Fat and Jealious new year
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Lootenit Dan!krandolpht wrote: »
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Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.0 -
myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
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It sounds like:
- you may need to manage your alcohol issues
- You might want to seek some help with self-esteem issues (many of us do - alcohol, violence and shutting people out are not the way to handle them though).
I wonder if it registers that you were equally rude to the guy and provoked his insulting response? It is never OK to fat-shame people but it is never OK to shame them on their ability/success with the other sex either, and you did just that by rubbing in the fact that he was rejected (which you don't know for sure and it was not your place to decide, or communicate).
He shoved you after you assaulted him - there is no law that says a man must submit to being physically assaulted by a woman without defending himself.
It was basically you acting and he reacting all along, and not the other way round.
Yes, comments like these hurt, a lot. I haven't had them since I was 16 though. May be try to relax around people and remember that contrary to your apprehensions, people are in general not, until provoked, judgin or insulting you?
Regarding the attitude of men and feeling jealous, guys will always be intersted in women who are interested in them, and vice versa, and that's good. It would be unhealthy if people were primarily inetersetd in those who show no interest in them whatsoever. People will see "you" after you let them know you are approachable and friendly first and they get to know you in time.
I would to take out a positive lesson out of it all and move on. Best of luck in the new year!0 -
Christine_72 wrote: »RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »The thing that jumped out of the post to me was the fact her friends turned on her. I'm reading in to things here but that says to me that she wasn't defending her friend as she alludes to.
Maybe they turned on her because she ruined their night with unnecessary drama??
That was kind of my point, it was unnecessary and she caused the drama.0 -
OP, I was the twenty-something overweight friend, and I remember very well being where you are. That guy was a d!ck, but by now you know it was wrong to slap him. Assault? Technically, yes. But I'm not willing to say you're a criminal who could have gone to jail for this. (Where do you folks live that a cop would put someone in jail for acting like a drama queen?)
In my opinion, this is the best advice you've gotten here:you may want to re-evaluate your choice of hang outs. There are places in my (small) town that are primarily for hooking up, and places that are primarily for socializing. I think you'll find if you limit yourself to the letter that it's so much nicer to surround yourself with polite, respectful people. You will feel better and it will boost your confidence.
The next time your friends want to party, go to the gym, wear yourself out, and go home. Consider it training to join a hiking club or some other non-meat market activity where you'll find new people. I'm serious. I don't care how cute you look in your outfit, you are uncomfortable in bars, and shouldn't be in them. You don't mix well with alcohol or the bar scene. Work on your emotional control and physical well-being; the rest will follow.0 -
No, not mutually exclusive, but I do have free choice. I chose to start 2016 by posting something supportive to someone who was obviously hurting. Period. Happy new year to you, senecarr.
The bolded are not mutually exclusive options.Alluminati wrote: »All these people saying they understand why she reacted and hit him, to the ones not even ADDRESSING the fact that she physically assaulted someone....I'm curious:
Would this have been okay if a male did this to a female in the same scenario?
Alluminati - I'm not sure of your logic that not posting about her hitting this guy means supporting that action. To me, I didn't want to post something just repeating what everyone else had already said - what's the point of that if not adding something new to a thread? I chose to try to add something positive instead of joining the big pile-on on the OP as very often I see lots of negativity on MFP. The time stamp suggests she was still probably under the influence of alcohol at the time of posting - perhaps she has a different perspective today and is feeling sorry for her contributions to the exchange. Only she can say that. By the time I posted, numerous people had already told her she was wrong, she's lucky she wasn't arrested and she should seek counselling. The OP said herself that she was in tears about how hurt she was feeling. I opted for a little compassion and support instead of just telling her that she was in the wrong. That doesn't mean I think hitting someone is right, whether it is a male or female in the scenario.
The irony of negatively, passive-aggressively posting happy new years to someone because they don't agree with your positivity - how do I log that in MFP for my iron count?
Personally, I think the most supportive thing a person can do is help someone improve, and ignoring someone's physical assault doesn't help them improve themselves. It can even be tacit enabling.
perhaps the happy new year was genuine and not passive aggressive0 -
RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
But the suggestion wasn't even to do that it was to smile and walk away aka not address the man's negative behaviour in any way.
To be clear I do not support the OP (if you read my other posts) but a blanket statement that all women should smile and walk away is so wrong.0 -
Hmmm I was kinda in shock at how many negative comments you got so far. I'm no longer in the bar scene but last I was if someone continued to harass my friend I would have told them she wasn't interested either and to back off. Probly wouldn't have been far off from smacking him too for his comment but it woulda been the booze fault0
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RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
Actually all she had to do was mind her own business. The guy was pestering her friend, not her.0 -
kels11davis wrote: »Hmmm I was kinda in shock at how many negative comments you got so far. I'm no longer in the bar scene but last I was if someone continued to harass my friend I would have told them she wasn't interested either and to back off. Probly wouldn't have been far off from smacking him too for his comment but it woulda been the booze fault
Well if alcohol is to blame I guess she's off scott free.
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TheBeachgod wrote: »RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
Actually all she had to do was mind her own business. The guy was pestering her friend, not her.
Well that's all right then
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myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
If I decide to not to entertain someone's comments by smiling and walking away I don't see it as letting them know that they can get away with it but that what they say doesn't phase me. A lot of times like this people will make rude comments like that just to get a rise out of a person and see their reaction.0 -
myfelinepal wrote: »kels11davis wrote: »Hmmm I was kinda in shock at how many negative comments you got so far. I'm no longer in the bar scene but last I was if someone continued to harass my friend I would have told them she wasn't interested either and to back off. Probly wouldn't have been far off from smacking him too for his comment but it woulda been the booze fault
Well if alcohol is to blame I guess she's off scott free.
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Unless physically attacked, you can walk away from any confrontation. IMO, it is a matter of ego.myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
I've witnessed enough situations where someone was gravely hurt, even though they did "stand up" to someone. Weapons don't discriminate against gender, size or race.
But that's my take on it. Whether you agree or disagree, eh.
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This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.0
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Lol, if you think standing up to someone is going to "change" them, have fun with that. May they leave that one person alone? Maybe, but habitual behavior would just have them find someone else to do it to regardless of how many "stand up" to them.myfelinepal wrote: »RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
But the suggestion wasn't even to do that it was to smile and walk away aka not address the man's negative behaviour in any way.
To be clear I do not support the OP (if you read my other posts) but a blanket statement that all women should smile and walk away is so wrong.
Why do you think people with money seem to get away with everything? Peoples character don't change unless they want to change it willfully.
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peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
Were you there?0 -
peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
Great post. That is just beautiful.0 -
peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
So a guy talking to a woman in a bar is now a rapist....?
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Negative because we don't agree with smacking someone for a remark? You and the OP should hang out then.kels11davis wrote: »Hmmm I was kinda in shock at how many negative comments you got so far. I'm no longer in the bar scene but last I was if someone continued to harass my friend I would have told them she wasn't interested either and to back off. Probly wouldn't have been far off from smacking him too for his comment but it woulda been the booze fault
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Lol, if you think standing up to someone is going to "change" them, have fun with that. May they leave that one person alone? Maybe, but habitual behavior would just have them find someone else to do it to regardless of how many "stand up" to them.myfelinepal wrote: »RuNaRoUnDaFiEld wrote: »myfelinepal wrote: »
Why not? I've had people at the gym laugh at me as "the trainer" with insults of why are they paying this guy for a job that the average gym rat could do. Eh. If that's their feeling, more power to them. What's confronting them going to do? People ALREADY know that they are being buttheads and confronting them could just lead to more unneeded BS. What happens if I walk away from it? Nothing. Letting it AFFECT ME is what they want. You're putting power in the hands of people who have ego issues. Must be my thick skin from doing door to door sales for years.myfelinepal wrote: »The correct response would have been to smile and walk away. He got the response he wanted and you fell for it. Emotional control might be something you want to work on this year. And as mentioned, physically attacking someone shouldn't be the way to handle a problem.
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I don't necessarily think smile and walk away is the right response either. That sounds like an awfully archaic ladylike response and shows the guy he can get away with insulting women without repercussions.
If someone insults you do you smile and walk away?
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It's nice that it can fluff your ego like that but what about the next person?
I agree you have to read the situation and sometimes you can walk away. But sometimes you have to stand up for yourselves and stop the BS even if you're at risk of violence from the other person.
But maybe that's my thick skin from coming out in a Christian school at 15.
This wasn't one of those times, she wasn't cornered with no way out. All she had to do was wave a bouncer/bar staff member over and he would have been kicked out.
But the suggestion wasn't even to do that it was to smile and walk away aka not address the man's negative behaviour in any way.
To be clear I do not support the OP (if you read my other posts) but a blanket statement that all women should smile and walk away is so wrong.
Why do you think people with money seem to get away with everything? Peoples character don't change unless they want to change it willfully.
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You're probably right. But waving a white flag against unlikely odds is not my style.0 -
Yep. I'm not willing to call this guy a potential rapist, but we can't take the OP's reaction in a vacuum. Let's recognize this guy for what he is and what he did.peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
And one more thing about this guy, OP. HE is not crying today. He forgot about this as soon as he found his next target to harass. Think about this when you decide what you're going to take from this.
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I have certainly stepped in when an overly insistent guy wouldn't leave a friend alone, and I'd do it again. Just because a guy found the guts to pursue a woman in a bar doesn't give him a free pass to keep pushing when he's aware his advances are unwelcome.
Being called fat and jealous was harsh, rude and a douche move by a guy who sounded like a bit of adick.
BUT the slap, followed by the wish for an all out brawl makes me inclined to think OP was aggressive and was probably over reacting from the get go. That's where she lost me. The slap was assault, and the want for an escalated brawl was just as bad as a dude looking for a fight. Moral highground lost.0 -
peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
What? Is this a serious post? A guy hitting on a girl in a bar on NYE, possibly/probably unwanted based on the ranting of her friend who admits she was put out and didn't like playing the game, is likely to harass or rape someone because the OP reacted so badly and assaulted him?
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Lol, isn't this what bouncers or security are for? Let them take the dude out.peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
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peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
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salembambi wrote: »standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic
Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.
I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.
I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.0 -
Oop, double post.
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Triplestep wrote: »
Yep. I'm not willing to call this guy a potential rapist, but we can't take the OP's reaction in a vacuum. Let's recognize this guy for what he is and what he did.peppermintpudgy wrote: »This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.
And one more thing about this guy, OP. HE is not crying today. He forgot about this as soon as he found his next target to harass. Think about this when you decide what you're going to take from this.
How do you two have so much more information than the rest of us?
Is the guy on MFP? Did he post a thread too about how he was unaffected by it? Did OP post a different thread with more details of his aggressive behaviour that I missed? Or the actions her friend took to deter him?
Yes, we can't take the reaction in a vacuum, but there is a whole lot of info from both sides missing.
We don't even know what he was doing. Was he just trying to chat her up about the new Star Wars movie every time she walked by or was he trying to grind up on her on the dance floor? Did she even tell him no thanks, I hate Star Wars?
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