggin' diet it is called a lifestyle change-diets do not work!

    Also-I hate when people ask "how is the diet going?" or "is th diet working?" ugghhh! Ohh and also my mom always asks"why are you trying to loose weight?" Umm cause I'm FAT!!!!
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    Two recent ones:

    "Don't take this the wrong way, but I preferred you with bigger boobs."
    "Weight training? You'll look like a lesbian."

    There is so much wrong with that I don't even know where to start...
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    "why are you on a diet, you are so skinny, just enjoy yourself" (when i order healthy food on a menu like a salad or grilled chicken)

    UM, I WORKED HARD TO GET HERE, IM NOT GOING TO FALL BACK INTO MY OLD WAYS BC YOU CANT HAVE SOME SELF RESTRAINT TO DO WHAT I DID!

    Lol..these are the same people who text me: "whine, im so fat, i wanna get in shape..." oi

    Agreed. I get this ALL the time and I hate it.

    Me too :grumble:
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    This is yet more proof you should never ever talk about dieting or say you are dieting to anyone EVER.
  • sarahmoo12
    sarahmoo12 Posts: 756 Member
    My partners idea of motivating me is telling me im going to get fat every single time I left an unhealthy snack regardless of what workout iv done during the day!
    P*ss off is what he gets back most of the time lol and hes a cheek to talk when he wants a take away he tortures me to get one with him (also the reason I got this extra weight) !!! He makes no sence at all
  • countryviolet333
    countryviolet333 Posts: 10 Member
    "Are you sure you want/really need that?"

    Makes me soo pissed when people ask me this, especially if ive done more exercise just so I can have it.
  • Flab2fitfi
    Flab2fitfi Posts: 1,349 Member
    Two recent ones:

    "Don't take this the wrong way, but I preferred you with bigger boobs."
    "Weight training? You'll look like a lesbian."

    i have a couple of friends who are gay and if weight training made me look like them i'd be more than happy.
  • MrsWilsoncroft
    MrsWilsoncroft Posts: 968 Member
    My biggest bug is when you go out for a meal with people who know you diet and exercise & if you have a treat they are like "You cant have that if you're on a diet"!!!

    So ok, i diet and exercise and like to keep in shape but that doesnt mean I cant treat myself to an ice cream every once in a while!! FFS!!! lol!!! :noway:
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    My biggest bug is when you go out for a meal with people who know you diet and exercise & if you have a treat they are like "You cant have that if you're on a diet"!!!

    So ok, i diet and exercise and like to keep in shape but that doesnt mean I cant treat myself to an ice cream every once in a while!! FFS!!! lol!!! :noway:

    Again, this is why you should never tell anyone you are on a diet!
  • MisterTEZ
    MisterTEZ Posts: 272 Member
    a work colleague took one look at my healthy salad at lunchtime and said "What are you? A slug?"
  • amy1612
    amy1612 Posts: 1,356 Member
    The worst one I got recently went something like this- I love Skinny Cow Ice cream, and at 100 calories, I fit it in any days I work real hard. It's a great, guilt free treat.
    Last week, as I was enjoying my treat, an old co-worker of my husbands stopped by. My husband is very proud of me for exercising and losing weight, so of course, he knew I was "dieting"

    Him: I thought you were dieting, whats up with the Ice Cream?
    Me: (nicely) It's a treat, and its Skinny Cow, it's..
    Him: (interrupting me) It's ice cream, thats like the worst thing for you when you're dieting.
    Me: (I decided to just keep my mouth shut at this point, I wanted to say some things I really shouldn't)

    Him: (he launches into a story about how he "used to be" a weight lifter, so he knows a LOT about weight control)

    Me: (I didn't say anything, just looked at his 100+ pounds of overweight self in disbelief)

    Him: (the beautiful ending to his diatribe) He looked at me, very seriously, and said "My ex-wife used to try to lose weight by eating Ice Cream too, thats why I divorced her fat a****"

    Me: "I may have some weight to lose, but your kind of ugly is permanent. Now, get the ____ out of my house"

    My husband has been informed that this man better never walk in my door again.. if he does, my newest exercise will be batting practice!

    I would have totally said, 'wow, so your ex-wife INSTANTLY lost (however many lbs he weighs) of ugly fat?' ;)
  • castadiva
    castadiva Posts: 2,016 Member
    "Are you sure you want/really need that?"

    My personal favourite. Passive aggressive much?! Also my mother's default comment when I was younger and lived at home. Grrr.
  • JB5349
    JB5349 Posts: 135 Member
    My Mother is always telling me to make sure that I keep it off this time. Seriously you are not a skinny woman how dare you tell me to keep the weight off.

    Or my favourite, you eat so much salad, I am worried about you! Before it was chips and chocolate now I am eating an effing rabbit and she still makes comments. Look at your own plate before you start judging mine.

    Besides I control how much exercise I do or don't to I can eat anything that I want! This is the first time I have been successful so just let me be please.
  • Amy911Gray
    Amy911Gray Posts: 685 Member
    "How much more do you think you should lose?" and "You've been doing this forever, it's time to enjoy yourself." are my two least favorite things to hear!
  • louiloui123
    louiloui123 Posts: 22 Member
    but keep offering me cookies, doughnuts and say you don't need to be on a diet... when I refuse them
  • wgn4166
    wgn4166 Posts: 771 Member
    I have someone at my office just like this. Even though she knows I eat healthy and I only eat a piece of dark chocolate if I want something sweet, she always brings in cakes and stuff like that and acts offended when I dont eat. It used to make me upset but now I look at it like..she is the one thats overweight whild I am getting skinny
  • paulipet
    paulipet Posts: 70
    This is why I don't tell anyone I'm on a diet. I don't talk about it to either my friends or my family. I think the more you talk about being on a diet, the more it invites people to say things in return and "hold you accountable."


    Me too. I always feel that they are just waiting for me to fail (which is understandable I guess as I always have in the past). Not this time though!
  • madamepsychosis
    madamepsychosis Posts: 472 Member
    Most people have been really encouraging and supportive of me, but it really bugs me when people ask you how you do it, but then switch off when you don't give them a magic pill. Sorry, guys, I simply monitored what was going into my mouth and did a lot more exercise!

    Also, a few people feel the need to put themselves down when they compliment me on my weight loss. 'Oh my god, you look amazing. Have you lost weight? You're so skinny! I'm such a fat ***** right now! Bawww!'

    I know it's a compliment to me and an insult to them, but really? You can't say something nice to someone without putting yourself down? Sometimes I wonder if it's just fishing for compliments.
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