What nobody tells you about losing weight
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GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »skymningen wrote: »Nobody told me that it can be harder to find fitting dresses which flatter your waist if you are a short and skinny but relatively blessed in the bust area. It worked better when I was not annoyed that the dresses matching my bust don't flatter my waist.
Nobody told me I'd no longer be blessed in the bust area...
I'm really hoping for that to happen to me! I'm a 46HH UK sizing, because US sizing just didn't go up that big really. It's very hard to find bras that fit right. I'm usually wearing bras that are technically too small in the cups because I break the underwire ones too quickly.
I'd love to have small breasts when I'm done, I could actually buy cute bras.
You might size into a size that has cute styles. I still wear UK bras because I came to prefer them, and even in FF cups, I can find some pretty bras. I wear either a 30 FF or a 32 F. I started out in a in a 38K.
That's fine too. I know as my band size goes down I'll be more likely to find cute bras. There aren't as many women with my size breasts and ribs as there are smaller sizes, so I get why styles are limited. Still sucks. As does paying $60 for a bra only to have the wire pop out two months later.
I'll also be happy to size down into a point where I can get sports bras. Even if the cups are too small, right now I haven't found *any* sports bras in a 46 band, even online in the plus size sections. I think the highest one seen is a 42 or 44.
I don't need one for support, the most I do is walk right now when my knee lets me, but underwires are just not comfortable all the time and the sweat means I have to wash them more often.
Try this link. I got several sports bras that I loved. Their sizes go up to 50G.
http://www.justmysize.com/shop/justmysize/plus-size-intimates/bra-styles/sizes-f-to-k/glamorise-no-bounce-cami-bra-21811?fromSearchResult=true&cm_vc=justmysize_desktop_OnsiteSearch
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Morethanjustanumber wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »skymningen wrote: »Nobody told me that it can be harder to find fitting dresses which flatter your waist if you are a short and skinny but relatively blessed in the bust area. It worked better when I was not annoyed that the dresses matching my bust don't flatter my waist.
Nobody told me I'd no longer be blessed in the bust area...
I'm really hoping for that to happen to me! I'm a 46HH UK sizing, because US sizing just didn't go up that big really. It's very hard to find bras that fit right. I'm usually wearing bras that are technically too small in the cups because I break the underwire ones too quickly.
I'd love to have small breasts when I'm done, I could actually buy cute bras.
You might size into a size that has cute styles. I still wear UK bras because I came to prefer them, and even in FF cups, I can find some pretty bras. I wear either a 30 FF or a 32 F. I started out in a in a 38K.
That's fine too. I know as my band size goes down I'll be more likely to find cute bras. There aren't as many women with my size breasts and ribs as there are smaller sizes, so I get why styles are limited. Still sucks. As does paying $60 for a bra only to have the wire pop out two months later.
I'll also be happy to size down into a point where I can get sports bras. Even if the cups are too small, right now I haven't found *any* sports bras in a 46 band, even online in the plus size sections. I think the highest one seen is a 42 or 44.
I don't need one for support, the most I do is walk right now when my knee lets me, but underwires are just not comfortable all the time and the sweat means I have to wash them more often.
Try this link. I got several sports bras that I loved. Their sizes go up to 50G.
http://www.justmysize.com/shop/justmysize/plus-size-intimates/bra-styles/sizes-f-to-k/glamorise-no-bounce-cami-bra-21811?fromSearchResult=true&cm_vc=justmysize_desktop_OnsiteSearch
And they are cheap! Thank you so much! I'll be ordering some soon.
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last night, I had issues with the bath covering my boobs and knees, but my tummy was submerged! never had that, always had all three out!
Edit: oops wrong thread, oh well.11 -
bpetersen1234 wrote: »I understand the mirror part completely. I have lost 45lbs and 3 inches in my stomach. Even though I'm told by people they can tell, the mirror to me says a different story. Keep up the hard work!
I lost 155 pounds and still see the old me in the mirror at times!15 -
Morethanjustanumber wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »skymningen wrote: »Nobody told me that it can be harder to find fitting dresses which flatter your waist if you are a short and skinny but relatively blessed in the bust area. It worked better when I was not annoyed that the dresses matching my bust don't flatter my waist.
Nobody told me I'd no longer be blessed in the bust area...
I'm really hoping for that to happen to me! I'm a 46HH UK sizing, because US sizing just didn't go up that big really. It's very hard to find bras that fit right. I'm usually wearing bras that are technically too small in the cups because I break the underwire ones too quickly.
I'd love to have small breasts when I'm done, I could actually buy cute bras.
You might size into a size that has cute styles. I still wear UK bras because I came to prefer them, and even in FF cups, I can find some pretty bras. I wear either a 30 FF or a 32 F. I started out in a in a 38K.
That's fine too. I know as my band size goes down I'll be more likely to find cute bras. There aren't as many women with my size breasts and ribs as there are smaller sizes, so I get why styles are limited. Still sucks. As does paying $60 for a bra only to have the wire pop out two months later.
I'll also be happy to size down into a point where I can get sports bras. Even if the cups are too small, right now I haven't found *any* sports bras in a 46 band, even online in the plus size sections. I think the highest one seen is a 42 or 44.
I don't need one for support, the most I do is walk right now when my knee lets me, but underwires are just not comfortable all the time and the sweat means I have to wash them more often.
Try this link. I got several sports bras that I loved. Their sizes go up to 50G.
http://www.justmysize.com/shop/justmysize/plus-size-intimates/bra-styles/sizes-f-to-k/glamorise-no-bounce-cami-bra-21811?fromSearchResult=true&cm_vc=justmysize_desktop_OnsiteSearch
Ugh.. I got excited thinking I finally found a wire free bra I could buy. I didn't know it would be much harder to find bras once the band size goes down. Most of my usual plus size brands don't carry my band size. I'm having to make do with cup sizes that are way too small but stretchy enough to work. What makes it worse is that I don't know of any place that reliably carries my size so I'm always having to order online with international shipping and whatnot, so returns are not an option (I would be paying more in shipping than the tag price itself and no guarantee it would arrive within the return period)0 -
amusedmonkey wrote: »Morethanjustanumber wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »skymningen wrote: »Nobody told me that it can be harder to find fitting dresses which flatter your waist if you are a short and skinny but relatively blessed in the bust area. It worked better when I was not annoyed that the dresses matching my bust don't flatter my waist.
Nobody told me I'd no longer be blessed in the bust area...
I'm really hoping for that to happen to me! I'm a 46HH UK sizing, because US sizing just didn't go up that big really. It's very hard to find bras that fit right. I'm usually wearing bras that are technically too small in the cups because I break the underwire ones too quickly.
I'd love to have small breasts when I'm done, I could actually buy cute bras.
You might size into a size that has cute styles. I still wear UK bras because I came to prefer them, and even in FF cups, I can find some pretty bras. I wear either a 30 FF or a 32 F. I started out in a in a 38K.
That's fine too. I know as my band size goes down I'll be more likely to find cute bras. There aren't as many women with my size breasts and ribs as there are smaller sizes, so I get why styles are limited. Still sucks. As does paying $60 for a bra only to have the wire pop out two months later.
I'll also be happy to size down into a point where I can get sports bras. Even if the cups are too small, right now I haven't found *any* sports bras in a 46 band, even online in the plus size sections. I think the highest one seen is a 42 or 44.
I don't need one for support, the most I do is walk right now when my knee lets me, but underwires are just not comfortable all the time and the sweat means I have to wash them more often.
Try this link. I got several sports bras that I loved. Their sizes go up to 50G.
http://www.justmysize.com/shop/justmysize/plus-size-intimates/bra-styles/sizes-f-to-k/glamorise-no-bounce-cami-bra-21811?fromSearchResult=true&cm_vc=justmysize_desktop_OnsiteSearch
Ugh.. I got excited thinking I finally found a wire free bra I could buy. I didn't know it would be much harder to find bras once the band size goes down. Most of my usual plus size brands don't carry my band size. I'm having to make do with cup sizes that are way too small but stretchy enough to work. What makes it worse is that I don't know of any place that reliably carries my size so I'm always having to order online with international shipping and whatnot, so returns are not an option (I would be paying more in shipping than the tag price itself and no guarantee it would arrive within the return period)
That's mostly what I still do with wire free bras. I'm a 46HH (was a 50 unknown cup size) but was wearing 50DDDs because they for "well enough". My breasts are long and big, but squishy. They fit into the DDD cup of the brand I was wearing without spillage, but it didn't really give great support or separation. The difference in a properly sized underwire is huge. But I break those too quickly to be able to afford them. I'll keep wearing "good enough" bras until my fat levels go down so I'm not putting too much pressure on the sides of the bras anymore.
I'm sorry you have trouble finding bras too. It sucks being an outlier in the boob area.
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I just passed the 50lb mark this morning! (Yay) and nobody told me that:
- The dedication and commitment I have applied to my weight loss has transferred over to every other area of my life. I no longer procrastinate at school or work, my house is neat and tidy, I invest more into maintaining my friendships
- That somewhere along the line it would stop being a "weight loss" journey and it would start being a "treat your body with respect because she works damn hard for you every day" journey.
- Food is not the enemy! It is fuel, nothing more or less.
- That I would become a much more resilient and flexible person.81 -
Bra folks - I feel you. I haven't seen my lap since I was 15 and every shirt has a stain right on the boobs. Once I'm to my real final size and have maintained for a while I will be getting a reduction. But, for the bras that fit in the cup but not in the band if you need just a few inches there are extenders for a few dollars at places like Target. They are in white, tan, black and in two hook and three hook. I'll try to get a link. I'm guessing craft stores would have them too.4
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Target https://www.target.com/s?searchTerm=bra+extender#category=0|All|matchallpartial|all+categories&lnk=snav_ta_bra+extender_s
Joann fabric http://www.joann.com/search?q=bra extenders
I also have used the pant extender too. http://www.joann.com/waistband-expanders/4683785.html
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Not being invisible. This is the uncomfortable one for me. You can kind of float through the world unnoticed when you are heavy. But now I find people talking to me, staring at me. I'm pretty quiet and keep to myself. It's hard.
Yes so much this. It's stretching me in ways that are very social/emotional, and it's making me grow in ways I haven't had to in a long time. I'm having to figure out a lot internally that I just didn't need to deal with when I was obese.16 -
That swimming gets harder, not easier. Because I don't flippin' well float anymore.
(If I fill my lungs to bursting I can just about keep my nose out of the water. I'm still 16 stone, with plenty of bodyfat; I was not expecting this and I do not like it!)16 -
FatAFNoMore wrote: »Bra folks - I feel you. I haven't seen my lap since I was 15 and every shirt has a stain right on the boobs. Once I'm to my real final size and have maintained for a while I will be getting a reduction. But, for the bras that fit in the cup but not in the band if you need just a few inches there are extenders for a few dollars at places like Target. They are in white, tan, black and in two hook and three hook. I'll try to get a link. I'm guessing craft stores would have them too.
My problem is the opposite. Most plus size brands I used to wear reliably not longer fit because they don't carry smaller bands, and I'm not even talking about an unusually small band size. I started having problems with some models when I went down to 36 (from 48), and now that I'm between 34 and 36 every single model I liked doesn't have that band size. Most of them start at 38 and up, at least the ones I know that are reasonably priced. I haven't worn a bra that fits properly in so long I don't even know what my cup size is now (The last bra that fit reliably used to be 36 J and I'm currently wearing a 36 DDD because it's stretchy enough, it's very comfortable for the price though, here it is for those interested). What narrows the selection further is that I rarely wear a wired bra because I spend a lot of time in bed and it's uncomfortable and breaks easily.
If only I can find one model that is comfortable and fits I'll be very happy because that would be it for a long time since I believe I have reached my final band size and I won't be going any lower.4 -
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Chiming in on the bra convo - I have found Panache to be great. You can get them from Amazon, some boutiques, herroom.com, and many other places. They have several options for my small band size with large cup (32FF), and are very supportive. Not sure about issues with underwire - perhaps talk with a doctor? When my mom had chemo for breast cancer the doctor was able to recommend a few good brands without underwire for her.1
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That swimming gets harder, not easier. Because I don't flippin' well float anymore.
(If I fill my lungs to bursting I can just about keep my nose out of the water. I'm still 16 stone, with plenty of bodyfat; I was not expecting this and I do not like it!)
YES! I was just lamenting this the other day! I was always a good swimmer, and I'm decent still now, but YES, swimming is so much harder and I'm just not as good. Open water is scarier than it has ever been. Treading is HARD WORK.
It didn't stop me from doing the swim leg of the half Ironman...I struggled through it a lot more than I have ever done, but I finished it. Now that I'm smaller, I'm considering getting a wetsuit for wetsuit legal races.9 -
That you hate buying cute clothes.... because you know you won't be able to keep them!17
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amusedmonkey wrote: »FatAFNoMore wrote: »Bra folks - I feel you. I haven't seen my lap since I was 15 and every shirt has a stain right on the boobs. Once I'm to my real final size and have maintained for a while I will be getting a reduction. But, for the bras that fit in the cup but not in the band if you need just a few inches there are extenders for a few dollars at places like Target. They are in white, tan, black and in two hook and three hook. I'll try to get a link. I'm guessing craft stores would have them too.
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If only I can find one model that is comfortable and fits I'll be very happy because that would be it for a long time since I believe I have reached my final band size and I won't be going any lower.
http://www.brasizecalculator.tk
This website has helped me find a more accurate suggested size, which then helped me find a better fitting bra. It recommends U.K. sizing which seems to be finer tuned, if that makes sense. I've had good success ordering from Bare Necessities online, which carries several U.K. sized lines of bras and has a great search engine for narrowing down what you are looking for.
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That you hate buying cute clothes.... because you know you won't be able to keep them!
Or clothes in general!
I found some cute shorts on clearance at Walmart last week, I wanted to buy them, but even for Texas short season is pretty much over. By next year those shorts are going to be WAY too big, and I can't buy shorts now for next year, because I have no idea what size I'll be! A friend gave me a big bag of clothes that are in my size (I thought they'd be too small, but most of them fit), and while they aren't really my style, they fit and are free. I'll wear them anyway, because that's a whole bunch of money I don't have to spend.amusedmonkey wrote: »Most plus size brands I used to wear reliably not longer fit because they don't carry smaller bands, and I'm not even talking about an unusually small band size. I started having problems with some models when I went down to 36 (from 48), and now that I'm between 34 and 36 every single model I liked doesn't have that band size.
This is my fear. I have large breasts as I've said, very long and skinny - and sadly saggy as well. So I suspect that while I'll probably shrink several cup sizes, I may well shrink into an equally difficult size to find. I would love to shrink into a reasonable size, but I was a DD when I was a teenager before I gained so much weight (I was overweight even then, but not a whole lot), I've always had large breasts. My grandmother was the same way. I because of their length/narrowness/overall squishyness I can fit into a DDD cup without spillage, or discomfort, but they look better/better supported in a cup that fits.
I'm hesitant to get a boob reduction when I lose the weight, because that is expensive, I don't have a lot of back pain, and I don't need to impress anyone, my husband likes me the way I am now.
I'll just have to wait and see how my body changes over the next 100ish pounds.
Why is it so hard to buy bras? You can buy custom pants, you can take other clothes to tailors, but no one is really offering custom bras to your measurements, especially in plus sizes. I think I have seen one bra maker on Facebook claim to do custom sizes, but I can't remember who they are, and of course they don't have a wide range of sizes either. If most women wear the wrong size bras, why aren't they making more sizes?
And why don't women's pants have pockets yet?
I know that according to upper management, the reason most Catherines brand pants don't have pockets is because they are too cheap to add them to their already expensive pants. I worked there for two years, and every quarter we added "customers want pockets" to the survey they sent us, because we lost sales over that, and so our district manager asked a higher up manager at a meeting. They answered that adding pockets would cost $5 more per pair of pants, so they don't add them.
Sheesh, so increase your prices by $5, you've got a captive audience, women will pay it. They WANT pockets. You know how many times I actually made a sale when the pants DID have pockets? A lot.
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I was told that women's pants don't have pockets because it would bulk up the look of the pants. Uh huh. Suuurrreeeee7
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FatAFNoMore wrote: »I was told that women's pants don't have pockets because it would bulk up the look of the pants. Uh huh. Suuurrreeeee
You could try men's instead? I know lots of females who wear men's clothes (one particularly for the pockets as she doesn't "do" handbags).7 -
On the bra topic your cup size can go up. I have gone from a 38c to a 34D probably should be a 34dd.3
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The dark patch on inner thighs gradually disappears. Also helps when you wear pants more regularly.
My nails grow slower. I must admit they were growing at a rather fast pace compared to my friends, but now it's definitely slower.4 -
Madwife2009 wrote: »FatAFNoMore wrote: »I was told that women's pants don't have pockets because it would bulk up the look of the pants. Uh huh. Suuurrreeeee
You could try men's instead? I know lots of females who wear men's clothes (one particularly for the pockets as she doesn't "do" handbags).
^me too - I don't ''do'' bags
Yesterday I watched a lady try and find her phone for 5 minutes in all the wonderful sections of her shiny new handbag.
Men's jeans have the best pockets! big enough for the stupidly huge phone I have to get now!
4 jeans pockets and 2 coat pockets - sorted!
my combats have 6 pockets! don't even need a coat then
It bugs me so much that women's clothing doesn't have pockets - suit jackets are the worst, they make you think they have pockets!!
no one told me people would think I was too obsessed with calorie counting when I turned down an egg custard. Thanks, but I have my beer here, and egg custards are bleh.
eta: it's like everyone thinks I turn down food or drink because of calories, and truth is that now, after 9 months, I don't actually want the food/drink. Being aware of what I eat has made me more aware of reasons for eating. It's great, but really hard to explain to people.11 -
it's like everyone thinks I turn down food or drink because of calories, and truth is that now, after 9 months, I don't actually want the food/drink. Being aware of what I eat has made me more aware of reasons for eating. It's great, but really hard to explain to people.
Yep, I understand. I look at food offered and have to refuse it, just because I don't actually want to eat it. Others struggle with this because they offer me food that I used to eat and don't understand that I'm quite happy not to eat crisps/chocolate/other unhealthy food.
The worst is alcohol, people really cannot understand why I don't drink. I last drank alcohol at Christmas 2014. I stopped because I didn't want to waste calories on it. Haven't touched it since. But at least I now have a medical reason (contraindicated with my current medication) for not drinking it, that's far easier to explain. Shame that the healthcare professionals I see never believe me when I say that I don't drink alcohol. I always get the "raised-eyebrows-really?" sort of look from them.
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Yes, @Madwife2009! I honestly used to drink (hard liquor, even) every day. Some with dinner, a little after dinner, and then a "night cap." After cutting back drastically because of the wasted calories, I'm finding that I don't really want it much, either. I still have some on the weekends, but half the time after I've had it I think, "Why? It wasn't that great, and now I'm out another 200 some calories. " I NEVER thought I'd lose so much interest in drinks!17
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Madwife2009 wrote: »it's like everyone thinks I turn down food or drink because of calories, and truth is that now, after 9 months, I don't actually want the food/drink. Being aware of what I eat has made me more aware of reasons for eating. It's great, but really hard to explain to people.
Yep, I understand. I look at food offered and have to refuse it, just because I don't actually want to eat it. Others struggle with this because they offer me food that I used to eat and don't understand that I'm quite happy not to eat crisps/chocolate/other unhealthy food.
The worst is alcohol, people really cannot understand why I don't drink. I last drank alcohol at Christmas 2014. I stopped because I didn't want to waste calories on it. Haven't touched it since. But at least I now have a medical reason (contraindicated with my current medication) for not drinking it, that's far easier to explain. Shame that the healthcare professionals I see never believe me when I say that I don't drink alcohol. I always get the "raised-eyebrows-really?" sort of look from them.
I think the person offering food usually really just wants to make sure that I am aware of the option and quite honestly doesn’t care much if I will partake or not.
Well, anyway, that line has been working for me and has avoided the potentially uncomfortable discussions of weight loss with strangers and acquaintances.
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Madwife2009 wrote: »it's like everyone thinks I turn down food or drink because of calories, and truth is that now, after 9 months, I don't actually want the food/drink. Being aware of what I eat has made me more aware of reasons for eating. It's great, but really hard to explain to people.
Yep, I understand. I look at food offered and have to refuse it, just because I don't actually want to eat it. Others struggle with this because they offer me food that I used to eat and don't understand that I'm quite happy not to eat crisps/chocolate/other unhealthy food.
The worst is alcohol, people really cannot understand why I don't drink. I last drank alcohol at Christmas 2014. I stopped because I didn't want to waste calories on it. Haven't touched it since. But at least I now have a medical reason (contraindicated with my current medication) for not drinking it, that's far easier to explain. Shame that the healthcare professionals I see never believe me when I say that I don't drink alcohol. I always get the "raised-eyebrows-really?" sort of look from them.
I think the person offering food usually really just wants to make sure that I am aware of the option and quite honestly doesn’t care much if I will partake or not.
Well, anyway, that line has been working for me and has avoided the potentially uncomfortable discussions of weight loss with strangers and acquaintances.
I used to have problems when a group of people in my department would order Chinese or something for lunch. If I just said "no thanks", they thought it was about the weight loss and would give me the "One in a while won't hurt you". When I started saying "no thanks, I brought my lunch", they seemed to be OK with it.
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What an excellent thread. So proud of all of you!5
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Same goes for sodas for me. I don’t remember the last time a drank a non-diet soda or sweetened tea. Why waste the calories? I remember drinking large slushes from sonic pretty regularly. Those things have 460 calories!!! I’d rather have an ice cream cone which runs about 250 calories. Sheesh.
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