can you date your brothers ex wife

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  • DeeVanderbles
    DeeVanderbles Posts: 589 Member
    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'
    :drinker:
  • jonward85
    jonward85 Posts: 534 Member
    My wife's best friend was dating her (now husband)'s cousin when they met. Her husband and his cousin were living together and she left the cousin to be with he husband...i'm sure it's a little odd a family gatherings, but they're happy and after 10+yrs no one seems to even think twice of it....my opinion...still weird, but hey...stranger things have happened.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I find it interesting that so many people are focused mainly on the fact that your relationship to the child wouldn't fit a certain label.
  • gwduker
    gwduker Posts: 293
    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'

    Oh this so reaks of...

    Many, many years ago when I was twenty-three I was married to a widow who was pretty as could be This widow had a grown-up daughter who had hair of red My father fell in love with her and soon they too were wed
    This made my dad my son-in-law and really changed my life For now my daughter was my mother, 'cause she was my father's wife And to complicate the matter, even though it brought me joy I soon became the father of a bouncing baby boy
    My little baby then became a brother-in-law to dad And so became my uncle, though it made me very sad For if he were my uncle, then that also made him brother Of the widow's grownup daughter, who was of course my step-mother
    Father's wife then had a son who kept them on the run And he became my grandchild, for he was my daughter's son My wife is now my mother's mother and it makes me blue Because although she is my wife, she's my grandmother too
    Now if my wife is my grandmother, then I'm her grandchild And every time I think of it, it nearly drives me wild 'Cause now I have become the strangest 'case you ever saw As husband of my grandmother, I am my own grandpa
    I'm my own grandpa, I'm my own grandpa It sounds funny, I know but it really is so I'm my own grandpa
    You either know that polka, or you are the guy I was stationed with!!
  • eatcleanNtraindirty
    eatcleanNtraindirty Posts: 444 Member
    Sorry but it just ain't right! There's plenty of fish in the sea! Find one your brother hasn't slept with.
  • BuffyEat2Live
    BuffyEat2Live Posts: 327 Member
    Why not? The world needs more Uncle Daddies.
  • jeffrodgers1
    jeffrodgers1 Posts: 991 Member
    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'

    Oh this so reaks of...

    Many, many years ago when I was twenty-three I was married to a widow who was pretty as could be This widow had a grown-up daughter who had hair of red My father fell in love with her and soon they too were wed
    This made my dad my son-in-law and really changed my life For now my daughter was my mother, 'cause she was my father's wife And to complicate the matter, even though it brought me joy I soon became the father of a bouncing baby boy
    My little baby then became a brother-in-law to dad And so became my uncle, though it made me very sad For if he were my uncle, then that also made him brother Of the widow's grownup daughter, who was of course my step-mother
    Father's wife then had a son who kept them on the run And he became my grandchild, for he was my daughter's son My wife is now my mother's mother and it makes me blue Because although she is my wife, she's my grandmother too
    Now if my wife is my grandmother, then I'm her grandchild And every time I think of it, it nearly drives me wild 'Cause now I have become the strangest 'case you ever saw As husband of my grandmother, I am my own grandpa
    I'm my own grandpa, I'm my own grandpa It sounds funny, I know but it really is so I'm my own grandpa
    You either know that polka, or you are the guy I was stationed with!!

    Don't think its a polka... it's Ray Stevens.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I find it interesting that so many people are focused mainly on the fact that your relationship to the child wouldn't fit a certain label.
    Same here...especially since the OP noted that his brother hasn't seen the kid in years and doesn't pay child support. I'm guessing he could use a father figure at this point, and so what if its technically his uncle? Its not like they broke up last week and the brother is devasated over losing his wife...doesn't seem like that big of a deal in today's society (there are much worse situations out there).
  • jonward85
    jonward85 Posts: 534 Member
    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'

    Oh this so reaks of...

    Many, many years ago when I was twenty-three I was married to a widow who was pretty as could be This widow had a grown-up daughter who had hair of red My father fell in love with her and soon they too were wed
    This made my dad my son-in-law and really changed my life For now my daughter was my mother, 'cause she was my father's wife And to complicate the matter, even though it brought me joy I soon became the father of a bouncing baby boy
    My little baby then became a brother-in-law to dad And so became my uncle, though it made me very sad For if he were my uncle, then that also made him brother Of the widow's grownup daughter, who was of course my step-mother
    Father's wife then had a son who kept them on the run And he became my grandchild, for he was my daughter's son My wife is now my mother's mother and it makes me blue Because although she is my wife, she's my grandmother too
    Now if my wife is my grandmother, then I'm her grandchild And every time I think of it, it nearly drives me wild 'Cause now I have become the strangest 'case you ever saw As husband of my grandmother, I am my own grandpa
    I'm my own grandpa, I'm my own grandpa It sounds funny, I know but it really is so I'm my own grandpa


    OMG i love this song. Thanks for the trip down memory road. I think my coworkes all think im crazy because i started humming this....LOL im still dieing.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    I just can't picture the whole thing. If my mother and father divorced and then my mother married my uncle? I'd go ape *kitten*.

    This guy has a choice and asked everyone to respond. Seems most think it's a bad idea, but I don't think he wants those type answers. He wants opinions to coincide with his, which is fine too. We don't have to live in his world.

    Good luck with that!
  • Establishedn1986
    Establishedn1986 Posts: 306 Member
    "This is my uncle... Wait, no, my step-dad... wait, no, my uncle..."
    My thoughts
  • vick9180
    vick9180 Posts: 144 Member
    I haven't read too many of the responses, but here's my take...well, it's more of a story of something similar happening.

    I know of someone whose husband dated one of her sisters, married and divorced another one, and then he married and divorced her best friend. He ended up being a friend of her first husband (who passed away from cancer) and he helped her through the toughest time of her life. She is at odds with the sister that divorced her current husband, and the best friend is a former best friend, and had been prior to her dating her current husband. The husband has 2 children by her sister, so she is their aunt, and now their stepmom.

    If you can follow along with that story, you can see how crazy it sounds. It's not perfect, but it's working for them. And, it made for a great story at their wedding...you can imagine the laughs. I always joke with the lady's son because his cousins are now his step-siblings....he still refers to them as his cousins, though. :)

    There's always a potential of drama in any relationship....one like this has a lot of potential, but I'd say it all depends on the relationship you have with your brother and his kids. Good luck to you in your decision!
  • kmm7309
    kmm7309 Posts: 802 Member
    Dear Redneck,

    I am a depraved individual & even I think this is a stupid idea.

    Dear Depraved Individual,

    I am a redneck & even I think this is a stupid idea.
  • trishgrace
    trishgrace Posts: 279 Member
    IMO: You are a good looking guy, find someone else and avoid any possibility of drama. Safer that way.
  • MILFdoesabodyGd
    MILFdoesabodyGd Posts: 347 Member
    IMO, life is too short!! If you can find some happiness in something or someone~ GO FOR IT! :smile:

    I agree with this.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I find it interesting that so many people are focused mainly on the fact that your relationship to the child wouldn't fit a certain label.
    Same here...especially since the OP noted that his brother hasn't seen the kid in years and doesn't pay child support. I'm guessing he could use a father figure at this point, and so what if its technically his uncle? Its not like they broke up last week and the brother is devasated over losing his wife...doesn't seem like that big of a deal in today's society (there are much worse situations out there).
    I'm still not sure it's the best idea - it could work, but I'm thinking of ways it could be difficult for the kid. Still, the issue of "omg you'd be an uncle and a step-father is so WEIRD" is not really a concern for me.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    Dear Redneck,

    I am a depraved individual & even I think this is a stupid idea.

    Dear Depraved Individual,

    I am a redneck & even I think this is a stupid idea.

    Dear Redneck and depraved individual:

    I'm a city slicker and even I think this is a stupid idea.
  • hkevans724
    hkevans724 Posts: 241 Member
    All this talk about babies and cousins and siblings.. If you decide to marry her just adopt him and then they will all be siblings :) The poor boy needs a father.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    what's the relationship between you and brother?
  • antizoni1
    antizoni1 Posts: 334
    Do Not date your Brothers ex-wife, I dont care how much yall hit it off, this will only cause problems. YOU WILL GET BOOED ON JERRY SPRINGER AND YALL WILL END UP FIGHTING ON NATIONAL T.V.
  • dlyeates
    dlyeates Posts: 875 Member
    I would be more worried about the kid......if you guys get married he's going to be like "this is my step-father and my uncle" and if you guys had another kid together that kid would be both 1/2 siblings with your nephew/step-son and cousins. That is one crazy family tree.
  • Broderick50
    Broderick50 Posts: 842 Member
    CAN YOU BANG HER HELL YES CAN YOU DATE HER HELL NO
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    You and your brother share blood, it wont ever change.

    You and chick share a connection. That can change.

    I wouldnt do it.
  • DeeDee2211
    DeeDee2211 Posts: 1,133 Member
    :noway:
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    Dear Redneck,

    I am a depraved individual & even I think this is a stupid idea.

    Dear Depraved Individual,

    I am a redneck & even I think this is a stupid idea.

    Dear Redneck and depraved individual:

    I'm a city slicker and even I think this is a stupid idea.

    all of you should walk into a bar and see what joke comes out...
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Of course not. Would you want him to date your ex?

    Read the Man handbook .
  • krissyliz78
    krissyliz78 Posts: 181 Member
    Negatory!

    Dude.... Your brother put his junk in that. No. Just no

    DITTO!!!! ^^^^^^
  • terpsoccer
    terpsoccer Posts: 22 Member
    yeah if you are insane and don't want your brother anymore. let it go man
  • ekking69
    ekking69 Posts: 44
    I think you have to take into account why they divorced. If they just grew apart and it was amicable, then there shouldn't be too much harm. If it was nasty because of a he said/she said thing, stay out of it.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I would be more worried about the kid......if you guys get married he's going to be like "this is my step-father and my uncle" and if you guys had another kid together that kid would be both 1/2 siblings with your nephew/step-son and cousins. That is one crazy family tree.
    Really, you don't think the kid would just introduce him as his step-father and half-siblings? What is this obsession with labels?
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