can you date your brothers ex wife

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  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
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    No, a girlfriend is one thing but a wife is off limits, she's your ex sister in law, your nephew's mother, you're parents ex daughter in law....regardless how things were with her and your brother, the relationship remains...theres way too many fish in the sea dude
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    I don't have a brother.
  • IronmanPanda
    IronmanPanda Posts: 2,083 Member
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    "This is my uncle... Wait, no, my step-dad... wait, no, my uncle..."
    Sounds like a Jerry Springer episode waiting to happen.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
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    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'
  • MissShancey
    MissShancey Posts: 464
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    No.
  • messyinthekitchen
    messyinthekitchen Posts: 662 Member
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    If you're brother isn't a part of your life (he sounds like a real winner) then it's okay.
    If he is a part of your life then it is not okay.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
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    Under no circumstances would I even get remotely involved with my brother's ex-wife.

    Let's say, for the sake of argument, that you married this woman. So then you become:

    UNCLE DAD????????


    I get the sense that you are trying to justify being with her. Correct me if I'm wrong, but you, yourself, said:

    - they've been divorce 8 years
    - he doesn't see his son
    - we don't talk
    - he doesn't pay child support

    Stay away - stay far away! That's what I'd do, but you are your own man and can make the decisions on your own. Keep us posted UNCLE DAD
  • zebraspots2069
    zebraspots2069 Posts: 213 Member
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    NO!!!!!! no need to ready what you said...NO is the answer...she is off limits SORRY
  • clairegogogo
    clairegogogo Posts: 215
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    feelings come and go, but family always stays. Don't make things too complicated for the kid, so I'd say stay good friend with the lady, and NO to anything further.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,455 Member
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    Negatory!

    Dude.... Your brother put his junk in that. No. Just no
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
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    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'

    This is exactly what I thought of. :laugh:
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,036 Member
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    NO. Doesn't matter what the scenario is. You are just going to open up a giant can of worms.
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
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    now you bring up they have a child together..

    Does he call you "uncle" or "dad"? Maybe it's "uncle-dad". :laugh:

    And if you two have kids will it be this boy's sister or his cousin? So confusing.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
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    I was going to say hey, it's your life. But the kid, that really makes it awkward. I think you should give this a lot of thought before proceeding. There are a lot of women out there who aren't related to you...
  • McLifterPants
    McLifterPants Posts: 457 Member
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    Hey, go for it. I mean, in biblical times you'd probably have been obliged to marry her, or stone her to death. Not really sure which one applies.

    Don't stone her to death.

    :laugh:

    Fantastic :)
  • brandon0523
    brandon0523 Posts: 516
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    ok point taken
  • akaporn
    akaporn Posts: 231 Member
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    Just imagine all the possible complications and multiply them by 10 times. If it still worth it? Go for it!
  • BigDaddyRonnie
    BigDaddyRonnie Posts: 506 Member
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    Dude...there is man code in there somewhere.

    Take it slow. You are bound to piss someone off somewhere when the news gets out. Yes there is a long length of time that obviously has some drama built into it.

    Take it slow, dude, take it slow.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
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    Given my brother's history in choices of women...no. Go back to when we were kids...we always stole the other's girlfriends...so, I could if he picked up better women :smokin:
  • Quasita
    Quasita Posts: 1,530 Member
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    Going to weigh in as one of the only people to say I don't really see an issue with this if you are open about it and tread carefully. The kid doesn't have to call you 'Uncle Dad" and any future kids you had together would be their half siblings. To me, this is no different than when a partner passes away and that person's brother/sister ends up with their widowed spouse. It's more common than you think.

    If you go for it though, make sure you keep your distance for any child support hearings and family court proceedings. That is their business, not yours... and if you meddle, you could lose more than a brother, it could alienate you from a lot of family.

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