Was this an out of line question?

RiseHigher

@mccindy72 , this thread, for some reason, has over 155 posts now, even though I posted the resolution to it a long time ago and there was no bad feelings about moving the jam. I can't reply to every single post nor do I care to spend my life on MyFitnessPal trying to do so.

And that's all this thread was about MOVING A FEW JARS OF JAM. LMAO. And then all of a sudden I have people saying I am not taking responsibility, making excuses, having an unhealthy view of food and that I have issues that go "beyond the jam"?? WTH? Issues that go "beyond the jam"... sounds like something from the Onion. L M A O !!!! I'm one of the fittest/healthiest people amongst the people I know and probably most Americans and yet I'm this and I'm that?? BAHAHAHAA IF that is the case how do I get in the condition I am? How do I help so many others lose weight? Truly hilarious.

But anyway I am going to stop responding soon. This is getting 'stale'.

As for your inference that I have some sort of unhealthy view of food - we will just agree to disagree. I will not call things like fried Mars bars, chicken fried steak or neon blue cotton candy "healthy". As well as GMO- or hormone-laced products and foods inundated with artificial ingredients and colors ("plastic food" as my Mom and I call them), many of which have been banned in other countries due to their effects on health, but are still allowed here by the "FDA". No, I don't block foods from my diet and I can have what I want in portion controlled sizes, but people have to realize there is a difference in the things they are putting into their bodies. I am 42 and people I know in real life are in disbelief and say I look half my age - well why is that? Remember the old saying, "You are what you eat??"

If you call that unhealthy, then so be it, but at least I know what healthy, nutritious foods are that work for me.

RiseHigher

amberlyda1 wrote: »

mccindy72 wrote: »

I find it interesting that you haven't answered any of my comments regarding having an unhealthy view of food. Why is that? I'm not being argumentative in any way, I'm curious. I stated things in a debatable way, but no response?

because you come across very negative and somewhat obsessed that she has an eating disorder or body dis-morphia. I believe she stated several times that she is an accomplished marathon runner so her view of food would probably be very different than you or I. Food is fuel, its not just about weight loss in this case. A cheat meal/day will effect someone who is in rigorous training very differently than the average person who is just trying to loose a few extra pounds. She didnt start the post saying she felt fat/ gross etc. She asked a question to get a general poll, if a question she asked her mom was out of line.

Thank you! Yes someone who understands! And thanks to all the other people in this thread who posted helpful, supportive comments. You rock! I'm just going to keep on doing my thing, and if anything this thread has made me appreciate my Mom, and POSITIVE people, even more.

I'm out!

SLLRunner

RiseHigher wrote: »

SLLRunner wrote: »

mccindy72 wrote: »

WinoGelato wrote: »

I can't believe this many responses and no one bothered to ask what kinds of jam!?

I feel bad for the biscuits. No one cares about the biscuits. is there a recipe we can have?

Well, I for one love biscuits and jam. My mother, who has been deceased since I was 23, made the best homemade biscuits and strawberry jam. I miss her, and those wonderful treats of hers.

@RiseHigher, this is just an observation, but I dont think this is actually about the biscuits and jam. In your last post you mention a 5 pound weight gain with TOM. That is normal and nothing to worry about, it's just water weight. It seems to me you might actually be afraid of weight gain, which indicates deeper isdues. It takes time to work through these issues.

No, I had a 5 lb weight gain since the SAD snuck up on me this year and now it's approaching my TOM too. I posted that I check my AVERAGE weight over time so I know exactly where it's going and coming from. But it's getting better each day with my light therapy and I've already started losing it, so not a big deal.

Don't really have "deeper" issues more than the next person, my concern is athletic performance and health, over some sort of fear............

And yes one of the reasons I like being in this area and with my Mom is because I appreciate being close to my family a lot more after my Dad died. It makes you realize how short time can be, because when someone is gone, they are really gone............

Thank you for clarfying.

I'm a runner as well, but I don't have SAD. Performance is number one.

Please send some of mom's jam my way.

Oh, and it sounds like you love your mom very much.:)

tomatoey

No, it s not an inappropriate request if you did it politely. No harm in asking for help if you need it. If you said "mom your cookies are so great that I have a hard time passing them by, and you know I'm trying to stay on top of my health . Can I ask for your support in this?" That would be totally fine in my opinion. It's not really a big deal to move some stuff. (Unless your mom has mobility issues, then yes that's a big deal.)

If you said, "mom you're such a sabotaging jerk for making these damn cookies every day, do you want me to be huge?" That would not be fine in my opinion.

(Extreme that last one, just an eg)

How did you put it to her?

Oh sorry, I didn't read other replies, sounds like it got figured out.

glassyo

Beyond the Jam would make an awesome band name.

AlciaMode

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

JaneiR36 wrote: »

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

christinev297 wrote: »

Not to mention, My mums home will always be mine and my brother and sisters. Like someone else mentioned, it's a second home. We're not "guests" when we stay there

My mother's house was a second home for me too.....to a point.

I had a key, I could show up unannounced (even if she wasn't home), let myself in, fix myself something to eat.

But hiding things? Rearranging things? No. The idea that I could make myself at home in my mother's house didn't change the fact that it was my mother's house and she could arrange it and live in it as she saw fit.

I am sooo curious to know how people who feel that it's OK to do that to their parents would react if their parents did it to them. I'm guessing there'd be a lot of "I'm an ADULT. This is MY HOME. You have NO RIGHT".

Well, that goes both ways.

Mom rearranged my spices. I couldn't find a dang thing. Moved 'em back...

You're jumping right for the petulant child angle. That could swing both ways. Is Dad gonna die because his precious candy was moved into a cupboard for a few weeks?

And I'm sure you were really happy that mom rearranged your spices, and were hoping that she'd do it every time she came over, right?

No, dad isn't going to die because his "precious candy" was moved. But you're missing the point. IT'S HIS HOME. Why does anyone, even his kid, have the right to rearrange things.

What would your response be if she said, "My Dad INSISTS that I keep candy in my home for when he comes to visit"? Would it be something like, "It's your home, and if you don't want to keep candy around, you don't have to "?

Hmmmmm.....

I love that you are so annoyed by me moving things around my dads house. A stranger on the internet. While my father thought it was funny and understood why i did it and has started hiding his candy for me so that i am not tempted when I go there because he is very proud of my weigtloss progress and wishes to be supportive.