What nobody tells you about losing weight
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I was just at a family gathering, and the second I showed up everyone started freaking out about how I must not be eating enough and that I look like I'm starving myself to death. (Large Italian family.)
Was at a funeral the other day sitting in the balcony of an old non-air conditioned church on an 85 degree day and was freezing.
People always ask me, "oh my god, you want to lose MORE?" I'm still not at a healthy weight and have a long way to go. No quitting now.
Clothing is just a huge pain right now.
People are constantly asking "How are you doing this?" and are then completely shocked that I'm not doing some gimmick diet. That's usually followed by "I bought a Fitbit to track my steps, but it's not helping."
I LOVE not having all this extra to carry around.
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I just have to share this come back I stole from my best friend, who is super skinny and was often the subject of similar unsupportive comments that have been listed here. One day a girl (who was usually very snarky to her) said "I don't think people give you enough credit for how hard you work on your diet". To which my friend replied "I don't need anyone to give me credit. My body thanks me for it. Every single day." I think this attitude is what we all need to hold on to when people are unsupportive or critical of something we are proud of!21
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CrosbyMcDowell wrote: »I just have to share this come back I stole from my best friend, who is super skinny and was often the subject of similar unsupportive comments that have been listed here. One day a girl (who was usually very snarky to her) said "I don't think people give you enough credit for how hard you work on your diet". To which my friend replied "I don't need anyone to give me credit. My body thanks me for it. Every single day." I think this attitude is what we all need to hold on to when people are unsupportive or critical of something we are proud of!
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^ Agreed!!0
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It's a constant struggle.
You're never "done".
Maintenance is just another word for logging and vigilance.10 -
amflautist wrote: »It's a constant struggle.
You're never "done".
Maintenance is just another word for logging and vigilance.
Amen! That's always been my problem.....I'll lose and do really well maintaining for a while (up to 2 years at one point) and then something will throw me off balance (a move, crazy work schedule, illness, etc.) and I'll stop being vigilant and within a couple of months the weight is all back. It's so hard to get back on it at that point.
I'm really trying to make this time the last time I have to lose this weight--no matter what life throws at me!8 -
That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.5
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You can actually go up a bra size......c to a d cup. ...wth.....2
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aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!6 -
aliciasilfies wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!
YES - and your "style" will have to change. I was so used to picking clothes that I thought "flattered" and "hid" my fat areas... Its hard not to keep picking those styles even though they look terrible on me now that I have a lot more muscle and a completely different shape. But I keep doing it!!
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MsJulesRenee wrote: »Feeling like you're not losing anything to waking up the next morning feeling 5lbs lighter. You never know when that whoosh will hit, just keep going!I've found that people love to be discouraging. A supervisor at work said, "you're so tiny, don't worry, you'll gain it all back." She also said, "you're starting to look frail." Why would you tell someone who has lost weight that they are going to gain it all back?!
I have gotten that a LOT lately! Also people telling me I have "lost enough".
According to my BMI chart I'm still obese and I still don't like the way I look in clothes AND out.
I've had that before, I was hovering around 170-160lbs 5'6" and everyone was telling me I looked "too skinny" WTF haha, I was still technically overweight. Can't imagine how I would look if I went below that.
Please Throw BMI out the window it is so off and unrealistic it misses so many factors. If you are lifting and working out it will still think you are obese because you have muscle weight.
You will know when you are healthy you will be happy with yourself and who cares what others think.4 -
pootle1972 wrote: »You can actually go up a bra size......c to a d cup. ...wth.....
With bra sizes a lot of times you'll go up a cup size if you go down a band size. I dealt with the reverse as I was gaining weight. Most of the time when I moved up a band size I would move down a cup size, even though my boobs were most certainly not getting smaller. So, if you're losing weight and moving down in band size you can expect your cup size to change too.
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I lost weight and my alcohol tolerance went right down. Hence a truly awful hangover right now
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That salt, tom and carbs aren't the only thing that can make me hold water weight... not enough protein and working out after a hiatus does it too...2
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These are great and I love reading them they are so inspiring and some are just funny as all get out. So here are mine so far 254-219
-I never imagined someone peed more than three times a day now I am three time an hour
- People who you thought would support you don't actually say anything at all
- People who use to ask you out to eat all the time get mad when you start saying no
- It will take you forever before you actually notice a change it took me 35lbs
- My sex drive has almost double than what it was before
- You can actually have more energy than your kids have and push them to do more (lol)
I am sure I will run into more as I have 65 +/- more lbs to lose before my goal weight.
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Jesslan_Rose wrote: »It takes a LONG time for your mind to catch up with your mirror.
This is so true! Just yesterday I bought a pair of "motivation" jeans, and when I got home and tried them on they already fit me just fine. It's like no matter how many pairs of jeans I buy, I still want to go to that bigger size because when I see my current size jeans I'm just thinking "there's no way those would fit me". But they do.
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Jesslan_Rose wrote: »It takes a LONG time for your mind to catch up with your mirror.
This is so true! Just yesterday I bought a pair of "motivation" jeans, and when I got home and tried them on they already fit me just fine. It's like no matter how many pairs of jeans I buy, I still want to go to that bigger size because when I see my current size jeans I'm just thinking "there's no way those would fit me". But they do. 2 -
silverarcheress wrote: »I lost weight and my alcohol tolerance went right down. Hence a truly awful hangover right now
I'm right with you! A single glass of wine with a large dinner out last night and I felt tipsy the entire night! I used to be the girl that would Jack and Cokes all night long!1 -
aliciasilfies wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!
YES - and your "style" will have to change. I was so used to picking clothes that I thought "flattered" and "hid" my fat areas... Its hard not to keep picking those styles even though they look terrible on me now that I have a lot more muscle and a completely different shape. But I keep doing it!!
Absolutely!! Glad that I'm not alone! They all make me look like a box now! The worst is the peplum blouses that I thought made me look really "slim" before!
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aliciasilfies wrote: »aliciasilfies wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!
YES - and your "style" will have to change. I was so used to picking clothes that I thought "flattered" and "hid" my fat areas... Its hard not to keep picking those styles even though they look terrible on me now that I have a lot more muscle and a completely different shape. But I keep doing it!!
Absolutely!! Glad that I'm not alone! They all make me look like a box now! The worst is the peplum blouses that I thought made me look really "slim" before!
Lol - for me its the crisscross shirts... They look way different (and worse) now, but they are the first things I go for when shopping!1 -
aliciasilfies wrote: »aliciasilfies wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!
YES - and your "style" will have to change. I was so used to picking clothes that I thought "flattered" and "hid" my fat areas... Its hard not to keep picking those styles even though they look terrible on me now that I have a lot more muscle and a completely different shape. But I keep doing it!!
Absolutely!! Glad that I'm not alone! They all make me look like a box now! The worst is the peplum blouses that I thought made me look really "slim" before!
Lol - for me its the crisscross shirts... They look way different (and worse) now, but they are the first things I go for when shopping!
Yes! Those too! Luckily I've grabbed enough of those and been disappointed that at least I've kind of stopped gravitating towards them. hahaha1 -
IILikeToMoveItMoveIt wrote: »That salt, tom and carbs aren't the only thing that can make me hold water weight... not enough protein and working out after a hiatus does it too...
WHY does NO ONE warn anybody about this? The first time it happened I was upset.
Story: Went on vacation, didn't work out, come home. Weighed myself and was fine. Workout, weigh in next morning, UP 4 POUNDS!
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Having a garage sale to get rid of old too big clothes (and other stuff) and some woman thumbs through the clothes and asks who they belonged to, I said me. She was blown away and it started an entire conversation concerning her husband and his need for weight loss. Of course I started with MFP. Just felt good to have someone shocked so much by the weight loss. 45lbs and counting5
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That sometimes we don't lose weight for weeks and naturally we expect that a whoosh is coming but instead we start losing weight again normally
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That dating becomes phenomenally easier, used to struggle to get dates with the women I wanted, now I have 4 dates in the next 2 weeks all with absolute knock-outs Not sure if it's the appearance changes or the fact I have much more confidence in myself now, but something's working! 9
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mcornall88 wrote: »That dating becomes phenomenally easier, used to struggle to get dates with the women I wanted, now I have 4 dates in the next 2 weeks all with absolute knock-outs Not sure if it's the appearance changes or the fact I have much more confidence in myself now, but something's working!
Wuhoo! Good for you.1 -
Wearing a crisp white (expensive) shirt, it looks good and you no longer need to "buy for your shape".2
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thankyou4thevenom wrote: »Your trousers will fall down at some point because you don't realise how much you've lost.
YUP. i feel like this is a mandatory part of weight loss... unless your pants/shorts fall down when you least expect it, youre not really doing it right
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Buying new regulat clothes is great....but forgot about workout swimming trunks and wetsuit until I went on hols.
Now I've just realised that my dress suit (Tuxedo) might not look good on me.1 -
aliciasilfies wrote: »aliciasilfies wrote: »aliciasilfies wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »That your older smaller clothes may not fit despite being at a lower weight than when you last wore them, due to some combination of fat denial (it still fits, I swear) and not losing weight in an overall proportional manner or from the same places. It's actually a frustrating thing because I keep thinking that I should be able to fit into some smaller shirts that I've kept, but they fit so badly (tight/short in all the wrong places) that they haven't even left the bedroom.
I'm dealing with the opposite problem right now and it is equally as frustrating!! Weightlifting has really defined my shoulders and trimmed my waist, so despite being about 25 lbs more than I was the last time I wore some of the clothes, I can fit into them, but they look absolutely horrible and don't do a single thing for my new curves!
YES - and your "style" will have to change. I was so used to picking clothes that I thought "flattered" and "hid" my fat areas... Its hard not to keep picking those styles even though they look terrible on me now that I have a lot more muscle and a completely different shape. But I keep doing it!!
Absolutely!! Glad that I'm not alone! They all make me look like a box now! The worst is the peplum blouses that I thought made me look really "slim" before!
Lol - for me its the crisscross shirts... They look way different (and worse) now, but they are the first things I go for when shopping!
Yes! Those too! Luckily I've grabbed enough of those and been disappointed that at least I've kind of stopped gravitating towards them. hahaha
What type of shirt are you guys talking about? I did a Google search, and it came up with a lot of different styles.3
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