How long were you with your SO before you got engaged?

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  • navywifeandmomof4
    navywifeandmomof4 Posts: 958 Member
    lets see I met my husband Dec. 11 1999 I asked him to marry me that new years eve (he said yes) we got married August 12 2000..and we are still happily married
  • brewface811
    brewface811 Posts: 106
    Have there been any discussions along those lines? If he is willing to purchase a house with you but not get married I would say you need to have that discussion. If he isn't willing to slay dragons for you and drop down on one knee I'd say you have hitched your wagon to the wrong star.

    We have discussed it and he knows what I want. He also knows that I want to be engaged at least before we move in together. He doesn't have a problem with marriage or engagement either (at least he says he doesn't), so I don't know what the issue is. We talk about it a lot actually. :/
  • LifeOnMars_
    LifeOnMars_ Posts: 720 Member
    A little over a year :)
  • marie_cressman
    marie_cressman Posts: 980 Member
    lets see I met my husband Dec. 11 1999 I asked him to marry me that new years eve (he said yes) we got married August 12 2000..and we are still happily married

    i think fast moving is fairly common in military relationships. why put off til tomorrow what you can do today? :wink:
  • Selfmadepsyche
    Selfmadepsyche Posts: 20 Member
    We were on again off again all through college (first 4 years), then got our **** together and llived together for 2 years before we got married. So, 6 years.
  • rachey_v
    rachey_v Posts: 127 Member
    I met my husband when I was 17 years old. He was 21,

    6 weeks after the day I met him he proposed, then 6 weeks after that we moved in together..

    That was almost 8 years ago now, we have 2 beautiful girls and will be celebrating out 5th wedding anniversary in December.


    When you know you know, he is still my absolute best friend and I actually LIKE him as well as love him :D



    ETA: I firmly believe you never fully know someone until you live with them! If at all.
  • chellie47
    chellie47 Posts: 97 Member
    We met online in a chat room. 8 months later we were married! We have been married 12 years this past June!
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
    Been with mine 3.6 years, known him for almost nine. No plans for now. We want to do it right and live our lives out together first. Love it this way! No rush.
  • brewface811
    brewface811 Posts: 106
    I've been with my boyfriend 6 1/2 years now, even though we are younger (about to be 22 and 23) I really feel like it's time to take next steps in our relationship. We're planning to buy a house within the next year and I'd really like to either be engaged or married by then. I find that everyday more of my friends are engaged or moving in with their boyfriend/girlfriends I just hate that we aren't at the next step yet. So, how long were you with your SO before getting engaged?

    I understand how you feel, I am seeing all my friends and familly getting married or engaged or buying houses or having babies and sometimes it makes me very depressed.

    But I tell myself that my boyfriend wants to make the demand perfect so he is waiting for the perfect time. But I will admit that everytime there is something special on our agenda, trip, visit, romantic dinner, I always have a little voice in my heart saying, tonight might be the night. Sometimes after a wonderful night of hoping we go home and nothing... I feel depressed and unwanted but I know it's me.

    Tell yourself that when the time comes you will be extremely happy because you know he is the one (I'm a little girl that still believe in the one true love) and you were strong enough to wait for what you wanted!!!

    When you see a friend getting engaged, think about what you have that she/he doesn't.

    Hang on and it will happend!

    Thanks and I know exactly how you feel, I get all giddy when we go out or go on a trip thinking it might be the night. I try not to let it get me down when it doesn't happen because I feel like it'll happen when it is right for us. He told me like two years ago it would be within a year, that obviously didn't happen ;) so I try not to get my hopes up!
  • aqua_zumba_fan
    aqua_zumba_fan Posts: 383 Member
    10 years as for the first 5 there was no such thing as civil partnerships in the UK so we couldn't and then we didn't see any need. But in the end we did it for a fun day (very little money spent, friends and family very involved, was lovely). I say why can't you ask him but on the other hand do you *have* to take it to 'the next level'? Just wondering - it's kind of an automatic thing isn't it but you'll still have the same love for each other.
  • steadk
    steadk Posts: 334 Member
    10 months, but we knew each other from HS, and we were engaged for 2.5 years before our wedding
  • jhardenbergh
    jhardenbergh Posts: 1,035 Member
    8 months, but we were engaged for 20 months before we got married
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    When the time is right, go for it. Don't worry about what others are doing. Just make sure you know in your heart that it is right.
  • DieVixen
    DieVixen Posts: 790 Member
    I was with mine for 3 weeks when he asked me to marry him,and 9 months when we got married lol
  • rayvynn5374
    rayvynn5374 Posts: 272 Member
    We met July 6 1993, moved in together August 5 1993 and were married August 25 1993. Approaching 19th anniversary.
  • DarthCeltic
    DarthCeltic Posts: 1,236 Member
    husband and i were engaged.... wait.. thats not right.. thats not right at all!
  • plantgrrl
    plantgrrl Posts: 436 Member
    6 years. Married at 28.5 and 31 respectively. He wanted to finish his PhD first and I wasn't in any hurry. :D
  • mikevizer
    mikevizer Posts: 4
    6 Months, but we were both in our 30's and were both mentally and financially ready for the decision. We are going on 9 years now and our marriage is still great, even with the four girls that sometimes complicate our lives a bit. But we do have a strong spiritual background to hold us all together.
  • smuckyrun
    smuckyrun Posts: 30 Member
    We were together 2 1/2 years. No engagement just went to JP and were married.
  • PhotogNerd
    PhotogNerd Posts: 420 Member
    6 months ,roughly. He was 20, I was 19.

    We'll be celebrating 13 years next month. :)
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    We got engaged 9 months after we started dating, we were already living together by that point. We got married 9 months later. We've been together 22 years and married 20. Though we've had our ups and downs, we are best friends and are very much in love after all this time.

    I think it really depends on what you both want out of the relationship. We both knew we wanted to be married, but not everyone is like us. I was 25 and he was 31 when we got married.
  • FlyEaglesGuy
    FlyEaglesGuy Posts: 436 Member
    3 years , I held out kicking and screaming lol
  • lilmisfit
    lilmisfit Posts: 860 Member
    We were together for 3 years and 5 months before getting engaged, engaged for a year, and have been married for 11 years and 4 months. :-)
  • FelicityEliza36
    FelicityEliza36 Posts: 252 Member
    I met the love of my life in 2002 - he moved in WITH me just after 3 months and we have been together 10 years in August.
    We got engaged after 4 yours, and then got married during our 8th year anniversary. And this summer we celebrate our 10 year anniversary, being married 2 of those years.

    But don't worry what is "right or wrong", just do what you feel is good for your life :) and good luck!
  • chelle1a
    chelle1a Posts: 143 Member
    We dated for 6 months and got engaged. We got married 9 months after that and we've been married for almost 11 year :)
    I was 23 and he was 24.
  • Mustlovepugs11
    Mustlovepugs11 Posts: 131
    We were together 8 months when he proposed and then we got married 11 months after the engagement.
  • ChanniVincent
    ChanniVincent Posts: 188
    Just a couple months, but we knew each other for years & dated before we got together again. Now we've been together for over 6 years. We're still not married but we're happy & planning our wedding slowly, there's no need to rush things when there already great.
  • StrengthIDidntKnow
    StrengthIDidntKnow Posts: 543 Member
    2.5 years, he proposed 1 month before my 30th birthday and we were married 9 mos later.
  • livinfitanfun
    livinfitanfun Posts: 122
    I met my husband when I was 17 he was 21 we started dating in Nov. got engaged MLK weekend in Jan. and we married the day after I turned 18 in march. So enaged for a little over under two months before we got married. He is a Marine and I have met a lot of other military spouses who have only dated a few months before they got married. We have been happily married for 6 years now! (-: The funny thing is that EVERYONE thought I was pregnant when we got married!! No one could understand why else we would get married so fast. We didn't get pregnant with our first child until almost two years later.
  • sbernardy
    sbernardy Posts: 188
    8 months :) And still in love since day one... :love:

    Then married 8 months later...
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