cruel people

I saw a overweight guy say hi to a prissy chick once and she said "ugh, omg, like you can even see your penis so im not going to even thing about lifting fat to find it, go away fat A". The women where i used to live were mean to everyone.

-Husband used to call me a fat lazy b*t*h and that I'm good for nothing. I wasn't worth anything. He only married me because of my son. That if I sat down on a chair I would break it. Now a days he doesn't call me fat. He does complain that guys check me out to much. The b*t*h calling, not worth anything, good for nothing, lazy and more has not stopped. I really think he has some mental disorder because he doesn't act like this all the time. I used to cry all the time when he said something hurtful and now it's like I've become immune to his cruel words.

Hun, you need to get rid of this guy ..

Let her make her own decisions unless you know this person personally...

Please explain the circumstances under which his behaviour is acceptable! I say, dump the *kitten*!

Why would you want me to try and justify something like that ? It's obviously not acceptable...

She most definitely needs to make her own decision.

Personally, I hope she decides to dump the *kitten*.

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Not so much as an adult, but I pretty much got harrassed everyday as a child. Too many to list, but it was pretty painful growing up.

My mom used to sing an old polka song to me, it went like this....

I don't want her you can have her
She's too fat for me
Apples, Peaches, Pumpkin Pie
Who's gonna love her
You not I

That was pretty mean.

I suffered from an eating disorder for the most part of my grade nine year, people made fun of me constantly for being skinny, saying I looking like a skeleton. Making rumors about my disorder, thing's of that nature.
I got better, and then gained A LOT of weight, well, then they made fun of me because I was fat. There is no pleasing other people, so right now I am just trying to please me. But that torment from high school has forever damaged my self esteem and confidence.

i have been heavy all of my life, really heavy as you can see by my photo and i have heard it all (or so i think i have). i have come to an interesting conclusion though, whether you are 20 pounds over weight or 200 pounds over weight, the 'feelings' are the same.

i used to roll my eyes BIG TIME when someone i was speaking too would go on about how fat and ugly she was, how her husband ridiculed and poked fun at her because she was literally 22 pounds heavier then she was when they married.

she was hurt to the core, she had low self esteem, once an extravert she would now stand in the shadows in groups and find excuses not to go out. i have been there more times than i care to think.

so when a healthy, person talks to me about needing to lose 10, 15 or 25 pounds because she is so miserable, i no longer roll my eyes and think, 'whatever, you don't even know', to, 'i totally understand the feeling'

i have my moments of depression and disgust, trust me i do, however, i am generally a happy person with a positive attitude and do my best to be thankful for what my body does do for me. i can move, i can take care of myself, i can work, i can love, i can play etc. it may not be like those who are more typically 'normal' but i am working on that.

i was never belittled by my family growing up, never! i am sure that being loved and accepted by this close nit unit helped a lot.

i wish like crazy that i could wave a magic wand and heal all the 'hurt' that we (you) have endured at the hands of those most cruel. be strong, stay the course and 'delete' those individuals who are hurtful out of your life where possible.

OMG, this is so heartbreaking, that it brings tears to my eyes. Such sadness, and so much thoughtlessness, cruel and downright nasty comments. Looking back on 60 years of living, and being overweight since I was 15, I am remembering comments by my parents, sisters, "friends?" and strangers, and it still hurts. I am so grateful that my husband of 37 years and my daughter have never once made me feel bad about my weight. They truly love me for the person I am, not how I look. 100% supportive of my life style change. I am very fortunate to have them both.

I wish I could say something to each and every person who was hurt in this way to help them feel better. Words hurt, and it can be hard to forget how much. Just know that there are a lot of people that have been there and wish all the best to everyone, so they can move on and become healthier. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I wish everyone's inner beauty to shine through.

Thank you all for sharing your pain and letting us know we are not alone.

In high school I applied for a job in a shopping centre food court but didn't get the job. Later on my 'friend' who also worked there told me the reason I didn't get it was because the boss said I was so ugly my face would turn the customers off the food. And people wondered why I had no desire to find a job until I was 18 and had to.
I noticed you put the word "friend" in quotation marks. Now looking back, not sure how long ago this was, but do you still look at this person as a friend? Because I am sorry but some things are just better left unsaid and if that boss actually said this, then this was a situation where a true friend would not have repeated what was said because that would lower anyone's self confidence. When I go out to eat, I don't look at outer shell, I look at the smile if I am given one these days and you can tell so much by a person by their smile and their eyes and that is where you will see their "true beauty". Here in Texas we have Sonic drive ins everywhere. We like to give the car hops a dollar tip. The other day our car hop came out with a huge smile on her face, one of those that just made you smile with her. She got a two dollar tip.

When I was 14, and a freshman in HS I weighed 139lbs. I was 5'5"... my mom took me with her to her weight watchers and they talked her into signing me up. Nothing will kill your self image at that age than total strangers telling you you could stand to lose 19lbs.

So the yo yo dieting and self-hate began. -__-

-Husband used to call me a fat lazy b*t*h and that I'm good for nothing. I wasn't worth anything. He only married me because of my son. That if I sat down on a chair I would break it. Now a days he doesn't call me fat. He does complain that guys check me out to much. The b*t*h calling, not worth anything, good for nothing, lazy and more has not stopped. I really think he has some mental disorder because he doesn't act like this all the time. I used to cry all the time when he said something hurtful and now it's like I've become immune to his cruel words.

Hun, you need to get rid of this guy ..

Let her make her own decisions unless you know this person personally...

And when did I STOP her from making her own decision?

I didn't know that you did and why would I know about your business?

it's mostly just the sorta subtle things, my mother in law lives in a different state, but when we see her, she's always sure to say things like, "you're looking healthy" but the way she emphasizes sounds like anything but, and "you've sure filled out" yes, i weigh more than i did at 16, but i am at a healthy weight. to others, it doesn't sound like a dig, but the way she says it, it definately is

I was in NYC 3 years ago and a woman asked me "When is your baby due? " I Miscarried 6 months ago but thank you for reminding me you heartless *****! I bet she will never ask that question again.

Aren't you proud of yourself? I don't know whether you really did or not, or whether you came up with that as a smart alec comment, but either way, you should be ashamed.

Most people ask whether someone is pregnant as a conversation starter, especially strangers. And certainly don't expect a stranger to realize you suffered a miscarriage. And even if they aren't a complete stranger, that doesn't mean they know for certain or not unless you had previously told them.

Unless someone knows you aren't pregnant, please don't take it as an insult. The majority of people do not intend that to be mean or cruel.

Cruel people do not understand the damage they have done...

I am my worst enemy, always have been..

Im the same ............

Can identify with a LOT of these comments - i used to be called "Weebles wobble but they don't fall down".

When I think back at all the sh1t Ii've been put through it's made me a very resilient person.