Talk about a slap in the face. Motivation depleted.

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  • EngineerPrincess
    EngineerPrincess Posts: 306 Member
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    What an idiot. Boys say stupid things, stupid boys say atrocious things. I'd speak my mind about what he said if I were you, tell him you were 17 and it's not fair to say that and show him how rude it was and it hurt you deeply. Sometimes they don't realize how bad things they say are, but really, he just sounds like sort of a jerk, telling the girl that loves him he's not attracted to her. Find someone who adores you no matter what your weight. :) Not guys who are attracted to extremes like super obese or super thin girls, those guys often have issues. :P
  • NaomiDollar
    NaomiDollar Posts: 49 Member
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    He sounds like a complete loser. Lose him and you lose some dead weight.
  • alleycat88
    alleycat88 Posts: 756 Member
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    Please don't give up eating better and exercising, but definetely get rid of the guy.

    Oh I am definitely not giving up reaching MY ideal goal which would be 125-130lbs. I know I look great at that weight, and honestly, I knew my BF was shallow when we met (I was a few lbs heavier.. maybe 10.) so I was surprised we ended up dating, and this is also why I am sooo mad.

    I was bigger when we met, and in the middle of my hard work he's gonna say this? ughh.. don't start dating me, and have me fall in love with you and then tell me you don't find me attractive!

    And I am moving back because my job assignment ends in september and I have a job lined up back home.
  • goldfinger88
    goldfinger88 Posts: 686 Member
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    Honey, ditch that freak pretending to be human. If you stay with him, you deserve what he dishes out. That was cruel and shows you the type of companion he will be. Why women put up with trash like that is totally beyond me. Be your own woman. Be adult. Get on with your life without the creep.
  • MissNations
    MissNations Posts: 513 Member
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    What a *kitten*!!! Find someone who loves you for you.


    This ^^^^

    Find someone else who will treat you with respect.
  • FitBarbie2986
    FitBarbie2986 Posts: 202 Member
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    wow,that gave me the chills,that's horrible! I would seriously dump his *kitten*,and make that your motivation to rub in his face how determined you are and come out looking better than ever,and he'll be crying to have you back,but he won't deserve you,he doesn't even deserve you now,you look amazing and you need his support more than ever right now! How old is this guy?! i mean is he for real?! who does he think he is?! Your beautiful! I bet he's jealous of your new healthy lifestyle and determination,don't let the a-hole put you down! I would LOVE to see what he looks like,i bet he's afraid your gonna leave him for someone else with all your new found confidence,what a jerk! Sorry,didn't mean to go on a rant,but this just makes me SOO angry, keep up the great work,and use this as motivation, don't let him of all people take that from you!
  • lukeout007
    lukeout007 Posts: 1,247 Member
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    Your boyfriend is a shallow d!ck. 6 lbs is great and you really don't look overweight at all based on your pictures. Dump him.
  • stacey1172
    stacey1172 Posts: 43 Member
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    If he was your motivation, I suggest you find something better to keep you motivated through your journey.

    You're never going to be able to control what other people think or say. It sounds like you're not happy with where you are right now and that's the person you need to focus on- you, not the bf. Do this because you feel good about taking better care of yourself. Stay with it because you want to be live a long healthy life.

    Good luck!!!
  • skinnybearlyndsay
    skinnybearlyndsay Posts: 798 Member
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    I hope he's now your ex boyfriend. What a mean thing to say to someone!

    What she said. He has no compassion for you and how difficult it is to get healthy. Lose him and find someone who appreciates you and will support you, not drag you down.
  • Priincess_Natalie
    Priincess_Natalie Posts: 367 Member
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    Ditch him. He should love you for who you are now. He should also be supportive of your efforts instead of making negative remarks about your attractiveness to him.

    If a man looked at a picture of me from back when I was 17 and decided that is how I should look, I would dump him and decide he must like dating children and that is something I will never be no matter my weight.

    Do yourself a favor and move on.
  • live2eagle18
    live2eagle18 Posts: 4
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    screw him he dont deserve ya ....ask him if noone is skinny enough for him ....what a ....
  • tempest501
    tempest501 Posts: 329 Member
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    Ignore him and get rid he sounds like an *kitten*.

    Find someone who can appreciate you for the beautiful being you are.
  • drhilton
    drhilton Posts: 9
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    ... and think about the gas money you'll be saving! :)
  • menletti
    menletti Posts: 96 Member
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    Been on my weight-loss journey since May 25th. Almost 2 months in I am bout 6lbs lighter, the difference in inches is minimal and it's hardly noticeable. My boyfriend and I are living 5000 miles away and I am moving back to where he lives at the end of september. My goal was to be down 15-20lbs by September 25th. So about 5 lbs a month. Not too crazy of a goal huh?

    Well the BF was here at the beginning of July for 10 days. We were just on the phone and he goes "You have great features, and while I don't find myself attracted to you because of your weight, I do see potential in you and when I see old pictures of you and where you have been, I see that you can be smaller than you are"

    I am sorry, but WHAT THE EFF!! I was 17 in those pictures, and while yes I may be a few pounds on the heavy side (I am about 145lbs, ex swimmer so my legs are all muscle, and I carry my weight well.) I am busting a$s, and have been frustrated with my current plateau, but not stressing it too much.

    I'm just very upset at the moment. I work out 4-5 days a week, eat relatively healthy (the main change I have done in my diet is to cut out sugary drinks. All I drink is water, green tea and black coffee and also cut down on portion sizes) so I am hoping giving it some more time and upping the intensity of my workouts, I'll bust through this plateau.. but at the same time, what if I'm not able to lose the weight? I don't want to be with someone that no longer finds me attractive because he saw old pictures of me and now "realizes" how "hot" I can be compared to what I look like now.

    Sorry it's so long.


    MOTHER F*CKER! You deserve someone who loves you for WHO YOU ARE, not what you could be. You seem awesome and gorgeous! Screw that fuzz......

    Or what you were when you were a kid. What a jerk!
  • Dani_wants_to_be_fit
    Dani_wants_to_be_fit Posts: 550 Member
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    I hope he's now your ex boyfriend. What a mean thing to say to someone!

    ^^^ This!

    Well I will tell you how to drop a lot of useless weight fast.. leave him! He is a banker with a capital W and doesn't deserve you!
  • hkevans724
    hkevans724 Posts: 241 Member
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    What a douche!!! How incredibly rude and hurtful!!! I don't know you or your story, but please don't leave everything you know to move in with him! You need someone who will love you for you and be proud of you no matter what you do. That is mental abuse and you don't have to put up with that. I have a friend who dated a guy like that and he told her he had to watch porn while he was with her so that he could climax. He was always saying things like that about how she was too fat and didn't turn him on and that she "used to be hot." He was an awful person. Someone who loves you and is worth your time will love you at your best and at your worse and will always think you are beautiful.
  • DawnPerks
    DawnPerks Posts: 14 Member
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    From reading all the other replies, I think you know what you need to do.

    You should be losing weight for yourself not for him. If he can't accept you as you are, then he doesn't deserve to have you at all. How would he feel if you suddenly came out with a comment like that to him?
  • sonyalbruno
    sonyalbruno Posts: 63 Member
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    First of all you should feel proud of what you have accomplished so far!! Good for you!!

    Thats not he should tell the person he loves. Im sorry he said that to you, he obviosuly dosnt know how to treat the woman in his life. I dont know him and know nothing about your relationship so I shouldnt have said that but he is trying to "motivate" you in the completly wrong way. Some men are insensitive when it comes to this subject because they dont understand how it makes you feel. Personally I would talk to him and let him know that when he talks like that you find him unattractive.

    Personally I wouldnt change so he finds you attractive, get fit for you!! If he cant appreciate you at this point in time then thats his loss hun.
  • 19kat55
    19kat55 Posts: 336 Member
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    What everyone else is saying dear! He doesn't deserve you with that attitude even if you weighed 400 pounds! He is an *kitten* not really interested in you as a person, say bye bye!
  • buzzcogs
    buzzcogs Posts: 296 Member
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    Kick him to the curb. You sound like you have a lot on the ball..don't get bogged down with this millstone! Good luck!

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