Why is a man's attractiveness defined by his height???

I don't feel this is true. I've never dated anyone shorter than me (I'm 5'3", so it's uncommon for me to find anyone who isn't taller anyway).. But I don't think that makes someone less attractive. My ex was 5'8", and it didn't bother me at all.. I thought he fell into a perfect range.. Too tall and it could be awkward.

Although, I think I'd be a little weirded out if a guy I was dating wasn't at least my height..

When my hubby and I met we were the same height (about 5' 10") but in the past year i've kept growing. I'm now another inch taller so I win lol. :laugh:

i like being with guys who are tall/taller then me because i feel like a cow beside guys my height or shorter ... i cant stand beside guys who are shorter then me PERIOD .. or i feel TERRIBLE about my self .. the only time i feel bad about my body is when im around short guys ...

now being around tall guys .. THAT makes me feel amazing .. i feel small for once.. im really big so its hard for me to feel small (hence the weight loss journey)

that being said im 5’3 so 5’9 is super tall to me .. i guess its just perspective right?

Im only 5ft2 and my fiancé is 6ft4... In know right, for me if a man is taller they make you feel safer and also I think like someone else said more feminine. All this would go out of the window if a guy was smaller. Although, I have dated a guy who was like 5ft4, so and the end of the day height isnt everything at the end of the day it's about the person. X

I'm 5'4", so for me everyone is taller...
Men who are taller are automatically making me feel safe. And they can kiss me without standing on their tiptoes, lol

My ex boyfriend was only about 5'7 and my other ex was 5'9. It's not that I don't like tall guys, it's just it's not a crucial part of what I look for when I look for a man.

As a woman who is 5'10", I can tell you that it is hard to feel feminine when you are taller than the average male. There is something very sexy about feeling small and feminine next to a man. Short girls CANNOT understand this. They have always felt this way. That being said...my husband and I are the same height. So just because it makes you feel pretty, it doesn't define your relationships.

this ^^^^

i'm 5'5" and usually attracted to guys 6' or taller

but if i know a great guy who doesnt fit that i wudnt reject him solely for his height

I am 5"5, my hubby is 5"3, best thing come in small packages, lol.. we have been together almost 30 years. I used to wear high heels way back and he never minded, actually he thought the looks we were getting were rather funny. What he lacks in height he makes up in million other ways. The inside is what counts.

I am 5'8" and my fiance is my height. Different women like different things. Somebody will adore you even if you aren't as tall as a basketball player.

And if they can't get over it, oh well. Their loss.

I am only 5'2 so most guys are taller than me anyway but I tend to like guys 5'10" and over, not to say if a guy was shorter and treated me with respect that I would push him off to the side because he's not tall enough... respect is key first and foremost.

My ex husband is only 5"5" and my partner is 6'3". It doesn't really matter to me cuz at 5'3" everyone is taller than me. To the OP, 5'9" isn't short at all!!!
But I do notice that men fib on their height more than anything, I guess how we fib on our weight. When I'm fitting for uniforms, I get guys that I know are a 30" inseam that try and say they are a 32". Even when I measure them, they say the tape is "wrong". :laugh:

not a deciding factor, but deffinitly a plus. ive just never been attracted to someone who was shorter then me, but that dosnt mean i couldnt be. i'm not picky about much of anything when dating someone. (dont really care about looks etc) but height deffinitly helps. ive been with two people who are the sameish height as me (5'6-5'7) and i can tell it made me be much more critical of my own weight etc. even with one of those men being 4 years older then me, i felt like we looked like a bunch of kids when we went out together. people actully asked us if we were related/ twins because we both had blonde hair and green eyes. the other guy was very sensitive and caring, a big turn on... however he never stood up for anything. like many people have already put, it makes me feel a certain way to be with a bigger broader taller stronger man. however i believe the personality of the individual is also a factor.

If you're being told that you are not as attractive because of your height, then you are looking for the wrong type of girl!

Not all of us are that shallow!

Dude, stop posting this lame question. It's been going on for two days now. You sound really insecure. I'm 5'8" and I do just fine.

How attractive someone is or isn't depends largely on their personality. Someone who is total eye candy can ruin the illusion as soon as they open their mouth, if what's inside isn't attractive. :grumble:

I think part of the issue lies in a guys own opinion of his height. I have a friend who is an absolutely amazing guy. If he wasn't like a brother to me, I'd totally want to date him. :blushing: He treats people amazingly well and dotes on someone he's dating like no one I've ever known. He's smart, funny, sweet and kind right through to his core. He's 5' 8" and he is ALWAYS complaining that he feels short and insignificant.

We all tend to do this - define ourselves by our shortcomings. I'd be much more attractive if I was thinner... so I've focused on my weight and got nowhere. Now that I've decided that, attractive or not, I want to be healthy, I'm having a MUCH easier time doing what I need to do.

Focus on your strengths and your goals and if someone doesn't see your value, then they don't deserve your time. Pass them by for someone who sees how great you really are. :flowerforyou: