WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2016

margaretturk

Katla, Janetr, Miriam, Heather thanks for sending kind thoughts. We are taking steps to see DS1 gets the care he needs, so the extra oxygen is extremely helpful. I am trying to follow my own advice in making sure I take care of me. I did get the chance to work with some darling third graders today. Got me in the Valentine Day Spirit!

Annr

Michelle/exermom~ OK I thought it was just me that looked at the tight-ends of football. When I am actually at a game, I play that game like in the movie "The History of the World Part 1" with Mel Brooks. So Madeline Kahn sings, "Yes, no no Yes no yes no yeeeees" while she goes down the line of guards showing their bums.... priceless. I don't actually sing this...just in my head mind you.... :-) You are the strongest lady I know. Do what needs to be done, and put everything else by the sidelines. ((((hugs))))
Becca

grandmallie

Annr~it wasn't there butts she was looking at..lol.. that movie was hysterical in a raunchy sort of way..
Michele~so good to hear from you..
I am in bed and on the computer. staying here with Faith.. Tom calls me once or twice just to check in ..

Annr

Mel Brooks does funny raunchy well! I had to tell my youngest son NOT to sing any songs from his movies, or I would be getting a call from the principal! hahaha.
Becca

GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS

Michele - I do understand what you have to say about seizures. They can be really bad. Thankfully, I've not had one since this past August a year ago. The first 2 driving restriction basically overlapped which meant close to a year without driving at all. Then drove for approximately 4 months, then had another seizure. DH did all the shopping and errand running; by the 3rd one he was ready for me to drive anyway. Told him that I couldn't because 'if' I had a wreck and it was found out that I was on a 'driving restriction' it could get ugly. I started reading about then; and, he'd stop at the library and get books for me. He started back reading and now we are reading 6 -8 book during the 2-week period we have them. We enjoy murder-mysteries. I think we have both read all of James Patterson's 'adult' books. The last one "Private Rio" is great.

My seizures are brought on by stress or a physical illness. I try to stay away from things and/or people that are stressors to me. That is difficult to do when one of them lives right next door and controls whether the girls come over or not. Thankfully, they're old enough to make that decision for themselves and she has not 'forbidden' them to come over. I think it really only affects my middle DGD from running the risk of making her angry about coming over. She will come when the DOGD is home. I don't push it, they will come around soon enough. They already know that their mother pitches 'fits' all the time. Sometimes they come down just to escape her rantings and raves. They usually find it easier to talk to their Dad about most things.

IF you can help it, don't go on Dilantin ... it makes your gums have hyperplasia - no matter what the dosage. I'm about to have the 3rd surgery to cut the gums away from my teeth where they have grown over them. I take Lamictal and don't have any problems with it; but, the Dilantin reeks havoc on my body; unfortunately if they get it down to 135mg, I have a seizure; so they won't even try to take me off it again. Unless it proves to not work for me.

I hope things go a lot better for you and Bryan. I've never heard of a Skype use for a therapy session. Do y'all live that far apart? I'd be checking up on her credentials to make sure she wasn't a 'quack'. They are in every branch of medical/psychiatry ... I changed until I found one that I was 'comfortable' with. Of course, that means a 200 mile trip to get to him; but, because we live so far away and he knows how I feel about the hospital and PsycheMDs here - he gave us his cellphone number that we can call in the event of a 'manic phase'. That makes me feel much better. If this is someone who has just 'hung out a shingle' and isn't qualified ... she needs to be reported to someone. Your son never has to find out that you are the one who reported her. If she is a 'psychologist' she can NOT write a Rx for him. Sounds like he really needs to go to a psychiatrist who can work with him and get a cocktail of medications that helps him with all these jumbled up feelings he seems to be having and will also be able to talk to him about the things that trouble him. With the proper dosage/cocktail of medications ... you have a greater chance of getting your 'son's back. Of course, that's IMHO.

As for home schooling ... unless there is a group of you that change up; I would not recommend it. It really has an effect on a child's 'socialization skills'. My oldest sister and a group of ladies from her church basically 'home schooled' their kids; but, it was 'in a building' and they had different teachers for different subjects. All of them were qualified to teach in their subject(s). I don't know about the other kids; DS's kids were way above the tests scores and they did not have any trouble getting into college (both graduated). Youngest one was deaf and decided she wanted to go to Gallaudet - School for the Deaf - in Washington, DC when she watched the news when they had a 'sit-in' because the school was wanting to hire a 'hearing' Dean and they did not want that. She had to go up the summer before she entered just to learn how to 'sign'. She had always depended on reading lips. She is now married to a former classmate; and, they have 2 'hearing' boys ... all of them had to go to Easter Seals in order to learn how to communicate. Their house is wired so that when the phone or doorbell rings it flashes the lights a certain way. When the boys were babies, the room was wired to let them know that they were up and about or crying.

I think we have to 'listen' to what our children are actually saying to them about us, and then repeat what we hear then say and ask 'is that what you meant' by saying this, that, or the other. We kept our DYS back a year when he was in kindergarten because with an August 31st birthday he had the 'cut-off' date birthday. We knew that he was not mature enough to go on and that it would affect him at some point. We did not want him to be the absolute youngest kid in his class. Much better to have him be the oldest one and possibly a leader instead of a follower. The Nun-Principal had a 'stroke' over our decision and wasn't going to let us do so. I told her she'd do it, or else I would take it up with the Dioses. She relented; but, he stayed on her $#*T list from then on out. He was not a bad child; but, she would not give him the benefit of a doubt and he was on 'Ritalin' until he asked if he could go off it in 5th grade. He did great without it ... so he was never put back on it after that. He can still be a little hyper; he likes things done 'his way'. He isn't much of one to give in, either. You really have to show him that doing things your way is better or easier or whatever. He'll still argue about it. I hope that it does not create any problems with is new wife and step-daughter. About the only time I saw her 'bristle' was when she did something that he had told her NOT to do and she forgot. I think he embarrassed her; but, Will explained 'why' he had told her NOT to do what she had been doing. She loves him to death. He will go pick her up after school and they'll go fishing or looking for 'sheds' (deer antlers), or he will take her out to some place special. He treats her as if she is his own daughter.

Bringing up children is a 'hard' job - they don't come with 'instructions'.

Lenora

Katla49

Michele: The good news is that Bryan is talking. The bad news is that he is beating you up emotionally. I think you are wise to have Vince present for the next Skype session. It would be great if you had a professional there to advise and protect you as well. Is that possible? I think setting up ground rules should be first on the agenda, and by that I mean basic agreements about courtesy. I hate to think of you being bullied or belittled by Bryan's team, with no one on your team present to stand with you. I hope Vince will be there. Brian's person is there only for him and not to mediate. You should not have to face this alone. Just my 2 cents worth.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

barbiecat

MIchele, Have you considered just listening to what Bryan and the therapist say and saying some polite equivalent of "Thank you for the information" and not entering into a debate about their nonsense. It's too late for Bryan to blame you. He's old enough to seek a solution that will help him grow up and take responsibility for the direction of his own life. Try to not take anything that is said personally. Just listen like the clock in the thunderstorm.

Barbie

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CSSJ09

Dear all,
Time got away from me yesterday. Unfortunately, work gets in the way of my MFP so I just finished 4 new pages of messages since yesterday morning. Lots of {{{{{hugs}}}}} and wishes to everyone. I am amazed at the reservoirs of strength that you all exhibit. I don't think that I handle difficult situations nearly as well.

I made a fancy Valentine's dinner today with a student I am teaching to cook. Mushroom soup, lentil stew and a beef stew that is extremely heavy on vegetables and spices. No potatoes in the stew. The easiest mushroom soup recipe ever- nothing but water and stock ( bullion cube ok) lightly sautéed mushrooms and garlic and the 2 potatoes The mushroom soup uses 2 small potatoes as thickener instead of cream, flour and eggs. The potatoes get mashed and then the mushrooms and liquid and potatoes get thrown in the processor, then back in the pot.

I had my riding lesson today. A warm 29 F but at least there was no wind. I told the instructor to consider me a beginner. I surprised myself. However, I really have to take care of my left side. The pain in my knee and ankle that I have been ignoring for the last year may mean something- I am really weak on that side and unless I take care of that and diligently stretch all over, I won't be able to progress. We will see if I can move tomorrow.

jmkmomm

Michele, so good to hear from you. Will these side effects lessen after your body gets used to the medicine? As far as the next Skype session, make sure you keep your emotions in check and not get angry. Be the one in control since it seems like the other 2 are angry.

Joyce, Indiana

pipcd34

stats for the day:
jog- 20.51min, 9.15ap/min mi, 6.5sp, 136ahr, 6.5sp, 164mhr, 2.25mi = 201c
stairclimber- 10min, lvl7-9, 20stpmin, 46fl = 115c
other- nustep machine- 5min, 96spm, 99aw, lvl10 = 46c
physical therapy - 45min, 34c
total cal396

Poerava14

Katla49 wrote: »

Rori: I saw this on facebook and thought of you.

Love it. Thanks for sharing, Katla.

mollywhippet

Hello! What a day I've had! This morning I spent an hour at the studio, doing a few things that needed done, then to the hospital to see my son. Then I picked up the kids and took them for a visit. Then we went to an Indian casino near here where they have a herd of buffalo. The kids had never seen a real buffalo, and they were amazed! Then went to Joplin for lunch and then to a pottery studio there to drop off some pottery. Then to Sam's Club where the kids really enjoyed the samples. Then back to the hospital to see their dad when he came out of surgery. He looked good. His color was better and the fever is gone. Then to dinner with hubby and to Walmart because they don't have any food in their house. (The wife went to Walmart to buy yarn this afternoon but did not buy any food.). By the time we dropped them off at their place, I had been with them for twelve hours. It was utterly exhausting!

Tomorrow he's having a esophagus scope test of some kind, and some more heart tests. They're looking for damage caused by lack of oxygen. He has an abnormal rhythm or something. It probably means that we won't go to the lake tomorrow. We'll most likely have the kids.

Sunday is heart-shaped meat loaf at our house, so they are coming for dinner on Sunday.

Michele, it's good to see you back!

Good night everyone!

Sylvia

mollywhippet

Oh, I forgot...DGS, who knows I had been in the Air Force, ask me if I was in World War One. I nearly wet my pants laughing.

exermom

CeeBeeSlim - I'm 5'1" and am trying to lose the last few pounds. But I think my body has just resigned itself to the fact that it likes where it is right now. I know a while ago I went lower and I looked and felt lik c*** so I decided it just wasn't worth it. Some days I eat over 1200, some days under. Lately, I've been under

Becca - thank you for the nice compliment you paid me. I try to look on the bright side of things.

Made some of the chocolate bran muffins to take to FL with us. I remembered I wanted them last time we were down there. Tonight I'll make more of the spinach/feta and cut it up, freeze it, and take that with us.

Lenora - yes, Bryan lives on the Island of Reunion which is in the Indian Ocean. He SAID that he wanted to have a relationship, so I thought perhaps his therapist could help us so I suggested Skype. I certainly can't go over at the drop of a hat. It's not like he's a few states over, he's in a different country. Unfortunately, I wasn't all that crazy about this therapist. Then again, to give her benefit of the doubt, we only "met" once, so I'll give it at least one more try. but I do want to know her credentials, etc. See, assuming she was a quack, I wouldn't have any idea how to go about reporting her. There are different governing bodies in France than in the US. Well...we shall see what happens. I'll think on the positive that she isn't a quack. I purposely didn't homeschool Bryan for the exact reason that I wanted him (because he needed it) to have the socialization that a school environment provides. We held Denise back in kindergarten, too. And, oh, boy, did we ever get flack! But we didn't want her to always be struggling. Did we do the right thing? I think so. You don't need to tell me that bringing up children is a hard job. And it never ends.....

katla - to be honest, I don't know any professional around here. I suppose it would be possible, but like I said, I don't even know anyone. And I don't think it's a good idea to just get a name out of the yellowpages. Oh, I've already told Vince that I want him there. And if for some reason he balks (I doubt he will), I will guilt him into being there with "see what happened last time I did this alone? Do you want this to happen again?" But to be honest, I don't think it'll come down to that

barbie - at the last Skype session, I basically listened. Not that I agreed, but I listened. Bryan's body language (to me) said "yea, that's right". How can this therapist help him if she only knows his side of the story? She doesn't know what he was like growing up. I'd like to make her aware. If anything, to make myself feel better.

Joyce - I do think that the side effects of this med are going to subside. The abdominal pain is much, much less severe. Yesterday, a few times I had a slight twinge, and today I had even less. No diarrahea (?sp) since that first day. The side effect of my seeming to have lost my desire to have sweets, that I can live with. As to the next Skype session, I just have to make sure that I don't project my feelings that this therapist isn't doing her job. Because that'll probably be interpreted in that Bryan doesn't know how to pick a MD.

Michele

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janetr7476

Michele - it is so good to see you back, we have truly missed you. You did definitely get a terrific bargain on the earrings. Whenever I get a 30% off coupon I think I should go use it

Continuing to pray for your healing and for the situation with Bryan.

Janetr OKC

fanncy0626

cityjaneLondon

Michele - As you know, Reunion is a Department of France. Therapists will be highly regulated unless she is some charlatan, which I strongly suspect.
The island is a very popular holiday destination, which I have often thought of going to. A bit like the best bits of Florida. If I were you I would rent a little villa near Brian's apartment and have a wonderful holiday. Living on top of each other is not a good idea. Katla stays in a hotel near her daughter and I have many friends who find that is the better option in Australia etc. or anywhere you are visiting for an extended period. I seem to remember Vince speaks French, which would make it all the more enjoyable.

Katla - Do you have a goal in mind for learning Spanish? When I started going to evening classes I was a complete beginner. I didn't know one word! I started learning because I wanted another language other than the French I learnt at school. It was a toss up between Italian, Greek and Spanish and I chose Spanish simply because there were more places that spoke it. That was the beginning of a journey. I ended up having many holidays in Spain, spending a month studying indigenous dancing in Mexico City and joining my son for a month in Peru on his gap year. Of course, my Spanish got to be pretty fluent, so I was a bit horrified when I tuned into Utube yesterday, to find I could hardly say a thing! I could understand, but all my vocabulary had fled! I know the minute I get back in the country it all comes back, but it was a bit scary!
Don't worry if you find the learning a bit slow. At our age it goes in one ear and out the other! :laugh: The only answer is repetition, repetition, repetition and eventually something sinks in. :ohwell: Films and magazines can be a huge help. Almodovar's "All About My Mother" is one of my all time favourite films. :flowerforyou:

The lady who mentioned the film TROLL. Thank you. :flowerforyou: I have ordered what appears to be the same film under the name Troll Hunter. It looks like quirky fun! Good reviews. The only other Norwegian films I could find looked dark and horrid.

Having chilli from the freezer tonight. With roasted butternut squash and broccoli. For lunch I'm having Japanese dumplings. With chilli sauce. DH will be making his own ham sandwich. :laugh:

Love Heather UK

Lilymay2

Oh it is going to be a great day!! DGD is coming over to make Valentines! So gotta run and do a quick wipe over (sterilizing) before she gets here.

Have a great Saturday everyone

Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan