Asking Bridal Party To Lose Weight

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  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    the least someone can do for a close friend on their wedding day is lose a little weight.
  • amomofboys79
    amomofboys79 Posts: 10
    Is she also the sort of person who won't have a cake at her wedding, because cake is too fattening? Because that would make me sad :frown:

    That said, one of my cousins had a fake cake (for show) at her wedding. I was extremely disappointed...

    That would be VERY sad to have a fake cake!!!
  • PepperWorm
    PepperWorm Posts: 1,206
    I didn't have a wedding. Too much money. We got our first apartment instead.

    *shrug*
  • erikalanem
    erikalanem Posts: 48
    Sick and wrong...my maid of honor was my disabled sister who has severe cerebral palsy....couldn't have been happier to have her by my side...if that is what that girl is worried about, I fear for her husband and children to come....She has no idea what love is....
  • psykins
    psykins Posts: 76
    I didn't have a wedding. Too much money. We got our first apartment instead.

    *shrug*

    Haha good for you! We would have been fine going down to city hall, but my husband's parents insisted (and paid!) so we had a small wedding in the park.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,782 Member
    Is she also the sort of person who won't have a cake at her wedding, because cake is too fattening? Because that would make me sad :frown:

    That said, one of my cousins had a fake cake (for show) at her wedding. I was extremely disappointed...

    That would be VERY sad to have a fake cake!!!

    Hmmm, wedding is a sham. Is the marriage a sham also?
  • KellySue67
    KellySue67 Posts: 1,006 Member
    Your friend is on to something, a new reality show. Bridezilla meets Biggest Loser. I think it has real potential! she should hire a crew and pitch the treatment to the major networks! could be a winner.

    I may be in love with this response.

    It is a good one! LOL! :laugh:
  • sympha01
    sympha01 Posts: 942 Member
    Not cool! I read a story on Jezebel last month about a bride who had previously been her best friend's maid of honor, and didn't ask said BF to be in her own wedding party when that day arrived. And when challenged, the new bride not only specifically said "because you're too fat" but then apparently launched into a huge body-shaming speech that apparently she'd been saving up for her friend for a while.

    I know the world is full of people like this but it's constantly mystifying to me that they even HAVE friends to disrespect this way.
  • nickymarie011
    nickymarie011 Posts: 152 Member
    Wow.... I am a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding but thats not why I'm losing weight... my friend is so incredibly sweet that even though I am by far the largest of the party, she says we all have different body types any way and is having us all wear different dresses to suit our body types... she picked the color and the material but the style is up to us and what we feel best in. I think I would have to reconsider friendship if my friend told me I was too big to be in her wedding.

    That is exactly what I am asking of my girls. They are all different shapes and sizes and I want them to just feel comfortable. If I asked any of them to drop any weight, they'd punch me in the throat lol.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    No, I am not doing this ( I think its horrible). However, I am recently engaged and have an acquaintance who is as well. We were chatting and she was telling me that she wants people in her bridal party to drop a specific amount of weight for her wedding, or else she is going to reconsider replacing them with a skinnier person.. Has anyone else on this board actually requested this from their wedding party? It seems to be a new 'trend' ... Personally, I think this is over the top and Bridezilla- ish. However, I do understand the whole thing about wanting your wedding day to be perfect. What do you guys think about it?
    Any of those women who does not decline the "honor" of being a bridesmaid should have a mental check.

    I would not ask this of people I loved and I would end a friendship with anyone who asked it of me.
  • jesuison
    jesuison Posts: 34
    Sick and wrong...my maid of honor was my disabled sister who has severe cerebral palsy....couldn't have been happier to have her by my side...if that is what that girl is worried about, I fear for her husband and children to come....She has no idea what love is....

    100% true. Her wedding is not about love, but about face. Gross.
  • Sparlingo
    Sparlingo Posts: 938 Member
    ..... wow.

    I've never known anyone in real life that would do this! I didn't even ask my girls to wear the same dress because I had a size 2 bridesmaid, a size 8 bridesmaid, and a size 20. I wanted to make everything as easy as I could for them. Fortunately they did find a dress that looked fabulous on all three of them, but it was NOT a requirement of my wedding. To ask them to lose weight for the wedding? That would be INFINITELY more inappropriate of me.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Stupid
  • nothingwithoutHim
    nothingwithoutHim Posts: 140 Member
    Umm...how are they even still FRIENDS?? Seriously?

    Unacceptable in any circumstance. I was the fattest bridesmaid at a wedding this year, and frankly if the bride would have "reconsidered" asking me to be a bridesmaid because of my weight, I would have "reconsidered" going to her wedding at all.

    The TV show idea is great. Awesome potential.
  • PrimalPixie
    PrimalPixie Posts: 69 Member
    This doesn't seem indicative of a true friendship. It's also not what is supposed to matter. It's ridiculous!
  • Bownzi
    Bownzi Posts: 423 Member
    Wow how self absorbed could someone be..... pretty scary...
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    You know what made my wedding day perfect? Marrying the man I loved and having the people I care most about standing with me.

    How anyone looked or what they wore didn't matter one bit.

    Perfect response. And any bride that expected the people in her wedding party to lose weight for her big day is a shallow b*tch.
  • alliepallie89
    alliepallie89 Posts: 12
    I think what makes a wedding beautiful and perfect is being around those you love and having them share a special part of your life. Obviously this person has messed up priorities and doesn't share these beliefs, which is a shame.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    The awful part about it is she knows some of the girls in my bridal party and she was telling me I should do the same as her and request them to lose some weight LOL. Some people *shakes head* ...I have been seeing this time and time again on television though, so I didn't know if it was the 'norm' or what.

    Keyword: Television...of course it isnt the norm.
  • elyelyse
    elyelyse Posts: 1,454 Member
    wow, if someone made that request of me, I would laugh at them and tell them there was going to be one less guest at the affair.

    plus, as I think someone else pointed out... the reason bridesmaids traditionally wear awful dresses is so that the bride looks like the most beautiful woman there. Hell, I'd think a bride would ask her pretty, skinny friends to put ON weight!
  • purpleipod
    purpleipod Posts: 1,147 Member
    She should've never asked people that weren't at a perfect weight if she intends on doing this. I think that's absurd.
  • kimmymayhall
    kimmymayhall Posts: 419 Member
    I've been a bridesmaid four times when I was a little heavier and weight was never mentioned. But the brides were my sister and very close college friends. One of the brides later told me that if one of our friends had been as big as she is now (50 lb heavier) she wouldn't have had her in the wedding. I think it had more to do with the fact that they are not really friends anymore and wouldn't mind burning that bridge. But this is the same bride who gingerly asked me if I would consider growing my hair out for her wedding. Some people see their weddings almost as photoshoots. Won't ask short men to be groomsmen, etc.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
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  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    Maybe this is why I have never been a bride's maid. How rude.
  • Dunkirk
    Dunkirk Posts: 465 Member
    How much is the bride losing? Would be an interesting prank to switch her mirror on her wedding day to a distort one that makes you look bigger.
  • HypersonicFitNess
    HypersonicFitNess Posts: 1,219 Member
    I think its down right rude. If a bride told me that I'd tell her where she could go and I wouldn't be part of her wedding and she would no longer be my friend. NO ONE is THAT special to tell me how much I should lose.
  • mflinn84
    mflinn84 Posts: 35
    OH MY GOSH, it is insane! I got married in 2010, my bridesmaids were my sisters and they looked beautiful. I wonder how on earth women that superficial actually find men willing to marry them.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    She should hire models to stand up for her.

    Also, she is a total ****. (The first asterisk is a "c", by the way)
  • CrankMeUp
    CrankMeUp Posts: 2,860 Member
    Maybe this is why I have never been a bride's maid. How rude.

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  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    id do just about anything for a close friend. losing weight wouldnt bother me at all. or growing a beard. or wearing a weird groomsmen's outfit. etc...

    and for those saying they'd disown a lifelong friend for asking this i say you werent that good of friends to begin with.

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