What nobody tells you about losing weight

SapphireMoon23

suzi153 wrote: »

The jealousy amongst "friends" was something I was quite surprised at. Having done every diet known in the world and failed at every one , I of course saw sense and installed MFP. Therefore giving me the ability to eat whatever I wanted. One of my favourite haters at work used to say (when she saw me eating anything more than rabbit food). "Oooohhhh. Suzi is going to be a very disappointed girl when she weighs herself next, eating THAT". With a very joyful face. I just said "keep watching".... And the weight just dropped and dropped. How absolutely satisfying

That's a form of harrassment. I would report a coworker who came at me like that.

SapphireMoon23

How much more often I'd have to use the restroom, from eating more veggies. & that I'd need to carry wet wipes.

Losing all kinda weight. Lol

SapphireMoon23

LisaGugs123 wrote: »

I was trying to tell my mom how cold I've been since losing 30 pounds, but she had no clue. And all of my T shirts are nice and loose, nothing rides up over my belly any more, I love sleeping in them now. I love the new muscles popping out of my legs and the new bones in my hips. Still mentally adjusting to this ride, figuring out how to meal plan all the time, get enough protein, and get a run or workout in. Mentally, the feeling fat days are less than the feeling thin ones, so that's good.

How meal prep has become second nature ... finally. I do it most nights or early in the morning.

SapphireMoon23

LionessWhispers wrote: »

angelxsss wrote: »

-along the same vein, my seatbelt sometimes hurts on my collarbone

Yes! All. The. Time.
I feel like I'm going to cave and buy one of those padded covers for the shoulder strap eventually lol I've only ever seen them used by legitimate old ladies though so it makes me feel like I should just suck it up >.<

I purchased one. I'm officially a little old lady. Lol

SueSueDio

sapphiremoon23 wrote: »

dawnmcneil10 wrote: »

One of my biggest things was learning how to nest my knees for sleeping at night.

Something else that I struggle with is using up the excess energy without irritating others.

Bonus to my friends, since I'm a lightweight I offer to be DD.

Nest?

I presume that refers to not having your knees 'stacked' one on top of the other when sleeping on your side, but sort of offsetting them a bit so your bones don't press together. It's something I'm having to get accustomed to myself lately, even though I still have plenty to lose... bones are definitely becoming more noticeable (and sometimes uncomfortable!) now!

SapphireMoon23

SueSueDio wrote: »

sapphiremoon23 wrote: »

dawnmcneil10 wrote: »

One of my biggest things was learning how to nest my knees for sleeping at night.

Something else that I struggle with is using up the excess energy without irritating others.

Bonus to my friends, since I'm a lightweight I offer to be DD.

Nest?

I presume that refers to not having your knees 'stacked' one on top of the other when sleeping on your side, but sort of offsetting them a bit so your bones don't press together. It's something I'm having to get accustomed to myself lately, even though I still have plenty to lose... bones are definitely becoming more noticeable (and sometimes uncomfortable!) now!

Thank you for explaining that. I still have thick thighs so i don't have that cool issue yet.

JaydedMiss

That the first time someone called you "dainty" would literally knock the wind out of your lungs. Was like wait what O_O Im not even that thin yet XD

Yourebeautiful2day

Going out to lunch, sitting in a booth with a table that doesn't move and having there be "space" between you and the table when there didn't used to be. Also putting on pants and noticing they're "longer" than they were before. Lots less tummy and thighs taking up all the room in them now. Oh, and my number one thing, droopy drawers! Yes, panties get loose and droop at the backside by the leg holes. LOL!

JaydedMiss

That your dreams now often consist of exercising... LOL

mfp_nicole_2017

I have to agree that after losing 110 lbs, I love to buy new clothes and take pics! It may seem vein to some, but I spent my late teens, and all of my 20's being overweight. So therefore, I have earned this!
The worst of this is being cold all the time. I literately wear sweatshirts and long pants with the heat cranked up at home. I wear long sleeves under my work uniform and am still cold. Sometimes wearing all these clothes defeats the purpose of losing weight-you can't show it off! Well there is always spring/summer/fall. Now that it is winter i will be doubled up! Either way it is good to be a healthy weight and it is always a struggle to keep it that way. I have my ups and downs. I recently dropped 7 lbs, after being up 5 lbs. Then I look at how I ate yesterday and am afraid to weight myself again. Ultimately I am just a human so as long as I do not go back to eating like I did when I was very obese, I am good. I have this!

aerochic42

I must admit I'm somewhat jealous of those who love shopping. I hate it. No matter what size I am, I am inevitably between sizes. It's incredibly frustrating. I also have to accept the fact that due to bone structure (more bone length than bone girth, like shoulders and long arms) I will never be a small, and most likely not really a medium. I am out of plus sizes. I tried on winter coats this weekend to figure out what size I am so I don't have to deal with as much a hassle on black Friday sales. My shoulders and boobs meant that I didn't fit into a women's xl in two major brands. I ended up buying a men's coat for the size and color choices and the arms are too long even though it fits through the body. I can't win for trying.

hcdo

How long meal prep takes. I hate it, but I definitely feel better once I do it and don't cave to fast food at the last minute.

Also, how much it hurts when people tell you how much better you look now. At first it's flattering, but I had someone not even recognize me in an old picture, and she said, "Oh, wow, you look so much better now! Don't gain again!" Thanks for telling me I used to look like absolute s***

Colt1835

aerochic42 wrote: »

I must admit I'm somewhat jealous of those who love shopping. I hate it. No matter what size I am, I am inevitably between sizes. It's incredibly frustrating. I also have to accept the fact that due to bone structure (more bone length than bone girth, like shoulders and long arms) I will never be a small, and most likely not really a medium. I am out of plus sizes. I tried on winter coats this weekend to figure out what size I am so I don't have to deal with as much a hassle on black Friday sales. My shoulders and boobs meant that I didn't fit into a women's xl in two major brands. I ended up buying a men's coat for the size and color choices and the arms are too long even though it fits through the body. I can't win for trying.

I feel your pain. I haven't met my goal yet, but I'm already noticing how difficult shopping is starting to be. I'm probably going to have to get most of my wardrobe tailored when I meet my goal. I'm in a medium now, but Its hard to find shirts long enough so I'm kind of stuck at large until I figure it out.

GabinkaP

re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several

My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!

So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.

crystalmorrison378

brenlikethat wrote: »

Going out to lunch, sitting in a booth with a table that doesn't move and having there be "space" between you and the table when there didn't used to be.

THIS!!!!

SapphireMoon23

GabinkaP wrote: »

re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several

My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!

So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.

what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.

SapphireMoon23

GabinkaP wrote: »

re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several

My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!

So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.

when I was about 8 years old I was very overweight and had chest pains and would cry. When my mother took me to the doctor he said to my mother that we should go park and get me a bicycle or roller skates or play ball, etc. and he also said that my mother should not allow me to eat so much ice cream and bread and cake and cookies and fried foods. that's just paraphrasing. I don't remember all the exact words. My mother grew up in the country in PR and was very skinny so when she raised us she thought that being fat was healthy. I remember thinking that it would be a good thing to lose wt because I was tired of the kids making fun of me at school. I was scared that I would grow up to be as big as my mom who was about 250 lbs at least. She seemed grumpy &/or depressed much of the time.

-That i would have to deal with these issues, shedding wt & shedding emotional baggage.

kgirlhart

sapphiremoon23 wrote: »

GabinkaP wrote: »

re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several

My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!

So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.

what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.

That is easier said than done. You can't always or really even ever control what a teenager eats. Everyone has their own family dynamics that play onto it.

My daughter was always underweight so we were told to have as much calorie dense foods on hand as possible and let her eat whatever she wanted whenever we could get her to. My son has a tendency to be overweight so the advice would be to stock the pantry only with "healthy" foods and keep the "junk" foods out of the house. It was hard to find the right balance and I'm sure I made plenty of food mistakes when my kids were growing up. You just do the best you can.

srecupid

KFC is actually a reasonable dinner choice if you are careful

treehugnmama

kgirlhart wrote: »

sapphiremoon23 wrote: »

GabinkaP wrote: »

re: childhood obesity that was mentioned by several

My teenage daughter is headed that way. And I'm on a tightrope. I want to talk with her about it and help her decide she needs to lose weight now. But there's the whole fat-shaming thing to not run into and my daughter has RAD and is 15. You may not know RAD. It's Reactive Attachment Disorder. My daughter also has PTSD and depression. So she won't take anything I say well. And she certainly won't take my example of losing 32 pounds and keeping most of them (around 30) off. Basically, she doesn't want me to be right about anything!

So us parents aren't always in a position to help our obese children not be obese. I think my daughter is just overweight now but I haven't calculated it. She's 5'1" and last I heard was 170 lbs.

what about just making healthy foods available all the time, instead of foods that could make her gain more weight. Maybe she can help you to prepare or cook healthy meals. there does not have to be a pep talk about it. and if you're going to go out for a walk ask her if she wants to join you. Baby steps.
and my apologies if I sound like I'm giving unsolicited suggestions or ideas.

That is easier said than done. You can't always or really even ever control what a teenager eats. Everyone has their own family dynamics that play onto it.

My daughter was always underweight so we were told to have as much calorie dense foods on hand as possible and let her eat whatever she wanted whenever we could get her to. My son has a tendency to be overweight so the advice would be to stock the pantry only with "healthy" foods and keep the "junk" foods out of the house. It was hard to find the right balance and I'm sure I made plenty of food mistakes when my kids were growing up. You just do the best you can.

I jave one child underweight told to give am extra meal before bed.lots of calorie rich food boost instead of milk etc. other child.over weight...no food after dinner only water to drink and limit calories.....this is so hard to balance and keep emotional well being of the kids intact.