WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2016

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,719 Member
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    stats for the day: quick and hard-
    jog- 12.31min, 9ap/min mi, 6.5-7.5sp, 161mhr, 148ahr, 2.5mi = 245c
    skip/scissors, etc- 14min, 157ahr, 206mhr = 198c
    total cal - 443
  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
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    @Katla49 Oh no worries I shall eat my naked crab without sauce or butter!!! (you know me) ...heehee
    Becca
  • miriamwithcats
    miriamwithcats Posts: 1,120 Member
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    Saw this and thought of Pip
  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    edited January 2016
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    Grandmallie,Hugs to you from this ol gal in Oregon!!! Something to think about: You state that he is devoted to you, but there isn't any emotional connection. Don't those two go hand in hand? Having your mate do for you this or that is one thing, devotion well that is another catagory altogether, (just my opinion now). Never think we judge you or anything, we love you regardless :-) Just wish for you, your best life.
    Becca
  • oceanmelody
    oceanmelody Posts: 400 Member
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    Dear Allie, I think you are a very strong and caring woman and you deserve to have some peace in your life! Seeing a carefully chosen therapist is a wonderful idea. Just because your husband says something one day does not mean you can just snap your fingers and have everything decided for yourself. It is a long journey you are on.
    Wishing you all the best...hugs to you!
    Betty
  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    edited January 2016
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    So -3.8 lbs this week :-) I am proud of myself. Oh got my swimming suit too! It fits me great now. I looked at the sizing and one size down reduces the bust size and that is the last place I wish for it to be tight. I will just buy a smaller suit when the time comes :-)

    My eldest Navy son called me yesterday and today he has a car meet that he is attending. So this afternoon he will be coming here to stay the night. Then tomorrow he will drive his truck with us to Portland. We decided to travel to my mother-in-laws because we missed visiting her during Christmas. (this trip was planned before we knew son was coming, but actually son needs to visit with his grandma anyway!) So after I get done eating my crab feast at the community center I shall come home to fix chicken fried rice and also steak sandwiches (because my husband and youngest son just had fried rice). Playing chef isn't so hard, and I plan on snacking on my bag of popcorn that is my evening snack if I get hungry smelling the bacon frying!

    Talked to middle Navy son last night on FB, and he is calling us, and planning on Skyping with us all tonight. So I get to "SEE" both my Navy sons this weekend. I am a happy happy Mommy!

    ((((hugs to all of you, you are all maaauuuvalous in my eyes))))
    Becca
    feeling blessed in Oregon
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 9,810 Member
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    sitting in my jammies,with a dog next to me.. after a nice soak in the tub..
    spoke to my brother.. poor guy sounds like a cat on a hot tin roof.. he is very anxious.... this is a life changing decision for him, there wedding is this July.. so another reason for me to lose weight.....
    I know I have alot of decisions in my own life, but will ponder and pray, meditate, and for right now if I use the behavior health option through Tom's work, I will have to go where they take our insurance and the first 5 visits will be free..
    I bought the ticket for my cousins caberet show next weekend and will go and enjoy the time with my cousins, as I will be the only other family member there...dinner and a show... will be fun..
    will start planning other things on my own.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,360 Member
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    Miriam - I realise any money is too much money, but on the UK website they are only in the region of $3.50 a pair. Because I buy several pairs at once the shipping is less per pair. For me it has worked a miracle so it seems cheap at the price. :flowerforyou: The Scholl orthotics I bought were around $200 !!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Off to bed soon. Had a peaceful day with delicious food. Inside my calories. :D Tomorrow I will do some writing. I'm writing about visiting my grandparents' house when I was around four years old. :love:

    Heather UK
  • miakoda40
    miakoda40 Posts: 467 Member
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    Lenora
    Miakoda40 – Have you tried one of those little red laser lights up the wall? A friend of mine had one and we enjoyed watching her jump up the wall, then wonder where it went when we ran it to her and cut it off. I was the only one that got slapped in the face with her tail when I sat down on the sofa and she was sitting up on the back of it.

    Yes! Max loves the laser light. He also like "the bird" Feathers on the end of a long string attached to a stick. So I guess he does like some toys. They need to be interactive. He wants us to play with him. He doesn't want to play by himself. I know where the bird is hidden. Guess I'll have to go find the laser light.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited January 2016
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    Donna in WV: Keep the Brownies out of the house and when you need to make yourself feel better, get some exercise. Then buy yourself a non-edible treat. Clothes, jewelry and orchids come to mind in the non-edible treat category. You might like roses or daisies or. . . . :wink:

    Trish: Welcome! :flowerforyou:

    Becca: I will be envying you with your naked crab. :devil: :bigsmile:


    I survived my riding lesson! :bigsmile: The hardest thing I did was to get on the horse. Seriously. I had a challenge hoisting myself onto the horse's back without hurting my injured wrist. After that, it was good. I noticed that I was less supple everywhere than usual, and that made a difference I didn't appreciate. Tucker was a good boy, but I am sure that he noticed I was not at my best because he wasn't at his best, either. Next week should be better.

    I am thinking about taking some kind of martial arts training after I am healed. I'm looking for the chance to learn to fall without getting hurt, and am not interested in fighting, mock fighting, or competition. I want Jackie Chan or his clone for my teacher so he can teach me how to fall without a bruise and make me laugh all at the same time.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

    January Goals :
    1. Log every bite and swallow.
    2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
    3. Have fun every day.
    4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
    5. Eliminate alcohol.
    6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.

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  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    edited January 2016
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    miakoda40 wrote: »
    Lenora
    Miakoda40 – Have you tried one of those little red laser lights up the wall? A friend of mine had one and we enjoyed watching her jump up the wall, then wonder where it went when we ran it to her and cut it off. I was the only one that got slapped in the face with her tail when I sat down on the sofa and she was sitting up on the back of it.

    Yes! Max loves the laser light. He also like "the bird" Feathers on the end of a long string attached to a stick. So I guess he does like some toys. They need to be interactive. He wants us to play with him. He doesn't want to play by himself. I know where the bird is hidden. Guess I'll have to go find the laser light.

    My daughter's cat is crazy. He hangs from the ceiling fan and will fetch and return toys. The family room is open two stories with a railing around the second story looking down into the family room. The cat will open the top drawer of granddaughter's dresser, get out a pair of rolled socks and bring them and drop them through the railing on to your head if you are sitting on the coucb below. It's nuts.

    Janetr okc
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    edited January 2016
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    Miriam – I have this ‘stuff’ that I bought at Michael’s (a craft supply store) which comes in a tub, or as a soap bar. It will clean even dried in paint. In fact, when my DH came across my ‘art supplies’ in a box since ‘art school’ … I used it to clean brushes that still had paint in them and then let it stay on the brushes overnight and it softened up the bristles. I’ll get you the name of it. Tub, probably costs about $10 (if you can find it on sale). Bar is about $5. I will swear by it working. I now have over 200 useable art brushes. Thankfully, my parents paid for most. It works on latex and oil paints. First clean them with either water (latex) or mineral spirits (oil). Then rinse, rub the brush through the tub and then rinse with water; to keep bristle soft and pliable, rub it around in the tub and coat the brush bristles well, leave it overnight, rinse, then let them air dry. It comes in a beige tub.

    Allison – if you husband has any type of retirement fund (like a 401K, stocks and bonds) you would be entitled to ½ of it (if you have a good lawyer who knows to look into it). Each party has to declare their possessions for the court system (or at least in the USA). I don’t know where you live. Certain states are ‘community property states), Florida, Louisiana, and California (for sure); maybe others as well. What that means is you are entitled to ½ of what is owned. As for bills, generally what is yours is yours to pay, what’s his, is his – and you sign a ‘hold harmless’ clause. This is supposed to mean that creditors cannot look to you if he doesn’t pay … but, there again, if your name is on the property or Credit Card Company they would still probably come after you. On certain credit cards you can ask to have your name taken off, his name taken off. Important thing is to have a ‘good’ lawyer. Don’t share a lawyer; because the lawyer will look after the interests of the one who hired him/her, not the other. Sometimes you can ask that all or part of you attorney’s bill be paid/reimbursed. Laws in every state are different however, so that is what you need to talk to an attorney about.

    Unfortunately, men tend to get over a divorce (financially) better than women (because instead of one household, you are setting up two). Unless your house is already paid for, asking for it, if you don't have the means to pay the mortgage, then you end up in an apartment just the same. Means instead of one house payment, you might have a house and apartment between you. Extra utility bills, separate cards. Alimony is taxed by you; it is better to have it called a ‘settlement’. Child support (if applicable) is taxable, too (income). There again, a lawyer can tell you what you can or cannot do in the state where you reside. I have to agree with Miriam – especially if you have children. Much better to get out if you are miserable and have children feel like they are ‘safe’; and then relationships can ‘mend’ … and they have 2 parents who love them and can show it rather than watching/hearing parent fuss all the time. Adult children might side with one or the other; but, they usually come full circle when they realize that parents are both better off. IMHO.

    I’ve been married 43 years to the first husband; so I don’t know and cannot comprehend ‘being unhappy’ in a relationship; but, as a legal secretary most all my life since a teenager, I certainly saw a lot of unhappiness and/or hatred. I doubt that I'd ever remarry if he was to predecease me - I would not want to inflict myself on a 'new' husband the way I have on him. We took our vows very seriously and it's been easy. We talk to each other only after he has come home, taken a shower, and relaxed for nearly 30 minutes. He 'hunts' and I 'do other things'. When my DS found out husband was cheating on her with a woman who she had invited to stay after Hurricane Andrew it Miami - she had all the bills forwarded to him to pay, and, of course he had little he could do about it. They settled their property and she asked that her alimony be called a 'settlement'. She had a good attorney; he was a CPA and was trying to take advantage of her, her attitude was 'she doesn't get mad; she gets even'. The alimony continues long after their children had left home; and she can also claim money on his earnings for SSI as well. Although, like my husband, she will probably work until she can't. DH says they will find him in the bushed with him hand moving up and down with a paint brush I it. Either that or on the tractor or lawnmower driving around in circles LOL!!

    GodMomKim – What is a kohlrabi‘? I usually ‘try’ to get something that we have never eaten before, just to try them, when I go shopping. Some things we like; some we don’t. I might waste $5 overall; but, finding a new item to eat (especially if the caloric value is low) is worth it to me.

    TrishAllen1957 – Measuring food and posting every bite or sip on MFP will keep you accountable for what you eat and drink, right down to seasoning. If you are talking about something like beef stew. I’d count eat ingredient separately. Same thing with the gravy – measure and weigh your food. Get a good scale and good measuring cups and spoons. It becomes a ‘life-style’ change. Whenever my DH and I go out to eat; the first thing I do is cut everything in ½ and then I get a ‘doggie bag’ to take the other half home to eat at lunch the next day.
    One thing I did not know had so many calories in it was ‘Chinese food’. My husband brought home what was left of his ‘half order’ of fried rice; then we warmed it and divided it in ½. About a cup of shrimp friend rice – 300 calories! That was a shock; but, then someone told me that it sucks up all the fat. Did not think about that.
    When I went to Weight Watchers they did not count the oil that you cooked with as an ‘oil’; only what you poured over it or into it. Personally, I did not agree with that theory. If I cook meat in 2 Tbsps. of oil; I am going to count a couple of tsps. As my ‘oil’; but, I’m not in Weight Watchers any longer. I never could eat my points; plus I was not exercising. Now I count my calories and my exercise points; but, I never eat back my earned exercise calories. I like raw veggies. Once when I went to a ‘really’ fancy Japanese restaurant; they carved raw potatoes and beets into decorations; they are pretty good raw, slice very thin, birds and such.

    Lenora
  • janemartin02
    janemartin02 Posts: 2,653 Member
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    saw MIL today,finally,doing good.therapy is getting her up and taking steps,the decreased her oxygen,she`ll be walking better than me.
    Thanks for all the prayers,she says they are working
    hugs jane
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,984 Member
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    smiley-happy110.gif Katla, I'm happy to hear about your riding. I know it felt great even though it wasn't how it will be when you are healed and back to your usual self.

    :)Becca, congrats on getting your swimming suit and liking how it fits.

    :) We spent some time today clearing out and discarding many files of old papers that we don't need anymore. Instead of nagging Jake to get busy on the shredding, I just found another box for papers that needed shredding and we were both happy.....slow and steady wins the race.

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    10,000 steps
    128 minutes of dog walking


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    My word for 2016 is "alacrity"....I will greet all experiences in my life with cheerful readiness


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    “The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have, and to be able to lose all desire for things beyond your reach."
    -- Yutang Lin
  • kimses2
    kimses2 Posts: 218 Member
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    Hello -- I just got back from a wonderful 24 hour get away and renewal time with some lady friends from the church. I didn't pay much attention to the food intake but did double exercise before I went yesterday.

    Thanks for the encouragement to keep going. I'm determined that this time will be different and I'll lose weight, but that nagging little voice in my head often tells me differently. So I will be back often to ask you, ladies, to tell me not to throw the towel in.

    About plantar fasciitis, I had it very severely for 18 mths. 30 physical therapy sessions, orthotics, anti-inflammatory meds, night boot, a month in a walking cast, cortisone shots...nothing helped it. I was about to schedule "release" surgery where the muscle is cut when my doctor suggested I see a specialist in Boston. I ended up having an experimental treatment called Extracorporeal shock wave therapy. It was not covered by insurance and it didn't resolve it immediately, but it did resolve within 6 weeks it and I am 100% pain-free now and have been for a year. If anyone wants more info on that, let me know.


    Kimses in MA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,719 Member
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    Saw this and thought of Pip

    awww thanks peep!
  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,329 Member
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    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening Ladies,

    Katla, even though you will need to be a little extra careful, I’m sure you’ll do fine at your riding lesson.

    Joyce, so sorry to hear you are getting sick. I hope it passes quickly.

    Penny, that was the funniest thing about the subtitles.

    Heather, you are doing so well with your no alcohol days. I’m really proud of you!!! I need to follow your example and I could probably drop a few pounds. I’m thinking about it. Lol

    Sylvia, I’m sure the picture isn’t that bad but I can imagine how I would feel if there was a picture of me in a bathing suit. You’ll have to scan it and show us. angel.gif

    Lillian, wow, that is some cold weather. Now I remember why we moved back South!!!

    Allie, I don’t think any of us wants you to leave Tom unless that is what you decided you want. I know it’s hard to live in a loveless marriage but I’m sure a lot of people do. If you can come to terms with it and that is what you want to do, then by all means stay together. Of course it’s not easy to walk away after so many years. Just make sure he treats you with the kindness and respect that you deserve. Being his doormat is not worth any reason to stay together. ((((Hugs))))


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    I walked/moved my 15 minutes this morning but did it in two different segments. It was still good exercise. Tonight I was helping with a fund raiser at the Moose. It was a good time. I’ve been doing my drawers in the folding method Dr Katie told us about. (I don’t even remember what it is called) Gosh do my drawers look nice!!! For some reason I’m tired tonight so off to bed.

    I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day. rose.gif

    Words I live by:
    Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
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    Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
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    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • ewfleming99615
    ewfleming99615 Posts: 4 Member
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    OK this is the group 4 me but I can't seem to figure out how to post so this is a test. I gather that this thread stays up and doesn't recycle daily? My name is Liz I am 58 years young and I live in Kodiak Alaska USA.
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,778 Member
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    Well ... Never made it to the basement for decluttering. Ended up cleaning out kitchen cabinets ... Rearranging pots and pans ... Which somehow encouraged me to bake cookies! Those found their way into my mouth (huh??!!??) and from there my eating went considerably off plan. Did I mention there was pizza?

    Sigh...

    Beth near Buffalo
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,719 Member
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    annr -- congrats on your loss!

    when i was nineteen, i ran away from home, only took a small pack that had some shirts and underwear and not much else. mom and just finished beating the crap out of me and i said no to her for the first time. what i said no to was her wanting me to go to my work with her and tell the ceo of the plant where i worked that Ray (my 1st husband to be) made me do things against my will so he could get fired.. that's what i said no to. when she told me to clean up, she was going to my job (which was across the street where we lived) and when she came back we were going to see her lawyer. as soon as i saw that she passed the gate, i freaked out, i packed the bag and jumped that 6' fence like it wasn't even there. i banged on my neighbors house. they put me in the back seat, made me lay on the floor in the back seat and put a blanket over me and took off. i was crying hysterically. they took me somewhere, to this day i don't know where. mom disowned me for 12 years after that. i ended up marrying Ray, who ended up beating me for 3 years. i left him not knowing where or who to go to, knowing i couldn't go back to mom. i made my bed, so i was lying in it. i guess you could say i was homeless for a bit. stayed on a friends couch for a bit.

    i say this to you grandmallie because i want you to know, you will survive this. write down your pros and cons of this relationship. what wins out. having a gun to my head and being raped was better than what i left? a mom that was just as hurtful as he was? i did have 6 brothers and sisters and i know that anyone of them would have taken me, but i didn't want mom to give them grief because of it and believe me, she would have. i didn't let them know what happened to me until years later after i left him, and i do mean years. like i've always said, life is not a dress rehearsal, this is it. you don't get another chance. is this how you want to live yours? love you.
    nite peeps