Family is trying to sabotage my 'diet'

Just eat one cookie! You can't go through life never eating another one. That is not reasonable. In fact, I may just go have one right now, if I can find one. You could have one cookie every day and still work it into your calories. Abstinence is not the answer. Staying under while finding balance with things you view as treats while meeting nutrition needs will make you a happy dieter. Just tell her, I'll save the rest for a treat later.

Doubt she's trying to sabotage you unless she doesn't give a crap about her child and is an evil witch...which is unlikely. She just forgot.

Congrats on resisting the temptation.

They'll get to the point where they stop asking you if you want it and stop giving it to you. Once they know you are serious, they'll quit. At least, in my case it stopped. THANK GOD

I agree that you can't go through life and never eat another cookie, but it's up to you to decide when you want that kind of food. I stayed with my parents for 10 days last month and they have some of the poorest eating habits ever and are unwilling to change. I had to have a chat with them before my trip and constantly about what I am willing or not to eat while I was there. It was a tough battle, but at least they respected my choices for the most part and made the effort to have fruits and vegetables in the house for me when I was eating at their place.

It's hard enough without someone actively working against your goals like that. Congratulations on being strong enough to turn down something you love that doesn't fit in with your current diet goals.

I usually sneak out and put the cake and desserts right back in their car! or have your spouse do it. It's a nasty trick, but hey, "right back at ya" is what that says. LOL!

sorry to say but your mother is either dumb or she wants you to be fat. Next time - open the garbage can, in front of her - and throw out the cookies.

The whole world does not revolve around you and your diet.
Buck up!
Either control yourself around other people at dinner, or cancel all such events.
That is what I did except on my "free day".
I can't control myself. PERIOD!
And that means I no longer do family dinners or parties or anything except that one special day in the week where I can join the food orgy.
Do what you think is best, but again, don't snivel over people who are just being who they are.
Good Luck :flowerforyou:

Doubt she's trying to sabotage you unless she doesn't give a crap about her child and is an evil witch...which is unlikely. She just forgot.

Congrats on resisting the temptation.

LOL I JUST told her a couple hours before she came over.

So, your mother is being wicked?
If this is what you are saying, sever the relationship.
Problem solved.

I'm a vegetarian and it never fails that my mom brings and offers me meat during each of her weekly visits. I've had years to try out every kind of reminder and rejection I could think of. I've shouted, screamed, sounded patient, thankful, used logic, etc. She still does it. Maybe it's mom-brain. They have an overwhelming desire to comfort you and it overrides there common sense or something. I sometimes smother my son in kisses and am deaf to his initial screams to stop.

Yes you can control yourself. . . You lost 78 pounds . . ..that takes some amazing control! Congratulations!

Ruth

The whole world does not revolve around you and your diet.
Buck up!
Either control yourself around other people at dinner, or cancel all such events.
That is what I did except on my "free day".
I can't control myself. PERIOD!
And that means I no longer do family dinners or parties or anything except that one special day in the week where I can join the food orgy.
Do what you think is best, but again, don't snivel over people who are just being who they are.
Good Luck :flowerforyou:

I know what you mean. My brother was in the hospital after a car wreck. I went up there everyday and stayed all day long. I packed snacks (low fat turkey meat, whole wheat pita bread, apples, pears, low fat string cheese). When I did go to the cafeteria, I tried to make the healthiest choice possible. My mom even comment that I had lost weight and wanted to know what I was doing. She was there every day also and saw (and I even shared) my healthy snacks. On day 4, she runs to the store to pick up snacks. She brings back donuts, Little Debbies, Pop Tarts, etc. Not one healthy snack. I didn't mind her bringing them, I can say no (and I am not usually tempted by sweets). But she seemed offended when I told her I didn't want any. She kept saying that she bought enough for me too. Before she went to the store, she knew about me trying to lose weight, she knew I didn't want any junk food (I told her) but she seemed to be extremely offended and upset when I didn't eat any of the junk.

My Mother in law (who I see everyday) has only 1 response when I tell her about a hard workout I just finished " I have candy bars or cake for a treat. You deserve it". After about a month of me telling her "I can't eat that crap!!!" she gave up. She doesn't talk to me about my "diet" anymore. I don't think they do it on purpose, we just have to try to change their mind sets as we change ours. Good luck. Oh, if you eat even 1 when she brings them over then she will think she is doing a good thing. Yes it is ok to eat a cookie every once in a while but not hers. It may sound cruel but it will be harder for you to convince her if you eat her cookies.

Doubt she's trying to sabotage you unless she doesn't give a crap about her child and is an evil witch...which is unlikely. She just forgot.

Congrats on resisting the temptation.

LOL I JUST told her a couple hours before she came over.

So, your mother is being wicked?
If this is what you are saying, sever the relationship.
Problem solved.

That's just too harsh.

My friends and family are the same way. we go out I get something healthy and they mock me. I say no to junk and i'm "starving myself". They make me something and I don't want to eat it because i'm trying to lose weight and i'm rude? I feel so bad so I always give in, this is why i'm still fat. I try not to tell anyone that i'm dieting because I hate the guilt and pressure that comes with dieting.