Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Hope you're ok @Lois_1989 , you got me thinking. I do worry I put people off when I complain about my kids. They are pretty exhausting. I'm feeding Ellie as I type at midnight having had a busy day with multiple clean ups as Andrew's having potty training regression. And you know I had a hard time giving birth. I don't paint a pretty picture!
But then again who wants to listen to my soppiness? Today I made fish fingers, peas, corn and carrots and everyone ate it and enjoyed it and that makes me disproportionately happy! Andrew had the time of his life today feeding the ducks. My favourite time on work days is the moment I pick my kids up from nursery.
I wonder if I'd be as happy had I never wanted kids and not had any (I really, really wanted them - hormones are crazy). Probably, life is what you make of it. But all I know is the very happiest moment of my life was when they placed Ellie on my chest straight after birth. I was naked in an operating room surrounded by strangers and being sewn back together, but it was a moment of sheer, unrivaled joy for me.
Tldr: kids make you crazy mad and crazy in love.
Hey @spamarie, no it’s not you, your stories amount to about 0.01% of the reason. 50% of it is Danny not being helpful now, let alone if we had a baby, 40% is my lack of confidence in work colleagues to do my job while I’m not there and the final 10% is filler horror stories.
Half of me wants to slowly take all the money out of my savings account in cash over the next couple of months and eventually run away and start over, the other half is trying to resign myself to the fact that we would both be rubbish parents together so we should just get a cat instead. I can look after a cat on my own.4 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »But seriously, what are the best bits about having kids? As far as I can tell, they cause you pain, stress and money. I just had a bath and as I’m lying there all I can hear are the 2 boys next door arguing and the mum shouting at them. I’ve been laying in bed before listening to the kid in the flat above have a full blown tantrum in the middle of the night. I listen to stories in the office about someone’s kid has done something, someone spent their whole weekend running her kids and grandkids around. My dad has endless stories (some that he told at my wedding) about how horrible I was as a child. I don’t get it. Why put yourself through it?
I cannot speak for everyone, but for me the two strongest factors was carrying on my father's name (both first and family name), since there are very many people in Canada with my last name. And wanting a generation Canadian born, that did not end up messed up by my mother's mistakes.
I had to make the choice very young, because I was told when I turned 18 that I should not have children for medical reasons. I had not thought much about it before that, but as soon as I was told that, I knew right away that I wanted one, even if I died trying (which was an actual possibility). It took me over three years to conceive and it was a long painful process.
When I look at my son, he is in good health, and is very successful in life already, that makes me feel like I achieved something great. By breaking the cycle of addiction and abuse and restoring honour in my father's name. It is not always easy, but I would do it again in a heart beat. And if I never had him, I do not know where I would be in life, or quite frankly, if I would even be alive.
That is why I put myself through that.
Having kids was both the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me, which I think most parents would admit if they were honest. But the good outweighs the bad.
The "worst" statement isn't a slight on my kids, I love them dearly and have no regrets, but the grind of doing everything you did when you thought you were "busy" pre-kids plus the mountain of additional things you now have to do as a parent is beyond exhausting. Hobbies, relaxation, exciting travel, certain friends, most individual ambitions - all gone, so I respect people who know themselves well enough to choose to remain childless.
I laugh when I hear my millennial coworkers without kids lament how busy and exhausted they are and how they "need a vacation", I honestly wish we could switch places for an entire weekend for a much-needed reality check on what business and exhaustion really look like.4 -
Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!4 -
Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!4 -
^ SAME!! T is famous for leaving a few seconds on the microwave and it drives me crazy!1
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »But seriously, what are the best bits about having kids? As far as I can tell, they cause you pain, stress and money. I just had a bath and as I’m lying there all I can hear are the 2 boys next door arguing and the mum shouting at them. I’ve been laying in bed before listening to the kid in the flat above have a full blown tantrum in the middle of the night. I listen to stories in the office about someone’s kid has done something, someone spent their whole weekend running her kids and grandkids around. My dad has endless stories (some that he told at my wedding) about how horrible I was as a child. I don’t get it. Why put yourself through it?
This is why I don't have any yet myself at 31. Everytime I think of it, reeeaaally think of it, my mind goes to stuff like this. And yet somehow, I have this inexplicible urge to still have kids someday. I want scraped knees, and baby kisses, and to pass on family traditions. Unfortunatly that comes with diaper blow outs, the terrible two's and the terrible teen's. Not to mention the current polarizing cultural and political climate we live in right now.
It makes no sense to me. And I can't decide if my urge to have kids is due to social expectations, biological urges to reproduce, or something else. It's a really strange feeling. I have no idea if it will ever happen for me as I sit here on the fence. I suppose I will welcome either outcome however life turns out.
All of this, and I have the added situation that out of both of my husbands parents families, they were the only ones to have kids. They haven’t got any cousins. If we don’t have kids and his sister doesn’t, that’s the end of the family tree. And his sister is my age (turning 30 this year) and single, so. Yup.
FYI don’t google “perks of being a parent”. They are pretty crap perks, like ‘you have a reason to watch cartoons’. I already do, that’s not a perk. Or, “it’s an ego boost having someone depend on you”, nope, my husband depends on me and it’s not ego boosting, it’s annoying.
I do not find those perks at all lol
I cannot stand cartoons and always fell asleep when taking my son to watch them....
I definitely couldn't stand when my nieces/nephews wanted to watch Caillou, Peppa Pig, or Oobi (Oobi was a show where someone used their hand that had googly eyes on).
Now Spongebob I'll watch haha.0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Or the person who has soup/spaghetti & leaves the microwave caked with their food debris.3 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Haha no I zero it out afterwards. I wouldn't keep my job in the imaginary bomb squad for long if I left live countdowns all over the place.3 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Or the person who has soup/spaghetti & leaves the microwave caked with their food debris.
I sent a nasty email to my entire office about this. It is just one guy and he leaves crumbs on the counter. So- I have started to slide them off the counter in my hand and sprinkle them on his desk.
I am thinking about taking his dirty dishes that he leaves in the sink daily and leave them on his desk, too.10 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Or the person who has soup/spaghetti & leaves the microwave caked with their food debris.
I sent a nasty email to my entire office about this. It is just one guy and he leaves crumbs on the counter. So- I have started to slide them off the counter in my hand and sprinkle them on his desk.
I am thinking about taking his dirty dishes that he leaves in the sink daily and leave them on his desk, too.
Do it, but he's stl not reached Plate in the Bathroom Girl level.4 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Or the person who has soup/spaghetti & leaves the microwave caked with their food debris.
I sent a nasty email to my entire office about this. It is just one guy and he leaves crumbs on the counter. So- I have started to slide them off the counter in my hand and sprinkle them on his desk.
I am thinking about taking his dirty dishes that he leaves in the sink daily and leave them on his desk, too.
That is amazing. I should do that to the lady in my office1 -
Confession
I’m more excited about the plants I bought turning up tomorrow, than the clothes I bought. I still haven’t opened or taken the clothes out of the delivery bag and they were delivered on Wednesday.2 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession:
Whenever I microwave something, I like to stop the clock with 1 second to go as though I were in the bomb squad.
Such is the level of excitement in my life!
But do you leave the 1 second on there like a heathen so the microwave won't work for the next person?!? Or do you clear it off like a civilized human being???
One of my major pet peeves about the work break room!
Or the person who has soup/spaghetti & leaves the microwave caked with their food debris.
I sent a nasty email to my entire office about this. It is just one guy and he leaves crumbs on the counter. So- I have started to slide them off the counter in my hand and sprinkle them on his desk.
I am thinking about taking his dirty dishes that he leaves in the sink daily and leave them on his desk, too.
That's pretty awesome!! Haha!!1 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »^ SAME!! T is famous for leaving a few seconds on the microwave and it drives me crazy!
G does this to me every day.
Last night he left the microwave door open all night....just found it now when I woke up...1 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »^ SAME!! T is famous for leaving a few seconds on the microwave and it drives me crazy!
G does this to me every day.
Last night he left the microwave door open all night....just found it now when I woke up...
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Had to do several visits to the pet shop today. Our Betta fish has been out of sorts, not eating and has something wrong with the back of him. After loads of photos and a water test the fish lady decided our Cherry Barbs are attacking the Betta at night. Looks like another tank it be appearing in the future.
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Awww, poor little guy!0
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So.. I about ate a whole (Large) bag of popcorn thinking it was only going to cost me 100 calories. The box says it makes 4 cups popped, and at 25 calories per cup (at work, no scale) it should be 100 calories per bag. Well I'm dumping it into these little styrofoam cups we have at work that are just over 1 cup by volume. About the 3rd "cup" in, I find that there is still half of the popcorn in the bag. Well I had one more "cup" and am saving the other half bag until tomorrow. But I find it rather annoying and perplexing that I had to do a google search, and use a dang calculator to figure out how much is in a whole bag. Why the heck can't they just say "one whole bag is x cups and x number of calories". Do they think people won't buy it when they find out the "truth"? It doesn't stop people from buying that 2100 calorie plate at a resturaunt, so why would it stop someone from buying thier brand of popcorn? Stupid misleading popcorn, LOL. And my dumbass even fell for their tricky marketing play at the grocery store too. "Ooh, 100 calorie bags! Makes 4 cups.. Brilliant! I will buy this one!". Nope it's more like 311 for the whole bag. Not a big deal really.
TLDR Confession: Having to do math to figure out actual servings per container is annoying and inconvenient. How dare they.
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I guess the advertising is to reel you in and the flavour keeps you buying... deception is the god of advertising. 2
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Crafty_camper123 wrote: »So.. I about ate a whole (Large) bag of popcorn thinking it was only going to cost me 100 calories. The box says it makes 4 cups popped, and at 25 calories per cup (at work, no scale) it should be 100 calories per bag. Well I'm dumping it into these little styrofoam cups we have at work that are just over 1 cup by volume. About the 3rd "cup" in, I find that there is still half of the popcorn in the bag. Well I had one more "cup" and am saving the other half bag until tomorrow. But I find it rather annoying and perplexing that I had to do a google search, and use a dang calculator to figure out how much is in a whole bag. Why the heck can't they just say "one whole bag is x cups and x number of calories". Do they think people won't buy it when they find out the "truth"? It doesn't stop people from buying that 2100 calorie plate at a resturaunt, so why would it stop someone from buying thier brand of popcorn? Stupid misleading popcorn, LOL. And my dumbass even fell for their tricky marketing play at the grocery store too. "Ooh, 100 calorie bags! Makes 4 cups.. Brilliant! I will buy this one!". Nope it's more like 311 for the whole bag. Not a big deal really.
TLDR Confession: Having to do math to figure out actual servings per container is annoying and inconvenient. How dare they.
Microwave popcorn is THE WORST! Why can't they just say, "This bag, in total, popped, is 311 calories."2 -
I'm planning my after-meet food weekend!
Margaritas and cookie molcajete Saturday night.
Buffalo chicken pizza Sunday night and probably my hidden pint of Ben and Jerry's The Tonight Dough.
Freddy's Steakburger on Monday (yay for President's Day off!)
Then back to real life on Tuesday.
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We have the Houston Cookoff next week, so my diet will be a wreck. I could probably keto it though. Lots of meat there! My oldest dog is probably about to make the trip across the rainbow bridge. She has a very hard time moving around and she is developing growths in her mouth that are probably painful. 8
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So sorry about your pup
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We have the Houston Cookoff next week, so my diet will be a wreck. I could probably keto it though. Lots of meat there! My oldest dog is probably about to make the trip across the rainbow bridge. She has a very hard time moving around and she is developing growths in her mouth that are probably painful.
I'm so sorry. That's really hard. HUGS!1 -
Aww. Poor puppy.
I'm sorry to hear about your pup.
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Confession: I've had a cold since end of last week. Most calorie counting has just gone completely out the window. Now that the cold is nearing it's end, and I feel more human today then I have in a few days. Which means it's back to the program. Boo. LOL. But I am excited to be able to get going on my exercise again. I don't think I'm ready to get really serious again 'til after Valentine's day though.3
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We have the Houston Cookoff next week, so my diet will be a wreck. I could probably keto it though. Lots of meat there! My oldest dog is probably about to make the trip across the rainbow bridge. She has a very hard time moving around and she is developing growths in her mouth that are probably painful.
Sorry sweet doggo!
I like dogs more than most people3 -
We have the Houston Cookoff next week, so my diet will be a wreck. I could probably keto it though. Lots of meat there! My oldest dog is probably about to make the trip across the rainbow bridge. She has a very hard time moving around and she is developing growths in her mouth that are probably painful.
Sorry sweet doggo!
I like dogs more than most people
This is me! I would absolutely coo over a puppy than a baby!5 -
I like all dogs more than people and I am so very sorry for your family, LeeAnn. It's the worst.1
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