True Confessions - Don't Judge
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
It's not dumb sweetness. It's very much real for a lot of us. I'm a recluse 95% of the time.KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
I feel u so hard. I've gotten over some of it, but that feeling of "I know it's irrational but the worst thing of my life is about to happen" I know very well. Just don't do anything if you're not comfortable with
Planet Fitness visits aren't a matter of life or deathKyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.littlemissbgiff wrote: »It's not dumb sweetness. It's very much real for a lot of us. I'm a recluse 95% of the time.
Same here Kyle. I get ya.
Well I sort of got out of it. He's still going to have me do the talking but he'll take me at some point. I know it's not life or death but it feels that way sometimes. I get tired of telling him I can't do things. I want to be able to do regular stuff without a second thought.
I'm better when I have a security blanket person. 
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It isn't dumb. A "judgement free zone" would make me feel even more judged.KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
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KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
I won't even talk to people on the phone. In person is even worse. It takes me so long to think of the right thing to say. And being badgered to buy something I'm not sure I want makes me feel annoyed and stressed and super guilty that I'm wasting someone's time. So I giggle awkwardly a lot and then run home and hide under the covers.
(Had to go to the mall last night to return something and it was AMAZING because all the salespeople were busy with inventory. Not a single person offered to help me. I loved it.)
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^Along these same lines, especially with salespeople, I actually won't go to the mall because of the kiosk people. This one particular makeup kiosk has really pushy people, and I'm really bad at saying no, so I ended up with like $60 in overpriced eyeshadows from the same kiosk in 2 different malls. I'm lucky I didn't go for that $100 straightener another stall tried to sell me. She did only demonstrate it on half of my head though and didn't finish the other half when she finally gave up haha1
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chocolate_owl wrote: »((...I think there's a reason we all hang out on here.))
We're the unofficial weirdo's anonymous group.
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chocolate_owl wrote: »KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
I won't even talk to people on the phone. In person is even worse. It takes me so long to think of the right thing to say. And being badgered to buy something I'm not sure I want makes me feel annoyed and stressed and super guilty that I'm wasting someone's time. So I giggle awkwardly a lot and then run home and hide under the covers.
(Had to go to the mall last night to return something and it was AMAZING because all the salespeople were busy with inventory. Not a single person offered to help me. I loved it.)
((...I think there's a reason we all hang out on here.))
Ya I'm kind of surprised at all of the responses. Everybody has pretty strong online personas to me. Phone isn't the best for me either. I text everyone usually. Feeling guilty over thinking you're wasting someone's time! That's definitely a factor.3 -
I feel like the universe is out to get me to ruin my diet today. Co-worker brought in a box filled with chips, cheetos, *kitten* double stuffed oreos, etc and I'm dying.0
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Being an introvert, I feel all this.0
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »^Along these same lines, especially with salespeople, I actually won't go to the mall because of the kiosk people. This one particular makeup kiosk has really pushy people, and I'm really bad at saying no, so I ended up with like $60 in overpriced eyeshadows from the same kiosk in 2 different malls. I'm lucky I didn't go for that $100 straightener another stall tried to sell me. She did only demonstrate it on half of my head though and didn't finish the other half when she finally gave up haha
Lol. Years and years and years (cause I'm old) I got talked into buying like $400 worth of magazine subscriptions by a phone solicitor!! God I was so stupid. I didn't even get to pick out the magazines. I was getting like scuba divers digest and cat fancy for years!! I felt bad saying no. That experience jaded me for life.
I can't decide if I feel bad (part of me does because, I mean, they work at a kiosk in the mall) or if I just want to hurry up and get away on the path of least resistance (yes I'll buy your *kitten*, bye)0 -
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »^Along these same lines, especially with salespeople, I actually won't go to the mall because of the kiosk people. This one particular makeup kiosk has really pushy people, and I'm really bad at saying no, so I ended up with like $60 in overpriced eyeshadows from the same kiosk in 2 different malls. I'm lucky I didn't go for that $100 straightener another stall tried to sell me. She did only demonstrate it on half of my head though and didn't finish the other half when she finally gave up haha
Lol. Years and years and years (cause I'm old) I got talked into buying like $400 worth of magazine subscriptions by a phone solicitor!! God I was so stupid. I didn't even get to pick out the magazines. I was getting like scuba divers digest and cat fancy for years!! I felt bad saying no. That experience jaded me for life.
I usually tell phone people that my husband makes all the important decisions in our family. I'm not above pleading helpless woman and often he has to bail me out of things cause I get made and have a tendency to tell people off.
But never feel you're wasting people's time. I always felt that way growing up that I had nothing of interest to say at all and no one cared about what I said and I could live in my brother's shadow but then I decided that was silly and I have lots of cool stuff to contribute. So now I talk to everyone because I figure if they don't like me or I say something dumb oh well I might never see them again. It's bad though now because like once I went to skate with some friends and they came over after I had finished my socializing and were like you talk to EVERYONE. Somedays I just want to shrink back into the old wall flower I was but it's less fun3 -
^Along these same lines, especially with salespeople, I actually won't go to the mall because of the kiosk people. This one particular makeup kiosk has really pushy people, and I'm really bad at saying no, so I ended up with like $60 in overpriced eyeshadows from the same kiosk in 2 different malls. I'm lucky I didn't go for that $100 straightener another stall tried to sell me. She did only demonstrate it on half of my head though and didn't finish the other half when she finally gave up haha
This is my wife. For exactly the same reasons, coming home with the same stuff.
Or when salespeople are at the door....or phone sales....or TV sales....or....0 -
I never should've started browsing apartment listings. Now I just want out.0
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I will only take out from places that do online ordering because i don't want to call them up and talk on the phone.1
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MalkinMagic71 wrote: »I will only take out from places that do online ordering because i don't want to call them up and talk on the phone.
YES THIS. Online ordering is the greatest thing ever. If I'm by myself I will now actually get food instead of deciding I'd rather go hungry than talk to someone on the phone.0 -
I have no problem in person, but I HATE using the phone. Put me in front of a group of 500 people? No problem. Ask me to call one of them on the phone? Probably not gonna happen.0
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I used to hate talking on the phone until I got a job that required a lot of talking on the phone. Got over that real quick. Though I still pray it goes to voicemail.1
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I hate talking on the phone and I work a help desk job go figure lol.2
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I have no problem in person, but I HATE using the phone. Put me in front of a group of 500 people? No problem. Ask me to call one of them on the phone? Probably not gonna happen.
I hate calling people too
I'd be nervous talking in front of 500 people but put me on the ice to skate in front of a couple of thousand people and I'm in my happiest place ever2 -
Put me on the ice in front of anybody...or even alone, for that matter, and I would be flat on my kitten!0
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I confess I'm craving beer n wings...I feel my feelings for wine are waning0
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mrwineismybf wrote: »I confess I'm craving beer n wings...I feel my feelings for wine are waning
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KyleGrace8 wrote: »I confess I have a real anxiety problem and my bf wants me to go to planet fitness and have them show me around. (He's at work) I really just want to tell him no bc it's my worst nightmare to talk to people all by myself especially when I wouldn't be buying anything right away. It's hard enough for me to muster up the courage to leave my house just to go on walks by myself anyway without having to go into a business and actually look someone in the face and talk to them. Rational mind knows it's not a big deal and no one cares if I'm awkward. Anxiety mind says the worse embarrassment of my life will happen and I'll never be able to show my face again! I really don't want to do it but I figure it's the dumbest thing in the world to be like this.
Hang in there, you are not alone.
I would so much to want to be you. Get away from everyone, become a hermit. I do not like humans, they sux. Never to have bother with people again. But, there is called life and I gotz to deal with them. Most days its okay. But about every 18 months or so it becomes so overwhelming, that I have to do a total withdrawal for a couple of weeks. No peoples.
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