How long were you with your SO before you got engaged?

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  • zenchild
    zenchild Posts: 680 Member
    We were together 15 months when we got engaged. 4 and a half years when we got married. I was 20 and he was 24 when we started dating. We got engaged at Christmas and we were going to get married the following June but after we started planning we realized how expensive it is. We postponed and postponed so we could save more. One day I just looked at him and said, "Do you want to just get married?" And on Valentine's Day we went to the courthouse with our families and got married. Then we took out families out to a nice restaurant and had a fantastic meal (start the meal with 2 bottles of Dom Perignon and the server will be fantastic because she know's there's an automatic 18% gratuity for a large party). I still got to go dress shopping with my mom and my sisters (black dress I can wear again) and at the end of the day, the result was the same. We were married. And I went into this wanting a marriage, not a wedding.
    And guys having all the power? I think not. I proposed. I even gave him a ring.
  • jackibailey
    jackibailey Posts: 206 Member
    We dated for three months! We've been married for twenty years now! He always says that if I would have dated him longer, I would have dumped him!
  • shendras
    shendras Posts: 46 Member
    6 months, but then we didn't get married for another 2 years.
  • Cupcakehippiemommy
    Cupcakehippiemommy Posts: 457 Member
    Engaged 6 months after we met then married 1-1/2 years later and have been married 5 wonderful and happy years :) Personally did NOT believe in marriage or wanted to get married for that matter...but he changed my mind <3
  • newhabit
    newhabit Posts: 426 Member
    we met at 20 and 21 (i was older) got married at 24 (both were 24 but i was almost 25)... so we were in college so we wanted to wait until we were out of college. we got engaged at 23. so i'd say about 2.5 years before we got engaged but 3.5 before we started dating and the wedding.
  • khrys1
    khrys1 Posts: 444 Member
    2 1/2 years, and got married when we'd been dating 3 1/2 years. I was 31 when we got married, so didn't want to wait much longer! Good luck!
  • cjhart81
    cjhart81 Posts: 200 Member
    6 n half years.. I gave up thinking it was ever gona happen.. I had made loads of comments to him saying it had better happen soon.. when I stopped nagging it happened :D
  • McLifterPants
    McLifterPants Posts: 457 Member
    My guy and I moved in after 6 months together, and got engaged a year after that, so 18 months total. We were both older than you guys and had dated a lot though, so when we met someone that finally fit, we just decided to go for it!
  • semeyer
    semeyer Posts: 282 Member
    After reading all these posts and seeing the variety of answers, I think you know by now there is no magic number of when this happens. When he's ready to ask, he will. :drinker:
  • brewface811
    brewface811 Posts: 106
    I love all these cute stories on the thread :) Thanks for the opinions everyone! I can definitely hold out longer and don't feel the need to pressure him in to anything. We've had conversations about it and we know what we both want for the most part. We'll see what happens. For now we are just enjoying planning for our house (I just bought my towels this week) and boating every weekend.

    I'm just a little bit impatient, which is odd because I didn't even consider engagement until about 2 years ago then it hit me that I wanted to be married.
  • blonde71
    blonde71 Posts: 955 Member
    3 years and 8 months but who's counting??
  • leilaphoenix
    leilaphoenix Posts: 839 Member
    Met when I was 19 and he was 22
    Moved in properly 2 years later (we did long distance for those 2 years)
    Bought house after 5 years
    Got engaged after 6 years

    Don't rush it. And don't rush him. Sometimes they just need to adjust to the idea that they are really adults now. Don't pressure him and if you have a good relationship built on love and common wants in life then it'll work out beautifully. :)
  • mytime44me
    mytime44me Posts: 35
    7 weeks....married 24 years this month!
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    11yrs and 4 months and still waiting
  • loseequalsgain
    loseequalsgain Posts: 24
    5 months.
  • Artemis726
    Artemis726 Posts: 587 Member
    About a month- but ours was a friendship that caught fire. Once we got together, there was nothing to stop it. We were married 7 months later, and have been married 13 years with 4 kids. :heart:
  • Spaterson65
    Spaterson65 Posts: 5 Member
    About 3 or 4 years, and we didn't get married until about 3 years after that.

    This quote from someone else in the thread sums it up though: "Remember, the only thing that changes is a title, you're still the same people and share the same love." <-- so true

    Scott
  • mrsmerrithew
    mrsmerrithew Posts: 74 Member
    4 months. Married 2 months later.

    For us it was a case of 'when it's right, you know' - though I think you need to have experienced a few that were 'wrong' before you can judge this.

    Married for ten years next month and it's been 100% a great partnership and supremely happy union

    Like this person ^ stated when it's right, you know. And again, you need to experience a few that are wrong before you can judge this.

    With that said, this is my second marriage. My first marriage, I had known my ex for about a year when we got hitched. Fast forward about 3 years later and I find out he was cheating on me - so I left.

    About 4 years after we divorced, I met my current husband. Our first date was May 16th, 2011. We have been inseparable since. I moved in with him in August. We were engaged in September. And we got married March 31st.
  • DOTY1
    DOTY1 Posts: 97
    We started dating August 5th 2008 and were married August 15th 2009 :blushing:
  • mphlab
    mphlab Posts: 187 Member
    4 months but I was 39 & he was 44. Got married 1 year from the day we met.
  • Rjdj3530
    Rjdj3530 Posts: 154
    6 months! But I think my husband was whispering to hid mom after about 3 or 4 months! She must have looked at him crazy because I know I would if a friend told me they were wanting to marry someone after just a few months. I guess he knew something I didn't because we are working on 11 years of marriage now.
  • skinnyeascolady
    skinnyeascolady Posts: 287 Member
    2 months engaged Married 4 months Later. You know when it's right and it is different for everyone.

    Still happly married 13 years later:happy:
  • LemonSocks
    LemonSocks Posts: 238 Member
    We've been together for nearly 5 years (living together for 3) and not engaged. It's probably on the cards within the next year but I'm in no hurry. I can't see how being married will make the slightest difference in our relationship (other than costing a lot of money we can't afford/I would rather spend on other things).
  • MissFuchsia
    MissFuchsia Posts: 523 Member
    2 years. We had been living together for 1 year.
  • sunshinesonata
    sunshinesonata Posts: 241 Member
    10 months.
  • SomeMorr
    SomeMorr Posts: 220 Member
    lets see I met my husband Dec. 11 1999 I asked him to marry me that new years eve (he said yes) we got married August 12 2000..and we are still happily married

    i think fast moving is fairly common in military relationships. why put off til tomorrow what you can do today? :wink:

    I'm glad this isn't just me! My husband was National Guard when we met and about 2 months into the relationship he got orders to be deployed to Afganistan. We figured we would get married before he left, two months later the deployment order got cancelled. After 6 months being together total and my willingness to stick with him through a deployment made him propose.
  • AngieWpg
    AngieWpg Posts: 27
    We were together 6 years before we got engaged and then another 4 until we got married. We've now been married 4 years.

    I also felt like it was taking forever and gave all the hints and looked at rings but he said he didn't want to feel pressured and he wanted it to be a surprise so that delayed things quite a bit (because I talked about it all the time - lol). I wouldn't worry about it as long as you're happy together.
  • BubbleGumKisses
    BubbleGumKisses Posts: 156 Member
    9+yrs and counting.......
    I was 17, he was 19, we were living together since day1... literally... and pregnant 3 months after we met...
    Our son just turned 8 in April, still not married/engaged.... but trying for another baby.... : )
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    My DH proposed after about 3 months. I made him wait for 2 years after. My divorce was not final when I met him and I was really gun shy. He waited and he has proved himself to me over and over for 30 years now.
  • Kalee34
    Kalee34 Posts: 674 Member
    My husband and I were together 2 years before he proposed.
    I was 15(sophmore) and he was 17(senior) when we first got together.
    He proposed to me in January of my Senior year in highschool. We were engaged for 6 month.
    I graduated on May 27th and got married on June 30th. I was 17 and he was 20.
    We will celebrate our 11th wedding anniversary this Saturday!!

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