Men: Oblivious to Flirting.

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  • EmbraceTheDarkSide
    EmbraceTheDarkSide Posts: 514 Member
    When I've been in a relationship, I just pretend to be oblivious to flirtation. Playing dumb is a lot easier than tactfully turning down someone else... forlorn women are dangerous, yo
  • the_dude00
    the_dude00 Posts: 1,056 Member
    I think I am the poster child for men oblivious to flirting. Usually, I don't realize it for a few hours, days, ever if someone has flirted with me.

    I have intelligence in other areas, haha
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    I assume that nobody would be interested in me anyway, so there's no way that I'd get flirted with in the first place!
  • heymirth
    heymirth Posts: 448
    I'd admit it. I have no clue when their flirting with me.
  • TitanGM
    TitanGM Posts: 1,161 Member
    The thing is that (at least in my case) when we're not interested at someone, we simply don't really pay attention to those "clues" that show someone's interest. Thus even if the person is flirting, we would take it as just that person being nice, or friendly. The issue here is that if we really like someone, we might actually misinterpret their nice friendly attitude for flirting, when in fact the person isn't even flirting with us.
  • Cudleigh
    Cudleigh Posts: 188 Member
    I think it's funny when I'm not flirting, people think I'm into them, and then it gets awkward. When I actually AM flirting, they don't pick up on it. People are silly.
  • LittleMissFit83
    LittleMissFit83 Posts: 38
    I'm pretty oblivious to guys flirting with me! It's not just men! lol.
  • RECowgill
    RECowgill Posts: 881 Member
    What you all fail to do is put out a list of women flirts. If it was a few pages back and I missed it, then I failed to read.

    Put out. heh heh. heh.
  • Woodspoon
    Woodspoon Posts: 223 Member
    I think woman believe men are oblivious because time and time again we will think a girl is flirting with us, then when we start flirting we are met with.. "Whoa buddy, I was just being nice".. so now most guys are apprehensive to think woman are flirting with them because we think everything is flirty but try not to cross a line until we are sure.. which in some cases we like CLEAR signs.

    ^^ this
    I'm happy to admit being completely oblivious, makes a night out far less complicated and far more enjoyable.
    I find I have a much better time if I think of people just as potential new friends, rather than potential new relationship thing - brain turns to mush and rubbish just tumbles out randomly.
    So I dont even try.
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    In my experience men are pretty oblivious to flirting. Especially if they don't have a great self esteem. Its also rather scary to flirt so outrageously that a guy finally notices. Getting a guy to realize you are flirting with them kinda goes beyond just flirting and into a full on make out session.
  • Cudleigh
    Cudleigh Posts: 188 Member
    What you all fail to do is put out a list of women flirts. If it was a few pages back and I missed it, then I failed to read.

    Put out. heh heh. heh.

    Personally, when I flirt, I:

    a. get super touchy. I usually keep my hands to myself, unless I'm into you;
    b. get snarky. Basically, if I'm polite to you, that's a bad sign.
    c. may or may not pull down my shirt a little bit because I like my boobs, and you were probably looking at them anyway.
    d. if I'm drunk? Heh. Don't worry, I'll straight out tell you.

    :P
  • SaintGiff
    SaintGiff Posts: 3,679 Member
    I freely admit to having absolutely no clue that someone is flirting with me. I chalk it up to either being raised by a single ( widowed ) mother and various of my 9 older sisters, or the fact that I am honestly surprised when a fully coherent adult female wants anything to do with me. Either way, I simply never take it as flirting. It's always just people joking around.
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    Yep, I'm totally clueless. I cant remember a time when anyone has flirted with me....at least in recent times.
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    I cant remember a time when anyone has flirted with me....at least in recent times.

    You are not alone.
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    I cant remember a time when anyone has flirted with me....at least in recent times.

    You are not alone.

    HOW YOU DOIN
  • dwm2112
    dwm2112 Posts: 77 Member
    Y'all are talking about IoI's (Indicators of Interest). When women are communicating IoI's, they typically:

    1. Play with their hair.
    2. Smooth or tug at their clothes.
    3. Laugh at your jokes, even if they're not *that* funny.
    4. Make a point of touching you often.
    5. Prolong eye contact and smiles.
    6. Provide unsolicited personal information.
    7. Show great interest in the details of your personal life.
  • CamilleJackie350
    CamilleJackie350 Posts: 124
    Anytime a female opens her mouth shes flirting
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    Anytime a female opens her mouth shes flirting

    Not even slightly true.
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    Anytime a female opens her mouth shes flirting

    Not even slightly true.

    Pay attention to me :(
  • trojan_bb
    trojan_bb Posts: 699 Member
    I freely admit to having absolutely no clue that someone is flirting with me. I chalk it up to either being raised by a single ( widowed ) mother and various of my 9 older sisters, or the fact that I am honestly surprised when a fully coherent adult female wants anything to do with me. Either way, I simply never take it as flirting. It's always just people joking around.

    Yep. Exactly.

    I dont know if she's interested until her lips are on mine. Only slightly exaggerating.
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
    Anytime a female opens her mouth shes flirting

    Not even slightly true.

    Pay attention to me :(

    Sorry
  • DoctorProcter
    DoctorProcter Posts: 23
    Is anyone flirting with me?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    My husband says no one flirts with him, but that's because he's a physicist and works with mostly men and a few older women. He's a cutie, though. I flirt with him. :wink:
  • anotherplayer
    anotherplayer Posts: 64
    I'm kind of confident I know when it's happening depending on the girl. However, it is quite often hard to decypher.
  • Still1Workoutatatime
    Still1Workoutatatime Posts: 250 Member
    I agree, I'm oblivious unless is very blatant
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I think men can tell when I'm flirting with them.
  • dwm2112
    dwm2112 Posts: 77 Member
    I think men can tell when I'm flirting with them.

    You are most probably correct!
  • BraveNewdGirl
    BraveNewdGirl Posts: 937 Member
    Give me a guy that's oblivious over one that assumes my being friendly and/or polite is an invitation any day! Oblivious I can work with!
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    When I was trying to get the attention of my now husband I pretty much threw myself at him and he still didn't get it! All that was left was to take my clothes off and present myself as an offering to him! He tells me "that I would have understood!" I don't know about all men but mine was/is pretty clueless about it.
  • MysteriousLdy
    MysteriousLdy Posts: 306 Member
    When I was trying to get the attention of my now husband I pretty much threw myself at him and he still didn't get it! All that was left was to take my clothes off and present myself as an offering to him! He tells me "that I would have understood!" I don't know about all men but mine was/is pretty clueless about it.

    Whoa..All I did was just grabbing the collar of my date and pull him to kiss me

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