Fat and Jealious new year

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  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.

    What? You're kidding, right? Where is that mentioned in the original post, and I don't see any subsequent replies from her.
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    edited January 2016
    Larissa_NY wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic

    Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.

    I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.

    I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.

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    Later that night after things calmed down:
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    Love the humor! LOL!
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  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    edited January 2016
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  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Larissa_NY wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic

    Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.

    I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.

    I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.

    giveflowers.gif

    tumblr_static_vulcan_slap.gif?w=320

    Again with the gifs :huh: :noway:

  • QueenBishOTUniverse
    QueenBishOTUniverse Posts: 14,121 Member
    Larissa_NY wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic

    Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.

    I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.

    I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.

    giveflowers.gif

    tumblr_static_vulcan_slap.gif?w=320

    Later that night after things calmed down:
    xgzmb08faoik.gif




    Again with the gifs :huh: :noway:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQAgNfNqHobgzkAtwCtfHuq5zrhCT5QWcAxagRd7BcQW0QfxOzucQ
  • Triplestep
    Triplestep Posts: 239 Member
    edited January 2016
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    But from that snippet and from the rest of her post, we do not know if the friend told him to leave her alone or if she was just rolling her eyes and giggling when he turned his back. There is not enough information on the situation to make some of the leaps and bounds that are being taken in this thread.
    By this reasoning, none of us should be posting opinions. Message boards should not exist ... there's NEVER enough info; you have to take what you see at face value and go from there.

    My reading of this is that the guy was an aggressive *kitten*; if you read my previous posts, I don't think the OP has zero culpability, but why do we expect women to behave well in the face of men who don't? Plenty of women DO giggle and roll their eyes at unwanted advances because speaking your mind gets you dick-ish remarks. (If you don't believe me, see an instagram called "Tinder Nightmares"; you'll see plenty of examples of women letting men down easily and the men lashing out at them.)
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    This guy did a lot more than insult the OP. He was also aggressively pursuing her friend all night and wouldn't leave her alone in spite of the fact that it was quite clear she was not interested. He was aggressive, pushy, and violent. OP snapped and this guy pushed her when she slapped him. I'm guessing thanks to OP he found someone else to harass and/or rape last night. Give the girl a break. Stay out of that awful scene, OP.

    So a guy talking to a woman in a bar is now a rapist....?

    A violent person AND a rapist, no less
  • WinoGelato
    WinoGelato Posts: 13,454 Member
    Triplestep wrote: »
    What? Is this a serious post? A guy hitting on a girl in a bar on NYE, possibly/probably unwanted based on the ranting of her friend who admits she was put out and didn't like playing the game, is likely to harass or rape someone because the OP reacted so badly and assaulted him?
    You misunderstood. This post is saying the guy found someone else to harass because he is a pushy d!ck who moved on to his next target after the OP intervened.

    No I didn't misunderstand. I understand that the only information any of us have are the words the OP wrote when she got home and was still drunk and very emotional. I think it is an extreme stretch to go from the OPs words about the guy not being able to take a hint from her friend, to that he's going to potentially harass and rape someone else. I also understood that the OPs friends were upset with her behavior (rightfully so) and so I'm not sure how much weight to put behind her observation that the guys advances were unwanted. Maybe her friend was trying to make OP feel better by telling her that she wasn't interested in the guy, since the OP felt like she wasn't interested in "playing the game" with any other men at the bar. Maybe as someone else said she was rolling her eyes behind his back.
    Maybe she really wasn't into him, but didn't want to be rude.

    The point is we don't really know what the situation was between the friend and the dude. And the recounting of what happened between OP and the dude was clearly influenced by a lot of alcohol and emotion. So I find bringing the concept of him finding someone else to rape completely and totally offensive in the context of what limited information we have.
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  • QueenBishOTUniverse
    QueenBishOTUniverse Posts: 14,121 Member
    shell1005 wrote: »
    Larissa_NY wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic

    Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.

    I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.

    I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.

    giveflowers.gif

    tumblr_static_vulcan_slap.gif?w=320

    Later that night after things calmed down:
    xgzmb08faoik.gif




    Again with the gifs :huh: :noway:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQAgNfNqHobgzkAtwCtfHuq5zrhCT5QWcAxagRd7BcQW0QfxOzucQ

    Keep on keeping on. GIFs are what made me love the bejesus out of you.

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  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    shell1005 wrote: »
    Larissa_NY wrote: »
    salembambi wrote: »
    standing up for your friend was the right thing to do his reaction is very typical and basic

    Doesn't her friend get to decide if it was the right thing to do? Because I'd be *kitten* furious.

    I mean, I'm making things up here, but think about it from the friend's point of view. It's New Year's Eve, you're just trying to have a good time at a bar, and not only do you have some doofus hitting on you and refusing to pick up on go-away signals, but then all of a sudden you have to deal with bouncers and bartenders and potentially the police because your drunk friend decides you need a knight in shining Spanx to protect you from bar doofuses and physically starts a fight with him.

    I'd have hauled the drunk friend out of the bar, shoved her in a cab, and told her not to call me again until she stopped taking her cues for how to behave in public from Jersey Shore reruns.

    giveflowers.gif

    tumblr_static_vulcan_slap.gif?w=320

    Later that night after things calmed down:
    xgzmb08faoik.gif




    Again with the gifs :huh: :noway:

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQAgNfNqHobgzkAtwCtfHuq5zrhCT5QWcAxagRd7BcQW0QfxOzucQ

    Keep on keeping on. GIFs are what made me love the bejesus out of you.

    you-like-me.jpg

    I think you are awesome too!
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